5 NLP Mind Tricks to Manipulate Anyone And Get More Women Attracted to You

0:00 Today, gentlemen, I am going to teach you five NLP mind tricks to manipulate anybody, including the door-in-the-face technique, embedded commands, mood anchoring, pattern interrupts, the double bind, and anchor gesture or nonverbal embedded commands. The last one, boys, is one of my favorite things to do to women, so definitely stay tuned until the end. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. Before we jump into the content, I have a gigantic announcement. This is huge, boys, and I'm a little bit sad to tell you this, man, but I'm closing down the Unapologetic Man Podcast.

0:38 This is going to be my last episode. It just isn't producing the results I want. Kind of getting sick of it. I've done 713 episodes, so this is my goodbye episode, and this is a fucking gangster episode. I feel like I am definitely ending on a high note. And one other announcement. I am completely fucking with you. I am not closing down the Unapologetic Man Podcast, but I did make the decision to go down to one episode per week. I have 713 episodes. I have more than enough episodes for you guys to binge listen to if you are indeed disappointed.

1:10 I know a lot of you guys look forward to Mondays and Thursdays, but this is what I've decided to do so I can spend more time on my clients. I'm busier than ever. My clients are important to me. I take about eight to 10 hours to build each custom three-month NLP protocol, and I just don't have as much time anymore to put into the podcast, but I still will be dropping absolute bangers. In fact, my sincere goal and the goal of my podcast editor, Liam, is to make this shit even better.

1:38 So each Tuesday, Tuesday mornings is when I'm going to drop episodes. Look forward to new episodes that are going to be even better than anything that I've dropped, including this one. So this is my last Thursday episode. I got an absolute heavy hitter dropping on Tuesday. So please stay tuned for that, gentlemen. And this first technique is called the door-in-the-face technique. I actually just did it to you. You tell somebody really bad news, and then you say, no, I'm just kidding, and then you tell them slightly less bad news.

2:07 So some of you guys I know are going to be disappointed that I'm dropping down to one a week. So what I did is I basically told you, A, I'm stopping the podcast completely. So you had the emotional reaction, well, maybe some of you did, like three out of 3,000 did. We're like, fuck, dude, this guy's ending the podcast. I'm so bummed. And I was like, nah, man, I'm just kidding, dude. I'm just going down to one a week. And then me delivering the bad news seems like a lot less bad news compared to what I was pretending to deliver before I said the bad news.

2:35 And that's called the door-in-the-face technique. That's a bonus for you. But without further ado, gentlemen, let's jump into the content. The first one is one of my favorite things to do. And I learned this in copywriting, as well as being an NLP practitioner. It's called embedded commands. Embedded commands are commands that you embed in your language and tell to the person to get them to do something. For example, like me, you really enjoy the Unapologetic Man podcast. So what I said there is like me. The context, of course, was slightly different.

3:08 Like me, which means you are like me, but the mind also hears like me, like, please like me. You should like me. And I will use that in my language. In fact, when I was a copywriter, and I've even done it a little bit when I was starting this business, but I've since given it up because it's a little bit manipulative and I don't need to do that to get clients. But what I would do is I would use these embedded commands and I would send these in an email and I would make the color of the writing just one shade lighter than black.

3:39 And then with all the embedded commands, I would make them black. Things like like me, trust me, feel comfortable. And I would write the email and then turn all those embedded commands a slightly different color so that their subconscious mind sees it and then are more likely to do what I ask them to do. Another one, as I just mentioned, is feel comfortable. So feel comfortable to take your time to get back to me or feel comfortable to let me know if you have any questions.

4:06 This basically makes the person feel more comfortable around you. And these have been scientifically proven to work. So use these in your language with women. Like me, you really like the Denver Broncos or hey, feel comfortable to hit me up anytime or feel comfortable to go get yourself a glass of water. This is going to make her slightly more comfortable in your presence. I mean, it's minimal, right? These are little gains to accumulate into bigger gains, but these do work. So don't skip out on them.

4:33 Another one I like to do is don't fall in love with me now. Whenever you say don't in front of a sentence, the only thing the mind actually hears is what is after don't. So when you say don't fall in love with me now, what her subconscious mind is hearing is fall in love with me now. So you're like, Kelly, take it easy. Don't fall in love with me now. She's hearing fall in love with me now. And now is a really strong word in both copywriting as well as NLP, which is why people use it all the time.

5:02 Buy now. Act now. The word now gets people to act. And this is why we use it in NLP manipulation. And by the way, I don't really like that title, how to manipulate anybody, but it does get clicks. This is more like how to persuade anybody, how to convince anybody. And of course, we specifically apply it to women. So use those embedded commands in your language. By the way, I use such things as this in my NLP protocols. For example, pattern interrupts, NLP embedded commands, mirroring, and everything else that I'm about to teach you guys.

5:36 I use these in my custom three-month NLP protocols that I make for all my clients. I had a guy ask me the other day, he's like, well, I saw a guy advertising on Instagram, one of these products that basically pimps out my Instagram page. And then beautiful women are attracted to me and instinctively flocking like the salmon of Capistrano. And I was like, bro, that's fine. You can pimp out your Instagram page. And I actually teach how to do that in my program. But let me ask you this.

6:03 If you have this super pimped out Instagram page, if you're a local celebrity in your small city and you go out and you haven't worked on yourself removing belief systems such as girls are too good for me, I'm not enough, don't approach strange people, or the most important one, which I remove from all my clients' brains, which is what people think of me is really important, if you still have those meta programs running, if you haven't worked on your confidence in your game, I don't give a fuck how good your Instagram page is.

6:34 I don't care what kind of celebrity you are in your local city. If you don't have game and frame, you're going to get blown out so hard, your pants are going to launch off your fucking legs when the concussions hit. Pisses me off when I see these people on Instagram lying to you guys saying, dude, I'm going to teach you how to be a local celebrity and pimp out your Instagram page and you're going to get all these hot chicks. Yeah, right. The second they meet these guys who buy these programs and perhaps really do pimp out their page, they are going to blow them the fuck out, which is why it's so important that you work on yourself with NLP.

7:03 I will remove those belief systems from your brain that make you feel like you're not enough for that hot girl on Instagram. Sure, you could buy the pimp my Instagram package with whoever it is is slaying in that snake oil and it might work for you. But I want you to be wholly confident and wholly prepared when you meet this girl in person because I don't care how good your online presence is. If you don't have in-person game, it ain't going to work for you. Moving right along, boys.

7:29 Number two, mood anchoring. Anchoring is when you anchor an emotion into the prospect. Let's say in this case, women to relate back to the emotion they had when you anchored it. For example, she's on a really high note and you specifically touch her elbow and maybe even say something to anchor with verbiage such as, you're so funny or you're so cute. So she's laughing, she's having a good time. You touch her elbow and you're like, you're so cute. What you've done is you've anchored that emotion via the touch of her elbow.

8:04 And we use this in NLP such as, I want you to press your thumb as you think of this thing and you feel this emotion. And then I will have that press of the thumb relate to something else that we're trying to map inside of you. This is used in my processes such as Go Diva and Swish patterns, sometimes depending on who's doing it. But what you do, for example, is you touch her elbow and you say, you're so cute. And you laugh like that, or, oh my God, you're adorable.

8:25 Then when she's on a low note and, or when you want to ask for something that you think she might say no to, you touch her elbow. Immediately, those emotions that you anchored previously will come up inside of her, thus giving you a higher chance of getting success. So this is very easy, boys. Whenever the next girl you're seeing is on an emotional high note, she's laughing, she's feeling good, she's having a good time, touch her elbow or touch the small of her back or run your fingers through her hair.

8:54 Do something to anchor physically that feeling. And then the next time you want something from her or you want her to feel good, like maybe something's not going well and you just want to bring her state up, touch her elbow again, touch the small of her back, for example, run your fingers through her hair, whatever you did, and it'll anchor that state, bring the state back up, thus making her feel good and thus increasing the chances of you persuading her to do what you want her to do.

9:20 Number three, the double bind. This is very simple. In fact, a lot of you guys who have kids probably do this with your kids. And guys, I always do the kind of shit that I'm talking about with my daughter because it works on a six-year-old little girl just as it works on a 26-year-old girl. Women's minds work the same. I don't care what age they are. And this shit works across all ages and demographics. But basically the double bind is, do you want to hang out on Tuesday or Thursday?

9:49 As opposed to just saying, do you want to hang out? So you'd be like, hey, you know what? You seem pretty cool. I feel like we get along pretty well. What's your week looking like? Do you want to hang out on Tuesday or Thursday? Now, this isn't the only way I ask a girl to hang out. In fact, if you listen to my previous episode, how to get a girl's phone number, I give a lot of really good tips for how to do that. But the double bind is offering two options.

10:10 Do you want to do this or do you want to do this? When we go out, would you prefer sushi or do you want to go get steaks? My daughter, for example, hey, Lucia, do you want to wear this underwear or this underwear? When you give them two options, it makes them feel like they have power in the decision. Thus, they're less likely to resist you. If, in the example of a six-year-old girl, you're like, hey, little girl, put on your socks and you only give her one option for socks, she's going to resist that.

10:37 As opposed to saying, do you want the pink ones or the blue ones? And she's like, the pink ones. She'll put them on and acquiesce to your request. This is very powerful, not only in parenting, but also with seducing women. Number four, the pattern interrupt. I absolutely love this one, boys. This is so used in NLP. I use this all the time in my coaching. I use this all the time in emails and even VSLs, which are video sales letters. You want the person to arrive to your page and get an immediate pattern interrupt, which means interrupting their normal pattern of thinking.

11:09 And women, for example, who you're going to approach are in a pattern of thinking. This, by the way, is why they are oftentimes a little bit on their back foot when you first approach them. It's because you're interrupting their pattern of, say, scrolling through their phone or thinking about something. You're interrupting them. And the easiest pattern interrupt that I always use literally tens of thousands of times with every single girl I've opened is, hey, hey, real quick. Real quick means it's going to be fast. I'm interrupting her pattern and she's like, oh, what's going on?

11:43 And I've pattern interrupt the pattern of thinking that she was in. Another one is, hold on before you say anything. I have a thought about you. I feel like you speak to your dog in complete sentences, huh? So what I did is I approached her and I was like, hold on before you say anything. And that interrupts her pattern because pattern is she's going to reject the guy, right? She's going to be like, no, I'm not interested. Or what do you want? Another guy hitting on me.

12:10 I'll oftentimes say, hold on, hold on. Before you say anything, I get a feeling about you that you talk to your dog in full sentences, don't you? And oftentimes that'll interrupt the pattern. Make her laugh, which is also a pattern interrupt. Laughter is a pattern interrupt of boring thought, which is why women are attracted to funny men. Is if you can make her laugh, it shows intelligence. It interrupts her patterns and it puts her on an emotional high to which you can do what? That's right.

12:33 Anchor that high by touching her elbow, anchoring it and bringing it back later. Another example is after laughing and joking, when you guys are really having fun, you could interrupt the pattern of having fun and get really serious for a second and be like, you know, I kind of get the feeling about you that when you're laughing and having fun, you're just the happiest because you're not thinking about the future. You're not thinking about your past. You're just here in the present moment. That's true, huh?

13:03 And what that does is it puts her on that roller coaster of emotions. You don't always want women on a high note, just laughing and having fun. There has to be some serious moments. So oftentimes what I'll do is when we've been having fun and laughing a lot, I'll pattern interrupt the pattern of having fun and bring it to like a serious level where I'll do a cold read, which puts her on that roller coaster of emotions, which gets her more attracted to me. Another example is frame control.

13:24 Frame control is completely a pattern interrupt because they're trying to impose a frame, which is their pattern of thinking. You're trying to hit on me or you're cocky. I will interrupt that pattern, reframe it, thus doing a pattern interrupt and thus doing a reframe. Here's an example. She says, you're kind of cocky. And you say, that's true, but only in days ending with Y, which is an agree and amplify. Yes, I am cocky. In fact, I'm cocky every day of the week. And it's a little bit funny because you're saying, no, no, only on days that end in Y, which is too a pattern interrupt.

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16:02 All right. Finally, boys, one of my favorite ones is called the anchor gesture or nonverbal embedded commands. Remember embedded commands where I say, like me, trust me, feel comfortable. Don't fall in love with me now. Well, there's also physical embedded commands. And one of them is spinning your hand like this. And if you're listening on audio, what I'm doing is basically taking my right hand next to my right ear and I'm making a circle with my right hand. You could do it with your left hand next to your left hand too, but you're basically kind of making a circle and you're going to do this when you're making a point that she should agree with.

16:35 And here's something I often say using this technique when I fear that the girl's not going to want to have sex because she's prude or I can just feel that there's going to be some resistance. So what I'll often say is this and steal this if you want, leave it if you don't, totally up to you. But this is what I say. I'm like, oh my God, I got off the phone with my friend Laura this morning and she's been dating this guy for like a month.

17:00 They've went on six or seven dates and she really likes him and she's super attracted to him. And I asked her, have you slept with him yet? And she's like, no, I haven't. And I'll be like, why not? And she's like, I don't know. I just don't want to let him have it. And then I said to her, I was like, well, wouldn't you agree that like when you're dating somebody, you should probably sleep with them to get to know if they have sexual chemistry with you or not?

17:25 And when I was saying that, boys, for those of you listening on audio, I was spinning my hand, basically getting her to agree with my gesture because my hand spinning next to my head is emulating somebody nodding their head up and down, which means yes. So what I'm doing is I'm provoking her to nod her head yes to agree with me. But what I'm doing is telling a story about Laura, my friend who I just got off the phone with, and I'm saying it to this new girl who I'm also getting to agree with me.

17:56 And I might even pose it to the new girl. Let's call her Jessica. I'll be like, Jessica, wouldn't you agree that to like really get to know somebody, you really need to have sex with them to see if you have physical chemistry? I mean, wouldn't you agree with that? And as I'm doing that, she wants to unconsciously put her head yes and down saying yes. And then as I talked about in a recent episode, weaponizing cognitive dissonance, which is also an NLP mind hack. If she agrees with me in that instance, she's far more likely to go along with me if and when it's time for her and I to have sex.

18:28 So I will often do this when I can tell that I have a prudish girl was probably going to put up some resistance. I'll tell a story about my friend, Laurel, who, by the way, is a model. She's really pretty. She really likes this guy. He's trying to have sex with her, but she keeps kind of denying him. And I'm like, why are you doing that? Don't you agree that in order to really understand if you guys have chemistry, you need to have sex together? Wouldn't you agree with that?

18:51 As I'm spinning my hand, this will get her to nod yes, thus agreeing with me. And this reminds me of a psychological experiment of the guy who first came up with the theory of classical conditioning, which is basically like, if you do something that somebody else likes, they are going to reward you and you will keep doing that thing. So there was another professor who disagreed with his claim of classical conditioning. He's like, nah, that's not how it works. So what happened is the guy who proposed classical conditioning had a speech and he was going to be on stage.

19:23 And the guy who rejected classical conditioning was in the crowd. He was in the first row. So the guy who was on stage told his counterparts, he's like, look it, I'm going to prove to this idiot that classical conditioning works by making him do something via classical conditioning. Let me explain. So during his speech, every time the guy who denied him, who rejected his theory of classical conditioning would sit up straight in his chair, the guy on the stage who was given the speech and who was the guy who proposed classical conditioning would smile.

19:53 He'd be smiling and he'd be looking at the guy and like really giving him a lot of feedback. But every time the guy would like slouch in his chair, he would frown at him and kind of give him a bad look. So what happened throughout the speech? The guy started sitting up way more than he started slouching. So what the dude on stage did who proposed classical conditioning to the guy who rejected classical conditioning is he proved it to him by doing it to him. So don't ever deny that this shit works, boys.

20:22 When you agree with me and do everything that I say, everything is going to work out with you and you should also apply to my three-month coaching program because wouldn't you agree that it's the absolute best decision you can make with your investment to invest in yourself? I'll reprogram your brain. Wouldn't you agree that that'll probably work out really well for you to get more women as opposed to hiring some guy off Instagram is going to pimp your Instagram page and then you show up to the date with the girl and she's like, this dude's totally low value, doesn't know how to behave, doesn't know what to say, doesn't have the confidence.

20:53 Wouldn't you agree that it's actually better to work on yourself? I think I'd agree with that. And for those of you listening, obviously I was just spinning my hand next to my head that whole time, but this shit really works. Let's go over it one more time, boys. Number one, the bonus one, door-in-the-face technique, saying something super bad so you can deliver some slightly less worse news. Number two, embedded commands. Number three, mood anchoring, touching your elbow when you want her to feel a certain way.

21:18 Number four, the double bind. Do you want to sign up for my program today or do you want to go ahead and sign up for my program tomorrow? Giving them two options that they can only pick, just like when you give your little girl a pair of socks, you want to give her two options. The next one, number five, pattern interrupt. Hold on. Before you say anything, you're not the kind of girl who talks to her dog in complete sentences, are you? It interrupts her pattern, thus allowing you to get in to her psychology.

21:46 And the last one, boys, number six, I always over-deliver anchoring gestures, such as spinning your hand to get somebody to agree with you. And you are agreeing right now that this is the best podcast. You're going to leave a review. You're going to leave a comment. You're going to leave some positivity. Maybe email me and definitely sign up for my program because you know it's the right thing to do. Gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening. Please stay tuned on Tuesday. I'm going down to one episode per week, but they're all going to be bangers.

22:12 So stay tuned for that. And I will see you. That's right, boys. In the next episode, what is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review. You have no idea how much that helps me. Also, if you're struggling with women and you want to talk to me personally about how I can help you achieve your goals with women, sign up for my three-month coaching program below and you and I will talk.

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