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Episode 749 · June 16, 2026 · 35 min

Peek Behind The Curtain And Eavesdrop on One of My Coaching Calls From my 3-Month Coaching Program

About this episode

In this groundbreaking episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, host Mark Sing pulls back the curtain and lets you eavesdrop on a live coaching call from his exclusive 3-Month Coaching Program. You get raw, unfiltered access as Mark directly coaches real students — breaking down their biggest sticking points in the moment and delivering powerful, actionable breakthroughs on the spot. From dead texting after getting numbers to building real attraction in day game, qualifying women, owning your quirks, and mastering the high-value mindset that makes women chase you. If you've ever wondered what it's actually like inside Mark's coaching program, this is your chance to see the magic happen live. These calls are packed with absolute gold — mindset shifts, techniques, and strategies that are transforming men's dating lives right now.

Key Takeaways: - The Attraction Spectrum: Exactly how much attraction you need to get her number, a text back, a date, and sex - Why most guys lose momentum in texting and the powerful "black hole" re-engagement text that gets 80%+ reply rates - The OQ QP Method for turning short interactions into real conversations - Owning your "flaws" (speech, looks, etc.) with humor to spike attraction and blow past disqualifiers - Mastering tonality, energy, and state control so women feel your vibe and want to stay in the conversation

Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] – Episode intro [00:00:27] – Richard's texting struggles and the Attraction Spectrum explained [00:02:02] – Never double text + the powerful "black hole" follow-up text [00:05:42] – Building attraction in day game and when to qualify her [00:08:25] – Qualifying examples + "Do you know why you're awesome?" [00:09:45] – Owning your quirks (speech/retainer) with funny stories and frame control [00:13:15] – The King vs. Shit-Crusted Peasant mindset [00:16:05] – The OQ QP Method breakdown with real examples [00:19:11] – Energy, tonality & feeling good before approaching [00:24:04] – How to make women want more of your time (the 80/20 pull-back rule) [00:28:29] – Why spiritual topics are so effective with women [00:31:26] – Should you text after sex? [00:34:30] – Episode Outro

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What is up, gentlemen? Happy Tuesday. I hope the weekend treated you well and I got a really special one for you today. I am going to let you eavesdrop, peek behind the curtain of one of my coaching calls from my three-month coaching experience. I chose a little subsection that goes through a lot of different topics that I feel will probably help you no matter what your situation is. So sit back, enjoy. Let's get into the content. So Richard keeps getting stuck in the texting phase and this is going to happen to all you boys.

By the way, Steve, can you hear me now? I said hi to you, but you didn't hear me. Welcome, man. Good to see you. Thank you so much for coming. I appreciate all you boys. Got so much love for you all. And so Richard says, look, I can get their phone number, then I'm texting with them and it falls off. And he's asking, why is this? Is it because my texting game sucks or is it because I didn't build enough attraction in the first conversation? Somebody raise your hand.

Somebody raise your hand. Somebody like Robert, maybe Brian, maybe Henry. Alper, love to hear from you. What's up, Sean? Good to see you too. Is it texting where he's missing it or is it the first conversation? Let's go, David S. I think first conversation. That's, I think that's the most important to get, get attracted. You're absolutely right. So you can botch it, Richard, during the texting. Like if you're way too eager, you're saying the wrong shit. But the most important part is that first conversation. The first conversation is where all the attraction is built.

And whether or not she's going to text you back, they almost decide it in that first conversation. Now that begs the question, why then would you give me your phone number? Some girls think like, well, maybe at that moment, they're emotional beings. Or, and this has even happened to me, they just want to get rid of you. Okay. But Richard, in your sense, since they're texting you back, I think there's attraction there. So let me give you, let me give you the, um, spectrum. I call it the spectrum.

All right. So here's open. Here's sex. Everything in between is attraction, attraction, open, sex. Okay. From here to here, Richard, you could get a phone number. This much attraction is what you need to get a phone number. Okay. But listen, this much attraction is how much you need to get a text back. And this is important. This much attraction is how much you need to get a date. Okay. Then kiss, touch your titties, get some sick duck, sex. Okay. So what's happening here, Richard, first of all, I'm proud of you for opening and asking for the number.

That's all part of the process. What's happening is you are getting good, open, some attraction. You're getting enough to get a phone number. You're getting enough to get a text back, just a little bit more and you'll get a date. So it's all in that first conversation. So what do we do? You come into this program, you're doing the exact right thing. I'm going to give you all kinds of new shit to throw in, Richard, where you will be landing phone numbers and dates consistently. And I guarantee you, brother, you're in week three.

Week four, you're going to get a lot of stuff. Week five, you're going to get a lot of stuff. Week six. Once you're in week six, you'll have a lot to work with to throw at girls. So initially, you are texting them and then they stop texting you. Here's what you do. Stop texting them. Guys, you're new boys. Listen up. Never, ever, ever follow up or double text a girl. Never. You text her and she doesn't text you back. Done. Done, done, done. Don't be like, did you see my last text?

Do you still like me? Do you want to suck my dick? Guys, you all know, we've all been there, right, Luke? It doesn't work. So what you do is you pull back and then you wait two weeks, Richard, two weeks, and you send this text. And by the way, you're in week three. This is in week three content. It's written right there for you. But here's how it goes. So I was talking to this pretty cool girl, but I think she got sucked into a black hole.

I hope she's okay. Dot, dot, dot. And you send that, Richard, two weeks. Two weeks after she stops texting you, boys. And guys, you could do this with girls on the dating apps. You could do it with girls on Instagram. And you certainly should do it with girls with texting. This has something like an 80% reply rate. Now, why? Why does it have an 80% reply rate? Maybe somebody new can answer this. Maybe Henry, David S., Brad. Why does that work, David S.? It shows that you're busy, you're maybe dating other women, you're high value, and you got better shit to do.

Yeah, and you're not thirsty, right, David? Yep. Yeah. Okay. So, Richard, your next question applies to you first. How can I build attraction during day game? Richard, I always laugh when I get that question because it's like you're on the first day or like three weeks into training camp, right, for the Major League Baseball. And you go up to the hitting coach, you're like, hey, hey, hitting coach, how can I hit a grand slam and win the World Series? And he's like, slow down, young man.

We're going to teach you that. And, Richard, I love the question. But the way to build attraction is a systematic increase in your conversation. So, right now – and, Richard, I feel like you're at a good place. You're getting numbers. For a guy in week three, that's phenomenal. Okay, so you already have some game. You already know a little bit. So, I'm going to give you a couple things to help you with. But when you say things, why don't you have a boyfriend or a bad kisser, which was in your example, we don't want to say those yet because there's things that are necessary to be in place before you say, why don't you have a boyfriend?

It's because you're a bad kisser, huh? She needs to be attracted to you to a pretty high level before you say that. So, let's not say that. But one thing I want you to try is qualifying her. And let me ask you, Richard, unmute yourself, please, lower left corner. Have you been qualifying them, making them work for you? At the beginning, I did it way too soon. I could see that it pissed off chicks. So, I'd be like qualifying them way too soon. And they'd be like, who the fuck are you to ask that question?

So, now I wait. And I kind of got away from it. But I want to get more into it. Today, I got a chick's number from the BMW dealership. And I could tell just from you, she was qualifying herself. So, she's like, I like to drive nice cars. I like to drive an airplane. I like to drive. And she's showing me her Instagram. And she's like talking about herself. So, I was like, okay. This chick is qualifying herself. And I also had my retainer in my mouth.

So, I was like, I probably sound like an idiot talking to her. But fuck it. And I got her number. And she, you know, went in my car and helped me set up everything. Some random ass girl at the dealership. So, it's cool. But to answer your question, I need to qualify more at the end of the conversation. What do we need in place in order to qualify a girl? Richard, do you know this? You don't have to know. Attract the value and we got the other one.

Yeah, we got the other one. Yeah, but you're right. That's a different question. The value and the frame thing. You need to have attraction from her. Thank you, Matthew Myers. I knew you knew. And the way you see that is she's asking you personal questions, boys. She might be touching you, leaning in, laughing at jokes that aren't funny. Those are signs of attraction. Then we qualify them. Okay? Before you ask for the phone number, guys, I want you all to make this a necessary part of your seduction, which is to qualify them.

The simple and easiest, and you guys should all know this one, is, so, hey, I'm curious what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? What would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? Now, this does two things. As Richard said, qualifies herself to you, which means sell herself to you. This creates what we call cognitive dissonance, right, Oberon, where she's feeling like, I'm trying to sell myself to this guy. I must like him, and she's going to like you more because of it.

Secondly, you're actually interested in her. You're not just a dancing monkey impressing her with all your gambits, but you actually want to know something about her. Have you guys heard my other one, which is, do you know why you're awesome? And she's like, why? And then I say, it was a question, dum-dum. Steve, I see you've been listening to the podcast. Thank you, sir. I appreciate that. All right. Do you know what, Kelly? Do you know why you're awesome? Why? It was a question, dum-dum. It's just like, I love saying that because it's like, it puts them a little bit in their place as far as me, like, frame-checking them a little bit, and they have to sell themselves to me, it fucking spikes attraction.

Now, Richard, if you had that much more, that might be the difference. When you speak in a way, Richard, that you think, you said you had your retainer in, so she thinks you sound dumb, do you have a reason as to why you speak that way, that you tell girls? What do you mean? So, you said that you had your retainer in, and you were speaking weird, and you thought maybe she thought you were speaking weird. Okay. Do you have some funny thing you can say, or some truth you can say as to why you speak like that?

I haven't practiced it yet. I was thinking about just, if they ask, like, do you have a lisp, or to start speaking gibberish, but I don't have something good. Okay, so guys, whenever you have something about you that might make women question your attractiveness, okay? Whether it's, let's say, you have, like, I had a guy with a burn on his face, or I had another guy who had no leg, and he had one of those false legs. Okay, then we have Richard, who has the speaking thing.

You kind of want to call out the elephant in the room by joking about it, okay? So, one guy had a huge scar of, he got burned. So, I told him, I said, hey, man, when you're talking to girls, just point it out, and be like, you might notice my burn. I was actually, I was a gladiator in the Colosseum. I got burned with fire, but I won my freedom, and the emperor let me go free. So, she can laugh, and you can make fun of yourself.

And then you say, no, real talk. And then you tell her, you just tell her what happened. So, with your speech thing, Richard, why do you have that? Well, it's a combination of my accent, learning English and Romanian, and I probably have a little bit of a lisp, too. But I go, I play off my accent. So, if I go ask, like, oh, you sound like you have an accent, where are you from? Then I play off that. And I guess I have a problem, because sometimes girls will frame check me and be like, that's not an accent, that's a lisp.

Yeah. And then I kind of, I don't have a good comeback for it, you know? That's not an accent, that's a lisp. You'd be like, oh, really? How do you know? Are you a speech pathologist? Is that what you do for a living? I didn't realize you were a speech pathologist. Good job. Can you help me get better? Can you help me get better with speaking English? Because I'm from Romania. I would say something similar. I love this one, where you'd be talking to her, and you'd be like, you know, you might notice I kind of have an accent, right?

And she'd be like, yeah. And you'd be like, well, it's actually not an accent. I was a gladiator in the arena, and I got my voice box cut. But I won my freedom. The emperor gave me the wooden sword, and I want my freedom from it. So that's why I have this accent. And she laughs. Be like, no, just kidding. I'm actually from Romania. Do you know where that is? Yeah, I know where that is. Oh, yeah. Where is it? Where on the map is it?

Okay, that's what I would do. And I always do this to girls. I always be like, hey, what was my name again? Or hey, what was that thing I told you? What was that thing I told you about earlier about the messages in water? I'm going to test them. And guys, think about it. When you test a girl, be like, hey, tell me that thing. It puts you in the fucking higher to lower, remember? And some of you are new. So this might be a new concept.

You want to have the social fucking power. You are better than she is socially. And I would never say this on Instagram or on my podcast, but sometimes I say this. You're the king, and she's the shit-crusted peasant. You walk up to her, and you say, hey, go clean the buttholes of the sacrificial sheep, and let me know when it's done. Okay? Luke, I like you already. You laugh at my jokes. We're going to have a good time. But you always want the vibe of you're above her.

So when you talk to a girl, imagine she works for you. She's your secretary, little sister, a little girl on your soccer team. You're the boss. You're the CEO. You're the king, and she's the peasant. A shit-crusted peasant, by the way. Now, some of you are like, damn, I hired this asshole. This guy's a dick. Okay? But here's the deal. You're so fucking nice that I'm telling you to be an asshole, so you land right in the middle. How do you talk to girls? Exactly as I'm talking to you now.

With authority but also playful, joyous, smile on my face. Hey! But Richard, since you do have the way you talk, I would call out the elephant in the room because it could be a disqualifier. And I said this to my guy without the leg. I said this guy with my burn. Some girls are going to be like, oh, he was sweet, but he had a big burn on his face. But if you can show that you're funny about it and you're not affected by it and you're willing to make jokes, that's going to get through that.

And it's the same thing with your voice. Richard, remember I told you che fac? That fucking super hot Romanian girl I was dating taught me that. What does that mean again? Like, how are you or whatever? How are you? Yeah. Exactly. Yeah, brother. So, Richard, you are going to learn a lot more techniques, but I want to throw one more at you. And this is for all you boys who are learning how to talk to girls. First and foremost, guys, approaching a girl and getting her phone number and getting her to go on a date with you is the hardest part of the entire seduction.

If you can master that and look at our boy Richard from Romania, he's already yanking numbers. You're going to have what, Oberon? A pussy avalanche. It's going to be an entire vault full of vaginas falling on you. And they're all wet, too. So you're going to be really gross after it happens. Telling you, boys, you think like, oh, dude, I can't wait until I get to have so many girls and then your fucking dick hurts and he's hiding in the corner of your underwear or, like, trying to crawl up your butt because he's had too much sex.

Be careful what you wish for. But I get it. A lot of you guys want to have game. Love it. Let's get it. Okay. So how many of you have heard of the OQQP method? Good. Richard hasn't. So about half of y'all. Okay, Henry, my English brother, Manchester United fan, absolute legend, smoothest guy on the call. What does the OQQP method stand for? OQQP stands for open question, question fry, I believe. Bam, dude, 100%. 100%. So it's open, Richard, open with a question, right? And I tell you guys to go in the supermarket, go to Taco Bell, go to Walmart.

I don't give a fuck where you are and open, girls. But, like, Steve's new, Luke is new, and you guys are doing open and eject. Hey, hey, real quick. Where are the watermelons around here? Oh, they're over there, Steve. Okay, cool. Have a great day. Or, hey, hey, real quick. Does that pump work? It was broken last week. Yeah, it works. All right, cool. Thanks. Just, Luke, just getting used to opening, right? We can open and eject, okay? Then we get into open question. So two questions.

So, hey, hey, where are the watermelons in this place? She's, like, over there. You'd be like, I see you have a watermelon there. Do you have a skill set for picking them? What are your secrets? Okay, two questions. Okay, so then if you don't get information from her answer that you can pry into, like Henry said, then you can ask another question. So you'd be like, hey, where are the watermelons in this place? And she's like, oh, they're over there and over there. You'd be like, oh, I see you got one in there.

That looks pretty good. What are your secrets for picking it? And she's like, oh, I just look for a tan spot here and this mark along the side and the lines have to be close together and the nipple has to be really tight. And I'll be like, nipple? What? Nipple? Anyway, how do you know all that? Okay, that's three questions. Where are the watermelons? How do you pick a good one? How do you know that? And she says, oh, I lived in Ecuador and I learned how to do it there.

You'd be like, no shit. I actually just traveled in Ecuador. I was in Santa Maria. Where did you live? Now she's like, oh, I lived over here and over here. And I'll be like, oh, my God, that's the place where they surf, right? And she's like, yeah. And I'll be like, yeah, I was surfing there. I grew up surfing. I grew up in California. I was surfing there. And this guy like yelled at me because I didn't have a leash on. And now we're getting into a conversation.

So it's open question question pry. Now, here's the good thing. You could dig out anytime you want to. Holy shit. Alper's going to talk. Hold on, boys. You could dig out anytime you want to. You're like, hey, where are the watermelons? Watermelons. Oh, they're over there. Do you know how to pick a good one? Eh, not really. Anyway, and I'll be like, okay, have a good day. So you could duck out anytime during the sequence. Alper, my man. Go ahead, man. What do you got? So how do you build, like, enough, like, attraction to ask this question?

Like, this coming from the sales mindset of, like, what's in it for me? I'm asking this question, but what is your actual reason behind to actually just, girls are replying to questions that you ask? Okay, are you asking what's in it for her or what's in it for me? For her. Because, dude. I'm asking questions because – and she answered me my questions. So you do sales online and you're talking to guys in the DMs, okay? So that's a little bit different than what I'm going to say.

But in person, when you get the vibe about you, which comes after probably about 100 opens, you get a vibe about you, an energy about you, a feeling about you that girls just want to talk to you, man. So what's in it for her? Your energy. And Alper, this is why you want to feel good when you're around these chicks. You want to feel better than they feel. Now, somebody mistakenly spoke about value and tonality. And this is what it's from. The two most important things of approaching a woman are what?

Tonality. King, shit-crusted peasant, your voice has to go fucking down. And the second thing is energy. Feeling good. Alper, do you think I feel good right now? Yeah. How do you know? Dude, even through Zoom, you can feel it. Even through my voice, you can feel it. So when you go up to a girl simply feeling good, boys, and here's what I suggest to you. Just concentrate on your heart. Here's a really, really good tip. I've been doing this lately. Just think of three things you're appreciative for.

Feel your heart. Man, I just got a 25 four-runner, boys, and I'm going to get it lifted with a new bumper and lights on the top and fucking rims and suspension. It's going to be so sick. I'm thankful for that. I'm taking it in on Monday, dude. They're going to have it for a week and deck this shit out. I'll post it on Instagram. Oh, I'm thankful for that. Second thing I'm thankful for is my little girl. She's my world. Oh, I feel so good to think about her.

Third thing I'm thankful for is Marissa, the best woman I've ever met. Now, I feel that way, and I go up, and I'm like, hey, hey, real quick, where'd you get that watermelon? She feels that energy from you, Alper, and they want to stay. Now, not always. Sometimes they're just in a bad mood, and they're like, oh, I think – or they're like, oh, I think the watermelons are over there. And you're like, ugh, thanks, and you dip out. So that's what I like about this program, boys, is that we don't hit on girls until they're attracted to us.

Right, Brian? That's right. We don't hit on girls until they're attracted to us. So you're not doing anything wrong, dude. You're not going up to a girl and being like, oh, you're so beautiful. What's your name? Do you have a boyfriend? Oh, really? Oh, my God. You went to UC Santa Cruz too? So did I. Cool. What college did you go to? Oh, I went to Stevenson. Did you graduate? Cool. Oh, you got to go? Oh, okay. Bye. It's like, dude, when you have that vibe, they fucking react differently to you.

How do you get the vibe? NLP. And doing the reps. NLP reps. NLP reps. And guys, for you new boys, show up to the fucking coaching calls. I will be so mad if you guys don't come to these calls. What's up, Jordan? I didn't even see you come in. What's up, buddy? I'm going to be so mad at you. And I will follow up and be like, bro, where were you? Are you coming tonight or what? Go to the coaching calls. Do your approaches. Do the NLP.

It will work for you. The OQQP method just gets the conversation going. And then, Rich, we can start throwing in gambits. And these are you're going to learn. I'm not going to throw them at you right now. Right now, Richard, you're in week three. Here's what I want you concentrating on. You're online dating and opening and ejecting and just asking questions and trying to vibe. Just trying to vibe with the girl. Maybe say – maybe try to get something funny in there. But you're just vibing for now.

Okay? The methods will come. So, Richard, does that answer your question to your satisfaction? Yes, sir. Okay. Appreciate you. Chris, we'd love to hear from you. Joe B., obviously. Matt Myers, I blew you out before, so I'd love to hear from you again, my friend. And Jacoby, I'm going to actually message you here in a second, so pay attention to your chats. Okay. So, Sean. Did you understand my question? It was a long rambling one, Mark. Adding a couple more chicks to the mix? Yeah, trying.

Okay. So, yeah. Specify your question, please. All right. So, I'm sometimes getting confused between chasing, right, which we'd never want to do, and finding time with, like, regulars. So, I don't want to chase these girls and have them spend time with me. How do I have them want to spend more time with me? Do you know what I mean? So, I know the 80, 80-100 rule. So, always leave them wanting more and, you know, never give them 100%. Yep. But if that's not working. But if you're not getting regular enough attention, how do you kind of boost that?

Or how can you make them want you more, I guess, is my question. Pull away. Pull away. Okay. It's always the move. But here's the thing. Okay. I like this question because you're asking me, well, how do I know how much she wants to hang out? Right? Right. You kind of, like, look, there is no real way to know outside of asking her. And if she happens to tell you, great, all the better. To me, I just feel it from her and I guess. Okay. So, I'm like, with the way this chick texts me and the way she's doing this thing, yeah, she might be playing some games.

I think she's pretty sprung. Like, when she kisses me, she's really passionate. And she kind of gets a little butthurt sometimes. So, I think she wants to hang out four times a week. So, I'm going to let her hang out with me two to three times a week. You're really guesstimating based on her reaction to you. But if you're wondering how to make them more sprung, text them less. Text them less. Start being less responsive. Take longer in between texts and, okay. Make them want you more.

How many of you have seen it where you start pulling away because you're not really interested and they get more into you? Okay. Everybody here should raise their hand because that's how it works. You never get them more into you by chasing more. That's for sure. And, Sean, you know that. Yeah. You can't really get them into you more by, like, I mean, you can do a little bit by having better dates and maybe licking their clam chop. A little bit better and doing that kind of shit.

That's what I was thinking about, too. The sex part, you know, getting them – leaving them wanting a little more, you know what I mean? So, not fulfilling them completely. Yes. Or fulfilling them so good they want it again. So good that they want it again. Yeah, yeah. Okay. All right. But, like, the tried and true method that just seems to work on every single chick is to make yourself less available. Okay. Yeah. And so just text them less. Be a little less available. They'll want it.

And then when you do see them, show them a great time. Lick that clam chop like no tomorrow, right, and knock it out of the park. And then make them go a little bit earlier than they want to. You've got to be the sanctuary for these girls. You have to be the sanctuary. Which means when they're with you, it has to feel good for them, and they can't get enough of it. So you are basically – like, Luke has, like, a third date with a girl, right?

He takes her on, like, this adventure, let's say. Not too much money. I don't want you guys to misinterpret. You all know this. We do not spend a lot of money on girls. We generate emotions with our conversation and with the experience. So maybe, like, Luke takes her to, I don't know, just an example, a, like, panic room or one of those lockout rooms where you've got to, like, get yourself out. And she has a great time, and they're joking, and he's teaching her things. Very important, Sean, for attraction.

You might want to teach her – teach these girls something that you know. Brother, I cannot tell you how much spirituality has gotten me late. I just teach them – I tell them about near-death experiences, what enlightened masters can do, and how your thoughts create things, and how your thoughts affect water, and how your thoughts even affect trees, and affect your biochemistry, and the law of attraction, crystals, astrology. Fuck, dude, that's gotten me late because I like that shit. And I teach these girls about it, and I'm like, ah, dude, I got to get to bed.

Let's get you home. And I want her always, guys, listen. You want them like, ah, okay. You want that, okay. Bummed. How bummed? 80% less than what they want. And dude, like, you guys have probably all overstayed conversations. You've all overstayed dates. You've all let the girl hang out at your house too much. If a girl says, I'm going to get going now, you fucked up. You got to be the one to be like, hey, it's time to go. Okay? Not too soon, but 80%. You just watch her, and you're like, I kind of feel like we're getting close to where she's over it.

You leave. When you're talking on the phone, you're the one that gets off first. When you're hanging out with her, you make her go home first, or you leave. And if she's like, you always leave so fast. You'd be like, oh, yeah? How much longer do you want me to stay? If you had it all your way, how much longer would I stay? And she's like an extra hour. You'd be like, okay, next time I'll stay a little bit longer. Now you know how long she wants you to stay.

Right? And then you only give her 80% of that. 80%. Yeah. Okay. 80%. Guys, I have a really good friend of mine who's an amazing pickup artist. And he's like, dude, he's like, after I have sex with them, I just never text them unless they text me. And I was like, yeah, dude, I do that too. After you have sex with them, don't text them until they text you. It can feel a little bit brutal. But my God, if you want a girl sprung on you, that shit works.

So the conundrum is like, how do I get them by only giving 80%? And that's this like balance thing, especially in the beginning, right? Am I giving 80% if I approach her and do most of the talking? No. You're naturally giving more in the beginning and you just have to. But once she's hooked, then I'm backing down and giving her 80%, particularly of compliments and my time. Compliments and my time. Guys, never compliment a girl more than she compliments you. And for God's sakes, when she's really beautiful, don't ever compliment her looks.

If she's like a seven, you can compliment looks, but eight, nines, and tens, don't even say it. It just like, it works, dude. Robert, go ahead. You're saying don't text, like don't be the first one to text after you have sex? It's a method. I don't necessarily agree with it because I'm a compassionate guy. I will text them after I have sex. And what I usually do is the next day at 6 p.m., I'll say, hey, had a great time last night. Hope you got home okay.

And then maybe I'll make some joke. But after that, just to make her feel like I didn't use her, I text. I just let her hit me up. Yeah, that's what I would do too. I was just trying to make sure what you were saying. Yeah, and I'll tell you, if you're an asshole, it would work if you just never texted them until they texted you after you had sex. But I'm not an asshole. I want to let her know that I didn't use her. But at the same time, she's not getting 100% of me.

She's not getting as much as she wants of me. And guys, this is not only with dating. It's also with girls who you see all the time. How many of you guys see a girl that you talk to at Jamba Juice, Starbucks, the gym, whoever? Okay, several of you. Now, every time you talk to her, you want to leave on a high note and you want to leave her wanting more. So I do very quick touches, get them laughing, and then I love to be walking away while she's laughing.

Okay, simple example, gym game. And you guys should all know this. See your girl at the gym. Never met her before. You're going to go in real quick and bone out real quick. So you go up and you'd be like, hey, hey, real quick, I always like to meet people in here. I've never seen you in here before. What's your name? Notice my tonality. What's your name, you shit-crusted peasant? Okay, now it's extreme, but a lot of you guys are going to be like, hey, I've never seen you in here before.

What's your name? You're just going to do it. So when you're walking up, I want you feeling good, and I want you to really manage your tonality. Talk to her like your employee. Even if you have to superimpose your employee's face on her face, do it in your mind. Hey, hey, I've never seen you in here before. What's your name? And she's like, oh, I'm Kelly. You'd be like, what's up, Kelly? I'm Mark. Nice to meet you. I got to get back to my workout, but watch out for that machine.

It killed two people last week. Okay, it always makes them laugh a little bit. Like they're like, see ya. Okay, that's a quick touch to which I've left her wanting more and left her laughing. The next time I see her, I'll be like, hey, what was your name again? Sha Dynasty, right? Guys, steal this shit. You meet a girl, learn her name. Next time you see her, say, hey, what's up? What was your name again? Sha Dynasty, right? Fuck, right, Brian? Cracks them up. Okay? And then she's like, no, silly, it's Sarah.

You'd be like, do you remember my name? That little set right there is gold. All right, gentlemen, I hope you enjoyed that snippet from one of my coaching calls in my three-month coaching program. As a reminder, I drop podcasts every Tuesday, and I got an awesome one coming up next week, so make sure to stay tuned for that one, and I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review.

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