My Top 5 Strategies You Can Use TODAY to Improve With Approaching & Attracting Women

0:00 All you do is listen to podcast after podcast after podcast. Some of you guys have like 80 pages of notes. And yet, when you see a hot girl, you fold like a lawn chair. Getting good with girls is all about implementation, making statements, asking for directions. The more people you talk to, the more comfortable you get talking to people. Now, some of you guys are a lot like me. And you may not believe it, but I am an absolute introvert. Go on dates with anybody, even a fat girl, who looks like you'd have to roll off her twice after you have sex.

0:31 Go on a date with her, bro. Calm down, boys. You don't have to have sex with them. You don't have to go down on them. You don't have to kiss them. You don't have to touch them. The only purpose is for you to get practice. You need to go in there and be completely... The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. Happy Thursday. I hope the week has been treating you well. And today, boys, I am going to give you my top five strategies you can use today for approaching and attracting women.

1:04 Let's be honest, guys. A lot of you guys are podcast jockeys. All you do is listen to podcast after podcast after podcast. Some of you guys have like 80 pages of notes of all the shit that I've been talking about over the last, what is it now, seven years. And yet, when you see a hot girl, you fold like a lawn chair. Listen, getting good with girls is all about implementation. That is why in this episode, we are going to talk about what you can do today.

1:29 And as I always do, boys, you know what I'm about to say. I'm going to over deliver by giving you more like six or seven. We have a lot to get into. So let's jump into the content. Number one, boys, you have to talk to people constantly be opening and approaching people in ways that do not mean you're hitting on them, asking questions, making statements, asking for directions, asking where somebody got a goddamn pineapple, for God's sakes. When you're in the supermarket, the more people you talk to, the more comfortable you get talking to people, and the more you are going to be attractive to women.

2:03 So the beginning stages of this is, as I said, implementation. You need to start today talking to people. Now, some of you guys are a lot like me, and you may not believe it, but I am an absolute introvert. I do not enjoy going to big social events. I do not enjoy talking to people. Yet, look at my podcast. Sure seems like I like talking to people, but as Marissa, my woman, always says, you like talking at people. You don't necessarily like talking to people. And I have to laugh because that's kind of true, but I'm able to turn it on.

2:35 How am I able to do that? Because I've had years and even decades of practice. Once you get out there and do it, the demands on your energy, the way it like wipes you out, gets less and less and less until you actually start to enjoy it. Now, some of you guys listening are extroverts where it's no big deal. You actually get filled up by other people. But some of you, like me, are introverts where people drain the fuck out of you. And believe me, boys, I've been doing this for decades.

3:02 I have worked on many techniques. And by the way, one of the techniques I do is NLP-based where you believe that people drain you. That's just the belief system. And when you remove the belief system, your experience changes. And that's something I do with my clients who, just like you, feel like people drain them. But I get you, man. Like sometimes it's very draining talking to people all day. Sometimes I'm just like walking out of the supermarket and I see a hot girl and I'm like, God damn it, dude.

3:27 I don't want to talk to this chick. But I do it anyway because I practice what I preach. And this is what I'm preaching. You need to talk to as many people as possible. An old man, a grandma, whoever. A girl who on her Facebook page, it says that her nickname is Typhoid Amy. It does not matter who it is. I want you talking to everybody. If you need help with this, go to my previous episode, How to Approach Girls 101. My step-by-step formula, you fucking sea donkey.

3:55 Go back to that. Listen to it. I talk about open and eject where you approach a girl, you ask a simple question, and then you eject before she can reject. So that's tip number one, boys. Talk to everybody. Grandmas, homeless people, kids, whoever. Just talk to people, get into the mentality of strangers or friends I haven't met yet. That is a huge tip, and I want you to start today. Number two, and this is what I tell my clients when they come into my program, which, by the way, for you podcast jockeys, you may never do, taking pages of notes, writing the Podcast Jockey Kentucky Derby and never improving your results.

4:33 Well, maybe you can finally improve your results by doing this, dating as many girls as possible. Now, you're listening right now, and you're like, Mark, you sea donkey? That's exactly what I am doing. I'm trying to date as many girls as possible. But here's the difference, brother. You are not dating girls you're unattracted to. You only want girls that you're like, yeah, I think I can see myself hitting that. Even if she is a six, but you're so horny, you'd fuck a snake if you could hold it straight.

5:00 You're like, I'll go out with her anyway. But you need to get rid of that philosophy. When you're getting better with women, the philosophy is building a skill set. And this is why I say these are strategies you should do today to build the skill set. Building the skill set means you going out on dates with girls. I want you going on three, four, five dates a week. Yes, I just said it. Why? Because dating is a skill set, brother. As I always tell my clients, the girl who rejected you yesterday will have sex with you tomorrow if only your skill set changes.

5:33 So what do I recommend? Here it goes, boys. Drum roll, please. I recommend that you date unattractive women. That's right, boys. I said it. Go on to the dating apps. There's plenty of them on there. Believe me. A girl who's desperate enough to get on the dating apps usually, not always, but usually isn't the most attractive. So you talk to them, they like you, take them on a fucking date. You don't have to have sex with them. You don't have to go down on them. You don't have to kiss them.

6:01 You don't have to touch them. Be on their hand when you shake it. The only purpose is for you to get practice. Now, some of you guys are sitting there butthurt saying, oh, that's not morally correct. I'm not going to take out a girl if I have no intention and I know I have no intention of dating her. Brothers, give women value. As I always say, be a go-giver. And this goes into point number one as well. When you're talking to people, give value. Don't be a taker.

6:26 Be a giver. A go-giver, as I call it. Give value, good energy. And when you take that girl on the date, teach her something. Run her through the cube. Messages in water. The five-finger death punch. Strawberry fields. Read her personality by way of what her favorite animal is. What her favorite season is. All, by the way, information that I've dispelled in other podcasts, which you should go listen to right now if you don't know what all those things are. Go out with her. Show her a great time.

6:54 Build her up. Teach her something and pay for dinner. If you're feeling guilty about it, then take her out to dinner so that you can practice. That's the exchange. Hey girl, I'm going to take you out to dinner so that I can practice my seduction techniques on you and get off the fucking podcast jockey Kentucky Derby and actually get out there and implement. So number one is talk to everybody. As I always say, be a go-giver. Give good energy. Be a light onto this world that has so much darkness.

7:22 Leave people better from having met you, which is the definition of charisma. Number two, go on dates with anybody. Yes, even a fat girl who you're not attracted to, who looks like you'd have to roll off her twice after you have sex. Go on a date with her, bro. And this is exactly what I would do if I already didn't have the skill set. Why? Because it is a skill set. How do you get better at hitting a baseball? You get in the fucking batting cages.

7:48 You put 20 bucks in there and you swing at every single ball that comes at you. Even the yellow one, the pink one, the one that has broken laces. Are you going to skip swinging at it? No, you're going to take your reps and that's what's required in order for you to get better at this game. Number three, boys, and this is really important. You, my friend, need to learn how to handle social pressure. What is social pressure? It's the pressure that's put on you by a hot girl because she's so hot and you feel that embarrassment.

8:20 You feel the pressure of her hotness. So you get stifled. You go into what I call screensaver mode. Your adrenaline shoots through the roof. You lose your fine motor skills, including your ability to think on your feet, and you become a bumbling jackass. You look like you're coming the whole time because you're in retard mode and you're so stoked to be talking to this girl that you got an ear to ear smile that's all teeth glimmering like a diamond in the middle of the desert with the sun on it.

8:46 Calm down, boys. Learn to take the social pressure. You need to go in there and be completely relaxed. You need to act like she's just another girl. You need to be completely composed. You need to banter, run your gambits as if her hotness doesn't affect you whatsoever. Now, you're asking me, well, how do I do that? I just told you, bro. You talk to everybody. You go on dates with ugly girls. And then third of all, you put yourself under social pressure. Embarrass yourself in public.

9:15 Do something you would never do, such as asking for a discount at a place like Walmart or CVS or the supermarket. Ask somebody to cut in line. Ask somebody for the chair. Go in the middle of the oranges section. At the supermarket. Throw your leg up on the peaches and rip a fucking fart that's louder than a Metallica concert. And be like, damn, that was awesome. And just see how embarrassed you feel. Do you guys know that feeling you get when you get rejected? Unfortunately, some of you guys don't.

9:44 There's literally dudes listening right now. Check this out, boys. There's guys listening right now who are like, oh, I've never been rejected by a girl. Never. I've only rejected them. You know what that tells me about him? He's had very little experiences with women. Because if you're going to get better at this, you have to get rejected. Suck it the fuck up, bro. The only opinion that matters is your opinion of yourself. And you should feel bad about yourself if you chicken the fuck out, fold like a lawn chair when you see hot girl.

10:12 You need to reframe it in your mind. I'm going to feel like a pussy unless I approach that girl. And even if she rejects me, well, at least I had the balls to approach her. So those dudes who are listening are like, well, I've only been rejected twice or never at all. Come on, bro. Come on. That shows me that you have not stepped to the plate, stepped into your courage and put yourself out there. You haven't endured social pressure. But you guys who have been rejected, you know that feeling you get where you say something awkward or like it goes bad in a conversation or worse.

10:44 There's a bunch of people kind of like laugh at you and you have to walk away with your tail between your legs. Don't get it twisted, brothers. I have been that dude many times. But you know that feeling, it's like a disgusting kind of rancid feeling inside your body. I feel it right in my chest. I just feel like shit. I feel like I want to die. That's a good feeling. That right there is social pressure. And just like when you work a muscle, when you're lifting weights and you get that burn, that burn of social pressure also caused by rejection and also caused by embarrassment is what builds your social pressure muscle.

11:20 In my coaching program, I challenge my guys to go into a supermarket, a department store, wherever in public where there's lots of people, lay down on the floor for two minutes. Have somebody take pictures of them or record a video of them. And then we all post it to the Brotherhood Facebook group, which is an inside inner circle community that all my brothers and veterans of the coaching program get to come into. And we all congratulate each other. We pump each other up. Why do we lay on the floor for two minutes in the supermarket?

11:48 To build the muscle of social pressure, to be able to take social pressure. Because when you're talking to a hot girl, she's going to put the exact same pressure on you. And if you practiced such as farting in a supermarket, picking up an orange and saying really loudly, these oranges look delicious. With everybody looking at you with judgment, laying down in a supermarket for two minutes as people pass you by saying, what's up with that idiot and feeling that social pressure, you will improve with women faster than you ever thought possible.

12:18 So guys, go out there and embarrass yourself. Go out there and ask for shit that makes you feel uncomfortable. Go out there and do a dance in front of a bunch of people watching a fucking golf tournament. And tell me how much you improve with girls. I'm going to tell you exponentially. The other day, there was a yoga class going on in the gym that I go to. And I've been doing these like wall squats where you squat on the wall for like a couple minutes and it really burns your quads.

12:43 So I go in there and the entire place is taken by a yoga studio. Well, it's kind of the only place I can do the wall squats. So I walked to the front of the room while there's a freaking yoga class going on and I did a two minute wall squat and all the people are like looking at me, by the way, a lot of hot girls in there are looking at me and I'm just like, yeah, whatever, I'm doing my thing. And then I walked out.

13:02 A lot of people would fold like a lawn chair under that kind of social pressure. I seek it out because don't get it twisted, boys. When you put yourself under that pressure, you get better with women because you're able to endure social pressure. You're able to endure her hotness, which a lot of you listening have seen puts you into screensaver mode. You don't know what to do. You don't know what to say. You might as well be ahead on a morphine drip in the hospital because you're useless, bro.

13:27 Absolutely useless. And you're like, yeah, dog, I know I'm useless. That's why I don't approach girls. I just told you what to do. Go talk to hella people. Go date fat chicks. And number three, put yourself under social pressure. Now I'm going to give you guys a quick bonus one and you know what I'm going to say. The best black hole shortcut is to come into my three month coaching program where I'm going to challenge you to do those very reps. I'm going to get you outside your comfort zone, but not too much.

13:52 Just a little bit like an old man dipping his crusty ass balls into a warm bath, easing you in there really slowly so that you learn to endure social pressure. And at the same time, boys, we remap what's going on inside your head. Listen, we had two guys graduate last night, literally about 16 hours ago. We're on the call and both guys were like, holy crap. This was the best money I've ever spent. I can't believe how awesome this was. Take this program. I'm going to give you a quick snippet of what they said, and then we're going to get back into the content.

14:21 This has changed my life tremendously. I couldn't even, some of you guys have been here, Trevor, they've been here the whole time. Obviously, Mark, you know where I started to where I'm at. I can't even explain it. It's 180 degrees. Mark, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I can't thank you enough, dude. Seriously, you have changed my life. My immediate friends, totally complimented. It's like, you get the old Todd back. It's like, you sound different. You've approached things different. Dude, I can't thank you enough, man.

14:58 I super, super appreciate it. Want to start out, Mark, by just saying, thank you, thank you, thank you for everything. Basically, everything Todd said, I want to reiterate that 100%. I mean, you've absolutely changed my life with what you've opened up my knowledge base to. One, the information that you have in this program is hands down the best information I feel like I could have ever received. Your energy is absolutely through the roof, so thank you. Thanks again, Mark, for everything. I'm excited for what the future brings.

15:31 Yep, those two boys got the results that they came for, as all my clients do. We have a 95% success rate because I get my clients to act. We use NLP neuro-linguistic programming, and this is, in my opinion, a generational program that comes around once every 50 years. And I know it sounds like I'm totally arrogant. I know it sounds like I'm blowing smoke up your ass, but I have found the Goldilocks zone. And boys, the mixing of NLP with the tactical aspect of attracting women, oh my hell, this program is super powerful.

16:02 So if you want to bypass all the bullshit that you're going through, being a podcast jockey, you're not getting the results, we're here for you, brother. And I guarantee I will get you the results that I got those two guys. As I do, every single client comes into the program. I have a fucking notepad full of link after link after link of coaching calls where guys are saying that same shit. Best money I've ever spent. Can't believe I didn't do this sooner. I'm getting more ass to the toilet seat.

16:24 I have more girls than I can handle. I had zero dates in seven years. Now I have three dates this week, and I already got laid twice since being in the program. I hear that all the fucking time. So what are you waiting for? Apply right now. If you're worried about money, if you're worried about commitment, let's talk about that. I have different price structures for different programs. So come and talk to us, and we'll see what we can do for you. Back into the content.

16:45 Number four, boys, you have to work on the bullshit inside your head, which yet again is a good segue into my program. But if you're not going to do the program, you need to deal with your insecure issues. You need to deal with your traumas. You need to deal with the stuff that you've swept under the rug, and here's why. The reason that is, is because those things that traumatized you in your past still live on inside of you in what we can say your energy field, or more accurately, in your body language.

17:13 If, for example, you have a lot of shame about your sexuality, or perhaps you don't feel you're worthy of love because your parents deprived you of it, or you've been rejected horribly by a girl and you are terrified of rejection so much. In fact, you won't even do the first thing I recommended, which by the way, I can remove that trauma with NLP, which is what I do, and which is why my clients get such success. But if you've had that happen, that is telegraphed in your body language.

17:39 Women are like little radar systems designed to look at you and see what's going on inside your head. So if you're insecure, if you have traumas, if you have embarrassment, shame, or you're afraid of rejection, they can see that in you. And it makes them lose attraction. It makes them reject you. So if you're not working on yourself, if you're not going deep inside here and doing the deep work, which is exactly what we do in my program, you are going to stay in the same rut you're in now, not getting the results that you really want.

18:09 And this is why guys tell me all the time, I can't believe there's results. You got me out of the rut. How'd you do that? I'm like, cause we dealt with the shit, bro. That's what this program is. We're going into the shadow. We're going into the roots of why it is you behave the way you do. And that's why we get that success. But if you're not going to come into the program, number four is you have to deal with your bullshit. Either hiring a therapist, a psychologist, speaking to even friends, or going back and just delving into the bullshit that you dealt with and facing it like a fucking man does.

18:39 You have to face your shit in order to get to the next best version of yourself. If you're not willing to do that, and you think that just listening to podcasts and noting down information and lines and funny gambits to say is going to be enough, it's not. It's putting a bandaid on a wound that needs to heal first. And that's exactly what we do in my program. Apply right now by clicking the link in the description below. Number five, boys, and this is so important.

19:06 I really want you to listen. Number five is you have to push yourself outside your comfort zone daily. If you're not doing something that makes your heart beat a little bit with eager anticipation, nervousness, a little bit of fear, and fear is good. If you're not doing that, you're not going to progress. The thing I admire most about these guys who get success in my program is that they face this with a courageous heart. It's not easy to put an application in my program when you know that this is like some P90X shit where I'm going to challenge you and make you do some shit that you don't want to do, make you face your demons, make you turn around and face the storm that's been chasing you, which by the way, seems a lot worse than it actually is.

19:50 A lot worse. Usually guys are like, whoa, that was super easy. I had so much fear around that. That was unjustified. Damn. I wish I did this sooner. But you have to get outside your comfort zone. If you're not doing something every day that kind of freaks you out, you're not progressing fast enough. So if you want to get better with women today, my top five tips are these. First of all, talk to everybody. It doesn't matter who. You're talking to everybody. Secondly, date girls who are unattractive to build that skill set.

20:17 Number three, put yourself under social pressure. Build the social pressure muscle. Number four, work on your bullshit, either by coming into my program or working with a therapist or otherwise. And number five, every day you have to push yourself outside your comfort zone. And finally, boys, as we cross past 20 plus minutes, for those of you still listening, learn what frame control is. This, I would say, is my bonus one. But honestly, this should be the first and most important one. Frame control is absolutely required to attract women.

20:46 It is the single most important element of seduction. It's the skeleton, the backbone, the base drum of my entire program. So if you don't know what frame control is, go listen to any and all episodes on frame control that I have done. This is the single most important thing. Here's the deal, boys. If she discovers that she has a stronger frame than you do, she will not get attracted to you. So if you want to get better at learning to approach and attract women, do those five things plus the bonus number six, learning what frame control is, how to implement frame control into your conversations with girls, and watch your results explode.

21:23 But boys, if you want that black hole shortcut that will do three things for you, teaching you the tactical aspect of attracting women, fixing your brain, and number three, pushing you to get out there and actually do the work, I'm here for you. We have a 95% success rate. And listen to this. If you're not satisfied, you get to stay in the program. How many guys have taken me up on that? How many guys have really taken me up on that? Zero. Think about that. I have a guarantee that says, bro, you can stay in the program.

21:51 If you're not happy, stay in it. Let's go. Nobody takes me up on it because they all get the fucking results. Why would you stay in something where you already get the results that you want? You come in for three months. You face your fears. You man the fuck up. You step into your courage, which by the way, is going to make you feel so good. You get the results and then you're done. You've fixed this part of your life. That's how easy it is. And then you just rinse and repeat.

22:14 You keep practicing. You keep getting better. Within a year, you're fucking black belt. You and I are going out together and pulling 10 after 10 after 10. That could be your reality, brother. Don't get to the end of your life with regrets, wondering what could have been. Thinking back when you're on your deathbed to your uncle Mark Singh and being like, dude, I should have probably taken that guy's course, man. I wonder what could have happened. I'm here for you. I'm not going to be here forever, by the way.

22:39 So if you've been thinking about working with me, it's time to shit or get off the pot. Apply right now and you and I will talk. All right, gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays, so please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review.

23:06 You have no idea how much that helps me. Also, if you're struggling with women and you want to talk to me personally about how I can help you achieve your goals with women, sign up for my three-month coaching program below and you and I will talk. Join us in the unapologetic army.

This transcript was made automatically, so a few words may be off.