From Nice Guy to Bad*ss: How to Unleash Your EVIL INNER ALPHA

0:00 What's up, boys? The following clip is from a dude who's been in my three-month coaching program for four weeks, gentlemen. Four weeks. This is the power of neuro-linguistic programming. Check this out. My mind was blown, dude. Like, I can't even tell you. It's only been a couple weeks, and I can see the difference in girls looking at me, other guys talking to me. I, 110%, dude, I am fucking psyched. It's unreal. I've been cooped up for so long, and this has totally blown my mind, dude. I can't even fucking tell.

0:32 Even people at my work are like, dude, you're different. My mind's blown away, dude. I don't even know how to fucking explain it. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP, episode 666, gentlemen. I cannot freaking believe that I've been doing this where I have 666 episodes. It feels like only yesterday. I started this podcast with my buddy, John Anthony.

1:21 May he rest in peace. And we started this Bad Jackson, and now it is fucking skyrocketing. And I know John would be proud because of champions like you. So brothers, I just want to thank you so much for supporting me, for helping me grow this thing to what it is today. It's because of you that we have come this far, and I sincerely thank you. Now, obviously, 666 is why I included evil in the title of this episode, how to go from nice guy to evil alpha male.

1:51 Obviously, it's not evil. We're just going to teach you how to not take any more shit, how to not be a nice guy anymore, how to get girls attracted to you. Because you placating to them, you blow and smoke up their ass and fluffing their feathers, being Mr. Nice Guy, putting them on a pedestal, and letting them lead the way, obviously does not work. And I'm going to teach you today what does work. Gentlemen, stay tuned until the end because I'm also going to give you some funny lines to say to women.

2:19 And as I always do, I'm going to over-deliver with some awesome information. We have a lot to get through. So let's jump into the content. First of all, boys, nice guys finish last because they want to be liked, but what they fail to realize is that they need to be respected. And what gets girls attracted to you is not the same thing that gets people to like you. Through kindergarten, through grade school, through high school, and even sometimes in college, we are taught to be nice to people because nice gets us what we want.

2:48 And naturally, guys are going to apply that to women thinking, if I'm just nice to this chick, if I'm just a floor mat and a lap dog and let her get away with anything and let her have the power, she's going to like me because that's what we're taught in society. But she's not going to respect you. And without respect, you don't have attraction. Gentlemen, you may think that the most important thing to you as a man is to get sex from your woman. But actually, the very most important thing to men is that they are respected by their women, which goes back to my previous episode, an angry open letter to women, telling women what it is that gets guys attracted to them.

3:28 Being respected is extremely important. So I'm going to teach you guys how to be respected. Now, let me lay a little foundation before I jump into everything. As you're listening to this, it's going to be easy for you to think, this guy's being an asshole. This guy's being confrontational. He's being disagreeable. In some respects, you are right. Outside of the whole asshole thing, I am being disagreeable. I am showing her my boundaries if she does something that I don't agree with. But never, under any circumstance, am I being an asshole.

3:58 Being an asshole means that you have negative energy behind what you're doing. In this instance, boys, showing women that we're not to be fucked with, you are never, under any circumstance, having negative energy behind what you do. Having negative energy behind anything that you say, even telling her no when she asks you for something that she came to you with, negative energy, shows that you've been negatively affected, you've been off your inner balance point, and therefore you're not controlling the frame. As I always tell you guys, frame control is essentially being composed, being on your inner balance point.

4:35 And even sometimes with these things, you have a smile behind it. You're cool. You're agreeable in the way that you're not trying to fight with her, but you're simply showing her that you have boundaries and you're not to be fucked with. So keep that in mind as you listen. Even when we get into the funny lines that I'm going to tell you to show her that you are that alpha badass and you're not to be messed with, it's always with a smile. It's always with jest.

4:58 You're just joking around, kind of nudging her with your elbow, as it were. And this is really important to understand when you're listening to this stuff. So the nice guy trap gentleman is that, again, the guy is approval-seeking, he's conflict-avoiding, and he's afraid to lead. He doesn't want to say no to her because he thinks being liked equals being agreeable, being the dude who's going to say yes to everything that she says, being the nice guy. But again, we want to be respected more than we want to be liked.

5:29 And here's an example. I have literally heard on multiple occasions, girls tell me, I fucking hate you, Mark, but I'm so unbelievably attracted to you. Or, and I've heard this a couple times, I fucking hate you, Mark, but I'm in love with you. The reason that is is because I'm not going to take any shit. I'm going to show her my boundaries. I'm not going to be Mr. Nice Guy, and that elicits attraction. Remember, guys, attraction is not a choice. It's on the emotional level. It's not on the rational level.

5:59 So rationally, she may think that guy's kind of a dick. He's disagreeable. He's kind of a jerk, but I can't help it. I'm attracted to him. And this is why jerks get girls. But we, as the unapologetic man army, are not jerks. We're not going to be assholes to women. We're going to treat them well, but show them we're not to be fucked with. And that's the balance, as I keep talking about in recent episodes. You want to be cool. You want to be agreeable. You want to be funny and charismatic.

6:27 But if she flexes up or tries to test your boundaries, you show her that you have boundaries and you will not move them just to try to get her to, quote, unquote, like you. She doesn't want a puppy. She wants a lion. And this is how to become a lion. So alpha simply means leadership, confidence, decisiveness, calm under pressure. You respect yourself first and others follow suit. You don't chase. You allow people into your reality if they qualify. It's also important that your inner work comes first.

7:00 You are the project. She is not your first priority. You are your first priority. Brothers, you have to go after the bullshit that has been given to you before you can defend yourself from it. I always talk about this where your parents raise you basically imposing their dysfunctions onto you unconsciously. So, for example, your dad, let's say he had a quick temper. It really wasn't his fault that he had a quick temper, but he put it onto you, perhaps giving you the belief system that if I piss people off, they're going to explode at me.

7:32 So, I don't want to piss off a woman because she's going to do the same thing my dad used to do to me. And you have this belief quite unconsciously. So, inner work is really important to get rid of the pussy and become an evil alpha male, as the title suggests. The next thing, of course, is to be assertive versus being passive. You set up boundaries and actually enforce them. The worst thing you could do with the person, particularly if you're a parent raising a child, is to set up a boundary and let that person push the boundary because if you give an inch, they take a mile.

8:04 And it's the same thing with women. If you say, hey, I have this boundary in place, you absolutely must withhold it. Otherwise, again, if you give her that inch, she's going to take a mile and she's going to start treating you like a floor mat. Stop apologizing unless you punched her damn grandma. Guys, apologies are for transgressions that deserve an apology. You guys all know what that is. Stop saying sorry if you accidentally get in someone's way. Just say, oh, excuse me. Stop saying sorry if you inadvertently hurt her feelings and you deduce that she's overreacting.

8:39 If I say something and the girl gets pissed off about it, I'm not like, oh, sorry. I say this. I say, hey, listen, I didn't realize that it would affect you like that. So I'll be more careful about what I say moving forward. What does that sub communicate? It communicates I wasn't wrong for messing with you and joking with you and saying your college is stupid. And then she, having not worked on herself, gets so butthurt because I'm joking with her saying her college is stupid and she overreacts to it and expects me to apologize.

9:09 No, I would say something like, hey, listen, I didn't know that you were sensitive about your college. Obviously, I know that now. So I'll avoid that kind of topic moving forward, okay? Which basically says, dude, you got butthurt. You hyperextended your ponytail. You threw out your anal chakra. So I'm going to go ahead and be careful and accommodate for your butthurt feelings because you can't take the truth. Guys, anybody who gets offended is fucking weak. This is why I don't agree with trigger words or agree with speech you're not allowed to make because it hurts the person with the rainbow hair who thinks he's a woman half the time and thinks he's a dog the other half of the time.

9:47 If you get butthurt by what anybody says, that's your issue, not mine. And remember that, boys. If she gets butthurt, it's her issue. But be socially savvy. I've had guys misinterpret this to the utmost and say, like, asshole things to chicks. It's like, dude, you need to be socially savvy. You need to deliver things very carefully because people will get butthurt. But if you feel and you deduce that she's overreacting because of her hypersensitive feelings, then say, hey, I didn't realize you would react that way, so I'll be more careful with that moving forward.

10:21 Next one, outer game changes. Boys, you need to work on your voice tonality. Huge. Instead of your voice going up at the end, make sure it goes down at the end, as I always talk about. How you doing today? As opposed to how are you today? Huge difference in nice guy versus evil alpha male. Work on your body language, boys. If you haven't done that, oh, my hell, it's so important. I talked about handwriting analysis in a recent episode. You have to understand that your inner belief systems are going to change the way you move, the way you stand, the way you talk, even subtle things like how you move your fingers and how your eyes close, which can't be controlled consciously.

11:01 It's controlled by your personality, your inner belief systems, and that's body language. One of the most important things of getting a woman attracted to you. The next one is women want to join the man's mission, not become it. You guys know this. Your mission is first. You're part of the unapologetic man army. You are the rank of a major. And because no other sniper is as good as you are, they send you behind enemy lines to take out the general. That's the fucking level I want you to be at, boys.

11:30 I appreciate you listening to this podcast. I appreciate you trusting in me, and I want to give you the best content possible. Let's continue forward with it. Here are some do's and don'ts when it comes to how you live your life and how you interact with women. And, boys, stay tuned until the end because I'm going to give you those one-liners that are really fucking funny, how to show her that you're willing to be the jerk, that you're willing to mess with her, you're willing to tease her a little bit.

11:55 With a light heart, as always, and this is what gets attraction for women, stay tuned. I'm giving those to you momentarily. Guys, start by saying no. Nice guys are always saying yes. I had a nice guy once offer to fucking detail my car. I hardly knew the dude. He's like, hey, do you want me to wash your car? Sorry, I got some mud on it. I was like, no, bro. I'm not going to make you do that shit. Be a dude who's willing to say no.

12:21 If a girl asks you for some shit that you don't want to give her, just say no. Two letters, boys. N-O. No, motherfucker. I'm not going to give you that. Oftentimes, guys will ask me for deals and shit on my coaching program, which is okay. You can ask me. And I always reply with one word, no. I actually just did that to a dude today. If you're listening, what's up, brother? He's like, hey, can I get a rebate? Which, honestly, I respect you asking, but I'm going to tell you straight up, no.

12:47 And if you don't like it, kick rocks with your head down. All my guys pay the same price, and it would be unfair to let a guy in for less than another dude came in for. So my price is my price. If you don't like it, don't let the door hit you with the good Lord split you. Next one, obviously, stop seeking approval, boys. You don't give a shit what she thinks of you or what anybody else thinks of you. You are internally motivated, internally validated.

13:13 You have three filters out in front of your face, and everything somebody says goes through those three filters before it hits you. Do I like what they said? Do I like what they're offering? No, I don't. And you're willing to tell them that. Stop seeking approval. Now, obviously, again, I have to say, be peripherally aware of what other people are thinking of you, of constructive criticism. A lot of guys take this way too far, and they misunderstand what I'm saying. And they start becoming assholes. They're like, I don't give a fuck what you say.

13:44 They're like, they do something super douchey to somebody, and the person's like hurt, and they're like, I'm afraid I can't help you with that, bro. That's your issue, that you got hurt because I slashed your face with the fucking razor blade. It's like, come on, boys. Logical sense. Within the parameters of, I don't care about your opinion of what I'm doing, but obviously, if I'm hurting you, and you get butt hurt, then that's a different thing. Hopefully, the vast majority of you guys are socially intelligent enough to decipher what I'm saying here, but ultimately speaking, you do not need people's approval of you and how you feel about yourself.

14:19 Next is, get selfish with your time. It's your time. It's your objective. How do you want to use it? People have to apply. You have a wait list, dog. When's the last time you thought about that? Yeah, I've got a wait list to hang out with me. When can we schedule you in? You are the prize. You're the valuable one. And there is a wait list. Take a reservation. Take a number. Now serving number 83. Where's number 83, please? And this is literally how your life is going to be when you get good with women.

14:48 I have had lines, and I'm not trying to brag. I'm just trying to tell you how good you could get. I've had lines of girls waiting to talk to me, literally. I mean, they weren't standing like in a queue, like as in they're waiting in a McDonald's line, but like there's a group of them here kind of getting close to wait their turn. Then the group behind them, there's a girl who wants to talk to me. I'm serious, boys. And you're like, now serving number 23, please.

15:11 Ah, step right up, young lady. You have five minutes. Go ahead. You're not seeking their approval. They are seeking your approval, and they are vying for your time because you are very selfish about what you do with your time. The next one, boys, is to embrace your shadow. Get in contact with the warrior within you. And yes, there is something evil within you. There is a killer inside you. The key is to not avoid it or push it down or deny it's there. The key is to embrace it and to use it towards positive ends.

15:43 Could you kill somebody? I know I could. Somebody rapes and kills my daughter? I'm killing them. No questions asked. I'll even fucking go to prison for it. And I know a lot of you fathers would be the same way. And if you can't admit that you can do the same thing, I have to question you, man. You have a warrior within you. You have a killer within you. You have a monster within you. Embrace it. Accept it. And channel it towards positive ends. How do you do that?

16:11 Channel that motherfucker in the gym. Listen to my playlist on Spotify. Marks lift heavy ass weights. That'll call the warrior within you. Embrace that killer within you, boys, because he is in there. What you accept within you, you can't control within yourself. So stop denying it. That's what the nice guy does. You are now an evil alpha male. And you embrace that warrior within yourself. Practice unapologetic honesty. I'm going to be honest with you, bro. I'm not that impressed. If you have to say that to somebody, then say it.

16:44 Again, working within the parameters of being socially intelligent. And break the people-pleasing habits. I'm so sick of people being like, oh, I'm sorry. Here, you could take my seat. Hey, do you want to eat my entire freaking meal because I feel so bad about just being here? People who are nice guys are basically apologetic about being, about existing. How many of you guys have fallen into that trap where you're like, oh, sorry, I'm here. Let me take the smallest amount of space possible because I don't feel worth it.

17:14 You are worth it, brother. You have purpose here. You were created onto this earth to bring value both to your own life as well as to the lives of others, including my life. And I appreciate you, man. The time is to appreciate yourself. Please yourself. Don't people please others. That is nothing but low-value behavior. All right, guys. A couple lines that I've said many times to girls. Now, I have to preface this again. Some of you are a little thick-headed. This is said jokingly. You're just fucking around.

17:45 You're busting your chops. I like to use the analogy of an elbow into the side, right? Or an elbow into her elbow. Hey, I'm just fucking with you. That's the vibe. So let's get into it. All right. The first one, you know what, Sarah? You're pretty cool for someone who clearly peaked in high school. Next one, you'd be dangerous if you had just one more brain cell working. I could see you being really dangerous. Don't get a big head about this, but you're kind of cute like a confused baby duckling.

18:13 Next one is, you're totally my type minus the part where you talk. And again, boys, you got to say it with a smile. So you're kind of like, dude, Sarah, you are so my type. Mine is the part where you talk and you have a little rye grin. You kind of jab her a little bit. You're just joking, boys. And what do you do if she gets butthurt? You say, whoa, I was totally fucking with you. I can tell you don't like that kind of joke.

18:37 So I'll avoid it moving forward, okay? And you see how I said that? It's with downward inflection, okay? Not like, oh, I'm so sorry. You didn't like that. I won't say it again, okay? See the nice guy between the alpha? He's like, yo, you obviously haven't worked on yourself, chick. If you get that butthurt that easily, you haven't really worked on yourself that much. And listen, for girls who are like 23, which honestly is like the age I like to talk to because they're the hottest, a lot of them haven't worked on themselves yet.

19:03 They get butthurt sometimes. But if you say it correctly, you have a grin on your face and you're just busting their chops, it'll usually go over well, eliciting more attraction. And the last one, boys, you know what, Sarah? I like you a lot. I usually don't go for girls who are so high maintenance, but you're actually pretty cool. And this is also kind of like a push-pull. I like you a lot, which is like a pull. I'm pulling her in. I usually don't go for girls who are so high maintenance, which is like a push, but I'll make an exception for you, which is kind of a pull.

19:32 So again, it has to be calibrated correctly. Honestly, you should have some attraction first before you bust these out, but I've busted them out early in the conversation and showing girls that you're willing to break rapport, that you're not trying to be Mr. Nice Guy and build commonalities and high fives with her and you're willing to fuck with her a little bit, huge for attraction. So go from nice guy to badass. Unleash your evil inner alpha and take these tips, boys. Stop being apologetic. It's why I named this podcast The Unapologetic Man Podcast with my brother, John Anthony.

20:07 May you rest in peace, man. I hope you're well. And gentlemen, I hope you're well too. I care about you. I wanna see you succeed. I wanna help us become the best possible versions we can become because you too have value to give this earth. Never forget that. If some of you guys are down, just remember, you were created here for a reason. There are no mistakes. There are no coincidences. You weren't some cosmic piece of shit that unfortunately got born and everybody, including God, hates you.

20:38 No, no, no, brother. You have value. So get seeded into that value. Believe in yourself and be unapologetic. That's how to go from nice guy to evil inner alpha. And that's what you're gonna do too. So boys, I do appreciate you listening. As a reminder, I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one and I will see you, that's right, in the next episode. Goood!

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