So She Won't Have Sex, Huh? How to Eliminate LMR (Last Minute Resistance) When Having Sex With a Girl

0:00 LMR, last minute resistance. How many of us have experienced, we think it's going great with a girl, we think we're definitely going to get into that squishmitten, and then she like rejects us at the very last minute. So there's a myriad of circumstances as to why this happens. We have to kind of put ourselves in the shoes of women and understand all the risks that they have, and we have to address those risks before we even get into the bedroom. I'm going to give you tactile, real techniques to use that I've used myself and my clients have used to overcome those objections.

0:35 The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I super appreciate you joining me, especially because you could be doing a million other things right now, but you come back to this podcast because you know I try to deliver the goods, and I'm going to do that for you today, boys. MR, last minute resistance. How many of us have experienced, we think it's going great with a girl, we think we're definitely going to get into that squishmitten, we think we're going to have a festival in her vestibule, and then she like rejects us at the very last minute.

1:09 Now, obviously, there's reasons for this, and I'm going to tell you how to overcome them, both before to prevent it even happening, but also when it actually does happen, I'm going to give you tactile, real techniques to use that I've used myself and my clients have used to overcome those objections. The first thing we have to realize is that women have a lot to lose when they have sex with a man, right? She can get pregnant by you. You could fuck her and leave her. You could rape her.

1:37 There's tons more risk for chicks than there is for guys, not even mentioning the risk to their reputation, because as men, we oftentimes get patted on the back for being able to have sex with lots of girls, right? But when a girl has sex with lots of guys, it's unattractive. I mean, think about it. Would you date a girl who had sex with one dude who was kind of an acquaintance of yours in your high school? Yeah, you'd probably still date that chick. But what if that chick fucked every single guy on the football team?

2:05 You probably wouldn't date her. So the fact that her reputation is super in jeopardy by just having sex with the dude is another reason we get LMR. It's the slut defense mechanism, or you haven't built enough trust and connection. She doesn't really trust you that you're not going to just fucking leave her. So there's a myriad of circumstances as to why this happens. We have to kind of put ourselves in the shoes of women and understand all the risks that they have. And we have to address those risks before we even get into the bedroom, which is going to be my biggest point in this episode.

2:39 But I am going to share some techniques with you guys to actually use when she does it immediately in the bedroom, because this happened to me. I'm going to tell you guys a couple of funny stories of what's happened to me. So let's get into the content. All right. So as I mentioned, girls need to have that trust and connection. And most girls need to spend about 12 hours with you before they're going to have sex with you. Now, this was kind of a theory in the early 2000s when I got into this niche, but with all my experience and the experience of my clients, we can corroborate.

3:11 It does take about 12, 15 hours before a girl is comfortable enough. An average girl is comfortable enough to have sex with you. Of course, there's outliers, right? Like some girls will have sex with you almost without even talking to you. Other girls, it takes like fucking six months, which, by the way, if that happens, I'm usually out the door and I'm going to tell you a few things too as to what to say when they're that kind of girl. So we understand there's a huge spectrum. Some girls are way over here.

3:38 Some girls are way over there. But generally speaking, about 12 to 15 hours and a really good thing to do. And if you haven't done it yet, listen to any of my episodes about building trust and connection. Sometimes I label it the TNC rule. I know I've done at least one or two episodes about that. You have to have good trust and connection in there. Also listen to any episodes about warmth, being warm with the woman, being real, connecting with her, getting into what I call her secret life.

4:09 See, we all have our lives that we portray to the public, but we have our secret lives. And if you can get a few things from her secret life for her to tell you, like a few secrets or a few things she wouldn't share with anybody else, that builds massive trust and increases the chances of her having sex with you. So the slut defense mechanism is just that. And oftentimes it's tripped off right when you're about to have sex. Because again, her reputation can be damaged.

4:36 You could rape her, fuck her, leave her, impregnate her. There's a ton of risk. So we have to like really lay the foundation, really lay the groundwork in order to make it so it doesn't happen. And that's my biggest point in this episode. If you get to the point where a girl rejects you or you get to that point often where girls are like pushing back against you, brother, you fucked up in the beginning. You've done something completely wrong because you're going against what I always preach, which is what?

5:04 The 80-100 rule. The 80-100 rule dictates that you give her less than what she actually wants from you. So if we look at the situation of you like trying to push her and her being like, no, I'm just not ready to have sex yet. I just don't know if it's the right time. You fucked up because you went beyond the 80-100 rule. You're asking for too much. You're being too needy. You're being try hard. Like I talked about in the last episode, the 80-100 rule is basically this.

5:31 Give her 80% of what she wants from you. She wants to hang out five times a week. You hang out four. She wants to make out with you for like 25 minutes after the first date. You cut it off. You always leave them wanting more. You always leave them with that feeling of like, ah, I just want more of this guy. I'm telling you, boys, when you do that, LMR becomes a thing of the past. In fact, I arrived to the point where LMR was a thing of the past because I would always be the one to cut it off.

5:58 And that's the first strategy. When on the first date, let's say you guys are making out, which usually like the first date is as far as I take it. I'm not going to lie. I've taken it to sex before. I've taken it to sick duck. And if you don't know what sick duck is, flip the S and the D and you know all about it. But what I got to the point of doing, and this is what I suggest for you guys, is you have to be the one to cut it off.

6:20 This does several things in the female mind. First of all, it makes her want more, right? It makes her miss you and makes her want more of you. Secondly, it shows her that you're not just trying to get her sex, which is a huge way to build trust and connection in the way of having sex. You don't want her to feel like the only reason you're there is to have sex with her. We all know this. You want her to think to herself, he actually likes me more for just my vagina or just my hotness because he cut it off with me, because he wasn't pushy, because he wasn't thirsty.

6:53 And that's how you need to be. So on the first date, what I always suggest is use the techniques, make out with her, and then right when it's kind of getting hot and heavy or right when you can tell that the beginning of the end is happening, meaning like, ah, I feel like we could probably make out for like a few more minutes. Maybe it's going to end in like a few more laps around the track, right? So I'm going to cut it off now and be like, hey, that's it for me tonight.

7:18 Let's go ahead and get you an Uber. Let's get you back to your car and send her on her way. I guarantee you, boys, if you do that move, LMR is going to be a thing of the past. Just that move alone, not to mention all the other moves I'm about to mention. But when you go through the 80-100 rule, always leaving her wanting more, always cutting it off, always being the one that's like, yeah, like I'm not trying to get sex. And this is what you do too when a girl says to you, we're not having sex tonight.

7:44 You say, whoa, whoa, why are you talking about sex so early? Like, I just met you. Stop trying to seduce me. Listen, Kelly, I need trust, comfort, connection, and probably a poem left on my car first before we even talk about sex. So if she's throwing up objections before it even happens, like you're making out and she's like, oh, we're not having sex. Be like, whoa, slow down there, Casanova. Talking about sex this early isn't the best way to seduce me. Or if she says, hey, I don't have sex until I'm boyfriend and girlfriend, be like, boyfriend and girlfriend, I don't have sex until I'm married, so calm down on that.

8:19 Now, you obviously don't want her to misinterpret that you're like Christian and you're like waiting to get married, but always go further than the boundary that she sets when it comes to like physical stuff. She's like, I'm not doing that until X, Y, Z date. Yeah, fucking right. Guys, I have blown through that shit faster than you can shit or go blind. So don't think that when they put these little parameters in place, which by the way, they do because they've been with thirsty guys or maybe you were like incongruent and telegraph too much thirstiness.

8:45 If they say shim shit, agree with it and amplify it. Say, wait, five dates. Are you kidding me? I wait until 26 dates. So slow down there, Casanova. You're not getting my sex. And that's another perception that I want you guys to change. Reframe this. You're the one who has the prize in your pants. That red helmeted warrior in your underwear, she's trying to get it. It's the prize. She wants it inside her squishmitten. Guys, don't get it twisted. Girls love having sex, especially with the guy they're highly attracted to.

9:16 Hold that shit back. Tell her she can't have it. In a roundabout way, don't be like, no, you're not getting my sex. I mean, unless you can do it in a socially savvy way, but it's basically communicating, dude, I don't need to knock another home run out. It's a no go. Just like the Limp Bizkit lyrics. I've had it so many times. Girls are throwing at me all the time. It's like, you have to work. You have to submit the application. I'm the one who's the prize.

9:40 I'm the one who's going to give you my sex. Stop trying to think of it as she's the prize. Her vagina is like the golden ticket. Bro, your dick is the golden ticket. Your dick is the fucking trophy that she's trying to get. So hold it back. Tell her she ain't getting it. Don't give it to her too quickly. And for God's sakes, don't be thirsty. Don't try to get it. I know, boys, that some of you guys are so horny, you'd fuck the frothy armpit of a fat girl on a Stairmaster.

10:08 But calm yourself, bro. Rub one out if you have to. Like in that movie, Something About Mary. Don't go out with a loaded gun. Polish the dolphin before you go out. And then like you come on your ear and she arrives and she sees you have hair gel on your earlobe and she takes it and she does her hair with it. Don't know if you guys ever saw that movie. It's something about Mary. Fucking hilarious. But that's the right play, right? Don't be thirsty. Don't go for the shit.

10:34 If she's throwing it at you, slow her down. And that's my next point. Women are always the barometer for your escalations. You hold her hand when you think she's ready to hold hands. You kiss her when you think she's ready to kiss. You touch the tetes when you think she's ready to have her tetes touched. And of course, boys, you crack when she's ready to crack. Never before. You try to do it before. You just created LMR. Guys, it's the five Ps. Prior, preparation, prevents poor performance.

11:04 Do you think Barry Bonds, when he was playing with the San Francisco Giants, would wait until he was 10-0 to hit one of his famous home runs against the fucking Yankees? Hell no. Do you think that Peyton Manning would go into a game and, like, plan to win at the very end of the game? Of course not. And do you think that Tajay Pogacar, the number one cyclist in the world, if you haven't seen this dude, you should watch 2026's Tour de France. The guy is an absolute fucking freak of nature.

11:32 Do you think that guy goes into the Tour de France doing anything to compromise the maximum efficiency of the oxygenation of his capillary beds? Of course not. Dude goes in with the prior preparation. He knows what's going to happen. He makes his move based on what's going to happen at the end, and that's the way you need to think, too, boys. Cut her off. Don't give her enough. Don't be thirsty for sex. Make her the barometer for your escalations. Build trust and connection. Give it 13 to 15 hours.

12:02 Take her on different places. Take her on different dates. Admit a few real things about yourself and try to get her to admit a few real things about yourself, too. If she talks about sex, be like, yeah, you know, like, we can chill. We can wait. And if you guys are getting physical and she's like, hey, don't go under my underwear, respect it. Don't go under her underwear. Be like, yeah, me neither. Like, let's take it slow. And let her know, like, you're not trying to get it.

12:26 When you don't try to get it, they throw the shit at you. As a lot of you guys are probably smiling and nodding right now, agreeing with me because you've seen it. The more you're like, I don't need it, the more they're going to throw the shit at you. So the way to avoid LMR is to simply not try to get it. I got to the point, boys, where I was dating so many chicks, my dick fucking hurt in my pants. My red-helmeted warrior was literally hiding in the corner of my underwear, trying to, like, crawl up my butt so that he wouldn't have sex again.

12:52 And do you know how much sex I got when I was, like, not thirsty for it? It was a fucking pussy avalanche. And I hate to be crude, but I'm trying to communicate to you, the less you try to get it, the more they throw it at you. So the way to avoid LMR is don't try to get it, cut it off, let her be the barometer for your escalations, and do the five Ps, man. How can I think like a chess player and think five steps ahead?

13:16 Oh, she said in an earlier conversation that some guy used her and dumped her. Hmm, she might be afraid of that. So let me communicate that I'm not like that dude. And the next time I'm making out with her, I'm going to tactically stop it and be like, hey, that's it for me tonight. Let's go ahead and get you an Uber. I guarantee you, boys, the next time she's at your place, you guys are on the couch, she's going to get it on, dude. She's going to sick your duck.

13:41 She's going to let you get in her squishmitten. You're about to have a festival in her vestibule. Now, what if you get to the point where she's literally in your bed and she rejects you, as I've had happen several times. I'm like, dude, I did the five Ps. I did the 80-100 rule. I made her the barometer. I built trust and connection. I know we're going to have sex. In fact, I can remember one specific incident where we were talking about having sex, fantasizing about it.

14:08 We got fucking toys out and we're in bed and I go to kiss her and she turns away and rejects me. That's literally happened to me multiple times and I'm sure it's happened to you too, boys, because why? The slut defense mechanism. No matter how much you prepare, no matter how much trust and connection you build, sometimes they're just like, I don't want to do it. Or like their hormones kick up and a tub of ice cream sounds better than having sex with you. Cool. As I said, you're not thirsty.

14:37 You're not trying to get it. If she doesn't want to have it, which believe me, boys, I've had some fucking blue balls in my day, as I'm sure you have too. It fucking sucks, but it's up to her. If she doesn't want to have it, cool, we're not having it. And you do what's called the freeze out. Now, again, I don't want it to get to that point where you're like a bushcraft expert in the wilderness and you forgot your cordage, you forgot your cutting tool, you forgot your combustion, you forgot your cover and you forgot your container.

15:04 The five seas of survival. You're a fucking jackass going out there in the middle of a rainstorm, not able to make a fire, but you're there. And even if you did bring the five seas of survival, you lost them somehow because you got attacked by a bear that was with its cubs. And you fucking flung all your shit away. And now you're in the middle of a rainstorm without a lighter. What do you do? You do what's called the freeze out. She says no sex tonight.

15:28 You say, OK, cool. We're good on that. And you start talking about something very innocuous. Maybe you go get a drink of water. You lose a little bit of interest because, frankly, boys, and I'm sure a lot of you guys have been there, that does make you lose interest. You're like, dude, I thought we were about ready to crack. We're about ready to have sex. And now you're like rejecting me. What the fuck? But if you get angry, as I have in the past, and I'm sure some of you guys have too, it's only going to make her less attracted to you.

15:55 Trust you less because you look like that, like, thirsty Gary Fingers, that creepy guy who's like, hey, little girl, let me touch your titties. Or you have the touch of a rapist, and she's like, oh, I don't want to fucking get with this guy. Respect it. Be like, hey, no worries. We can skip that tonight. Let's just cuddle, right? And you're a little bit freezing her out, which means, like, you're not as interested. You're kind of thinking about other things. Maybe you grab your phone and you play with it.

16:22 You let about 10 minutes go by, and then you kind of start making out with her again. Usually a freeze-out or two, and sometimes you have to do it like one, two, sometimes even three times, will break through it. But again, I really don't like it to get there. I really like to implement the five Ps, the 8100 rule, all the shit I told you guys about, trust and connection. And even if I've done all that and she still gives me the LMR, then I'm going to do the freeze-out.

16:48 But if I haven't done that and I'm trying to, like, play these games of the freeze-out and I haven't laid the proper groundwork in order to make her feel comfortable with sex, now I'm just going to be like, yeah, cool, no worries. Let's just go to sleep, right? Or, hey, let's get you going home or whatever it is. Like, honestly, I'm not butthurt about it. It's all good. I understand sex is a big deal, especially for women. It's cool. And you can even say that, boys.

17:13 You can even communicate this stuff. And this is something else that's different with sex than a lot of different things in seduction. As I told you in the last episode, you never want to brag. You never want to tell you're confident, ambitious. You want to show it. But when it comes to sex, it's actually something that's okay to talk about. And you can say, hey, listen, I want you to feel comfortable. I want you to feel like it's a good decision. I'm not thirsty for it.

17:38 We don't have to have it. Now, obviously, if she's laying down these kind of negative-backed boundaries where she's like, we're not having sex tonight, then you joke. And you're like, whoa, of course we're not having sex. Like, stop talking about sex so early. But if you guys are connecting and you're on the same page and she's innocently telling you, like, hey, I've been using the past, then be real. And just be like, dude, I totally understand. I want you to feel comfortable. You know, I'm not thirsty for it.

18:03 Honestly, it's chill. Let's just get to know each other. Let's get comfortable with each other. And if and when it happens, it happens. If it doesn't happen, that's cool, too. I mean, honestly, if I'm being completely real, I've been there, too. I've been used by girls. I've been a sex object, right? Like, stop trying to get in my underwear, young lady. And you could joke around with her and be like, listen, real talk. I've done that. I've gotten it out of my system. I don't need it anymore.

18:27 And it's the same thing with me. Like, I'm not going to just have sex with anybody. Like, I need to make sure that we are relating, that we're actually connecting, that I feel like I can trust you, too. So let's take it slow and see where it goes. I'm telling you, boys, when you do that kind of technique where you're like, yeah, cool. Like, I'm the same way. Like, I'm not just trying to have sex with you. And honestly, like, you kind of need to earn my trust, too.

18:49 When you say that kind of shit, you're having sex like two minutes later. It's insane. So your whole strategy is the five Ps. Prior preparation prevents poor performance. You're building the trust and connection. You're cutting off the first makeout session. You're letting her know you're not, like, super thirsty for sex. She can see that other girls want you. You've probably had sex with lots of girls, and you've gotten it out of your system. As you go up to having sex, you make her feel comfortable. If that's what she needs, you can even talk about it.

19:17 And then if LMR happens, you're just like, cool, let's not have sex tonight. Or you freeze her out, grab your phone, go get some water, whatever it is, start making out again. And then usually each time, like, an LMR situation happens, you can kind of blow through it by doing the freeze out. But I don't want you to be, like, in the Tour de France, and you're on my team, and you're like, what do I do if I bonk? What do I do if I get 80 miles in and I completely hit a wall?

19:43 And I'm like, bro, you shouldn't get to that point. You should be feeding every 30 minutes. You should be pacing yourself. Like, don't run your legs in the first 50 miles. Like, pace that shit. So we're all about, like, not getting to that point. We're all about being prepared. And I'm telling you guys, the more you push it away, the more they throw that shit at you. So just do that from the very beginning. And I assure you, LMR will be a thing of the past. All right, guys, I super appreciate you listening.

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