How to Get GOOD at Talking to Hot Girls WITHOUT Ever Approaching Hot Girls

0:00 When you see a hot girl, especially if you don't feel like you're enough, if you haven't worked on your internal belief systems, you immediately just turn into a jackass, don't you? You don't know what to say, and what do you do? You talk yourself out of it. You're like, I don't know what to say to her. For those of you who are really terrified of rejection, or even for those of you who are pretty decent, but you want to get better, don't sleep on these concepts, because these are really, really effective, and I use them myself, and I teach them to my clients to get warmed up, to get going.

0:30 So that you can get yourself over that hurdle, and actually start approaching girls, and this is why today, boys, we are going to talk about practicing talking to hot girls without ever approaching a hot girl. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Uniform Mike Papa, the Unapologetic Man Podcast. I sincerely appreciate you joining me. Today, boys, we are going to talk about how to practice talking to hot girls without ever approaching a hot girl, because I know how it is.

1:03 You see a hot girl, your mind goes into screensaver mode, loss of communication with the spinal column, floppy hands, numb hair, gas with oily discharge, and you cower away and go masturbate with a helmet on as you jack off in a puddle of your own tears. I get it, boys. I have been there myself. When you see a hot girl, especially if you don't feel like you're enough, if you haven't worked on your internal belief systems, you immediately just turn into a jackass, don't you? You don't know what to say.

1:27 You get all weird, like your body language changes. You get all nervous. You start doing weird shit, and what do you do? You talk yourself out of it. You're like, I don't know what to say to her. I don't know how to approach. What if she has a boyfriend? What if other people see me? What if she rejects me and my self-esteem is never the same? What if she sprays hot urine on my leg and I never recover? These are the thoughts that go through your heads, and this is why today, boys, we are going to talk about practicing talking to hot girls without ever approaching a hot girl.

2:00 Now, obviously, as a dating coach, this kind of irks me a little bit. I want you guys to go approach girls. I want you guys to talk to girls because ultimately, that's how you're going to get good, right? You got to get in the batting cages. You got to get real-life experience, but for those of you who are really terrified of rejection or even for those of you who are pretty decent but you want to get better, don't sleep on these concepts because these are really, really effective and I use them myself and I teach them to my clients to get warmed up, to get going so that you can get yourself over that hurdle and actually start approaching girls.

2:36 And the first concept I want to explain to you is that you need to forgive yourself for having approach anxiety, for fearing rejection because that's literally mapped into your lizard brain from tribal communities. When we used to live in tribes, if you approach the wrong girl, you hit on the wrong girl, you tried to get sexual with the wrong girl, you could have been killed. Say, for example, you hit on a girl who's like the daughter of the chief or the girlfriend of the head warrior and everybody hears about it, which look at that.

3:08 This is why we fear what other people think. Everybody hears about it. They're like, oh, Mark hit on the squaw, trembling vagina? How dare he? And then they fucking hit me over the head and I'm dead. So this is literally ingrained in your lizard brain. You don't want to blow out your reputation. You don't want to come off as creepy. You don't really want to telegraph your sexuality. Another reason might be is because on some level, you believe that sex is wrong. Your sexuality is shameful.

3:33 If you approach a girl, you're basically like creepy. You're like that guy, Gary Fingers, who just wants to touch some teteys or people are going to think you have the soft touch of a rapist and you don't want to be portrayed that way. So you don't approach a really interesting analogy I just heard that I think you guys are going to find funny is I've been researching how to call an elk. And I watched a video the other night of a dude who's talking about the best way to get an elk to come at you, particularly a bull elk, which is the ones with the antlers, the guys who are in the rut, which means they're like having sex with all the cows.

4:10 They're going crazy. The best way to get that guy to come in is to pretend that you're talking to his cows. So this guy's theory, I was watching the video the other night, his theory is you sneak into within 100 yards of the cows and you do a bull to cow call. And what happens is the herd bull, the dude who's in charge of all those cows or the ones who the cows have chosen to breed with, gets pissed off and he comes running at you. And what this guy said was he used to be a cop and every single bar fight he ever went to was over a girl.

4:44 And I used to be a bouncer too and I can relate to this. I can actually confirm that every single fight I've ever seen has been over a girl. Now, it's not always necessarily like we're fighting over that chick specifically, but it's usually like we're trying to show off for this chick or there's tension between me and another dude because we're trying to impress a chick. And this too goes into your approach anxiety. If you don't know how to fight, if you're not like in good shape, confident with yourself or don't know how to spit game or even deal with AMOGs, A-M-O-G, alpha male of the group, that even brings more anxiety to you.

5:20 So my basic point is you need to forgive yourself for having approach anxiety. We all have it. God knows I've had it. And there's multiple reasons as to why we have that. And it even relates to the animal kingdom, right? Like elk societies even have the same dynamic. I got my chicks here. If you try to talk to them, I'm going to be fucking pissed off. So obviously you're going to have approach anxiety because what if you talk to the wrong girl? And in the case of an elk, if you're a satellite bull and you're trying to go fuck those cows and the herd bull comes and kicks your ass, you could die.

5:54 They literally find bull elk with tines in their fucking necks that have been killed because they go head to head as my podcast editor, Liam, is going to show you right now. In fact, boys, Liam, let's hear a herd bull bugling. It's the most beautiful sound. It's the sound of Colorado. Check this out, boys. God, I love that sound, boys. That's the sound of Colorado. But without further ado, let's get into what we're going to actually practice. So the first thing to do is to get good at telling stories.

6:25 I've talked many times in this podcast about how you have to tell stories that show your high value without actually bragging about it. I talked a lot about this in the episode, Why You Don't Want to Come Off as Try Hard Like This Guy. I strongly suggest that one. It's a really good episode. But what I talk about is how you want to tell stories to girls about your life, the adventures you've had, the things you've persevered through, and those things that she would want to be a part of, but you can't do it with bragging.

6:58 You have to kind of brag in a under the radar kind of way. Perfect example is, and this is a short story I always tell. I lived in Hawaii. I was a Japanese translator. And when I was surfing with my buddy, he caught a wave way outside at a place that's renowned for having sharks around it. He's going down the line on this really big wave, and he goes towards the top of the wave, and his board stops, and he literally flies off the front. I saw him do this because I was inside.

7:16 I'd caught a wave previously, and I look out to him, and I'm like, what the hell just happened? He comes up screaming that he hit a shark. So I was terrified. I wanted nothing more than to paddle my board in, urinate all over myself, and cry in the fetal position like a schoolgirl on the beach. But instead, even though I was really scared, I paddled as hard as I could, grabbed my friend, we paddled in, and that was literally the last time we ever surfed that place.

7:51 He's convinced to this day that he hit a shark. Now, what that story shows is, I lived in Hawaii. I surfed. I was a Japanese translator. You guys may have heard I slipped that one in there. But it's not totally bragging because I talked about how fearful I was, and yet I still saved my friend, which shows courage. So it's kind of like a story that has those embedded high-value things into it that you feed her like you're feeding medicine to a dog, right? You put the pellet in the biscuit, and you huck it at the dog.

8:17 It eats it. She's going to get the information, but without bragging. So each of you should have at least 10 stories, preferably 15, better 20, the best up to 50, which I personally have. And a lot of you guys are like, well, I don't have interesting stories like that, right? I haven't traveled the way you have, Mark. I don't speak Japanese or lived in Hawaii or like I'm a dating coach for men with the podcast. I don't have any of that. Guys, I guarantee you for every single one of you, you have something interesting to talk about.

8:49 You have stories. And the best way to find those stories is to go through your cell phone, look at all the pictures throughout your life, or go on those old photo albums from the fucking 90s and think about story after story that you could tell girls that will get them attracted to you. Now, here's how to do it without actually talking to girls. You tell them to yourself. And as hokey and contrived as this sounds, this is the way to practice without actually talking to girls.

9:16 You practice in the mirror. You do it in your car. You even record yourself to see that you're delivering it correctly, to see that your tonality and pitch are good. Guys, you can practice these over and over again. There is literally no limit. And just like a professional baseball player who stands in the shower practicing his swing, and I know they do that. I know all professional athletes practice their shit in the mirror. Hot girls practice posing in the mirror. Why can't we practice talking in the mirror?

9:46 So your job is to practice your stories, your gambits, everything you're going to use as if a girl is sitting across from you and you want to practice that delivery, practice the tonality, practice getting better at giving it to her so that she gets attracted to you. But you don't have to wait to go on a date or approach a girl to do so. You could just do so right now. So your job is to go get your stories. You could even write them down, write down some notes, and just practice it.

10:13 And one really good thing to do, which I'm doing for you right now, is to record yourself. Guys, I cannot tell you how fucking difficult it is to sit here talking at a weird camera. Just this round black ball that's staring me in the face as this bright light is nearly blinding me. It takes so much social calibration and pressure to be able to pull this off that when I'm in front of a hot girl, it's like no issue, right? So it's the same thing with you.

10:39 Record yourself. And as abysmal as you'll be, I guarantee you, after reps upon reps, you'll get better. Then when that chick is sitting across from you or standing across from you when you open her, you'll be that much better. That gets me into my second one. Number two is to see a hot girl and ask yourself, what would I say to her if I were to approach her? So the next time you guys are in Whole Foods, Trader Joe's, or your penis enlargement appointment, I want you to look at the hot girl behind the desk and be like, if I were to kind of flirt with her and try to get her attracted to me, what would I say?

11:13 Well, maybe she's sitting there using a special kind of pen, like with a big old star on the end of it. What could I say about that pen? How could I make a reference that I have the same pen, which is a great opener? Like, hey, by the way, that super girly pen you're using or better yet, boys, and I like this one. That outfit you're wearing, I was actually going to wear that outfit too. I'm glad I didn't because I would have totally showed you up with it, right?

11:39 These are the kinds of things that you can just look at a girl. She's holding a bag. She just went shopping at Nordstrom. She's wearing a certain outfit. She has her hair a certain color. What would I say to her? Then what you think is, what would she probably say back? Okay, what would I say to that? And then what would she say back to that? And you're having a mock conversation in your head. Now, I know this sounds creepy and weird, and honestly, it kind of is, let's be honest.

12:03 But what do you think all comedians do? What do you think all negotiators do? What do you think every single fucking person who does anything in the world do? We rehearse. This is what we're born to do. And I bet you, a lot of you guys have already done this. You see a hot girl, you're like, oh man, I don't want to approach her. I don't know what to say. I just don't have the confidence yet. Because a lot of you have convinced yourself that just a few more podcasts and I'll be ready.

12:29 It's fine. I'm going to let you have those excuses, okay? But you're not ready. So what do you do? You just have the mock conversation in your head. What if she frame checked you? Is this what you say to all the girls? What would you say? I would say only the ones that seem fun and adventurous. You're not boring, are you? She'd be like, no, I'm fun. You'd be like, is that what you say to all the guys? See, I've practiced that. I've rehearsed that. And I've had it said to me in real life.

12:51 And I fucking spun it like a legend. Bam, attraction through the roof. Why? Because I'm not afraid to practice it. I don't stand on my pride. If you really want to get better at something, guys, you know how it works. Practice makes perfect. So why not just practice in the comfort of your own home? Better yet, the comfort of your own head. So practice seeing that girl, what would I do if she said, why don't you have a girlfriend? I'd be like, because I'm a bad kisser, I do the helicopter tongue maneuver.

13:17 And for some reason, no girls like it. What would I do if she said to me, is this what you say to all the girls? I'd say, yep, I say it to all the girls. I even said to my grandma last night, it was a little bit uncomfortable. And you can rep that out, right? Like you could be in the shower just repping it out. Let me work on my pitch. Let me work on my delivery. Let me get this mastered so that when it happens, I'm not in screensaver mode.

13:38 I'm not shooting gas with oily discharge and losing communication with my spinal column. I'm fucking dialed. I know how to do it. And that comes with practice. All right, the third one, boys, is to practice those techniques on people who don't matter. Call your mom and do the cube on her. Call your sister and tell her one of your stories. You can even do this with one of your best friends. You call your friend. You say, hey, man, I've been listening to this awesome podcast called the Unapologetic Man Podcast.

14:04 You should really listen to it. He's like, cool, man. Listens to it. He's like, fuck, this is really good information. Let's practice together. Let me tell you some of my stories. Let me run some of my gambits on you and you do it back to me. Then you're going to be like, all right, bro, we're taking the shit to the next step. Here's a wig. Here's some lipstick. Here's a fucking dress and a garter belt. Go sit across the table from me. You're pretending to be my date.

14:27 And the next thing you know, you're giving your boy a Dutch runner and you're like, how the fuck did this deteriorate into this kind of madness? Of course, I'm joking, boys. But seriously, if you have a friend who's into this, a guy who's listening to this with you, fucking practice on each other. Be like, all right, man, try to run the cube on me. All right, man, try to do strawberry fields on me. All right, brother, tell me that story about when you traveled to Europe.

14:48 Go. And then he has to go and tell the story. This is the way to practice to get better. Now, a lot of you guys won't do this, okay? You're listening to this episode and you're like, yeah, this sounds good, man. I'm going to do this. You'll do like maybe once and then you'll fucking flake on it. Why? Because you don't have accountability. One of the reasons I have such a high success rate in my three-month coaching program is because I have accountability. I make my guys do these reps.

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18:01 I hope to hear from you soon. Let's you and I talk. All right, gentlemen. The fourth one is to pretend that unattractive girls are attractive and vice versa. So I said in the title, how to practice talking to hot girls without actually opening hot girls. You could go open fat chicks, canyon mules, mountain trolls, chicks that look like a Nebraska heifer. Whoever it is, you open her and you mindfuck yourself to pretend that she's really hot. And honestly, when you're talking to girls, even fat ones, there's usually something attractive about them, even if it's just their feminine energy.

18:35 And oftentimes, fat girls are usually really feminine. So you focus on that and you pretend that she's hot. How would I behave if this girl were hot? Well, it's the same way you should behave when they're not hot. You behave completely naturally. You don't give a shit. And that's where I need you to get to, to the point where you could talk to hot girls exactly as you talk to unattractive girls. And you're just fucking normal. No self-monitoring. No weird mannerisms. No going into screensaver mode.

19:05 No gas with oily discharge. No loss of communication with the spinal column. You are present. You are witty. You are there. And the way to do it is reps upon reps upon reps. You're in the batting cages practicing. And the best place to practice is on unattractive women. That's how to practice talking to hot girls without actually talking to hot girls. Then, when you are talking to a hot girl, superimpose the unattractive girl's face onto hers, her body onto hers, and pretend she's not nearly attractive as she is.

19:35 Or, and I like to do this, focus on something that's unattractive about her. Some of the most angelic-faced women I've ever met, the perfect bodies, have just been horrible people. Or have some raspy-ass voice like they just slammed 10 shots of vodka before our conversation. Like, hey, how are you today? I'm like, Jesus Christ, dude, how many fucking cigarettes do you smoke? You need to focus on things that are unattractive to mind-fuck yourself and get you out of this illusion that she's great or better than you.

20:04 Just because she was born physically attractive. What a crock of shit. Most of these girls don't have to do jack shit to get themselves pretty. They're just born that way. They work out a little bit. They fucking comb their hair. They do their makeup. But, dude, a lot of these hot girls have a completely skewed perception of reality. They have a different reality than you and I do. Stop giving them so much credit. And the fifth one, boys, and in my opinion, the most important one, is to simply choose random objects in whatever space you're in.

20:34 Perhaps you're in your room right now. Perhaps you're driving right now. Wherever you are, you see something random, and I want you to just talk about it right off the cuff. So if you're flipping through a magazine and you see a piano, go. Talk about a piano. You're driving down the road and you see Burger King. Tell a story about Burger King. You're in a nightclub and you see the coat check. Talk about the coat check. Talk about the bartender. Just talk about things off the cuff, and you can even do it in your own head.

21:00 But better yet, doing it with your friend. You guys are driving, and you look at a bus stop, and there's some realtor's picture on there. Talk about that realtor or talk about real estate. Go. Because what if you're talking to a girl and she's like, I'm a real estate agent. Can you just talk about real estate or talk about some interesting situation you had regarding real estate? Guys, I literally just pulled real estate out of thin air right now. So I'm going to challenge myself just like I'm telling you to challenge yourselves and talk about it.

21:28 So for girls like, yeah, I'm a real estate agent, I'd be like, hey, I always kind of wondered about that. Does it really make a difference when you have like those open houses, and you put out the drinks and the cookies, and you like butter everybody up? And do you guys actually move furniture in to those houses before you have open houses? And she'll be like, yeah, and it actually really works. You know, you want to build rapport with people. And I'm like, so where do you keep the furniture between open houses?

21:54 Who keeps that? And they're like, oh, we store in a warehouse. And is there actually a job of somebody who like designs the house to look good like that? And she'll be like, yeah, that's actually a job that we have. And I'd be like, damn. So where is that warehouse? Is it close by? And she's like, yeah, I guess it's in Aurora or something like that. Cool. Well, I'm homeless. So I think I'm going to go find that place for a place to sleep. I appreciate that.

22:18 Now, was that great? No, but dude, that was completely off the fucking cuff. And I think I might have gotten a little chuckle out of her. But it's because I continuously practice that. Like these podcasts, I literally have a title and five bullet points. That's it. That's all I got. And I just have to rifle and just go for it. It's because I've practiced this stuff. It's because I sit down and I put that pressure on myself and have put that pressure on myself that I can just talk about things off the cuff, that I can just go on random tangents.

22:47 And you have to be able to do that. So while a lot of you guys aren't going to actually do this, some of you will. And for those of you who will do this, or better yet, for those of you who want to do it, but you need that accountability, my team and I will make you do this kind of stuff. We will practice this with you so that you actually build the skill set. Listen, I know what a pain in the ass it is. I've been there myself.

23:09 In fact, I just broke my hip and my fucking PT is making me do these super annoying exercises every day that I fucking hate. But I know in order to get to the place that I want to get to, I have to do them. So I just sack up and do them. And you'll do them too. But here's the difference. Me, I'm just trying to walk normal again. You, you're going to get fucking laid, brother. So don't put this off. Don't procrastinate it. And if you are that kind of guy to do that, or if you want the NLP, the accountability, all my best lessons, my creme de la creme shit, join us in the program.

23:41 Click the link below, read through all the testimonials, read through all the case studies, see exactly what's included in this program. And if you're still interested, put in your application and you and I will talk. All right, gentlemen, I hope this has helped you out. Go out there and practice your shit right now so that when that hot girl walks around the corner, you'll be fucking ready. I drop podcasts every Tuesday and I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode.

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