FRIEND ZONED? 5 Easy Steps to Make Her See You as Boyfriend Material

0:00 I am going to give you the unapologetic method to get out of the damn friend zone and make this girl attracted to you once and for all. The premise of this is that you are not to be fucked with, you're no longer blowing smoke up her ass, doing her favors and putting the pussy on a fucking pedestal, but you're manning up and showing her that you, my friend, are the prize. You guys are dating for a while, then she's like, so what are we? And you're like, all right, little girl, I'll go ahead and let you be my girlfriend.

0:28 And look how I said that, let you be my girlfriend. Now you just turn a girlfriend into your girlfriend. This is how we do it, boys. We do it with modalities that actually work. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. Did you guys ever see that post on Instagram or maybe on Facebook where that dude got so unbelievably friend zoned, the girl actually posted it on social media and here's what she said. You guys got to listen to this. This is fucking hilarious. From Topgolf to dinner, flowers, ice cream and horseback riding.

1:01 You outdid yourself on this friend date, Daniel. You wanted to set a standard for how I should be treated and you sure said a high one. I thank God so much that he put an amazing friend like you in my life. Thank you for making me feel like a true princess. Hashtag still single though. All right. This is like the worst friend zoning I've ever seen in my life. This poor bastard Daniel probably went home and masturbated with a freaking love doll and he put a picture of this chick on its face and he looked like a monkey fucking a football or more likely he looked like a turtle trying to board a life raft.

1:37 This is absolutely what we need to avoid, boys. So I'm not going to give you a bunch of fluff. I'm not going to give you a bunch of bullshit. I am going to give you the unapologetic method to get out of the damn friend zone and make this girl attracted to you once and for all. The premise of this is that you are not to be fucked with. You're no longer blowing smoke up her ass, doing her favors and putting the pussy on a fucking pedestal.

1:59 But you're manning up and showing her that you, my friend, are the prize. No longer are the days where you're driving chicks to other dudes' houses so they can bone those girls. Now it's another dude who's going to be driving her to your house because you are going to be the champion who she chooses. So step one, boys, you need to friend zone her. A lot of what I'm going to say in this episode is going to be counterintuitive, but you need to listen to me.

2:24 I know what the fuck I'm talking about. I have worked with thousands of clients, have helped tons of guys get out of the friend zone. The very first step is friend zone her and completely lose any notion that she is going to be your girlfriend. Stop chasing her. Stop trying to convince her. Stop trying to be that beta cuck who's trying to do her favors and blow smoke up her ass so that she finally realizes how great you are. Because what's going to happen to you is exactly what happened to our hero, Daniel.

2:53 You're going to go home and drill a hole in a cantaloupe and do unspeakable things to it because chasing girls, placating to them, being the nice guy simply does not work. So the very first step is to friend zone her ass. Get any notion of you guys hooking up out of your mind. Friend zone her and actually let her know that, hey, we're just friends. Use the F word. As I talked about in a recent episode, why you should friend zone every single girl that you meet.

3:19 The premise of that is basically this. I'm not trying to get you. I'm not thirsty. I actually have my eyes on other girls. I'm dating other girls, which I'm going to get to in a second, boys. But the whole premise is she's in the friend zone. You're the one who's decided you're not into it. And some of you may be thinking, well, if I friend zone her and I completely lose any notion that we might hook up, doesn't that make it impossible? No, it actually makes it more possible.

3:46 When you friend zone girls, that's actually a way to get them attracted to you, which was the basis of that episode I recorded a few months ago. So your first step is to completely and utterly let go of trying to chase this girl. You're not in the friend zone anymore. She's in the friend zone. You guys are friends. And that goes into step two. Stop treating her any differently than you would treat any other girl who was your friend. Stop doing her favors. Stop placating to her.

4:12 Stop blowing smoke up her ass, buying her shit, completely changing your life to try to accommodate her because you want to convince her that you would be a great boyfriend. Girls cannot be convinced on the rational level that you're a great guy. Showing up with your resume, showing her all the amazing things you've done. Boys, you all know this. It does not work. The only way you can prove to a girl that you are attractive is by flipping emotional hot switches inside her head, flipping attraction triggers.

4:41 And part of doing that is not chasing her, not placating to her, not doing her favors, and certainly not buying her shit. Treat her exactly as you would if she were a fat friend, which I know some of you guys have. You have like a fat girlfriend who's just your friend from your street or from high school or from work or whatever it is. If that fat girl was moving her apartment into a different apartment, would you immediately be like, oh, well, I can show up with my truck and help you out?

5:09 Probably not, boys. You'd be like, yo, hire Fernando to help you move that piano. I ain't into it. And if she does ask you to help her move, be like, yeah, cool. I'll help you move, but afterwards I need to steak dinner for that shit. And I'm talking Mastro's. I want the fucking tomahawk steak dinner. And it's going to cost you a couple hundred bucks. So if you're prepared for that, cool. I'll help you move. Guys, your favor must be earned. You are the prize. How would you behave if you had a line of girls around the corner to hang out with you, to date you, to have sex with you?

5:41 And yeah, even to be your friend, you'd be like, hey, my favor must be earned. My time must be earned. I'm not going to just move your fucking couch for you down 18 flights of stairs. You need to do something for me, too. It's the way social interactions work. I mean, what if your guy friend asked you to move? You'd be like, yeah, bro, I'll help you to move. But you got to fucking hook me up with some dinner or like buy me some monster energy drinks or something.

6:02 I'm not going to just show up and bust my ass unless there's some reciprocation. I mean, look, in a true friendship like between guys, you do that for your boy. And he would hopefully just be like, hey, bro, I got you. I'm going to take you out to dinner or whatever it is. But when girls are like trying to get you to do them favors, when girls are trying to get you to jump through hoops and like put you in the friend zone and just basically use you, which is exactly what they're doing, that favor must be earned.

6:29 So no more presents, boys. No more, oh, you mentioned in your Instagram that you got this plant. I got you another plant to match it because you're fucking stalking her like a stalker Texas ranger. And you're trying to impress her. That shit's done, boys. She's just a friend. And what we're going to do is we're going to show her an amazing time. We're going to get her attracted. But we're pushing her away and being like, no, no, no, no. You're just a friend. I'm actually dating these other girls.

6:54 And we're going to use that, as I said, to also get her more attracted to us. But in the beginning, you need to get rid of any of these notions of like placating to her, doing her favors, trying to earn anything with her at all. The best way to earn her attraction is to not try to earn her attraction. Complete and utter outcome independence. Just like she's a fat chick. When you do them favors, you look thirsty. You look try hard. And as unfortunate as it is, you look like you're low value.

7:22 So the first two steps are A, friends on her. Start calling her a friend. No longer do you have any, any desire to be her boyfriend. You're getting rid of that. And the reason I'm telling you that, too, is because when you get rid of that, you're going to behave correctly. You're not going to do those beta cuck type things, such as your voice going up at the end when you're inviting her to join the opera with you, to which you just spent like $1,000 on the tickets.

7:46 All that bullshit's over. She's a friend. You guys will hang out here and there. But ultimately, you're focusing on different things. Secondly, stop doing the favors. I recently saw that movie Obsession, which is on Netflix. I usually don't like horror flicks. In fact, it's probably been like 20 years since I watched a horror movie. I just don't like them. But dude, this movie I had to watch because it was about a dude who got friendzoned by this chick. And then he bought this like piece of wood that's called a willow wish or something like that.

8:16 And when you break it and you wish for something, it comes true. He basically wishes for this chick to love him more than she loves anybody else in the world. And it happens and then it fucking goes to an absolute dumpster fire. It was actually a pretty good movie. But what really impressed me is that Hollywood got it right. It got it right in the way that his behavior in the beginning, and if you haven't seen it, maybe you should watch it. His behavior in the beginning is a classic guy in the friend zone.

8:44 Very supplicatory. His voice goes up at the end. He's like, well, would you like it if or like what do you want to do? Then he gets super butthurt because she tells him about her plans to move out of the state. And he's like, oh, I bought you a present. Totally hit the nail on the head as Hollywood often doesn't do. Another thing they got right was his buddy was telling him to like admit his feelings to her, which you never want to do until you know that she's attracted to, which I'm going to get to in a second.

9:15 But if you guys want to see a dude who's highly in the friend zone, watch that movie. And it's fucking funny to me because when he makes the wish, she starts acting like a chick that's really into him. And you'll notice his behavior changes. One part I really liked is like they're watching TV, but she's just like staring at him like in love. And he takes her chin and like moves it to the front. Like, dude, we're watching TV. Stop being so creepy. It's a really interesting movie about how first he's in the friend zone.

9:45 Then he lands the chick. Then he starts being more alpha, right? This is the way you should behave. Then, of course, the shit just completely hits the fan. And if you're like me and you don't like horror movies, prepare yourself because the shit goes absolutely sideways. But, again, it was a pretty good movie. I do suggest it for guys like you who are into this stuff. But we have to remember when we chase, when we placate, when we act like this dude, we get blown out.

10:10 And that brings us to the third step. Now that we've had the foundation, we basically have friends on her. We're not needy anymore. We're not doing her favors. She's just a friend, just like she were a fat friend. Then what we do is we go into dropping the first two pillars and the four pillars of attraction. The four pillars of attraction are frame control, value, sexual tension, qualifying. And I have something in my coaching called the V-Cut Protocol, which basically says you only do the first two parts of the four pillars of attraction in the beginning until she's attracted to you.

10:43 Once she's attracted to you, once she's reached that V, which is basically like the middle of your seduction, then you can go into sexual tension, which is expressing your interest. So, essentially, we're going to do the first two pillars and the four pillars of attraction. We're going to always control the frame. We're going to lead her to where she wants to be led. We're going to show her not to be fucked with. But the second part is value. We're going to show her an experience that feels like magic to her.

11:12 She feels like she's getting tucked under your wing and taken on an adventure. And most importantly, as I always talk about, the 80-100 rule, we're not going to give her enough of us. So, yeah, she's a friend, but we're still doing all the attraction techniques except for, and I really want you to understand this because this is really important, focus. You are not expressing interest in her. You're simply dumping value, telling stories, taking her on adventures, having a great time, but you're not interested. You're dating other chicks, which I'm going to get to in a second.

11:42 So, you're essentially tucking her under your wing, being that sanctuary that I always talk about, being this, like, amazing time, being as attractive as possible, communicating all those attractive things through your storytelling, through your adventures, leading the frame, fucking with her, teasing her, push-pull, all the techniques I teach, but no techniques about I'm into you, I'm attracted to you. No sexual tension techniques, like I bet you're a bad kisser, until, boys, until she's attracted. So, first, we completely let go of any chance with her, we friendzone her.

12:15 Secondly, we stop acting differently than we would if she were fat. Thirdly, we drop techniques upon techniques upon techniques. We control the frame. We show her a great time. Always leave her wanting more, and the fourth step, boys, is to date other girls as aggressively as possible and let her see it. Again, some of you guys are like, whoa, if she sees it, then I'm not going to have any chance with her. Bullshit, boys. You all have seen how attracted girls get when you're dating other girls.

12:44 It's a simple concept of pre-selection. I have other girls in my life. I'm good. You're a friend. She's going to be like, huh, what am I missing? Interesting. This guy used to be a beta cuck doing me favors, chasing me. I friendzoned him. And if you got yourself there, I feel really bad for you where you're like, I really like you, Sarah. And she's like, eh, I'm not into you. You're just a friend. Actually, I'll tell you what to do there. Once you get to this fourth step where you're dating other girls, I want you to talk to that girl and be like, hey, like six months ago where I was like super into you.

13:16 I apologize for that. That was so embarrassing. I really shouldn't have done that. I'm sorry I put you in that situation. But just to let you know, like we're good now. Like we're totally friends. I feel the same way about you. We're good. And again, some of you are like, well, how am I going to get out of that? Boys, you can get out of it as soon as she becomes attracted to you. Don't get it twisted. Just because you told her she's in the friend zone and just because you showed her the other girls that you're dating.

13:41 And yes, even asked her advice about certain situations with these other hot girls that you're dating. The second she gets attracted, all the shit that she perceptively experienced about you being unavailable, her being in the friend zone goes right out the fucking window. Why? Emotions always trump rationale. So now she's getting emotionally attracted to you. She's like, oh, my God, I'm starting to feel attraction for him. Dang it. I should have dated him when he expressed his interest in me six months ago, but damn, that ship has passed.

14:11 Now, a lot of you guys have the conundrum of, okay, cool. I'm friend zone with this chick. I need to date tons of other chicks. But Mark, I'm not good at dating other girls. That's why I listen to your content. I'm not good at getting dates. I'm not good at finding new girls. I don't know how to do that. That's why I'm in the friend zone in the first place. Or it's like the girls you can get are all sevens. And this friend of yours is a nine who like you ultimately want.

14:35 You're like, fuck, dude, I don't want to deal with these sevens. Then, boys, the answer is simple. You need to build that skill set. You need to remap your belief systems. You need to come into my fucking three-month coaching program. And just to show you how effective this program is, I'm going to read you three very quick testimonials. Three testimonials that literally came in this week. They keep coming, boys. They just keep coming. And these are three testimonies to just how effective this is. If you want to get out of the friend zone, you need to change you, brother.

15:03 A deep cognitive level change. Not just learning more techniques like cold reading and push-pull and the 8-100 rule. Those are good. You need a deep transformation so that you literally become the best version of yourself. That that nine who has put you in the friend zone and who you're putting on a pedestal, you're above that. You're a 10 now in your own mind. And when you're a 10 in your own mind, she will think you're a 10 too. This is how to get out of the friend zone. I'm going to read these quick three and then we're going to go to step number five, which is the most important step.

15:34 You don't want to miss it. My boy Todd says, I just graduated the program and it has been life-changing beyond my wildest dreams in all aspects of my life. If you are thinking about joining like I did, do not hesitate. It will be the best decision you ever make for yourself. Todd, thank you so much. And we got another one. Michael, the program has done so much good in such a short space of time and is without question the best investment I've ever or will ever make.

16:03 And I mean that sincerely. So much negative belief systems in my head are being taken away. I feel like a completely different man. And the last one, boys, is from my boy Kai. Kai, what's up if you're listening? Every week in this program, I catch myself thinking, this was the best week of my life. How fucking crazy is that? But this week was really the best week of my life. You have absolutely created something amazing. I know I'm just a client and I know you care about your clients, but brother to brother, you are a fucking saint.

16:33 Thank you so much for that, Kai, Michael, Todd. You guys are legends who invest in yourselves. And you, gentlemen, if you want to join us in this game-changing program, I'm available to you. Put in your application below. All right, boys, the fifth step, and this is the step your red-helmeted warrior has been dreaming of, is to let her know that you like her too when and only when she starts getting attracted to you. Going back to that movie, Obsession, or The Obsessed, or something, I think it's Obsession.

17:02 Going back to that movie, Homeboy was going to confess his feelings to her, like, I really like you. And she wasn't really giving him a lot of indicators of interest, so that would have been a very bad move. The best move, as I just taught you, would be to friendzone her, to stop doing her fucking favors and buying her shit, stop being a beta cuck, start controlling the frame, leading her, showing her that you're dating other girls, even asking her advice about another girl who's a runway model, if you can get away with that.

17:31 She's a runway model who's, like, stalking me. She's texting me in the middle of the night, good morning text, good night text. How do I put this girl on ice? You do all those steps, including, as I just said, asking her advice about a hot girl who's fucking stalking you. And lo and behold, boys, this chick starts getting attracted to you. She starts showing indicators of interest. She starts touching you, asking you questions about other girls, saying how much fun she has with you, being disappointed when you can't hang out.

17:59 Again, only giving her 80% of what she wants from you. You see those indicators of interest. You know she's attracted. Then what you do is you tell her, man, all these girls I'm dating are kind of letting me down. I wish I connected with them the way I connect with you. And she's like, oh, well, you could date me. And you're like, okay. And now you look like a monkey fucking a football because you're boning her in the back of your fucking car because you did the five steps.

18:25 So, again, you only let her know that you're attracted to her or you're attracted to her again after she gets attracted to you, after you friendzone her, pushed her away, and dated other girls. She starts to get attracted. You know it. Don't make it up in your mind because a lot of you guys are looking for evidence to substantiate something you want to happen. Really be sure. And you can even ask mutual friends like, dude, you notice Jessica's behavior lately? She kind of looks like she's getting into me.

18:52 What do you think? To corroborate whether or not that's true. Once it is, admit to her. Hey, listen, you know, like six months ago I told you I liked you and then I was kind of over it. I don't know. We've just been getting along lately. I'm kind of starting to catch those feelings again for you. What do you think? And if she's there, again, you only let her know you like her 80% of what she likes you. But if she's there, she's going to be like, yeah, I'm kind of starting to feel the same way.

19:16 Bam. You just turn a girlfriend into your girlfriend. But to elaborate on that point too, you don't want to make her your girlfriend until she starts asking. But you just turn a girlfriend into a girl that you're dating and a girl who you can have sex with, which I know is what you've wanted from the beginning. Guys, the reason my program works is twofold. First of all, I teach you concepts like this. I teach you concepts that actually work, that have been substantiated through years of experience, through thousands of clients.

19:44 This shit is how it works and nobody can convince me otherwise. But the second and most important reason my shit is so effective is because I remap belief systems, rewire metaprograms, get you back to that true confidence that you had when you were a kid before other people fucked you up, before other people came and gave you their bullshit or made you feel like you weren't enough. And now your behavior communicates that. It communicates, I don't feel like I'm enough. I don't feel like I'm a champion.

20:12 So girls see that and you get put in the fucking friend zone. And you wonder, why can't I get girls? Why do they keep denying me second dates or keep friendzoning me? It's all in here, boys. And if you're listening on audio and pointing out my head, the most important part of your transformation has to be inside yourself. And that's exactly what I do. Specific to making girls attracted to you. No other dating coach does what I do. No other modality exists with this specific goal to make you more attractive to women.

20:42 This is what we do. We are extremely good at it. So put in your application right now and you and I will talk. All right, gentlemen, I hope that's helped you. If you're in the friend zone right now today, bro. Today, use the friend word. Start pushing her away. Stop doing favors for her. Start being more alpha. Start using the techniques on her, but never the techniques where you show you're attracted. Once she says that she's attracted, then you can go into pillar three and pillar four of the four pillars of attraction, sexual attention and qualifying to get her even more attracted to you.

21:12 You guys are dating for a while. Then she's like, so what are we? And you're like, all right, little girl, I'll go ahead and let you be my girlfriend. And look how I said that. Let you be my girlfriend. Now you just turn a girlfriend into your girlfriend. This is how we do it, boys. We do it with modalities that actually work. And nothing is more powerful than NLP to turn you into that girl magnet, just as I do with all my clients. So gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening.

21:39 I drop podcast every Tuesday and I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've got any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review. You have no idea how much that helps me. Also, if you're struggling with women and you want to talk to me personally about how I can help you achieve your goals with women, sign up for my three-month coaching program below and you and I will talk.

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