The Silent Confidence Strategy That Makes Women Chase You Fast

0:00 Dude, I'll walk outside and like panties will be flying on my face. You need to speak to her like she's socially below you. You need to be in the power position. You need to lead women to where they want to be led. You need to talk to her like you're the authority. You're hot as hell. Love having sex with you. Love hanging out with you. But if you want to leave, kick rocks with your head down. If she steps even this much out of line, I'm out like sauerkraut.

0:22 See you later, masturbator. After a while, pedophile. Kick yourself in the fucking ass because you're a sea donkey. You don't have to be like spread eagle with your balls flapping in the breeze like Rambo on the hill. Be unapologetic about being attractive to women. You always want women wanting more. Now, what you probably don't know is that. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What is up, you champions? Thank you for returning to another episode of the UMP, the Uniform Mike Papa, the Unapologetic Man Podcast. And today, boys, we are going to talk about how to demonstrate confidence to women without you even having to say a word.

1:01 And guys, I'm going to give you a bonus tip in this episode that I almost named this entire episode after. That is the biggest mistake once you do get confidence, what guys do completely incorrectly and how it blows out their chances with women. So definitely stay tuned until the very end. We got lots of great content to get through. So let's jump into it. All right. First of all, boys, confidence, of course, is the most important thing that women are attracted to. Now, what you probably don't know is that your confidence is often dictated by your body language and your mannerisms.

1:32 Before you even open your mouth, if she sees you walking towards her or she sees you in a room at a party or she sees you at a gas station, a coffee shop, a breakfast burrito place, wherever the hell you happen to be. She is assessing quite unconsciously how confident you are based on how you hold yourself. This is why body language is so important. And it's why I do teach my guys about body language, how to improve their body language. Subtle little things about how you stand, how you walk, how you move.

2:03 Even now, your eyes kind of flip and how you control yourself are dictating what's going on inside your head. Why is this? Well, belief systems and how we feel about ourself is reflected in body language, just like our body language can make us feel better about ourselves. Have you ever felt really down and you just simply extended your back, put your shoulders back, stood really tall and you started feeling better? That's because they both influence one another. The way you feel is going to dictate your body language and your body language is going to dictate the way you feel.

2:36 Well, this is also dictated on the level of your belief systems. Think about it. You've probably seen a guy who's insecure. How did you know he was insecure? Well, you could tell by his body language. He's hunched over. He perhaps has his arms crossed in front of him. His neck is kind of hidden below his shoulders. This is because he unconsciously believes that he can't deal with whatever life gives him. One of my favorite things about body language is that it telegraphs your belief in yourself to handle whatever situation might come.

3:08 One of my favorite concepts of body language is something I came up with probably about 15 years ago where it occurred to me that your body language being open and confident is essentially being vulnerable. All your organs are exposed because your chest is open. Your arms are back. Your neck is exposed. Perhaps even you're walking in a way where your genitals are exposed in a way. It's a very vulnerable type body language. And one of the examples I used in the Mark Singh video anthology, which by the way, comes with my three-month coaching program, is it's like Rambo on the hill shooting his fucking machine gun.

3:44 He's got completely open body language. His fucking testicles are flapping in the breeze because he's confident that he can deal with whatever situation comes. Whereas a guy who's not confident will be cowering in the foxhole covering up all his essential organs to protect himself. Well, again, unconsciously this happens socially. A guy who's not socially confident will try to stuff himself in the smallest space possible, try not to be too loud, try not to take up too much space. Whereas a guy who's confident will take up that space.

4:16 For example, a dude sitting in the booth and he has his arm over the back of the booth showing I'm open. I'm not afraid. I can deal with whatever life brings me. And this is one of the tips that I always suggest when you're on the first date. You want to take up space. You want to be comfortable. You don't have to be like spread eagle with your balls flapping in the breeze like Rambo on the hill, but at the same time, you want to show that you're willing to be vulnerable because you have confidence in yourself to deal with whatever situation comes.

4:44 So when a girl sees you walk into the room, it's the way you hold yourself. Are your shoulders back? Is your chest out? Is your spine erect? Is your chin up high? And even do you have a small smirk on your face saying that I'm one of life's big winners. I can handle whatever situation comes at me. I'm confident in my ability to deal with it. And that's communicated again by these small, subtle things that are dictated by your belief systems. This is why I use NLP, Neural Linguistic Programming, in my three-month coaching program.

5:16 Guys come into my program feeling insecure, not enough, not worthy of love, not respecting themselves, and they leave having all that been removed and replaced with feeling good enough, feeling confident, loving themselves, and feeling like the fucking prize, which is what I spoke about on a previous episode. And the way we do that is through these NLP modalities, these protocols that I assign to you when you come into the program. So if you listen to these podcasts, if you're like a podcast jockey, is what I call a lot of these guys, and you're getting infinitesimally small movement, or you are getting movement, but it's not at the rate that you want it to be, brothers, what goes on inside your head is literally the most important thing.

5:55 It dictates the way you move, your body language, your tone of voice, how you deal with this chick. So if you're not getting the results you want, sometimes it requires a more intrusive modality to actually go in and remap your belief systems. I actually just got an email 20 minutes ago from my client, Michael Cox. He's in week eight of a 12-week program. He's literally two months into a three-month coaching program and listen to what he says. Not to go on too much, but I think I need to just give a thank you personally as well.

6:26 The program has done me so much good in such a short space of time and is without question the best investment I've ever or will ever make, and I mean that sincerely. So many negative belief systems in my head are being taken away as if removed with a scalpel. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Can't wait to see what the next four weeks have in store for me. Your friend, Michael. And guys, check this out. Michael's from England, and those British are the most cynical, the most doubtful.

6:56 They are the hardest to convince to come into my program. Man, those guys are hard to close sometimes. And so was Michael, and look at what he just said. It's the best money he's ever spent in his life. Why? Because we're remapping his fucking brain, making him feel like he's enough. That gets translated in his body language, thus communicating confidence to women. So the most important thing, boys, is fixing the bullshit inside your head, being confident, believing in yourself, that's going to be telegraphed via your body language, and women are going to pick up on that.

7:27 Now, can you fake it until you make it? Yeah, to a certain degree, but it's like, how many years do you have to do that, bro? I'll tell you this. I did this all on my own, and it took me a decade. Guys who come into my three-month coaching program, 10 extra results in three months. I don't know about you, but I'd prefer a black hole shortcut if I were in your shoes. But hey, you're going to do what you want to do. If you're a podcast jockey, saddle up, brother.

7:49 You got a long ride ahead. Let's continue with the content. So we understand that body language is one of the most important things. That telegraphs your confidence. Confidence comes from within your own head. Now, also tonality. The title of this episode, of course, says you don't have to say a word, which you don't. But if you do say a word, you want to have the right tonality. I talk about it all the time, so I'm not going to go on a big, huge tangent about it.

8:14 But your voice needs to come from upper to lower. You are authoritative. Instead of a cop saying, license and registration, please, going up, he says, license and registration, please, going down. You need to speak to her like she's socially below you. I'm not saying women are below you. You guys know I love women. The sacred feminine. I go on and on about it. I cherish women. I think they have so many positives. I could do 100 episodes on it, and I actually already have. But what I'm saying is socially, you need to be in the power position.

8:43 You need to lead women to where they want to be led. You need to talk to her like you're the authority. And your voice needs to be like that, even if she happens to overhear you. And this goes into my next concept of staging. Staging is something I came up with where we're demonstrating our value to women without actually speaking to the woman one-on-one. We're letting her overhear us. And by the way, boys, women do this all the damn time, and it's one of the signs of attraction.

9:13 If she's attracted to you, she's going to try to get into a space where you can overhear her, and she's going to be very loud and boisterous in some cases to get you to try to be attracted to her, which is ridiculous because many times when we hear girls like laughing and screaming and being spazzy, we're like, yo, I don't want to talk to that chick. But she's trying to call your attention to her, so you'll look at her. So pay attention to that. But we can do the same thing.

9:37 We don't do it the way women do it by cackling and being spazzy and being like, oh my god, and like yelling in your fucking ear. And you're like, all right, I know you're attracted to me, you canyon mule. We instead stage by showing confidence, by speaking in front of her with other people. For example, when I go into a supermarket and I see a hot girl in front of me in line, and she's talking to the checkout lady, what I'll do is when there's a break in the conversation, I will talk to the checkout lady, showing my charisma, showing my confidence, showing that I'm a cool, high-value guy that this hot girl in front of me can get attracted to.

10:15 So I'll like walk into the line at the supermarket. I'll see that, let's say, Kelly is the checkout lady, and the girl standing in front of me is being checked out. Well, when there's a break in the conversation, I'll look at Kelly and hopefully make eye contact with her. I'll read her name tag, and I'll be like, what's up, Kelly? How's your day going today? And she'll be like, good, good. And I'll be like, you have to choke anybody out yet? And she's like, no, not today.

10:36 And I'm like, I heard about you. There's actually a sign on the front of the store that says, watch out for Kelly. She'll choke you out. She choked out 10 people last week. Ha, ha, ha, no, I didn't. Now, this chick who's in front of me has seen my charisma. She's heard my voice, which is dialed into that up to down dynamic, confident, believing in yourself. And once again, boys, when you believe literally that you're enough, your voice will just be perfect. I could do 100 episodes on tonality.

11:04 How do you stretch your vocal cords? How should you talk? But until you actually believe it, it's extremely difficult to fake it until you make it. Hence the NLP. This is why I'm the only dating coach that actually remaps the brain so that you behave because of how you think. So I'm talking to Kelly. I'm dropping charisma bombs. And this girl in front of me is like, oh, it's a high value dude. Then at some point, I might bring in the chick in front of me saying, hey, what is that that you just bought?

11:30 What is that thing? Is that like a gourd? How do you cook with that thing? Bring in the conversation. Talk to her. Then if it goes well, let's say, and I've done this many times, she checks out. I tell Kelly, hey, hurry the fuck up. Check me out. Hurry up. Hurry up. Get my stuff. Run outside. See the hot girl driving off and be like, stop. And then yank her phone number. I've also yanked phone numbers right in front of that checkout lady. Boys, be unapologetic about being attracted to women.

11:55 If you want to yank a phone number, yank that phone number. And remember, as my previous episode discussed, you are the prize. So we have two methods already. Body language, super important. Staging, super important. And third, boys, you have to behave as if you are literally the prize and she's the one submitting the application. And this is communicated via your behavior. And this is the bonus that I almost named this entire episode after, which is how to communicate to women that you are not to be fucked with without actually saying it.

12:28 And this is the biggest mistake that most men make when it comes to dating women. You podcast jockeys out there, you got your horse saddled up. You got your leather polished. You got the mane combed and you got the horse fed. And there you are riding in the podcast jockey Kentucky Derby, listening to my podcast and being like, all right, bro. I'm not to be fucked with. I'm the prize. She's the one submitting the application. If she doesn't like it, she could kick rocks with her head down.

12:55 And if she blows me up, don't worry. She'll be back. And what you're doing is you're literally saying it to the girl, which is the biggest mistake you could possibly do to literally say to the girl, I'm confident. I don't need you. I could get any girl I want. The next bus will come. I'm the prize here. Missy. Guys, you don't say it. You demonstrate it through your actions. And this truth was reminded to me as I was talking to my boy, Hussam. What's up, Hussam?

13:23 You know who you are, man. And he said to me, dude, I had my friend come up to me and he texted her, don't worry, you'll be back when she blew him out. So she blew the dude out, hey, I don't want to see you anymore. And he's like, don't worry, you'll be back. Boys, do not do that. Whenever you want to communicate your confidence to a woman, whenever you want to show her that you are not to be fucked with, you have to do it through your actions.

13:47 You will never, ever, ever tell her that you are not to be fucked with or you're confident or the next girl will come because that's going to get you blown out. Think about how bad that looks. That homeboy texted her, don't worry, you'll be back. Do you think she's coming back now that he said that? Hell no. What he's doing is he's ensconcing her, if that's a word, in her position. If he's like, yeah, you'll be back. She's like, fuck you, no, I won't. Now she won't.

14:12 So when you say these things, it looks arrogant. It looks like you're full of yourself. And honestly, it looks like you don't believe it. Who's the guy who brags? It's the guy who doesn't really believe that he's good. The guy who truly believes that he's the shit doesn't need to brag about his exploits. Doesn't need to convince anybody of his exploits. So if you tell a girl, yeah, I'm really confident. I just believe in myself. And every night I go to bed, I look in the mirror and I say, I love you, bro.

14:39 I just love you so much, man. You're my hero, dog. And I'm like my own hero, man. I wear a shirt that says, be your own hero. That's how much I remind myself. You know, like, girl, and wait, where are you going now? Where are you going? I'm confident. She fucking blasts you out because you're a sea donkey. Guys, never tell a woman you're confident. Demonstrate it. Demonstrate it by having good body language, good belief systems, because you came into Mark Singh's program and remapped your brain with NLP.

15:06 Demonstrate it by doing the 80-100 rule. You guys should know this. Of 100% of her effort, of her compliments, of how much she wants to hang out with you, you are to give her how much? 80%. You always want women wanting more. And remember, guys, super important tip. The person who wants less is the person who's in power. The person who's in power is the one who's in the masculine energy. You have to be in the masculine energy in order for a woman to be attracted to you.

15:35 So to make it very simple, because I know a lot of you guys are a bit thick-headed, the simple truth is this. If you want less than she does, she'll probably stick around. And the person who wants less is showing confidence. Why? Because he knows that he could go get another woman. He knows that he has utmost abundance. He believes in himself, and he doesn't need anything from her. A needy guy, on the other hand, is trying to get her to validate him, trying to get her to tell him he's enough, trying to get the love and affection that perhaps he's not able to give to himself.

16:08 Why? Because of belief systems. And it looks try-hard. So the best way to be confident with a woman is to, of course, believe in yourself, have the good body language, the good tonality, but also to not need her. The vibe should be this. I want you, but I don't need you, young lady. You're hot as hell. Love having sex with you. Love hanging out with you. But if you want to leave, kick rocks with your head down. Guys, I literally let my girl, Marissa, go out anytime she wants.

16:35 She can have guy friends if she wants them, even though she doesn't have any, personally because she respects me. I believe that if a woman truly respects you, she's going to get rid of those guy friends who, let's be honest, she's just using for attention. But the point is this. I am never peanut butter and jealous. She could do whatever the fuck she wants because she knows, boys, that if she messes up, if she steps even this much out of line, I'm out like sauerkraut. I'm off like a prom dress, see you later, masturbator, after a while, pedophile, kick yourself in the fucking ass because you're a sea donkey.

17:05 And she knows that. So she stays in line, she respects me, she's loyal as hell, and I know she'll never cheat on me. But if she does, do you think I have any illusions about how quickly I could get another girlfriend? Dude, I'll walk outside and like panties will be flying at my face. That's how quick it'll happen. And that's the way I want you guys to think too. Now, again, while you're riding the fucking Kentucky podcast derby, like being a podcast jockey, you know, dude, like you're not going to get there, dog, like just listening to podcasts.

17:34 Some of you need intrusive help, which is exactly what I do in my three month coaching program. It's the first link in the description below. Click and let's talk, bro. It's worth a conversation. Even if you think I never hire a dating coach or you think, oh, I don't need his help. I'm getting enough from being a podcast jockey. Are you? Come on, dog. You and I both know when your head hits that pillow, you secretly wish you could have better girls. I could get that for you.

17:59 Just like I did the most cynical, doubtful dude ever, Michael C from London. He came into my program and says the best money he's ever spent in his life. How much more proof do you need, brothers? How much more proof? Sign up today. So let's go over what we talked about. All right. First of all, boys, you have to understand that your body language telegraphs your confidence. Your belief systems are influencing your body language. So you need to work on your belief systems. Can you fake it until you make it?

18:27 Yeah. Can good body language kind of help your belief systems? Yeah. But it's a long, painful slog and it's going to take you years to really get it down. What I believe to be the fastest black hole shortcut, as you know, is NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. We remap the brain quickly as we do with Michael C in literally eight weeks. And now the dude's like, bro, I cannot believe how quickly these negative belief systems are just being yanked out of my head with the scalpel. So you need to get your thinking right so that your body language follows suit.

18:58 Secondly, tonality. You need to know that you are socially above the girl. If you need more of an explanation on that, listen to my recent episode, why you should talk to women like they're a peasant. God, that thing was the most downloaded episode ever. And it was a good one. Talks about why tonality is so important. Next thing is staging. Let girls see you in your natural habitat, brother. Flexing up, being a legend, being that unapologetic alpha silverback so that she gets attracted to you first without you even having to talk to her.

19:30 You could do this with your friends. You could do it by speaking to people in her vicinity. You do it by staging what a champion you are. And finally, boys, don't fall into the trap of the biggest misunderstanding of confidence, which is telling her you're confident. Proving to her via words that you don't need her and she could kick rocks with her head down. It's all demonstrated through actions. She takes a while to text you back. You take a while to text her back. She says she can't hang out on Friday.

19:56 You disappear for three days until she texts you. She wants to hang out four times a week. You hang out three. She looks on your Instagram. She sees you having a great life. She sees other girls who she's like, are these friends or like, who are these girls? She sees that you're high value. And yeah, boys, she sees that you're the prize. As I also spoke about in a recent episode. So remember, boys, confidence is unspoken, as should be your threats to her proving that you're confident.

20:23 It should all be through your actions. It should all be through your behavior that will show that you're confident. It will get her more attracted to you and increase the chances of her not cheating on you. Just like my girl will never cheat on me because she knows she's got the alpha of the alphas, dude. And that's who you are, too, brother. You have to believe in yourself. You have to know you're the prize. And if you can't do that, I will make you think that way with NLP.

20:47 Once again, if you're interested, sign up in the first link below. I do appreciate you, gentlemen, listening. I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review. You have no idea how much that helps me.

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