Top 7 Mistakes Killing Your Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble Game (Most Guys Do #3)

0:00 Like on Tinder, you have to put like a little about me section or like a little quote. Here are some ones that have been working well. The last one really works well. My dream girl is Traylor Swift. That's had a lot of good reactions. You're being picked up on this app so much, you're starting to grow handles. That one's been liked a lot. I'm a famous ass model. No, you may not pinch my butt. Next one is don't introduce me to your dog or cat because they'll fall in love with me and beg me to adopt them from you.

0:30 This is also a good first message for those girls who have dogs and cats and one that has been absolutely killing it is not here for hookups. I'm not that kind of girl. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I super appreciate you joining me on this one. I am going to over-deliver, boys.

1:08 I'm going to give you so many good things to say to women, things to message them, things to say in your prompts, ways to answer questions. So stay tuned until the very end because this is a gangster episode that I have been preparing for literally the last four months. Four months, you say? Yes. Four fucking months. And here's what we did. What I've found in my life is that researching things and beta testing things, especially when it comes to women, is the most important thing you can do to get the results that you're after.

1:40 So here's what we did. I literally handpicked 11 different veterans of my program to test and validate with me thousands of different messages to send on the dating apps, thousands of different prompts, thousands of different answers to the questions that girls ask, as well as thousands of different pictures to deduce what works and what doesn't. Between the 11 of us, check this out, over four months, sending about 10 messages a day, we sent out 13,267 messages to these chicks and came up with the all-time best performing messages. And here's the big announcement, boys.

2:21 Liam, cue up the drum roll, please. On June 28th at 2.30 p.m. Mountain Time, I am having an online dating masterclass. That's right, boys, a two-hour event where I'm going to report back to you the findings of our four straight months of research between 11 guys testing everything under the sun and coming up with the absolute best concepts, the best way to write your bios, the best messages to send, the best way to handle it when a chick contacts you first. Goddamn, that one is gangster. And how to get you the results that you've been lacking on online dating, probably since the time you began it.

3:02 I know online dating is hard for you, boys, but that's because you're not optimizing. In this masterclass, I'm going to teach you all the things that we've learned about how to maximize your online dating on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match, eHarmony, Facebook Singles, The League, and a myriad of other different dating apps to get you the absolute best results possible. I've done masterclasses before, boys, but this one I am the most excited about because I have put my nose to the grindstone for you over the last four months, and the results that we got were absolutely unprecedented.

3:36 I don't care what you look like. I don't care what results you've had in the past. As I'm going to talk about in this episode, it's all about optimization. It's all about making yourself stand out from the rest of the schleps who don't take classes like this, who don't optimize, and who don't know the secrets as to how to get the best results possible on the apps. So, boys, before it's too late, click the link in the description below, the very top link. Check out the sales page and get your ticket.

4:03 Here's how we're going to run this one. It's one day and one day only. If you can't show up, you'll still get a recording of it. But it's going to be on Saturday, June 28th at 2.30 p.m. Mountain Time, and I am going to raise the price on it as the date approaches. So, it's going to be $97 until Sunday, and then on Monday, it's going up to $127, and then that Thursday before, it's going to go up to $147. So, get your ticket now, boys, before it's too late.

4:29 If you're honestly so cheap, you wouldn't invest $97 in yourself to get all the secrets that I'm going to give you after four months of deep research on what works on the dating apps. Having guys that were ugly, having guys that are good looking. I had an Asian guy. I had a black guy. I had an old guy. Just to test everything, we came up with all the best results, and I'm going to give that to you with nothing held back. You guys know I always over-deliver, not only in my podcast, but also in my masterclasses as well as my three-month coaching program, and this one I am really excited about.

5:04 So, grab your ticket right now, gentlemen, while it's top of mind, and I will see you in the masterclass. I can't wait to show you what all our research has come up with, all the best opening lines to text chicks, all the best things to write on your prompts, what to do when she contacts you, how to get her off the dating app and on to texting, then from texting, how to get her on the date, all the secrets we've learned, boys, I'm going to give to you with absolutely nothing held back.

5:31 The Online Dating Masterclass with Mark Singh, June 28, 2.30 p.m. Mountain Time. If you can't come, you will get a recording of it, as well as all the gifts and secrets and gold that we have discovered over the last four months, not to mention the last two decades of me compiling stuff that we tested and we proved to be effective. Wait until you see the messages I'm going to give you. They are not only going to blow your mind, but also radically improve your success on the dating apps.

6:00 How many girls have you seen on the apps who you messaged and they didn't message you back? What if that girl did message you back? And what if you could get her on a date? I'm going to teach you exactly how to do that. Get your ticket now while it's on your mind and come join me for this unprecedented event. I'm super pumped about this one, boys, and I can't wait to see you there. All right, let's go ahead and jump into the content. Mistake number one, gentlemen, is thinking that your past failures with online dating are going to dictate your future results.

6:28 That is completely and utterly incorrect because here's the stats, boys. 99% of guys have no idea what the fuck they are doing on the dating apps. How do I know this is true? Because I'm a dating coach and I have guys come into my three-month coaching program all the time and show me what they're doing with their dating apps and they are getting absolute abysmal results because they are not utilizing nor optimizing their dating apps in the correct ways. So if you can become the 1% guy who understands how to use the dating apps, what kind of pictures to use, what kind of messages to send, how to elicit emotions via your bios, via the questions that you answer, as well as how you interact with the platform itself, then you can get better results than 99% of the guys and pull all the girls.

7:18 Here's the stats, boys. 20% of guys get 80% of the women, but it's actually worse on the dating apps. It's more like 5% of guys or even 1% of guys get all the women. And guys, don't get it twisted. It's not how you look. It's not even how tall you are or what your job is. All these preconceived notions, all these excuses, as to why you're not getting success on the dating apps, can be overcome with optimization. Optimizing your pictures, optimizing your bios, optimizing the questions you answer, and most importantly, optimizing how you deal with these females on these dating apps.

7:54 Because with all the research that we've done, female psychology on dating apps is very specific. And if you don't know female psychology on the dating apps, you are going to inevitably make mistake after mistake. This is why it's essential to understand how it works. Understand the rules of the game. It reminds me of the old Japanese driving test when I lived in Japan. I lived in Japan for four years. And at one point, I was trying to get my driver's license. Here's the insane thing. They don't tell you the rules of the test.

8:23 Literally, boys. This is a completely true story. They don't tell you the rules of the test. So you go in there being like, well, what do I do? And they put you like on this obstacle course. And of course, you're going to fuck up. And it's 50 bucks every time you want to take the test. So here you are spending 50 after 50 after 50, not knowing the rules. It was the stupidest, most frustrating thing I've ever been through. Took me four times to pass that damn test once I figured out the rules.

8:48 But we're not going to do that with online dating. We're not going to stumble through it, hoping we say something correctly and she jumps in the air and slides onto our dick. No, we are going to go into this with a systematic protocol that has been proven time and time again. And we are going to get results because of that. Again, doesn't matter what you look like. Doesn't matter how tall you are. Doesn't matter what limitations you think you might have. I have guys living in their mom's basement who are clients of mine.

9:17 And we optimize their dating apps exactly as I'm going to teach in my masterclass. And they are getting more ass than a toilet seat. It's optimization, boys. Nothing more. The second biggest mistake is going for one particular girl, getting fixated on one particular girl rather than going for a lot of different girls. Here's the thing you need to understand about the dating apps. It is a numbers game. Nothing more. I want you on as many dating apps as you're comfortable getting on. Yes, three, four, five, even six different apps.

9:51 And if you come to my masterclass, I'm going to tell you the best ones to get on. And I want you messaging as many girls as possible. How long do we suggest spending on the dating app each day? 30 minutes to an hour each day. Sometimes it could get addicting, but we have ways to optimize it so that you get the best results possible with the least amount of effort possible. But if you think you're going to meet the one girl or if you get super fixated on a girl who, by the way, might even be fake on the dating apps, you are going to ruin your results.

10:23 This is a shotgun approach, not a sniper approach. We are hitting up tons of chicks. We want to get you on tons of dates. Boys, here's how we do it in my program. It is reps upon reps upon reps because practice makes perfect. This is nothing but a skillset. And if you've had abysmal results on the dating apps, as I know a lot of you guys have, and you're insulting yourself because of it, feeling insecure or feeling you're not attractive because of what's happened on the dating apps, you got it all wrong, brothers.

10:52 It's simply a skillset. It's simply a game. Do you feel bad when somebody pulls out a board game you've never played before at a party and you suck at it? Of course not. You say to yourself, I just don't have the practice. I've never played this game before. I don't know what I'm doing. It's the same thing with the dating apps. But here's a big mistake. Guys get like fixated on one girl. They try to like focus on her. They follow up with her. And then she goes home and they feel really bad about themselves.

11:20 The way to play it is numbers upon numbers upon numbers. I want you getting reps. I want you getting practice. I want you testing all the lines I'm gonna give you in my masterclass to see what works best for you, but to also validate all the research we've done to prove that those lines that we came up with that I'm gonna give you in the masterclass are absolutely fucking nuclear. These things work like you will not believe and prove to yourself. It doesn't have to do with you, man.

11:48 It has to do with your presentation. Optimization, not a testament to who you are or what your worth is as a man. So abundance, boys, we want you talking to as many girls as possible. Sometimes guys are like, yeah, well, what if she meets me on Hinge and she also sees me on Bumble? My response is always, she's on Bumble and Hinge too, bro. So she's doing the same thing you are. So don't be afraid if multiple girls see you on multiple apps. We're all playing the game.

12:16 The smart thing to do is to play it more effectively and more intelligently than everybody else. Again, gentlemen, average guys do not optimize. They just put up some crappy photos, some crappy prompts. They text her some BS bullshit that she's seen a million times and they don't get dates. Maybe this has been you. I'm gonna teach you how to optimize the hell out of this shit with us literally sending thousands of messages through 11 different accounts, testing different bios, testing different ways to yanker off the dating apps.

12:48 And we're gonna give that all to you, teaching you how to optimize yourself in the most intelligent way possible so you get the results that you really want. The third biggest mistake on the dating apps boys is leading with your resume rather than leading with your vibe. Instead of thinking of it like a job interview while you're showing her your LinkedIn profile that you have this much experience, you make this much money, you're this tall, and you put generic prompts like carpe diem or I love to have fun and groove with my friends.

13:20 You need to be different. You need to elicit emotions. Now, as I'm gonna talk about in a subsequent point about the biggest mistake that guys make, your bio, your answers to the questions aren't nearly as important as this one thing I'm gonna talk about at the end, but they're still important. You need to elicit emotions. So what we're gonna do in the masterclass is give you a list of things to say in your bios that have been proven time and time again to get girls to like them, to get girls to message you because of them, to get inbound marketing.

13:51 And by the way, in the masterclass, we're gonna teach you how to deal with a girl who contacts you first, which is very different from you contacting her first and it's fucking gangster. It's been proven time and time again. It's so effective, but you need to be interesting. Again, boys, this isn't your resume. She doesn't really care that you're six foot one and you make six figures. They may say that's what they want, but what they're looking for in a guy is high value traits, eliciting emotions inside of them and a dude who they wanna pair bond with so he can bring her up rather than down.

14:24 Female hypergamy. She's always looking for the upgrade plan. She's always looking for the next best thing. You have to portray that you are that next best thing and that starts with her emotions. She's asking herself, how does he make me feel? Is he eliciting emotions inside of me? Is he giving me that little girl giddy feeling that I've been wanting from men since I was literally 11 years old or is he boring like all the other schleps on this app? That's literally what she's thinking. So you need to elicit emotions.

14:54 I'm gonna give you guys a few here, but obviously the creme de la creme shit, the shit that we tested over four months with 11 dudes is gonna be held for my masterclass, but there's still some good stuff here. So get your notes out. All right. For example, a prompt may say, what is something interesting about you? Pretty common prompt on many of the apps. Generic would be like, I lived in Japan for four years. Interesting and fun, which would elicit emotion would be, I've lived in Japan for four years and have married 200 couples as a wedding announcer, all in Japanese, and I was deported with one month to get out.

15:30 True story. Maybe I'll tell it to you if we ever hang out. And that is a true story, boys. I lived in Japan for four years. I was a wedding announcer. Kind of a long story, but Japanese couples really like Western style weddings, American style weddings. So they hired a white boy like me who could speak Japanese to marry them. Now you may be sitting there thinking, well, I don't have that. You don't need to have that, brother. What you need to do is make your prompts interesting and a little bit of effort in this way will go a long way.

16:00 Of course, if you come to the masterclass, we're going to make it effortless because we're going to give you tons of things to say in your prompts, tons of ways to answer these stupid questions that Hinge, Bumble, and the like always ask you so you could get the best results possible. But that's an example. Typically speaking, the way you want to answer questions is this. They ask you the question, you say something funny first, and then you say the truth of the matter, showing high value traits such as ambition, drive, overcoming adversity, et cetera, to show that you are attractive.

16:31 Another example is what is one of your best accomplishments? Generic answer would be I became a dentist after years of medical training. You may think to yourself, well, being a dentist is attractive, right? Yeah, it is. But if you're boring, it's unattractive. Have you ever met a boring dentist? I know I have. But a guy who's a dentist and he's interesting and fun, that's what girls are attracted to. So a better answer would be I ate 248 Oreos once, slowly, over six years. But now that I'm a dentist, I judge my decision and back it up with a renewed sense of outrage.

17:06 I actually have a dentist who's in my program. He's one of those 11 guys. That thing gets liked upon liked upon liked. He gets messaged by chicks all the time because of that one prompt. And I've taught him how to utilize those girls who message him first. And we're going to do the same thing for you if you get off your ass and join us in this masterclass. And boys, I know this is a huge advertisement for my masterclass. Of course it is. I believe in it.

17:29 I spent the last four fucking months, literally hours a day preparing this shit. Of course, I'm going to fucking advertise it. And you guys really should come because I am going to deliver the content. All right. Other about me type bio ideas. Like on Tinder, you have to put like a little about me section or like a little quote. Here are some ones that have been working well. The last one really works well. My dream girl is Traylor Swift. That's had a lot of good reactions.

17:56 You're being picked up on this app so much, you're starting to grow handles. That one's been liked a lot. I'm a famous ass model. No, you may not pinch my butt. Next one is, don't introduce me to your dog or cat because they'll fall in love with me and beg me to adopt them from you. This is also a good first message for those girls who have dogs and cats and one that has been absolutely killing it is, not here for hookups. I'm not that kind of girl.

18:24 That one's been working really well. All right, boys. Number four, not sending messages that elicit curiosity, make her laugh and prompt a reply. If you guys are sending messages like, hey, hi, or you're so beautiful, obviously that doesn't elicit emotions. There's nothing for her to reply to. You want to give her a soft ball that she can knock out of the stadium. That's the way we're approaching this. So here's some example messages that have worked. I'm going to tell you guys this. We literally tested, what was it?

18:54 13,267 messages. And I am going to give you in the masterclass, the one, the only that delivers time after time after time, as well as many others that have proven successful. Here's a few that have also been good, but I'm going to be honest with you, boys. The creme de la creme shit. I'm saving it for the masterclass. I'm not going to lie. I'm saving it for those who are willing to sack the fuck up, man the fuck up, and invest in themselves to get the best results possible.

19:23 All right, example. If we were to buy a baby miniature goat, what would we name it? That one's been performing excellent on the dating apps. Another one that's been doing well is, you swiped on me because you heard I'm a famous eyebrow model, huh? And girls really like that. Next one is, if she has a picture with her dog, you can also say, you're cute and all, Amy, but I think your dog would be the one who steals my heart. That one's been performing well. And also, and I love this, name such as Amy, Jessica, whatever, you look like you could kill with kindness.

19:58 How do I know I'm not walking into a death trap here? That one too has been delivering really well. But again, boys, I'm going to give you the best ones in the masterclass. Can't wait to see you guys. Remember, June 28, 2.30 p.m. Mountain Time. Also, if you can't make it, you will get a recording of it. And just to remind you guys, the price is going to go up as we approach the date. It's going to go to $1.27, then $1.47. Right now, you can get in for the rock bottom price of just $97.

20:26 Fuck yeah, I believe in this. And fuck yeah, brother. I really want to see you there. All right. Number five, acting too available or thirsty. Double texting, always being available for dates. Here's the play, boys. Build up the vibe, then go for the number. I'm going to show you how to do that in a second. You say something to the effect of, you seem cool. I never use this app. So how would you feel about tossing me your number? And we can move this over to texting.

20:52 And you can literally do that after two, three, four, maybe five different messages. Why do we do this? Because you want to put her in a series of micro yeses, compliances to your requests, so that she's more likely to actually go on a date with you. Because requesting a date is going to be the big leap for her. She has to get ready. She doesn't know you. She may not feel safe to do so. This is why we have such high flake rates with dates. But if you can get her in a series of micro yeses and get her to comply by simply giving you her phone number, moving it over to texting, not only does it give her cognitive dissonance, her saying yes to one of your requests, but it also feels like you're different from all the other guys on the apps.

21:37 You now have her number and you will get better results when you text with her in that way. And I'll also teach you how to close the first date. So many guys do this incorrectly. We have a template that we're going to give you that says you're going to say this, she's going to say this, you're going to say this, she's going to say this, bam, date is set up. So again, you say, hey, I don't really use this app. How would you feel about tossing your number?

22:01 And we can move this over to texting. Then again, once you're texting with her, you use the template I'm going to give you in the masterclass. And get her on that date. All right, boys. Number six, treating the convo like you're interviewing her. As I said earlier, you're not applying for a job, nor are you interviewing her for a job. Or, and this is the biggest one that I see time and time again, complimenting her too much, being too thirsty, or being creepy by going sexual way too quickly.

22:31 Not only did 11 of us test this shit for four months, but I've also talked to a lot of my girlfriends about this stuff. And they say their biggest pet peeve is when a guy comes to them with too much sexual energy, over complimenting, trying to like work in sexual innuendos into all their conversations. Just don't do that shit. You want to be fun. You want to be intriguing. You want to elicit emotions, but you don't want to state sexuality until you know that she's there. And sometimes women are really hard to read on the dating apps.

23:01 And as you guys know, women are on hair triggers to get offended on the dating apps. As I know a lot of you guys have experienced, you say one little thing wrong, dude, and they get butter and then fucking ghost you. So don't even raise the possibility of that by talking about sexual innuendo stuff or complimenting her too much or going into the creepy guy who's called Gary Fingers. He's like, hi, I'm Gary Fingers. Can I touch your breasticle? Don't be that dude. Be the guy who's fun, entertaining, and high value communicating that you have options by following all the rules, some of which we lay out today and obviously all of which we're going to lay out in the masterclass.

23:40 All right, boys, we're getting a little bit long in the tooth here. So let's keep it going. Number seven, trying to get to know her too much in the app, not going for the close. Guys, you can go for the close after literally three to four messages. And that's been working the best for us. Four, five, six, seven messages is the sweet spot to go for the close. And the close, once again, is trying to get her number off the dating app. I'm also going to teach you how to have a FaceTime call with her in order to make sure that she's not a stalker Texas Ranger or trailer Swift before you actually meet with her.

24:12 Very important to save your time because your time is the most important thing. Here's an example conversation that's worked really well for us. You say, hey, name. Let's say her name is Amy. Hey, Amy, quick question. I noticed something interesting about the colors you wear in your photos. And she's like, oh yeah, what's that? Now look at what I just did. I gave her something that is intriguing to her because it's about her. I gave her something that she can easily reply back to, getting those micro yeses.

24:42 And I gave her something that is going to make her feel good once I do a cold read on her, reading how she is based off her pictures. So we're using all these techniques in order to elicit curiosity, elicit emotion, elicit attraction. So we can yank the number and then get the date once we move it over to texting. So then you say, I noticed you wear color one and color two. When people wear color one, it usually means they're feeling adventurous. And color two, when they're feeling romantic.

25:15 Is that true? Okay, so I don't give a shit what she's wearing. Yellow, black, blue, green, purple, fluorescent, orange, it doesn't matter. I noticed you're wearing purple and fluorescent orange. Purple usually means that you're adventurous and fluorescent orange means you're feeling romantic. Is this true for you? This one's been working really well. If I look at it from a purely logical standpoint as a dating coach, it feels a little try hard to me, but this is why we had to test everything, boys. This is why 11 of us went out for fucking four months and tested 10 a day.

25:45 That was our goal, 10 a day. Some guys did 20 a day to test what works and test what doesn't. I'm gonna be honest with you. Some of the ones that I thought like, yeah, dude, that's gonna work for sure before they were tested didn't work. And some of the ones like this one where I'm like, ah, it feels a little try hard. It's interesting, but it does feel a little try hard. I don't know if it's gonna work. Worked like gangbusters. So guys, rather than going out and testing literally 13,000 different messages yourself, why not just reap the rewards of all the testing that I've already done for you and come to this masterclass.

26:15 97 bucks? Are you serious, bro? That's nothing compared to the gold I'm about to drop in your lap. And finally, boys, a couple bonus ones. Number eight, the biggest mistake, and I think you guys should know this, is having crappy photos. I am gonna give a masterclass, literally, on how to take the best photos possible. I talked about it a few weeks ago in a podcast I did, but that's nothing compared to what we're about to get into. to take the best photos possible and how to elicit emotions via your photos and furthermore, how to get girls to message you first.

26:49 They're called value prompt photos, which elicit women to contact you first so that you can use the strategy to definitely get that girl on a date. Once they contact you first, it's over, brother. We have such a high close rate when it comes to girls contacting you first. And obviously, boys, the final and most important mistake guys make is not coming to this masterclass. Why would you skip something like this? We're not gonna give you all the results of the research that we've tested for you with a bunch of different guys.

27:19 Guys who are handsome, guys who are ugly, short guys, tall guys, Asian guys. We had a black dude in there just to make sure we had a wide variety to test. And we have come up with all the best prompts, all the best answers to the questions, all the best messages, which we're gonna give to you on this masterclass taking place on June 28th at 2.30 p.m. And if you can't make the time, all good, you're still gonna get a recording of it almost as good as being there.

27:45 This is gonna be an absolutely awesome masterclass. I've worked really hard on this, boys, and I wanna blow a hole in your mind so big that even I could fuck it. So click the link in the description below, the top link. Grab your ticket before it's too late and before the prices go up. Can't wait to see you guys there. Thank you so much for listening, boys. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. Stay tuned for Thursday's episode. It's gonna be an awesome one and I will see you in the next episode.

28:13 Bye! Bye! Bye! Bye! Thank you.

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