The Top 5 Reasons WE DON'T HIT ON GIRLS! Don't Be "The Creepy Guy!!!"

0:00 I've had friends, acquaintances, clients come up to me and be like, hey, how do I get that girl's phone number over there? And the first thing I always say is, why do you want her phone number? And they're like, look at her, man, she's beautiful. And I'll be like, so? That's one tick off of 10 different boxes that she needs to tick. She needs to be interesting. She needs to be funny. She needs to be fun to talk to. She needs to have a good moral compass.

0:22 What if her breath stinks? I need to see that she's passing all the prerequisites that I have to make a girl my girlfriend, and yes, to even ask for her phone number. So the mentality is, hey, there's a cute girl. Let me go meet her and see if she makes the cut. Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP.

1:00 I really do appreciate you. And today, boys, we are going to talk about why we don't hit on women until they're attracted to us. So many guys go into interactions with women just stating too much intention, bro. Just being like, you're so beautiful. I want to marry you. Why is it that you're so gorgeous? Why don't you have a boyfriend? And they come off as fucking creepy. How many of you guys are terrified of being labeled as creepy? How many of you guys are worried about what other people are going to think of you?

1:29 This is exactly why in this program, as well as this podcast, we do not hit on women until there are at least three to five solid signs that she's already attracted to us. It boggles my mind why some seduction coaches will tell you guys to go up to women and state your intentions so obviously. They'll tell you to ask her on a date. They'll tell you to ask for her phone number initially without even getting to know her. The way we work it in my program is we do not hit on the girl until, again, she is attracted to us.

2:04 Then we start stating sexual intention and this goes into what I call the four pillars of attraction. The four pillars of attraction are frame control, value, sexual tension, and qualifying. We do not go into the other two elements of the four pillars of attraction until she's attracted to us. The two elements are sexual tension and qualifying. We don't even get sexual with her. We don't state interest. We don't even compliment her until she begins stating interest in us. In that way, we save ourselves from being labeled as creepy.

2:40 We save ourselves from being the dude who other people are going to laugh at. All we do is go up and give value. We control the frame. We give her an experience. Then she can open up naturally, as I've talked about many times in this podcast, get attracted to us. Then we can quote unquote hit on her. And when I say hit on her, I mean state sexual interest. The way we play it, boys, and this is really important, is this. We go up and we're simply social.

3:08 If I'm not talking to you, chick, I'll be talking to somebody else. I'm a social guy who wants to talk with somebody. You happen to be there. Yeah, you're cute. Yeah, you look interesting. I want to see what's up with you. But I'm not stating interest. I'm not asking for your phone number right off the bat. Unless, of course, there's a time constraint. All I'm doing is being social. I'm trying to have fun with you. I don't give a shit about what happens. And this is stated because I'm not hitting on you.

3:33 I'm not stating interest in you. I'm stating interest in the conversation. And guys, this is such a huge fundamental building block of what it takes to get women attracted to you, simply not hitting on them until, once again, they're starting to hit on you or they're starting to state interest in you. And that's what we're going to talk about today. So going back to the four pillars of attraction, and I really want you guys to get this because you basically need these four pillars to yank a phone number.

4:03 I've yanked phone numbers with just two. I've yanked phone numbers with, say, just frame control and qualifying. But if you could get all four into them, meaning frame control, value, sexual attention, and qualifying, the chances of her texting you back go up exponentially. We have to understand that it requires a certain level of attraction for her to give you her phone number, but it requires more attraction for her to actually text you back. And this is why we throw in the four pillars of attraction. We go up initially with just the first two pillars.

4:36 The first two pillars are frame control and value. If you don't know what frame control is, listen to any and all episodes that I've recorded about frame control because it is the single most important element of seducing a woman. Value simply means being valuable, telling stories, running gambits, breaking rapport, busting her chops, making her laugh, being entertaining to her, and basically giving her value. Being a valuable kind of dude who brings up her state rather than brings it down. And we do that with all the methods that I teach in this podcast, but of course, more importantly, in my three-month coaching program.

5:15 So you're talking to her and you're not hitting on her. You're not stating interest. You're not telling her how beautiful she is. You're not being amazed because she doesn't have a boyfriend. You are pretending initially that you have no interest in her sexually. The interest that you have in her is, yeah, she may be cute. And sometimes I will tell them that like, hey, you were cute. Wanted to come meet you and see if you were interesting. I will say that sometimes. The interest that you have in her is simply in the conversation.

5:42 Once again, if you're not going to talk to her, you'll talk to somebody else. You'll talk to a grandma, a guy, a kid. You don't fucking care. You're just a social guy who wants to meet people. And yeah, again, she might be cute. She might be attractive. And that will be the extent of the compliment that you give her when you first approach. If you do a direct approach, like, hey, I wanted to meet you because I thought you were cute. What's up? What's your name?

6:06 My name is Mark. Okay. That's the extent of which I'll compliment her. After that, boys, no compliments. And this is a rule that I teach in my coaching program. We don't compliment chicks. I have a podcast titled Why Compliments Are Like Landmines With Women. It's because they hear them all the time, especially hot girls. So don't do it. Don't be the dude who tries to supplicate to her, who tries to state your attention too early, deciding before you even meet the chick that you want to take her on a date.

6:36 I've had friends, acquaintances, clients come up to me and be like, hey, how do I get that girl's phone number over there? And the first thing I always say is, why do you want her phone number? And they're like, look at her, man. She's beautiful. And I'll be like, so that's one tick off of 10 different boxes that she needs to tick. She needs to be interesting. She needs to be funny. She needs to be fun to talk to. She needs to have a good moral compass.

6:58 She needs not to be a liar. I don't want her to be sleeping all over town. What if her breath stinks? What if she sounds like she fucking slams six vodkas every morning before she even gets out of bed? And she's like, hey, nice to meet you. And she sounds like she's trailer swift. I need to see that she's passing all the prerequisites that I have to make a girl my girlfriend and yes, to even ask for her phone number. So the mentality is, hey, there's a cute girl.

7:25 Let me go meet her and see if she makes the cut. And this is why, boys, you are the prize. And this is what I want you guys to think from here forward. You're not hitting on girls because you're the prize. You need to see if they make the cut first. And when you do hit on them, it's already when they're attracted to you, so you're safe. You're not going to be the creepy guy because a girl wants to be hit on by a dude who she's attracted to.

7:51 I recently listened to a podcast, a fellow pickup artist coach, a female, who interviewed another female. Here's why, boys, you should never, under any circumstance, take dating advice from a female. They do not know what the fuck they're talking about unless it's Marnie, my homegirl Marnie. She's the wing girl method. Love her to death. Her and I are really good friends. She knows what she's talking about, but other than that, they have no idea, especially some girl who's out there who's in the dating scene and she's trying to give you advice about how to yank girls.

8:22 She hasn't studied this shit, so don't, under any circumstance, listen to her advice. Here's the advice that the guest gave. She's like, I just want a guy to grab me, throw me up against the wall, and just start making out with me. Now, here you have all these dudes listening to this podcast being like, okay, okay, I'm taking notes here. What I should do with girls is grab them, throw them up against the wall, and start making out with them. Just state immense intention. Just take that girl.

8:51 Now, that's fine, but only if the girl's attracted to you. Because if she's not attracted to you already, what's going to happen? You're going to be on your belly, and the fucking police are going to give you the right foot of fellowship right to your jaw. They're going to arrest your ass. They're going to throw you in jail. You're going to be labeled as Randy the rapist for the rest of your life because you took advice from these chicks. Guys, girls do not want to be hit on by a guy who they're not attracted to.

9:18 This is why you always hear girls being like, ew, he was creepy, or God, get away from us, because they're not attracted yet. So if you go in stating too much intention when she's not attracted to you, she's going to be creeped out by you. And this is why you don't hit on girls, you don't hit on girls, you don't hit on girls until they are attracted to you. Now, that may beg the question, well, what about some guys who are just very forward, and they do land the girl?

9:46 That's because the girl's already attracted to them. You get some rock star on stage where there's five chicks in the crowd just absolutely eye-fucking the dude. Of course he could go up to that girl stating intention because she's already attracted to him. And yes, even in the nightclubs, if there's a girl super jockeying me or super jockeying you and giving you the green light, just being like, hey, come approach me, I'm really attracted to you, then you could go up and state intention. Then you can go up and be like, hey, I saw you standing over here, I thought you were really cute, what's up, what's your name?

10:17 And being like, damn, why don't you have a boyfriend, you're beautiful, if she's already giving you the fuck-me eyes. But if you don't have that, do not hit on women. You go up with two things and two things only. Frame control, value. You're leading the conversation in a way that's going to bring her good emotions, good attraction, good feelings. You're raising her state. You have good energy inside of you. You're telling funny stories. You're busting her chops. You're teasing her. You're messing with her. You guys have some commonalities and you like high-five.

10:48 You're just having a good time. She's a friend. And this goes into why you should friend zone every single girl that you meet, another podcast that I recently recorded. I talked about when I first go in with women, I call them a friend. Why do I do this? It works into the four pillars of attraction. Frame control, value. That's all I'm doing in the beginning. Then once again, once I get three to five signs of attraction, which are playing with her hair, licking her lips, touching me, asking me personal questions, laughing at jokes that aren't funny, invading my personal space, generally being interested and or staying in the conversation.

11:27 When the conversation drops, these are all signs of attraction, and this is all signs to me that she's ready to be hit on. Remember, boys, women are like a flower. You cannot force open the petals of a flower. You must let it open naturally. And we do so by initially going up with the first two pillars and the four pillars of attraction. Frame control, value, bam, that's it. Now we get into a concept called the V-Cut Protocol. Stay with me, boys. I'm dropping all kinds of knowledge on you.

11:58 This is really important. For those of you watching on video, you can see that I have my four fingers held up. My first two fingers are together. Then there's a space between them, and my ring finger and my pinky finger are together, thus creating the V-Cut Protocol. It's kind of like the we come in peace that the aliens do. That's kind of the vibe of it. I've done a podcast about this as well, the V-Cut Protocol. The V-Cut Protocol dictates in the beginning you only do the first two, frame control and value.

12:25 You're just dumping it on her until she gets attracted to you. Then when she does get attracted to you, which would be the middle of the V, you could start doing sexual tension. You could start doing qualifying. Sexual tension is exactly as it sounds. You're getting sexual with her. You're hitting on her. This is when you're allowed to hit on her. When she's shown three to five signs of attraction in the middle of this V, and she's ready to be hit on, she's opened up naturally.

12:52 She's like, I have a crush on this guy. I'm feeling good about him. Oh, now he's starting to hit on me. I love that. This is what girls love. They want to be left alone. They don't want to be hit on by a dude who they know nothing about. Think about it, bro. If you're fucking walking down the street and this dude's like, hey, bro, what's your name? You're fucking cool, bro. Love your jacket. How about you toss me your number? Let's be friends, man. Let's hang out.

13:13 You want to have a sleepover? You want to have a sleepover? How about we cuddle a little bit? Can you give me a massage? Scratch my back? I'll scratch your balls. You're like, dude, is this guy gay? Is he trying to leave a used condom in my butthole? I want nothing to do with you. Get away. Get away. Rapist. Rapist. And you run away. That's what guys do to chicks. They're like, you want this dick? You want this dick? How about this dick? How about my dick?

13:32 Not his dick. My dick. No, boys. We go up. We're just friendly. We're talkative. And she should think, oh, this guy's social. If he's not going to talk to me, he's going to talk to somebody else. Then she's starting to get attracted. We've given her space to do so. And then we deploy the other two pillars and the four pillars of attraction. Sexual tension, qualifying. Teach you about that real quick. Obviously, I've done podcasts about this in the past. And obviously, in my coaching program, we do a deep dive into this.

14:01 But I'm going to give you a couple quick and easy ways to build sexual tension quickly and to qualify her. And I'm going to explain what those two things are. Before I do that, I want to read a very quick testimonial for my three-month coaching program from Chase. Chase says, before the program, I would listen to testimonies on your podcast and just think, these guys are just being dramatic. There's no way something like this could change someone's life as much as they claim. But oh my God, there certainly is a way.

14:30 The program was three months long, but I'm still using it every single day. I didn't just pay for three-month program, then it's gone. No, no, no, no, no. I invested in myself in a way I seriously never thought possible. And I keep improving every single day because of you, Mark. I am making over 50% more money just because I'm way more self-motivated and disciplined. And I am so much better with people in general. Right now, I am literally dating four girls. And I had to cut two off today.

14:58 I went into this program wanting the ability to attract women as it absolutely made a night and day difference in that area. But it also made a massive difference in almost every important aspect of my life for the better. For that, Mark, I want to thank you. I can never repay you for what you've given me and so many other people. You are what this world needs. If you ever need anything at all, please don't hesitate to reach out. I wish you the best, Chase. Chase, thank you so much for that, boys.

15:23 What I'm teaching you today, gentlemen, is but a small part of what I teach in my three-month coaching program that you can join if you simply click the link below and sign up. Let's get into those last two pillars of attraction. Sexual tension is just as it sounds. Building sexual tension with a woman and making that fire of attraction she has for you glow even hotter. So I often liken it to a tinder bundle when you're trying to build a fire. If you have a ball of dry grass and you throw a spark into it, it's going to start smoldering.

15:57 Once you blow into it, it's going to blow into flame and now you have fire. That's what sexual tension does. I obviously teach a myriad of techniques for how to build sexual tension, but here's a down and dirty one that works very easily. You simply say to her, so why don't you have a boyfriend? I bet it's because you're a bad kisser, huh? That's the line and I'll do that after I have three to five signs of attraction per the V-Cup protocol. Why don't you have a boyfriend?

16:24 I bet it's because you're a bad kisser, huh? Immediately, she's going to be like, no, I'm not a bad kisser. And you'd be like, oh, really? What do you do? What's your strategy? You got some technique or what? Now she's talking about kissing. You can ask her more questions about her strategy, her skill set, what she does. Now you guys are talking about kissing. You could lead that into cunnilingus or giving blowjobs, even sex. This is an easy way to start talking about sexual things, which I obviously elaborate in depth in my coaching program and my boys become assassins at doing this.

16:56 This is why guys like Chase just get unprecedented results. The dude's dating four chicks. He's like, yeah, I'm going to cut out two to make room for two more. There's just so much abundance when you have game. The next one is qualifying. You need to make her work for you. The best qualifying question that I always like to use is, what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? This makes her sell herself to you. She starts saying she's loyal. She's trustworthy. She's fun.

17:21 The more she sells herself to you, the more she has to convince her subconscious mind that she's attracted to you, the champion, the prize, as I alluded to earlier. If we could get all four pillars of attraction into the mix, which once again is frame control, value, sexual attention, and qualifying, bam, we get a phone number that actually sticks. Some of you guys can yank phone numbers, but they don't stick. It's because you're not blowing that Tinder bundle of attraction into a fire to get her attracted enough to you to make her want to text you back.

17:54 This is why you're not getting texts back. So the four pillars of attraction are extremely important. The four pillars of attraction work into that V-cut protocol. We do not hit on girls until they've reached this point where there's at least three to five signs of attraction. Then we can go sexual, start hitting on them. Then we can qualify and make them work for us. Then we simply say, hey, you seem pretty cool. I have to get out of here right now. How would you feel about tossing me your number?

18:20 You give her your phone, bam, she puts her phone number in it, text her the next day at 6 p.m. with all the templates that I give my boys in my program, and you're off to the races, and you simply rinse and repeat girl after girl after girl until you're like Chase, making 50% more money, dating four girls at a time, improving your life because you had the balls and the wherewithal to invest in yourself by simply clicking the link below. Gentlemen, I'll expect to hear from each of you soon why you haven't applied yet is beyond me.

18:50 Some of you guys have listened to dozens, if not hundreds of my episodes. You know I'm the real deal. You know we get results. Time after time after time, I'm reading all these testimonials. I'm showing all this proof. Some of you guys are like, dude, I just don't do that. I'm not that kind of guy. Really? Have you ever thought about what it might be like if you were the kind of guy who invests in yourself? The kind of guy who goes to the next step in your life and invests into something that you want so badly?

19:17 If you've never done it before, what might you be missing? What's the one missing link that might change your life just that much as it has Chase's? Even Chase said, dude, when I hear all these testimonials, I thought they were bullshit. They're just being dramatic. But he's like, dude, I've done it myself and the proof is in the pudding. I'm waiting for you, brother. Apply today. Let's talk. Let's see if I can at least 10 extra results with women. You think to yourself, dude, I would never invest in a dating coach.

19:43 Why not? What might it do for you? What kind of girls might you be able to get? This is what I want you guys to ask yourself and I want to hear from you, man. If you're the kind of guy that has never applied to this or thought you never would and you do apply, let me know. And I'll be like, man, you're a champion. You're actually facing your fears. You're facing your preconceived notions of what you would or wouldn't do. And you're willing to invest in yourself to get to the next best version of the greatest idea you ever had about who you really are.

20:14 I don't know about you, but when I get to my deathbed, I want to look back with pride rather than regret. I'm sure you feel the same way. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. As a reminder, I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you in the next episode.

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