7 Reasons Why Disappointing People Makes You More Attractive to Women

0:00 I want you to think about somebody who's a people pleaser. Somebody who will do just about anything not to be disliked by people. How do you feel about that person? They kind of annoy you, don't they? Why is it that when people are disingenuous, when they're actually afraid to disappoint people, you like them less? And why is it that women get more attracted to guys who aren't afraid to disappoint people? In today's episode, I'm going to give you seven really powerful reasons as to why this is, as well as tactile tips for you to behave differently with women so that you can demonstrate this level of frame control, being not afraid to disappoint people.

0:38 This is going to be a good one, boys. Let's get into the content. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What's another way to explain coming inside a woman? Loading the dishwasher. Relax, everybody. Honestly, if that pissed you off and you got emotional about it, you have an extremely weak frame, I suggest you work on that. For the rest of you boys, you can actually take a joke. What is up, gentlemen? Welcome to another episode of the Unapologetic Man Podcast, a podcast that's so bad, it's good. Today, I'm going to talk about seven reasons why disappointing people, being willing to disappoint people, actually makes women more attracted to you.

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4:06 What could I be saving in this masterclass that could be the differentiating factor that will get you where you are now to where you actually want to be with women? This is it, boys. This is your last opportunity. And again, the price goes up starting tomorrow. So shit or get off the pot. The link is in the description below. The Frame Control Masterclass, where I am going to turn you into an absolute frame control master. Get your ticket right now. All right, boys. So as I said in the beginning, why is it that people who are disingenuous, people pleasers, don't want anybody to not like them, kind of annoy you?

4:40 Because just that reason, they are disingenuous. They don't believe in themselves. They are essentially insecure. And when somebody behaves this way, doing just about anything for you to like them, it rubs you the wrong way because you feel like they're not being truthful. You feel like they're essentially a liar. If, on the other hand, they're willing to disappoint you, they're willing to be who they are, they're not apologizing for what they like and what they do, which is exactly why I named this the Unapologetic Man Podcast, you respect them.

5:06 And you know that you're going to get the truth from them. You know that they're not trying to get something out of you. They're not trying to manipulate you. This is how it is. I'm going to tell you exactly what I think. And if you don't like it, then kick rocks with your head down. It's the same thing with my product, right? I believe in my three-month coaching program. I believe in the Frame Control Masterclass. So even though some people get butthurt about how I advertise, and by the way, me advertising my own shit means I'm not trying to sell you penis pills or somebody else's penis enlargement product, which I get people pitching me all the time.

5:40 Hey, can you sell my strap-on dildo that goes on your forehead so you can blaster from behind with your fucking head? I don't pitch that shit to you guys. But I'm also not apologizing about what I do pitch. Hey, guys, honestly, if you and I were in a room together, I'd tell you, this is how I make my living, man. I got a family. I got a wife. I got a kid. I'm not making apologies for it. That I'm pitching what I fucking believe in. And I think that's why a lot of you guys respect me because I don't care what you think.

6:05 If you like me or if you hate me, I don't care. It's about what I think of myself. I'm internally validated, which gets respect from people. When you meet somebody whose opinion of themselves is more important to them than all the negative opinions outside themselves, they get your respect. So the first one is this. You simply don't need everybody's approval because you know you can't get everybody's approval. So you eventually get to the point where you're like, look, this is what I like. This is who I am.

6:32 This is what I believe. And if somebody doesn't like it, that's fine. They can have their beliefs, but I'm going to be who I am and I don't need your approval. I'm not going to do you favors and blow smoke up your ass, try to manipulate you to like me. And that gets respect not only from other people, but especially from women. If you're willing to let a woman not like you, if you're willing to say something that disappoints her, she's actually going to get more attracted to you because of it.

6:58 And so many guys go on first dates or they're on the dating apps and they're so careful, like, oh, I don't want to offend her. I want her to like me. They'll even change their own views just to get this chick to like them. But again, that shows you're disingenuous. You're weak in your own reality and you're trying to get her approval. So not trying to get her approval is step one. And it's extremely attractive. Step two, you're willing to lose the outcome. You don't care if it goes good.

7:23 You don't care if it goes bad. What does that show? It shows that you have options. It shows that you have lots of girls who want to date you. So you're willing to say stuff. You're willing to do things. You're willing to fart in front of her. Did you guys ever listen to my episode? It was like three years ago. Why you should fart in front of women. This was the basic concept. It wasn't necessarily about farting in front of them. And of course, you don't want to let out the Dell beef burrito fart that stinks up the whole car on the first date.

7:52 But at the same time, a little toot, a little trumpet, a little right. It's kind of funny and it shows you don't give a shit. This is why I'll blow my nose in front of them. This is why I'll say, oh, I like how I'm kind of getting some belly fat. It's keeping me warm during these cold winter months. That's actually a line that I say to show her I don't give a fuck about the outcome. I'm not trying to impress you, which sub communicates that you have options, Theodore Roosevelt.

8:17 So be willing for it to go bad. Be willing to say some shit that disappoints her and you'll get more attraction in the process. Because again, it's all about the sub communication. It's all about what's communicated beneath the communication. Number three, it shows that you can handle emotional pressure or social pressure. What is social pressure? Social pressure is when you approach an attractive woman, she's so hot and or there's people listening to you and or she's with her friends that are all kind of scrutinizing you and you're unaffected.

8:49 You act completely naturally. This, of course, is derived from your willingness to drop the outcome, your willingness to disappoint and your belief in yourself. Do I believe that I'm the prize? Do I believe that I'm a champion? Yes, I do. So there's no pressure there because I'm not trying to generate an outcome. I don't give a fuck what happens. So I'm willing to disappoint. I'm willing to be who I am. I'm willing to make a joke that might piss somebody off. Like, you know what's wrong with your underwear?

9:20 And she's like, what? And you're like, it's not in my mouth. Just came boys. You wouldn't want to say that. I mean, maybe jokingly. See, it depends. But I'm willing to say that to a girl if she knows I'm fucking around, right? Like I'm very clearly not being creepy about it. Like just walking up all creepy, like Gary fingers, like, you know what's wrong with your underwear? It's not in my mouth. She's like, oh my God, get away from me. But if I'm messing around with her, I'm busting her chops and she knows that she's attracted to me and I'm attracted to her and we're flirting and we're at that level, I might be willing to say something like that.

9:48 I literally slept with a girl who, when I walked by her, I said, hey, tuck in your butt. It's going to trip somebody walking by. And she was super offended in the beginning, but I laughed and I was like, I'm just messing with you. Later, I circled back around. I opened her again and it went well. Now, again, this takes an immense amount of social calibration. It takes that wry smile on your face. You're just fucking around. But ultimately she's thinking, he's willing to say that to me?

10:18 How many options does this guy have as hot as I am and he's willing to say that to me? He must have a lot of options. Ooh, suddenly I'm attracted to him. So you can handle the emotional pressure. You're cool with things going wrong. You don't give a fuck. You're unapologetic. And again, that's why I named this the unapologetic man army. Number four, your words actually mean something. If you say yes, it's a genuine yes. You're not trying to placate, get something or be manipulative. People know that your no is no.

10:42 People know that your yes is yes. You're completely and utterly transparent. Here's how I feel. If you don't like it, I'm sorry. I can't help you with that. Think about that. If you don't like what I just said, I can't help you with that, man. Now as a quick warning about this, there are a lot of guys who take this to mean, oh, I'm just going to screw people over. And if they don't like it, it's their problem. You have to have balance. And I think a lot of you guys listening are intelligent enough to decipher that, right?

11:14 It's the social intelligence. But ultimately, if I like, for example, the Denver Broncos and you're like, oh, the Denver Broncos suck. Or more importantly, a hot girl who's from New York, who, by the way, I just met a girl like this in a nightclub the other night. She was all into the Buffalo Bills. And she's like, oh my God, I can't believe you like the Broncos. In that instance, I'm going to be willing to bust her chops a little bit. I'm going to be willing to mess with her.

11:39 But again, guys, don't be an outright dick and justify it by saying it's frame control. Always calibration. But ultimately, your words actually mean something. She knows that if you say yes to something, it's not because you're trying to get something. It's because you want to do it. She invites you to a concert. You're willing to say no to that. But if you say yes, she knows, okay, he's actually into this. Number five, and this is a good one. And by the way, stay tuned, boys, because while I told you I'd give you seven, I'm actually going to give you nine.

12:09 I always over deliver, just like I'm going to do this weekend in my frame control masterclass. I want to impress you. I want to blow you away so that you come work with me. I'm not going to lie. That's why I do what I do. I want to show you that my content is so good that if you actually invest in yourself, it's going to take you up levels upon levels upon levels. I want to be that different kind of coach who isn't just trying to nickel and dime you and get your money, but I want to leave you better from having worked with me.

12:35 And I'm going to do that this weekend. So also stay tuned in this episode because I got two extra bonuses that you don't want to miss. So number five, you will not abandon yourself to keep a woman. You're not going to change your attitudes. You're not going to change your beliefs. You're not going to change anything about yourself just to keep her. If she suggests something that you change and you deem that it's a good way for you to get to the next level, such as her suggesting, hey, you really should go to that frame control masterclass.

13:03 The way you lead me isn't really that attractive. You might want to learn to get better. You should go to the frame control masterclass. And instead of just disagreeing with her, just because you think that disappointing her is going to make her more attracted to you, you can also take her advice and say, you know what? It's a good idea. I should invest in myself. Mark Singh always delivers and he's going to deliver this weekend. And listen, if I don't love it, I get my money back.

13:23 So there's absolutely no risk. Okay. I will buy that ticket. And that's what it is, is you're not willing to abandon yourself, but it's always through your filters. Do I like what this person said? Yeah, I actually do like that. Okay, let's go ahead and do what you suggested. And that's frame control. It's your filters, your reality, but you're willing to move it based on how you feel about what the person says or suggests. Number six, you are difficult to manipulate. You're not going to do what you don't want to do.

13:56 You're not going to be who you don't want to be. You are who you are. You cannot be manipulated and people respect that. Think about a guy who is deeply seated in who he is. Yeah, he's going to annoy you sometimes. Like maybe it's a family member of yours or a workmate. Yeah, they're going to disappoint you sometimes, but you respect them. See, getting women's respect is more important than getting them to like you, like your personality or feel that you're agreeable that, oh, this guy's great to hang out with.

14:25 See, that kind of guy is the dude she's going to friend zone, but the dude who she's going to have sex with is the dude who will disappoint her sometimes, who will frustrate her sometimes, who honestly she doesn't always completely like, but she does respect him. And remember, respect is more important than liking when it comes to attracting women. Number seven, and remember to stay tuned for the last two. I got two bonus ones. Number seven is you communicate your standards, your boundaries without aggression. You do not get emotional.

14:58 You do not get butt hurt. You do not lash at people, insult people, get angry, fight in the nightclub, get pissed off in traffic, flip people off, get emotional. Because what is that? It means that life is throwing you off what I call your inner balance point. You have a point inside yourself that's balanced. And if life is throwing you to and fro, if you get emotional, if you get angry, which honestly, I too sometimes get angry, I'm not perfect, but I'm always trying to keep calm and composed.

15:30 Where somebody has an emotional reaction to me, I'm not going to react to it. I'm not going to stoop down to their level. I'm not going to let them get me off my composure, my frame. I had a female recently lash out at me over text. I just didn't reply. I completely and utterly cut her off. I'm not interacting with you. If you're going to talk to me like that, you're done. And she knows she's done. She knows she fucked up. Who's the bigger person in that interaction?

15:54 She insulted me. She lashed out at me and I didn't respond. Who quote unquote won that interaction? I did, obviously, because I didn't stoop to that level. I didn't go into calling her names and getting emotional and like, oh, you said this and that. I'm going to call you this and that. No, you don't even get to interact with me. And that's communicating strengths without aggression. I'm not going to get put off my inner balance point. You cannot affect me. My life is so good. I'm one of life's big winners.

16:22 I don't even need to interact with this energy. Say what you will about the Obamas. Okay, I don't give a shit about your opinion. I can't remember if it was Michelle or Barack, but they said when they go low, you go high. Right? They go low, you go high. And that's communicating strengths without aggression. You're not going to get me off my inner balance point. Nothing you can say will change my internal state. That's frame control. All right. And number eight, boys, you are so seated in who you are.

16:54 You are so confident about what a champion you are. You love yourself so much that rejection no longer intimidates you. That's right, guys. Ultimate frame control is, I don't care if you reject me because your opinion of me doesn't matter. What you think of me is none of my business, which is literally my favorite book title I've ever seen. What you think of me is none of my business. And you rejecting me, you didn't reject me. You reject my approach. You reject me because you have issues.

17:20 Your filter is broken. You don't see the championhood that stands before you. And frankly, I feel better that I just had the balls to approach you. I don't give a fuck about the outcome. I don't care how you react. I can't control how you react. For all you know, guys, she could be a lesbian. She just broke up with her boyfriend. You're not her type, right? I'm a white dude. She's obsessed with black dudes. That's just her archetype. No matter what I do, she's not going to give me a chance.

17:47 That just may be the way it is. And you don't know what's going on in her life. So why take it personally? I always just walk away thinking like, oh, her filter is broken. I don't even think she's an idiot because that's like an emotional reaction, right? I'm just like, okay, her filter doesn't work good. She didn't see what was in front of her. All good. Next. That's true frame control. You're not affected by the outcome. You're not affected by rejection, what people think of you.

18:13 You don't need their approval because you approve yourself. My ultimate goal when I work with guys in my three-month coaching program is simple. Get them to fall in love with themselves again, just like they did when they were three years old and they would go up to anybody, talk to anybody, unapologetic, wholly about who they were. That's your original self-esteem before other people came and messed you up, before other people gave you their garbage, their metaprograms, their traumas, their fears, that you wanting to be in rapport with them because you're just a little boy, you need to be protected.

18:46 You wanted to be in rapport with them. So you bought into their belief systems, but whose belief system is that? It's probably your great, great, great grandfathers who got rejected by somebody, took it personally, gave it to his son, to his son, to his son. And now it's yours. You're carrying around this load of crap from fricking 1860 that has nothing to do with you. Yet you keep hitting print on a printer and spitting out the same results. Frame control is essentially loving yourself, believing in your reality, and not letting other people push you around, get you emotional, and definitely not changing who you are to try to get them to like you.

19:26 You don't care if they like you. And when you do that, more people are going to like you, ironically. The last one, number nine, you have boundaries. And this sums up everything we've been talking about. You are unapologetic. You are not going to let people treat you the way that you don't want to be treated. You're going to do what you do. You're going to like what you like. You're going to be who you are without apology. And that's boundaries. If you cross those boundaries, just like that girl did the other day, you're not even getting a reaction from me.

19:53 You're done. You're out of my reality because I'm surrounding myself with people, circumstances, belief systems that are conducive to the success that I want. And that's having boundaries, boys. If a girl crosses your boundaries, as we're going to talk about this weekend in the frame control masterclass, you're going to know exactly what to say, exactly what to do to let her know that you are not to be fucked with, that you will drop her without a moment's hesitation. And in so doing, she's going to get more attracted to you.

20:26 So come on, bro. Reach the seventh level of consciousness. Join us in this frame control masterclass. You can see how much I believe in it and how much I believe in myself. I am going to take you to the highest possible level of frame control. You absolutely do not want to miss this. There's one link in the description below. Price goes up tomorrow. I mean, what's your other plan, brother? You're just going to keep being a podcast jockey? You're going to pray? You're going to go to our lady of the worthless miracle and think that that's going to change your daily life?

20:57 Brothers, I promise you, if you invest in yourself, I'm going to make it worth it. And if it's not, I will refund your money. So get your ticket right now. One link in the description below. Guys, I super appreciate you listening. And for you champions who have grabbed your ticket, can't wait to see you this weekend. It's going to be you, me, and a small group of other men. And we are going to become frame control masters. Let all the other guys make mistakes with women.

21:21 The rest of us are going to get the success that we truly desire. For you guys, thank you so much. I can't wait to blow you away in this two-hour masterclass. All right, gentlemen, thank you so much for listening. I drop podcast every Tuesday. So I will see you in the next episode.

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