The Controversial "Vanilla Destroying" Technique to Get More Women Attracted to You

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. And today we are going to talk about why you should be a hard yes or a hard no when it comes to women. This is the way to get girls to either say hell yes when they're thinking about you or just let them say hell no because they're not going to like you anyway.

0:34 So why the hell would you be vanilla? And that's what we're going to talk about today. And I'm going to help you kind of curate your style, kind of curate who you are as a man and how you portray yourself to women so that you either get that hard yes or that hard no and not the hard vanilla where she has no feelings about you whatsoever, which I'm sure a lot of you guys experience. And the reason you experience it is because you don't want to rock the boat.

0:58 You're afraid of confrontation. You're afraid of being something that people won't like because naturally as human beings, we want people to approve of us. We want people to accept us. This comes back from tribal communities. When you were in the tribe, you had to get people to accept you because if they didn't, it could literally mean your survival. But in today's society, your acceptance by other people really doesn't matter that much. There's a few people, of course, that need to accept you, such as your boss, maybe your parents, your brother, I guess, but not even those people in order for you to survive.

1:30 But really in today's society, you actually get rewarded by rocking the boat. How do you get rewarded? You get your dick wet outside of the shower where I know a lot of you guys aren't able to get your dick wet. And we're going to talk about how to do that today. Before I jump into the content, I want to say hello to my YouTube viewers, check out my new office. This thing is absolutely gangster. I got the black wall behind me. Can't really tell, but over here, there's a black curtain because there's a white door behind there.

1:59 I had to hang that up. See this cord right here that's hanging down from the unapologetic sign? Every inch of it is pissing in my river. Why is that? Because my contractor promised me that he would come over yesterday and pop two holes in this wall behind me and run the wire through it. Now I could probably do it myself, but I'm not that skillful when it comes to those kinds of trades and there's stairs behind that wall. I kind of don't want to put two holes in the wall that go out to the stairs.

2:27 So he told me he'd be coming over. Five o'clock comes along. I text him. I'm like, bro, where are you at? And he's like, oh, I'm not coming over today. I'm like, dude, you told me you're going to come by and pop the holes in the wall to run these cords through. And he's like, I did? I said that. Now the dude did an awesome job on my basement, but I don't know about you guys, but if I tell somebody I'm going to do something, I'm going to fucking do it.

2:48 And this goes back to an episode that I recorded recently about Maximus from Gladiator. If you haven't heard that, I definitely suggest you check it out where every word you say by definition is a promise. I don't know about you, bro, but it pisses in my river when people don't do what they say they're going to do. And you have to make up for their negligence. Now, again, in his case, he's a good fucking dude. We're actually going to go mountain biking together. I like the dude, but it's like, come on, bro.

3:13 You fucking say something. You have to do it. And that's what amazes me about society. There is so much negligence out there. And I'm sure a lot of you guys are nodding fervently because you've seen it too, where people promise you shit and they just don't pull through with it. Part of being an unapologetic alpha silverback, a dude who's attractive to women, is doing every fucking thing you say you're going to do, keeping your promises and not saying something unless you intend to do it. So this is a lesson for me as well as for you.

3:43 Don't be that dude because people lose confidence in you. And most importantly, you lose confidence in yourself. So see these like, what is it? Eight inches right here where you can see this cord. This is to remind me as it hovers over my right shoulder that you have to do everything you say you're going to do. Don't be the guy who makes promises and doesn't go through on them. I hate people like that. It's funny to me because people email me occasionally and they're like, Mark Singh, why should I trust you?

4:10 And I always write back to them. You shouldn't beat it. Kick rocks with your head down because if you can't trust me, then the NLP is not going to work on you. But what's funny to me is they asked this question without ever doing an internet search on me. I've been in business for eight years. I don't have one fucking negative comment about me on the entire internet. Maybe I have some bad reviews. People hate on me on Instagram and iTunes. Fine. But no one's ever said, dude, this guy robs you.

4:35 He takes his money from you. And people will write me and be like, dude, the internet's the wild, wild west. How can I trust you? I'm like, are you serious? Every word I say by definition is a promise. My life goal is to wow. My clients deliver more than they paid me for. And by the time they graduate, I want them saying, this is the best money I've ever spent. We had three guys graduate last night. Last night was Thursday. We have our coaching call. Each one of them said, and I'm talking about you, Kevin.

5:00 I'm talking about you, Cole. And I'm talking about you, Michael. What is up, gentlemen? It was the best money they've ever spent. And each of them 10x the results with women. Think about that, gentlemen. Three guys who started at the same time, graduated at the same time, 10x the results. That's integrity. That's doing what you say you're going to do. And this cord right here reminds me, my mission to you, gentlemen, is to overdeliver, not only in my coaching program, but also in this podcast. So let's get into it.

5:31 So what I mean by you want to be a hard yes or a hard no with women is I either want women to want to fuck the shit out of you or hate you. I want them to be extremely attracted to you or repulsed by you. I want you to be a hard yes or a hard no. Get out of the middle. Vanilla ice cream is for pussies. And if you're the gray man who walks around and disappears in crowds, nobody notices him because he doesn't stand out.

5:57 He doesn't stand up for what he believes in. And he doesn't have a style and way of living that pushes the boundaries. I want you to question yourself. Now, here's a perfect illustration of what I'm talking about. About once a month, we go to the cowboy bars. I get dressed up in my cowboy outfit, bro. The white Stetson hat, depending on what season it is, because I don't know if you knew, but black hats, the felt hats are for winter. And the straw hats, the ones that are typically tan or white are usually for the summer.

6:28 That's kind of how the etiquette goes when it comes cowboy hats. So I'll rock one of my cowboy hats. I'll rock sometimes some jeans and some cowboy boots, the big ass belt with the Colorado belt buckle, and maybe a Western shirt tucked into it. And honestly, bro, I look fucking good. So I'll go out to the cowboy bars and girls will throw themselves at me. They will literally jump in the air and try to slide onto my dick because chicks, when it comes to the cowboy look, are either hell fucking yes or hell fucking no.

6:58 You have some Western chick who grew up hunting with their dad, riding horses. She's probably going to be a hell yes about that. You have some punk rock chick who hates cowboys because maybe a cowboy is an asshole to her in high school, or she thinks they're all hicks or whatever it is. She's going to be a hell no. But I would rather her be a hell no than a meh, I didn't even notice this guy. So the cowboy look is a perfect example of some chicks are just going to be like, dude, I'm all about it.

7:27 You look sexy as hell in that cowboy hat, take me home. And other girls are going to be hell no. A lot of you guys try to market to everybody. You try to be attractive to all types of girls. I want to get you out of that mentality. Have you ever heard of the saying, the riches are in the niches? The riches are in the niches means when you niche down and you focus on one type of person specifically when you're in a business, you're going to make millions of dollars because you're focusing on that one person who's going to be a hell yes.

7:55 If on the other hand, you're trying to go for everybody. Oh, I help this kind of person and that kind of person. And I do this and that. You don't have a message that's controversial and you don't know who you're going after and defining it in your marketing. You're not going to make any money. Me, for example, it's the unapologetic man. I want you to be an unapologetic, ass kicking, shit kicking motherfucker who doesn't take any shit and who identifies with what he is and reps it without apology.

8:27 Because of that, I'm extremely successful. I help entrepreneurs, go-getters, and growth-oriented men meet and date more women. It literally says that on my homepage. The reason it says that is because that's niche. I'm going after dudes who want to up their level. I'm going after dudes who are shit kickers and want to take names in this life. Who, when they get to the end of their life, a big pat on the shoulder saying to themselves, dude, you fucking crushed it. That's the niche that I'm going for.

8:56 You need to niche yourself down to be attractive to a very specific type of woman. For example, I have guys who come into my program who are bald. Okay. Some girls are going to be all about the bald dude look. In fact, it's been proven that most girls, and when I say most, it's over 50%. Most girls are attracted to the bald look, but some girls are going to be like, hell no. I like the long hair look. Like my client, Victor. What is up, Victor? He's got the long flowing locks that flapping in the breeze, right?

9:26 He's got the beard. The dude looks like Gandalf. Run it, dude. If that's what you are, the long hair wearing, beard flossing motherfucker, then be that dude without apology. Because again, some girls are going to be a hell yes. I want the Gandalf beard. I want those face pubes rubbing all over my boobs while you're fucking me. Some girls are going to be a hell no, which is what I am on the jujitsu mats. When I see a Gandalf beard, I'm like, hell no, dude. I don't want to roll with that guy.

9:53 But some girls like that stuff. So you need to start thinking about this as it applies to you. What is your deal? Okay. Are you Asian, Indian, Mexican? Are you short, fat, bald? Are you a guy with face tattoos, neck tattoos, arm tattoos, hand tattoos? What is your style? And I want you to double down on that. Be that dude, even if yes, it's a trench coat wearing, Slayer t-shirt flossing, Dungeons and Dragons guy, because you're going to get all the Dungeons and Dragons chicks, all the chicks at the anime convention.

10:26 If you're a surfer, run the surfer look. Instead of being ashamed that you'd like to drop in, do a bottom turn, cut off the top, get pitted, and spit out and just be like, yeah, bro, I got slotted. Be that dude, 100%. I had a guy who came through my program a long time ago. His name was Seth. And he was a full on California surfer boy. I've had a lot of those guys in my program. And I say, listen, be that dude, 100%. Because you're going to get the bikini wearing, fake tit, blonde hair, flossing hotties that hang out on the beach.

10:54 If you're a hippie dude, and you like to hug trees, dodge soap, you have so much hair under your armpits that looks like you have that guy Questlove, the guy with the afro in a headlock, rock it, bro. Be the dude who's leading the drum circle. You're on the heart, bro, being like, ring, ring. You know, you love that shit. And you have a 2020 Prius with a Grateful Dead decal on the hood. Rock it. Be it. Be that guy. The riches is in the niches. If you get a girl that says a hell no to you, think about it.

11:25 At least there's passion there. A strong hell no, like I hate this guy is actually closer to I like this guy than a meh. I don't have any feelings about this guy. And I learned this once again from my natural friend, Ira, the guy who I spoke about in my previous episode about why you should fart in front of women. I definitely suggest you guys listen to that one. Ira was one of these dudes who was either a hell yes or a hell no. And the reason he was that way is because he was fully embedded in his own frame.

12:01 He didn't give a shit about what you thought of him. The way he ran is, this is me. I make no apologies for it. If you don't like it, I'm afraid I can't help you with that. Beat it. And what I noticed is all of my girlfriends who were all sevens, by the way, at that time, hated Ira with a passion, a passion that I cannot even explain to you. And at that time, I was confused because I was like, all these chicks that I'm dating hate my best friend who's getting all these other chicks.

12:25 Why is that? Because he was polarizing. He was extreme in who he was, didn't give a shit about what anybody thought of him. So he would get some girls super attracted to him, some girls not attracted to him. So once again, if you're an Asian dude, step deep into your Asian hood, if that's even a word. If you're an Indian dude, be Indian. Be proud of it. Tell people about your heritage and who you are. Be proud of that shit and rep it. Don't try to avoid it.

12:54 If you're short, your mentality should be being short is the shit. I'm super comfortable on airplane flights. I always fit in every bed I get into. And come time for jungle warfare, I'm going to kill everybody because no one will see me. It's that frame of making no apologies for who you are, buying into fully the gift that you've been given, not the calamity you've been given, but the gift you've been given and doubling down on it. If you have hand tattoos, neck tattoos, I'll tell you, some girls are going to be a hard no.

13:29 They're going to be like, oh my God, you look like a criminal. You look like you just came out of prison. Other girls are going to be like, hell yes, that's sexy as fuck. I remember one Halloween, I was a bro and a bro is a guy who rides motocross, dirt bikes. He wears the hat kind of sideways and he's got those long ass shorts with like knee high socks and he rides dirt bikes, right? I was a bro and I put some fake tattoos on my neck and on my hands.

13:47 I remember this one girl, dude, solid nine. She was all about it. She's like, where's that guy with the neck tattoos? And my friend Jessica's like, they're not actually real. They're just stick-ons for Halloween. She's like, I don't care. Where is he? Where is he? And she like fell in love with me because I was a hard yes in her book. Whereas perhaps with a lot of other girls, there was a hard no, but at least I had a couple of hard yeses. I'd rather have three hard yeses among 97 hard no's than 100 miss where they don't give a shit.

14:21 And they're kind of like, eh, he's vanilla. So guys, I want you to think about what is your style? What is your identity? What are your belief systems? And double down on them. Get extreme with them. Make no apologies about them. If you're into, like I said, the anime stuff and video games, double down on that shit. Wear a Nintendo t-shirt because when you go into the supermarket, there may be a girl there who's also into that shit. And you roll up on her with the Zelda t-shirt and she's like, oh my God, Zelda's my favorite game.

14:50 Whereas if you're just wearing plain clothes, she doesn't know anything about you. So double down motocross guys, double down surfers, double down snowboarders, double down you military guys, you dudes who are into baseball, football, lifting weights, RC cars, Brazilian jujitsu, whatever it is, that's your identity because you're either going to get a hard yes or a hard no. And if you get the hard yes, it's a hard yes, bro. You're getting that girl. This too is why you'll see guys who have wax style and they're with a girl because they own it completely.

15:18 Yes, even the Dungeons and Dragons guys who are playing board games at the board game cafe. You ever see these fucking things? There's like cafes built around doing board games. They go in there. There's actually a couple of cute girls in there sometimes. They're getting those girls. Even if you're a nerd, as long as you're the leader of the nerd and the nerd who buys most into being a nerd, you're going to get the girl. Ever see that TV show Big Bang Theory, Leonard. He was kind of like the king of the nerds.

15:47 And then he got the hot blonde from across the way. Now that's a TV show. There were a lot of issues with it that he probably wouldn't have yanked that girl, but it's just an example of double down on who you are, make no apologies for it. And you're either going to get a hard yes or a hard no. And to the girls you get a hard no from, fuck off. I wasn't interested in you anyway. That's your philosophy. Gentlemen, as I talked about this cord right here is pissing in my river, but it reminds me, and I want to remind you to do every single thing you say you're going to do because your word by definition needs to be a promise from this point forward.

16:25 That is the same honor and integrity that I bring to my clients in my three-month coaching program. Every guy fights shoulder to shoulder with me in the trenches. And I put my blood, sweat, and tears into those men because I want each guy to graduate having 10x his results with women. That's why I'm here in this planet. That is my mission. That is my honor, my integrity, my ikigai, as they say in Japanese, which means my purpose for being here. So if you question whether or not you can trust me at this point, please don't apply because you wouldn't be a good fit anyway.

17:00 But if you see that I'm genuine, if you see that my mission is to help men, apply. Come talk to us. If you make it past the first few steps, there is a one-hour NLP session that you'll have with me and my team to see if, yes, we can at least 10x your results with women. It's simple, gentlemen. Just apply by clicking the link in the description below. You and I will talk personally, and we'll see if we can get the same results for you that we've gotten for every single client that's come through the program.

17:27 Thousands of men are out there right now getting the women that they want, flipping attraction hot switches on command because they had the balls to invest in themselves, the trust in me to come into this program, the most effective seduction program that's ever been created. And I say that with utmost sincerity. Gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I draw a podcast on Mondays and Thursdays, so please stay tuned for the next one, and I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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