10 Ways Women Play Games Over Text And My Word for Word Templates For How to Respond

0:00 In today's episode, I'm going to give you word-for-word templates and ways to respond when women play games over text, which they will do. We are going to go over today how to respond when she gives you one-word replies, when she takes forever to text back, when she leaves you on read, when she says maybe to a date, when she cancels on a date, when she suddenly goes cold, when she sends you emotional, accusatory texts, and when she gets mad at you for not texting her enough, when she gets relationshipy too fast.

0:30 And even when she sends you sexy, provocative pictures. Boys, we're going to go over a ton of concepts today. I'm going to give you word-for-word templates to use on these girls, so stay tuned. It's going to be a good one. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. How do you make an idiot say how? Got you, bro. I got you on that one. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. Do I have a good one for you today, boys? We're going to talk about all the games that girls play over text because don't get it twisted, you idiots.

1:02 These girls are totally playing games. You think they're not. You think that they might not be interested in you. They're pulling away because they're losing attraction. That isn't always the case. What they're doing is testing you, and this has been a huge theme in my podcast lately, especially my last podcast, about frame control. Because on October 10th at 2.30 p.m. Mountain Time, I am having a frame control masterclass. Everything you could ever want to know about frame control, including all the games that girls play, all the ways they're going to test you, all the reasons you haven't got attraction from women.

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3:16 All right, let's get into the content. All right. So the basic foundation of this podcast, as well as my previous podcast, which I highly suggest you listen to, is what? Frame control. We have to understand that we are the prize. We are the champion. She's chasing us. We have a line of girls around the corner who want to date us. We are the alpha. You need to make all your decisions through that framework. I'm the alpha. I'm the champion. Tons of girls want me. And even if it's not true, boys, even if you're lying worse than an American politician, you still have to portray that.

3:52 And actions speak louder than words. So you never say, you don't say, oh, all these girls want me. I mean, you might say it in a joking way, but you portray it through your actions. So what would you do if you were dating four girls? That's what I call the golden rule. Pretend you're wearing a bracelet on your arm that says, what would I do if I were dating four girls? In this situation, so she takes forever to reply. I'm asking you, what would you do if you were dating four girls and you're texting this chick and she's taking forever to reply?

4:22 You'd take forever to reply. You wouldn't match her reply times or even go beyond them. No big deal. You're not following up. The biggest rule about texting, and if you don't know this, then you truly are dumber than a suitcase full of buttholes, Theodore Roosevelt. The golden rule of texting is this. Never double text a chick. Never, under any circumstance, send her two texts unless you rifle them one after the other, right? It's like a completed thought. And in fact, that's a strategy that I teach in my three-month coaching program to make it look rushed.

4:54 We want to make our texts look rushed. We're not concentrating much. So yeah, maybe you'll send two in a row, but never like, did you see my last text? Or what did you think about my offer to go on a date with me? Never do that because you're dating four girls. Why would you need to follow up with this chick when you're dating four girls? So she takes forever to reply. You take the same amount of time or even longer. She sends you one word replies.

5:17 You send her some funny-ass text, right? Like you say, I can tell your therapist hasn't quite figured out your pill combination yet. And then she replies back with LOL. Like that's a pretty funny text, right? Most girls who would be attracted to you would laugh at that and say, no, your therapist hasn't figured out your pill combination yet. Which is like female humor, right? They're so not funny. But like no effort, just one word reply. What would you do? You're dating four other girls. That's right.

5:46 Check out the brain on you. You would not reply. You would drop off. You would push her away, which is a big concept of frame control. You don't need this girl. You're pushing girls away. You're dating four other girls. So it's always filtered through that context, isn't it? What would I do if I were dating four other girls? And she sends me a one-word reply to something that was pretty damn funny. I wouldn't reply back until she replied back. She has to double text. And if she doesn't, you're done.

6:15 See, this is called the drop rule in my coaching. I am willing to drop you like a bad habit faster than you can shit or go blind. Why? Again, because I got tons of girls who want to date me. And when you do that, boys, you think like, oh, I'm pushing her away. So she's not going to come back. Here's the thing. They do come back. And if they don't come back, then they definitely weren't going to come back if you chased them. So really, oftentimes pushing them away and being willing to drop them is the only move.

6:46 Now, obviously, her response rate, her attraction for you over texting is largely dictated by that first conversation. If you didn't have frame control in that first conversation, if she tested you, which all women will do to you in the first conversation, I'm telling you, brother, the next time you get in a conversation with a girl, she's probably testing you in frame control ways that you don't even notice. Why would you not come to this masterclass where I'm going to tell you all the ways she's going to do it so you can identify it and best react to it?

7:17 So you're in the first conversation and she kind of tests you. You fail the test because you didn't even see it. You're a knuckle dragging gorilla who's completely oblivious to these kinds of tests. So you didn't see it. So now when you're texting with her, you send something really funny, but her attraction isn't really there. So she tests you by doing a one word reply. You're willing to drop her, man. You're willing to push her away. And I'm going to tell you what to do if you and her don't text for two weeks.

7:42 So stay tuned for that. She says, maybe to a date. You're like, Hey, what are you up to Thursday night? We should hang out. She's like, yeah, maybe. What would you do to that? That's right, man. You're starting to get this. You wouldn't chase. You wouldn't try to sell it to her. You would say something along the lines of, I don't make plans with maybe. Let me know when you graduate to a yes. Or you might say, you know what? All good. I'll make other plans.

8:05 If you decide you're in, let me know and I'll see if I'm still free. You see the context of that? It's like, what would I do if I were a rock star? What would I do if I were a famous actor? And a girl's like, maybe. You'd be like, all right, I'll make other plans. I'll let you know if I'm free if and when you decide you want to hang out. Or I don't deal with maybe. If you graduate to a yes, and I love that so much.

8:28 If you graduate to a yes, let me know. You see the context of that? It's all in frame control. You're the prize, man. And I really want to get this in your guys' heads. And some of you will never believe it, no matter how many times I tell you, because you're podcast jockeys and you have metaprogramming in your head that tells you you're not enough. So it's like you physically cannot behave this way, no matter how hard you try. But that's the concept, right? I'm the prize.

8:53 I'm the champion. I'm the girl magnet. All right, the next one. You're texting with a girl and she leaves you on read. And this has happened to a ton of you guys. Why? Not enough attraction. But we can get enough attraction if we behave correctly. So what you do there is called the black hole template. And this is the same thing you do when she's being ho-hum and you're deciding to do a tactical push. A tactical push is she's not really replying right or she left you on read.

9:21 You are the last one to text. You can't follow up. So what do you do? What you do is you wait two weeks and you send her the black hole template, which goes like this. So I was talking to this pretty cool girl, but I think she got sucked into a black hole. I hope she's okay. Dot, dot, dot. Now, is the black hole template that great? Yes, it's really great because you know what? It has an 80% reply rate. But it's not the words themselves, although there are a few NLP elements in there.

9:50 It's not the words themselves. It's the two weeks. You willing to drop her, to walk away, to not chase, as so many other guys do. What is that? It's frame control. It's knowing I'm the prize. I'm not buying into your frame, which is you getting me to try to chase you. And don't get it twisted, boys. These chicks play games. They totally play games or she's just not really that interested. So you waiting two weeks and then following up pings her brain and flips an attraction hot switch, which is basically, oh, oh yeah, this guy, this guy I was talking to, he didn't chase me?

10:24 Wait, it was two weeks ago we talked? Oh, he must be high value. Oh, suddenly I'm emotionally feeling more attracted to him. So if they do stuff where they're being ho-hum, giving one word answers, or leaving you on red, which is so disrespectful, right? What you do is you wait two weeks and you hit them with the black hole template. And this also goes into the concept of what do you do when she flakes on a date? The most disrespectful thing, and a lot of you guys can relate to this.

10:51 I've had it happen to me dozens of times, is you're going on a date. You show up to the venue and she calls you 10, 15 minutes, 20 minutes before. And you're like, oh my God, dude, here we go again. And she's like, I'm sorry, I have projectile diarrhea that sprang out of my butthole and launching a 50-foot rope of it into your morning coffee because I have to flake. Can we do it a different time? God, it's frustrating. And I know a lot of you guys feel my pain.

11:18 You feel my pain and you renew it with a renewed sense of outrage because it's so disrespectful. So here's what you do. She calls you. This is the technique when she calls you. She calls you. You drop it into voicemail and then you quickly send her a text. What's up? She makes her excuse, right? My grandma got unceremoniously launched out of a fucking catapult into the Atlantic Ocean. My cat got thrown into the microwave and is now frying. I got to fix her. I left the door open on my bathroom.

11:49 You're like, oh my God, this is the most ridiculous excuse. What you reply with is what? What would you reply with? If she made an excuse, would you do what a lot of guys do? Which is like, oh, it's okay. I'm sorry to hear about your grandma getting launched into the Atlantic Ocean. Fuck no. You'd reply with two letters, okay, and then never text her again until she starts apologizing, until she starts suggesting a different time and day for the date that you guys have. She needs to chase you.

12:17 It's not cool to cancel that close to the date. And you do the same thing over texting. Oh, I'm sorry. I was launching ping pong balls out of my vagina because it's my job on Tuesday nights and one got stuck in there and I got to go to the ER. Okay, like you're clearly lying, okay? So, okay. And until you follow up, until you chase, we ain't fucking talking anymore. Now, if it's a legitimate emergency, right? Like her grandma died or her fucking friend got in a car accident and lost her leg, right?

12:46 You don't want to be like, okay. You want to be like, oh, I'm so sorry to hear that. Absolutely. Go take care of your friend. Hit me up when you want to chat again, right? It's not needy. You're not chasing. You're not trying to reschedule. It's like, yeah, go take care of your friend. Hit me up when you're ready to talk again. That's going to get more attraction. So, you have to be obviously socially savvy and know kind of what's going on before you do your reply.

13:08 But if it's some obvious lie, like she just doesn't want to come out with you and she's lying about it, then it's an okay. Or sometimes I'll just leave it on read, depending on how disrespectful it actually is. All right. The next one, boys, is she suddenly goes cold after being very warm. Now, before we get into that one, why haven't you grabbed your ticket to the masterclass yet? I'm fucking with you, bro. You're like, oh my God, this guy's going to launch into another tirade about his masterclass.

13:35 No, I won't. Okay. I'm not going to do that. But really, why haven't you gotten your ticket yet? Come on, man. You know I deliver the goods. Don't be so cheap that 97 bucks prevents you from getting my premium content. Go get your fucking tickets, you sea donkey. Somewhere your future wife is praying for you to be single and not pulling the hot girls that she is. And somehow it's working. You need to invest in yourself to get the premium content. Go get your ticket. There's one link in the description below.

14:03 Click it. Grab your ticket. Believe me, I am going to blow you away. I don't want people asking for refunds. I'm going to give you my creme de la creme material. All right. I'm overselling. Let's get back into the content. Okay. So she suddenly goes cold after being very warm. What you want to do, obviously, is pull back. Okay. Because she's pulling back. She's going cold. You have to match that. No matter how bad you want to be like, well, what about the great connection we had?

14:25 Or what about how we were in the cuddle shuttle and we were admitting to each other all our biggest dreams and desires and how sometimes I get dressed up on the weekends as a woman and masturbate with the dildo stuck up my butt. Why isn't it that we're connecting anymore? Why are you going cold? She could be playing games. She could have met somebody else, lost interest, but your actions are always the same. You're not thirsty. You're not needy. Now, obviously, and this takes social calibration.

14:50 If you feel like she's going cold because she likes you way more than you like her and you don't want to lose her, there's ways to deal with that. But we're specifically dealing with the frame control question of, is this a game? So if she likes you and she's still playing games to try to get you to chase her, you should wait longer than the time it took for her to reply back to you and hit her with something that builds your streak. For example, I just realized something about you, dot, dot, dot.

15:20 And she's like, oh, what's that? And then you do a cold read on her. I realized that the inside of you is really kind, but the outside of you has this whole tough girl, don't mess with me vibe. And by the way, boys, I just did a dedicated podcast about this a few weeks ago. So listen to that if you haven't yet, gangster level shit, cold reading. Or you could say, I just realized something about you, dot, dot, dot. And she says, what's that? And you say, there's so many good things about you and just one bad.

15:46 Now I'm going to tell you a technique here that you could use. And again, there's so many contingencies. It's way better if we work together and I could just tell you what to say. But let's say, for example, she's being really boring, really one word answer-ish. She's just being lackluster when it comes to the texting. Okay, either she's playing games or she's losing interest. But if you think she still has interest, then you could do what I just said, build an intrigue thing. You say, for example, I just realized something about our conversation, dot, dot, dot.

16:17 And guys, that right there, that building intrigue text is gangster. If you say, I just realized something about you, do it on your best friend today. Do it on your mom today and watch them react. They're going to be like, oh, what did you realize? Because everybody's favorite topic is themselves. What's in it for me with them? They just want to know what's in it for themselves. So you can send that and you could either say, there's so many good things about you and just one bad.

16:42 Or if you feel like she needs a pull, which means you're pulling her into you, there's this one thing you do that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you what it is because then you'll stop doing it. Gangster level shit. Again, though, you have to make sure that she's really into it and that takes calibration. But let's say she's gone cold and you feel like maybe she's losing interest. Okay. So what you do is be like, I just realized something about our conversation and she'll probably say, what's that?

17:08 And then what you're going to do is you're going to roll the dice and say something that might piss her off, but also shows her just what a slacker she's been and will oftentimes get them back into it. Because here's the deal. If they're starting to go cold, right? Like she was warm. You did something wrong. Maybe you went on a date with her and you lost some frame or she tested you over texting. You didn't react correctly. There's a myriad of things that could have gone wrong, most likely because of your lack of frame control because you're not coming to my masterclass.

17:37 So she's going cold. Then you say, I just realized something about our conversation. You're about to throw the dice. You might lose her here, but oftentimes you'll get her back because you're showing her one of the biggest frame control concepts, which is I'm not to be fucked with. So you're like, I just realized something about our text. And she's like, what's that? You say texting with you is a great new way. I just discovered to fall asleep, which basically tells her shit or get off the pot.

18:05 Or you say, so, hey, Kelly, guess what? And she's like, what? And you say, my back is killing me. Want to know why? And she's like, why? From carrying this conversation. Now, again, she might get mad, but at the same time you're showing her, I'm not going to be fucked with. I'm not going to placate to you, dance for you, send you funny texts and have you respond with these low effort replies. So my back is killing me because I'm carrying this conversation. Now, again, you have to decide, is she going cold because she's playing games and she wants more from me?

18:38 If she does, I'm going to give her a little bit of that because she's butthurt. I already have her more invested in me. She likes me more than I like her. So I have a poll that's available to me. You do this one thing that's so cute, but I don't want to tell you what it is because then you'll stop doing it. Maybe that's the pull she needs to feel good and feel confident that you do like her and then gets her back in the conversation.

19:02 Or if, on the other hand, you deem she's just playing games, then you could throw that dice that I just said, my back is killing me. Want to know why? From carrying this conversation. All right, guys, we got four more to go and we're already 25 minutes in. So I got to get on my horse here, get the pop back in my giddy up. So let's get back to it. All right, so she sends an emotional accusatory text. That word is so hard to pronounce, accusatory text.

19:27 For example, you obviously don't give a shit about me. You ignored me all night last night and I'm sick of your games. You're such an asshole. You're like, oh my hell, here we go again, dude. The emotional text. So this is what I'd say to that. Kelly, I'm happy to talk to you about what's been bothering you, but I'm not going to have a conversation when you're speaking to me like that. Take a little time to cool down and when you're calm, we can jump on a phone call.

19:55 It's way too easy to misunderstand each other over text. Okay, so again, guys, social calibration. It's not always push them away, not to be fucked with, always joking and making these frame control flips on them. Sometimes you have to understand why is she emotional? Because she likes you, man. And you didn't text with her. She's getting emotional. But you have to set a boundary. And this is still frame control. My boundary is I'm not going to be talked to you like that. Cool down, calm down, drop it down a gear, don't come unpeeled, stand down, Sergeant Hader, and we will talk on the phone when you've cooled down.

20:32 I'm not going to be spoken to like that. And then when I get on the call with her, I'll be like, hey, listen, I don't accept being talked to like that. So here's your chance to apologize. And honestly, she's called you an asshole. She has to apologize for that. But you're calm. You're cool. You're in control. You're on what I call your inner balance point. You're never emotional because a guy getting emotional is going to make her lose attraction for you. It shows you have a weak sense of reality.

20:56 So you're cool, calm, and collected. But dude, I'm not going to be talked to you like that. And honestly, if it happens again, we're going to part ways. Okay, so go ahead and tell me what you're thinking. What's going on? And then explain to her. Hey, listen, I probably aren't going to text with you as much as you want me to. If that's a deal breaker for you, then maybe we should part ways. I'm busy. I have things going on. I just don't like to text that much.

21:18 This is how I am. If you don't like it, there's the door. Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you. Kick rocks with your head down, you fucking sea bass. And that's the vibe. This is how I am. If you accept it, cool. We're going to have a great time. If you don't accept it, that's cool too. But we should probably part ways. All right, boys, the next one. She gets mad at you for not texting her enough. First, you can joke and say, ah, you miss me?

21:43 That's adorable. Or wait, have you been sitting there staring at your phone waiting for my text to come in? Or careful, keep this up. And I'm going to start thinking you have a crush on me. Now, again, you have to calibrate. Like, is she mad at me because she really likes me? If so, maybe we should get on a call. And I say, hey, let's take it slow. And this is actually what I'm going to get into in the next one. She gets relationshipy too fast.

22:07 All you guys have had that, or most of you had. Good morning, Tex. Good night, Tex. What are you thinking about, Tex? Pictures of her clam chop, super honed in. And you're like, what is that bat cave? Oh, my hell. It looks like a clam that's going to grab my face and murder me. So, again, if she's like really sending you texts where she's getting relationshipy, you may have to say, hey, listen, relationships that start fast and end fast. I want to take it slow. I feel like we're kind of going a little bit fast, so let's drop it down a gear.

22:37 But you can also say, hey, I'm starting to think you might get a crush on me. And that might be enough to kind of back her down a little bit. But when it comes to girls who are trying to, like, lock you down, get relationshipy, that term, relationships that start fast and end fast. And the term, I feel like you need to change with somebody before you can really get to know them. So, I like to take it slow and see where it goes. If that's a deal breaker for you, totally fine.

23:02 Just let me know and we will part ways. Guys, I have sent that to probably hundreds of chicks, backs them down every single time. And that's the framework when she sends you an emotionally relationshipy text too quickly, right? She might say, why didn't you tell me where you were? Are you seeing other girls? And then just, like, launches a snot rocket onto the floor. You're like, listen, I'm enjoying this too, but I like letting things develop naturally rather than forcing relationship expectations onto it too quickly.

23:32 Okay? So, you're setting boundaries. Another one you could say is, listen, I like you, but we're not at the relationship accountability stage yet. Let's not rush something that's going well. Let's take it slow and see where it goes. So, again, you might have to back her down. And, again, too, this might warrant a phone call. It's about calibration, but you have your boundaries. Do exactly what you want, brother. If you want to smoke, smoke. If you're a guy who drinks a lot and it pisses off girls, be who you are.

23:58 Now, obviously, when it comes to smoking and drinking, I'm always about self-improvement. Let's be honest. Those things are not good for your health, and it's probably best you do drop them. But if, for example, you're really into football and you get your face painted and she thinks it's lame, own that frame. Don't change to accommodate her. Set your boundaries. You are who you are. And while you'll be open-minded to changing those things that are bad for your health or things that are very obviously toxic, you make no apologies about who you are.

24:28 You do what you like to do, and you are who you are, and you love and accept yourself. That's frame control. And the last one, boys, she sent you a provocative, sexy picture. I want to end this on a good note. What do you do to that? Do you say, oh, like, no big deal. I get those all the time. No, because dealing with women is a lot like dog training. And I know it's a slightly derogatory example, but it's a good example because if she does what you want, she gets rewarded.

24:55 If she does what you don't want, she gets punished, such as sending a boring text. The punishment is you pulling away. So if she sends a provocative text of her clam chop, super zoomed in, you mistaking it for a bat cave, but realizing that she wants you to become her next stinky pinky, what do you do to that? You fucking reward it. You say yes in capital letters. That turns me on so much right now. I'm actually in public, and I'm kind of starting to get a boner.

25:22 So please stop texting me those. Guys, that technique right there has gotten me so many sexy pictures I can't even tell you. Hey, don't send me sexy pictures because I'm at Starbucks right now. And if I get a boner, the fucking table is going to start lifting up and flip over, and I'm going to be super embarrassed. Oh, he's going to be embarrassed, picture after picture after picture. So understanding female psychology, understanding frame control on what to do when these women test you, which they will, is paramount to your success with women.

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