Top 5 Reasons Why You Should NEVER Show Vulnerability to a Woman

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you legends? Thank you for tuning in to yet another ass-kicking episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. And today, guys, we're going to talk about how you should never, under any circumstance, show vulnerability to a woman. Now, immediately, I'm going to get about 6,342 million different emails from chicks who are pissed off and saying, you're completely wrong, Mark, saying, I love it when guys are vulnerable.

0:41 Being able to cry in my arms and talk about his vulnerabilities is what makes him handsome and strong and the man that I want to be with. Yes, that's what you think. But I'm going to tell you in what context you want that to happen in. And I'm going to tell you the context that you don't want it to happen in because I have been blown out so hard by chicks when I've done this, particularly in my early 20s when I didn't understand attraction. And I've seen other guys get blown out, friends, acquaintances, family members that I know for 100% certainty that you do not want to show vulnerability to a woman, at least in the way that I'm going to explain.

1:20 You can be vulnerable, quote unquote, but it's in a very specific way. And I'm going to explain that in today's episode. I'm going to explain why it turns women off and makes them as dry as the Sahara Desert when you are vulnerable and basically a pussy in front of them. And you're going to understand this all within this concept of frame control. Gentlemen, you heard me announce possibly on Monday's podcast that I am doing a frame control masterclass on Friday the 26th, Saturday the 27th, and Sunday the 28th.

1:50 Everything I know about frame control, some concepts of which I'm going to discuss today, taught to you in this special VIP two-hour event. So we had three open times available, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Sunday sold out, get this, in 38 minutes, says my IT guy, Tyson. He's like, mate, it sold out in 38 minutes. It did because he's from Australia. And yes, I know that was a perfect Australian accent. What can I say? I've mastered it. He told me it sold out in 38 minutes. Friday sold out in like an hour and a half.

2:26 And Saturday, I think at the time of this recording is still open. It sold out for a while, but we had to move some guys. My assistant Danielle has been an absolute godsend because she's been basically playing Jenga with all these different dudes, moving them into different classes. And guys, I just released two more openings, Sunday at 6 p.m. Mountain Time and then Monday at 7 p.m. Mountain Time. When this releases, I don't know if they'll be sold out. I don't know if they'll be open.

2:50 I don't know what's going to happen because we already made those times available and I'm recording this on Tuesday. So I have no idea what the page is going to show when you're listening to this. I hope there's some openings. I'm trying to open it up because I'm getting hate mail from you guys being like, dude, I clicked on it literally the day that you released the podcast and all the shit was sold out. What the literal fuck, you asshole? And I'm like, whoa, easy, brother.

3:13 Don't yell at me. I'm one dude and I'm limiting the amount of guys who can come into each class. So Danielle did the whole Jenga thing, moved guys around. There's some openings here, openings there. But I bet you at the time of this podcast, there's still many that are sold out. I'm doing my best, boys. I feel like I'm Taylor Swift up in this bitch selling out the MGM Grand in Las Vegas, going to Sweden and fucking Stockholm and everywhere else to try to just get you guys into this class.

3:41 If you don't know what frame control is, brothers, it is the single most important element of seducing a woman. If you don't have frame control, you don't have attraction. That's why you have to come to this special VIP two-hour masterclass taking place on the weekend and now the weekdays of the 26th, 27th, 28th, and probably through October 31st because there's so much fucking demand. All jokes aside, I am going to cut it off. There's only so much bandwidth that I have to talk about this shit.

4:08 And again, bro, I'm like carrot top at the MGM Grand, like continuing to add events just to appease my audience because yes, I'm in that much demand and my shit works that well. To learn more about the masterclass, click the link in the description below. It is literally the only link in there. Read about it. Watch the video. Again, if you don't have frame control, you don't have attraction. This is probably the reason you're not getting numbers, not getting girls to text you back, not getting dates, not getting second dates.

4:37 Huge problem for a lot of guys and or being left by chicks, being cheated on by chicks and being disrespected by chicks because frame control, brother, means that you are not to be fucked with. And you do not do what I did in my sophomore year of college where I was making out with a girl. Her tits came out. Somehow we started talking about my dad and how he died when I was 10 years old. No joke, boys. I cried on her tits. She blew me out so fast when the concussion hit, it blew the mustache off my best friend's face.

5:10 And that's when I learned if you show vulnerability to a woman in the wrong way. When you lack frame control and understanding what frame control is, they're going to lose attraction for you and they are going to blow you the fuck out. As many of you listening can attest, I know there are tens of thousands of dudes listening right now who can all relate. So I'm going to talk about how you should be vulnerable and how you shouldn't be vulnerable like I did thinking my tears would be used as lubricant for sex in this episode.

5:38 But in the meantime, go click over to that frame control masterclass sales page. Look at all the testimonials. Look at all the bullet points. Kind of check out what the price is. I'm not going to tell you the price because it's so ridiculously affordable. I want you to be surprised, dazzled, and wowed once you see that I'm giving two hours of tier one coaching including the bonus of a two week coaching experience where you get to come to coaching calls with me and a few of the other brothers for such a ridiculously low price.

6:08 Go click over there right now and check it out because again, this shit is going to sell out quickly. One final thing I want to say. Every single guy who has signed up so far, I've read your name, kind of looked at where you live. I'm always curious where these guys live. And I gave you a silent thank you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. I know it takes a lot to take out your credit card, to trust in a coach like myself. Perhaps for some of you, you really don't know much about me and you're hoping that I can deliver something that will change your life.

6:41 In my opinion, even if I had to spend $20,000, which believe me, boys, it's not even a fraction of that. But even if I did, which I have before, spend $20,000 if I learned one thing, just one thing that can change my experience with women, that can make me even 10% more successful with women, the investment would be worth it. So for those of you who are too cheap to invest in yourselves, I honestly don't understand where you're coming from. Your philosophy, your frame, how you live your life does not make sense to me because the only reason I have achieved the success that I've achieved both with women as well as monetarily is because I've invested in myself.

7:25 And yeah, dude, I have put probably about $150,000 into myself and that's why I'm successful. So if you're too cheap to just put 97 bucks into yourself to perhaps learn that one thing that you didn't know that could maybe change your life, even if it's just 10%, I really don't understand where you're coming from. You need to rethink how you approach life, how you approach trying to get better with women. And guys, I am sincere. I am genuine. I am going to give you a fucking masterclass. Everything I know about frame control, and I guarantee you, it's going to change your life.

7:56 For that tiny little investment, I don't understand why somebody wouldn't do it. But hey, you're going to do what you're going to do. So once again, gentlemen, for those of you who have signed up already, thank you, brother. Just wait. I've got gold to drop in your lap. So I hope you boys are excited. Those of you who have signed up and you are a freaking champion. Smack yourself on the ass so hard when the concussion hits, it blows the mustache off your best friend's face because you are a goddamn legend.

8:27 If on the other hand, you want to date a girl who heads up the itty bitty titty committee, then don't sign up for the program, bro, because those are the girls you're going to keep getting. All right. Why shouldn't we be vulnerable with women? What is being vulnerable? It's telling her your fears, telling her what you're scared of, your failures, your weakness. Now you think logically, if I share with her what I'm really feeling and if I'm honest, that's going to build connection and she's going to like me more and perhaps fall in love with me.

8:56 But guys, as many of us have seen, including me and probably you listening, it doesn't work that way. It makes her lose respect for us. Why is that? One of the central tenets of frame control, as I discussed in my previous episode, and of course, as I'm going to talk about my masterclass is you need to be the rock of Gibraltar sunk deep into the bedrock of the ocean floor. And she is the ocean with her wave slapping up against you. You are immovable, you are imperturbable, and you can be counted on.

9:32 Whatever bullshit that she brings to you, you are that rock of Gibraltar. If, on the other hand, you go to her with your problems, you complain to her about things you're afraid of, you tell her that you're not able to do it because you're a fucking pussy, she senses intuitively that you are a pussy, that you are a beta cuck, and you will not be able to take care of her. Listen, and especially women listening, I want you to really hear this. You don't need the man to take care of you, but you want the option.

10:01 You don't need him to save you, but it would be nice if he could do it. You don't need him to be Superman and absolutely perfect, but you don't want to hear about his problems because when you hear it, it makes you doubt in his masculinity. It makes you doubt in his ability to be able to provide, protect, and preside, either for you and or your children. So when women hear this, gentlemen, they get absolutely unattracted to you. Me, in that girl's dorm room, when I was 19 years old, crying about how my dad died all over her titties, and this is a true story, I swear it, got blown out the next day.

10:40 She's like, hey, I just don't feel like we really have a connection. I don't think it's really going to work, so I'm going to part ways. And then like two days later, I saw her dating another guy, probably a dude who wouldn't cry all over her tits because no, boys, your tears will not be used as lubricant for sex. So when it comes to your problems, when it comes to your fears, when it comes to those things you're afraid of or those failures that you've had, brother, keep it to yourself.

11:06 Do not talk about it with your woman. I know this may sound like, yeah, but don't I really want to connect with her? Don't I want her to know everything about me? Yes, you do for the most part. 98% of you, you want to be completely up front. You guys want to connect. You want to have that. But if you go to her with your problems, if you go to her with your fears, and you go to her with your vulnerabilities, unfortunately, she's going to lose attraction for you.

11:29 It's just how it works. Now there is a caveat to this. So continue listening because I'm going to get into that where you can be 100% honest, but it has to be under a certain condition. So continue listening. But if you have fears, anxieties, vulnerabilities that you haven't conquered, you need to keep those to yourself. Or better yet, be working with a mentor, invest in yourself, as I always tell you guys to do. Maybe come into my three-month coaching program and let me do NLP on you so you can deal with those traumas, meta programs, and bullshit belief systems that you were given as a kid before you could defend yourself.

12:12 Deal with those things that make you feel vulnerable. Deal with the pussy inside of you that I'm going to help you kill. I'm going to help you kill that pussy that's preventing you from getting money, getting girls, getting success and happiness because of fear. What is fear? False evidence appearing real. And look at that. False evidence appearing real. If you buy into it, that is called a vulnerability. I'm vulnerable because when people talk shit about my race or my color or my religious background, I just, I get really sad and I want to cry.

12:43 Brothers, if you get triggered by anything, if you get offended by anything, that shows you have a weak frame, a weak sense of reality, you're in your feminine energy. As I spoke about in the previous episode, does a girl get attracted to a man in his feminine energy? Obviously not. They get attracted to men in their masculine energy. What is a perfectly masculine man? It's a man who accepts himself. It's a man who approves of himself. He gives himself a 10 out of 10. He has a strong frame.

13:15 He believes in his reality. He believes in his likes, dislikes, and he doesn't let life circumstances push him around. He is on his inner balance point, your inner state of composure, which too I'm going to teach in depth on the masterclass. So if he goes to a woman complaining about, say, for example, how his boss is mean to him and he feels underappreciated and he doesn't know why he can't get a raise, she's going to be like, gross. You think a guy is going to go complain to his wife about his boss and then have sex with her an hour later?

13:46 This too is the reason guys are in sexless marriages. Guys get cheated on because, gentlemen, you are taking bullshit to your woman that you should not take to the woman. That is saved for your therapist, your mentor, Coach Mark Singh, when you come into my program. You should hear the bullshit that I get from my clients and every single one of them. I got your back, bro, because I can take it. I'm the rock of Gibraltar for my clients. Anything you tell me I've heard before, I can handle it.

14:17 And brothers, I have the solution. NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. Let's go after it like a man does. My favorite speech that I've ever heard was simply four words long. It was from a Navy SEAL who was graduating. He was the honor man and he looked out to his compatriots, his brothers in the trenches, and he says, guys, I only have four words to tell you. Don't be a pussy. And I want to tell you guys the same thing. When you're a pussy in front of a woman, she loses respect for you.

14:50 And damn right, she loses all attraction for you. So when can you be vulnerable, you can be vulnerable when you show that you've overcome the vulnerability, just like I've done with thousands of girls that I've talked to and dated, where I used to have panic attacks in Japan. I used to have agoraphobia. I used to have anxiety. I tell women about that, but I say, and this is the important part, I overcame it. No more agoraphobia, no more anxiety, no more panic attacks. In fact, now I speak in front of tens of thousands, sometimes hundreds of thousands of men, as I'm doing right now, completely anxiety-free.

15:27 In fact, I love the attention on me boys, which is called the show-off method. Another thing I teach in my three-month coaching program. So you can be vulnerable, quote unquote, but you will have to have overcome it. Or at the very least, you have to have plans to overcome it. You're working on it. You're getting over it. Sometimes my clients will come into my program and they'll think it's a good idea to tell girls that they're in a dating program. I don't know whether or not I agree with that.

15:56 I think the better framing is that you're in a self-improvement program because once girls find out that you're in a dating program, they kind of get butthurt because they know you're pulling all kinds of girls. So hey, a self-improvement program. Yeah, it's being vulnerable, but at least you're working on it. You're looking for a solution because what's masculinity? It's solution-oriented. Yeah, I have this problem. Yeah, I have this hang-up, but I'm going to get over it, baby. Don't you worry. No matter what happens in this household with my family, our health, our daughter, Marissa's health, Marissa's business, anything, I got her.

16:32 I am the rock of Gibraltar. I am the one she can count on no matter what happens. And because of that, her attraction will continue for me. If, on the other hand, I go to her with my problems in my business, my fears about this, that, and the third, then she's going to lose respect for me. She's going to lose attraction for me. And boys, she's going to lose faith in me. She's not going to sleep as well. She's not going to have as much femininity.

16:54 She is not going to be trusting in my masculinity, which has to be there in order for there to be attraction and in order for there to be a smooth relationship. She's in charge of nurturing the child, being the caretaker, preventing me from making stupid decisions such as flying down a huge mountain on my mountain bike, launching jumps and doing sick whips until I crack my head on the ground and get a massive concussion. Women are there to prevent us from being stupid, but they're not there to be your psychologist.

17:24 If you need a psychologist, go hire one. Keep your vulnerabilities, keep your struggles and your fears to yourself until you're working on them and you have a solution to overcome them. Then you can talk about them freely. Just as I talk about my past panic attacks, past travails that I've been through, even my dad dying and the struggle that I went through, which made me into a stronger man. And this goes into storytelling. Should you tell stories of vulnerability? Yes. But again, part of the story has to be that you overcame it, that you rose above it, that you used it to get yourself to the next best version of yourself.

18:02 If you haven't achieved that yet with your vulnerabilities, then don't talk about them. It's okay to keep some things in the fold, not tell her everything because you are literally protecting her attraction. And in a way she's going to thank you for it. She's going to be like, thank God this guy isn't coming to me as his psychologist, as so many other dudes have. Now, women listening, especially those who would likely send me some hate mail, I think you're agreeing with me. I think you're like, okay, I see what he's saying.

18:34 Don't come to me crying all over my titties or all over my vagina, hoping your tears will be used as lubricant for sex, but instead come to me and be honest with me and be solution oriented. That's what a man does. That's what masculinity does. And that's what frame control is. Frame control is not only leading the woman, taking her to where she wants to be led, but it's also controlling your pussy tendencies inside yourself and stepping into your masculinity. Even if in some ways you have to quote unquote pretend, but you're not pretending anything.

19:10 You're just not bringing it up. Certain things are best not brought up. Wouldn't you agree? You think I go around telling chicks about my body count. Do you think I want to know the body count of a chick who I'm dating who is fine, has been in the nightclubs? There's just certain things you don't talk about. And in so doing, you maintain her attraction for you. So here it is again, boys. Do not be vulnerable in front of a woman. If you do choose to be vulnerable, show her that either A, you have the solution and you're going towards that solution or B, you have overcome that vulnerability and grown because of it.

19:46 Everything else is off the table. Don't talk to her about it. Talk to your psychologist about it. Talk to your coach about it. Talk to your mentor about it. And boys, if you have issues with frame control, been cheated on, been left, had a girl you really liked and you thought it was great and she blew you out, I can almost guarantee you it's a lack of frame control. And still, some of you refuse to invest in yourself, which to me is one of the worst decisions you'll ever make.

20:10 Every single person who's successful invests in himself. What if you just learned one thing from this frame control masterclass that could change your life, change your life when it comes to women, change your life when it comes to your social intelligence, your success at work. One thing could be the difference. And I can guarantee you with utmost sincerity that you are going to learn way more than just one thing. Especially if while listening to this episode, you had a few aha moments and you're like, oh shit, that makes sense.

20:43 You don't know everything about frame control and you need to know everything to be able to attract women to you and perhaps most importantly, keep them attracted to you. If you go to a woman with your problems, you're going to get blown out, bro. It's the way it works. And unless you want to date that girl who's the leader of the itty bitty titty committee, then you need to come to this class, man. We still have openings. Hopefully when this podcast drops, I just opened up some new dates.

21:04 So check it out, man. Watch the video. Look at the bullet points. Look at my testimonials. Read the ridiculously reduced price. That in my opinion is a complete no brainer. It's open for you. I want to meet you. I want to work with you. And every single guy who signs up, I put my hand to my heart, read your name. And I'm like, thank you, bro. Thank you for trusting me. I am not going to let you down. I'm going to blow your mind with the information I'm about to drop in this masterclass.

21:30 So sign up right now because if it's anything like the first day, shit's going to sell out in minutes, not hours. The link is in the description below. So sign up right now while it's on your mind. As a reminder, I do draw podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. Bye.

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