The 2nd Biggest Reason Why Girls Aren't Texting You Back

0:00 I got mugged yesterday. The guy pulled out a gun and he said, your life or your money? I said, bro, I'm married. What life? What money? Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. And today, gentlemen, we are going to talk about the second biggest reason girls don't text you back.

0:40 Can you guess what the first biggest reason is? If you've been listening for any amount of time, you should know it's always a lack of attraction. Attraction is always the answer in all situations with women. If you have enough attraction, you have enough buy-in. You will definitely get texts back. You will definitely get her to agree to go on a date with you. And any way that you try to advance the relationship, she will agree to it because she is attracted enough to you. I am going to get into all of that today, including the second biggest reason that girls don't text you back, which is probably the most overlooked reason.

1:14 And perhaps the reason that you guys are getting phone numbers, you're getting some attraction from girls, but for some reason they don't just text you back, this is probably what you're doing wrong. And we are going to get into that today. Before I jump into the content, gentlemen, want to read yet another review of my three-month coaching program. This was a quick email from my brother. Do, do what is up, man. He says, Hey, Mark, I just want to let you know that the coaching call today was fire.

1:41 You brought such a positive and contagious energy. I just felt immediately great after the call. I love how you reframed everybody's issues and made them feel good about themselves. I'm truly mesmerized by your ability to spread such positive energy, even via the Zoom calls. It's so inspiring. I really want to be able to do that one day. Thanks again. Do, do. I really do appreciate that. And gentlemen, that's something I try to do in the coaching calls, which is to make each guy feel like he's a fucking champion.

2:11 Because honestly, if you're going to come into a three-month coaching program where you're tackling your issues, you're facing your fears about approaching women, you're trying to get to the next best version of yourself, I have so much respect for you. I genuinely and legitimately feel that you are a tier one motherfucker. You are a champion. You are a legend. I straight admire the guys that come into my program. And not only my program. When I go into other programs where you have to invest some money to work on yourself, I have so much respect for guys who do that because it's so rare that guys will, A of all, even listen to a podcast like you're doing right now trying to better yourself.

2:50 But more importantly, B of all, actually invest money into themselves. To try to get to that next level. A really wise mentor told me once, until you're making at least $200,000 a year, any money that you get, any whatsoever, should be invested into yourself. Not invested into the stock market. Not invested into Bitcoin. Not invested into your porn addiction. But invested into you. Why is that? Because you're the mechanism that dictates your success. I have invested probably about $200,000 in myself. And every single dollar was the best investment I could have ever made.

3:29 God, I'm so glad I did that. I'm so glad I had the balls, the courage, the belief in both myself, as well as the coaches that I chose to invest in myself. And I'll tell you what, even the coaches that, in my opinion, kind of let me down, kind of weren't the best coaches in my eyes. I'm still glad I invested that money because the way I look at it is this. If I can learn one thing that makes me better, it's worth the money. Because that one thing is going to continue to pay dividends over and over and over again.

3:58 Just imagine, brother, if you had the ability to go up even 5% in your abilities with girls, what would that mean for the long haul of your entire life? For the rest of your life, you're just 5% better. And 5% is a fucking joke. I promise my guys to 10x their results. But what if we even just double your results, triple your results? What would that mean for the rest of your life? And I'll tell you this, guys, if you don't trust me, if you're like, nah, man, I can't do that.

4:25 I don't want to fucking put money into this. I have a guarantee that you can stay with us until you're absolutely, completely satisfied, which means the money that you invest is guaranteed to pay off. Because unless you get the results that you want, your dream results, you stay with us. We keep working with you. We keep getting you to the next best version of yourself until you're like, all right, dude, that money I invested was worth it. How many people have that guarantee? Very few. So guys, come explore working with me.

4:54 It's a three-month coaching program. In three months, I teach you everything I know about attracting women. I remap your brain with NLP. That alone, in my opinion, is worth the investment. That alone, if you get one thing, like removing one belief system, such as I'm not good enough, or don't bother strangers, or hot girls would be better with a different dude. If I can remove just one of those, don't you agree that's worth investing in yourself? Let alone all the other shit I'm going to do for you, including giving you my heart and soul, blood, sweat, and tears like I did to do.

5:27 And he feels it from the coaching calls, as you can hopefully feel it right now. My genuine intent to help you guys, not only in this podcast, but more specifically, in my three-month coaching program. It's simple, brother. Apply below. Let's talk. There's one prerequisite I have, that you're fucking committed to improving yourself. And one of the things I hold you to is replying to my emails within 24 hours, showing me that you're a trigger puller. You are a dude who's sick of your current state, who wants to get to the next best version of yourself, and will not get to the end of your life with regrets.

6:01 Every single dollar I've ever invested in myself was the best decision I ever made, and that's why I continue to do so. I still get coaching. I still explore other avenues where I could get better. Are you doing that? That's the question I have for you. If you're not, it's time to step to the plate, look your fear in the eyes, and say, I have the courage to overcome this. I can get to the next best version of myself, and what if I just improve by 20%?

6:27 Like, how much better will my life be? Yet, Mark guarantees I'm going to 10x my results. Guys, this is why I have the reputation I do. This is why I have so many testimonials on my website. All those video testimonials, this shit works. It is, in my opinion, a once-in-a-generation program that will change your life. So with that out of the way, gentlemen, let's get into the content. So as we discussed, the most important thing when yanking a girl's phone number, and that's what we're talking about here, you getting a phone number, you texting her, and why she's not texting you back.

7:01 The most important thing is that you get her adequately attracted to you. So I'm going to throw a couple tests at you, and I want to see how much you know. First of all, what are the two most important things you have to go up to her with in order to get her initially attracted to you? The two most important things. They are tonality and energy. Dude, the guy whose review I just read said, dude, I can't believe how you're able to keep our attention and keep us motivated in the coaching calls.

7:30 It's because I bring good energy. If me as the coach am not in a better state than all my clients in the coaching calls, I've failed them as a coach. In fact, if me as a podcast host am not in a better state than you are, I've failed you as a listener. Have you ever listened to a podcast where the people are just kind of boring and just kind of getting through it? You click away immediately. Part of the reason I think this podcast is so successful is because I genuinely fucking care.

7:58 I bring you good energy. I bring you the passion of 100 Daniel Steele novels because I care about you boys. And if you sign up to my program, you're like a brother to me, man. We are in the trenches fighting shoulder to shoulder. Passion, energy, feeling good is what you need to bring to women. Now, does that mean you need to be a spaz and go up to her in clown mode and like, hey, how's it going? My name is Mark. How are you doing? No, you can be calm.

8:24 You just have to feel good. Feeling good is contagious. And women are always looking for state outside themselves. She wants to feel better than she feels at this moment. This is why women like Puppy Dogs, Ice Cream, and Daniel Steele novels because it brings up their state. You as the man have to feel good in your body. Even if you're in a coffee shop opening her in a very mellow way, you still have to feel good. The second thing is tonality. If you talk to her with an upward pitch to your tone, she's not going to get attracted to you because it shows that you have low value, such as saying, how are you today?

9:00 That shows that you have low value. You literally think that she's above you. So your voice goes up. As I always talk about in this podcast, you have to have your voice go down almost like you're the authority and she's beneath you socially. It doesn't mean women are less than us. It doesn't mean they only belong in the kitchen. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that you as the man have to have a higher social value than she has and you have to believe it.

9:27 Therefore, you are socially above her in your mind and your voice goes down at the end. You say, hey, how's it going today? It's not condescending. It's not authoritative in the way where you're like, hey, how are you today? It's just that subtle vibe like you're the coach of the soccer team. She's a 12-year-old girl. And you're like, hey, Kelly, go grab the balls. Grab the other girls. We're going to do some laps, okay? You talk to her as if you're the authority. Those are the two most important things.

9:54 Next question for you is this. How many signs of attraction do you need from her to grab her phone number? That's correct. You're a smart motherfucker. Three signs of attraction at the minimum. A lot of you guys are going into conversations with girls. You're giving what you think is value and she's kind of into it, but you're not really getting the signs of attraction. You think you are and then you say, hey, you seem pretty cool. Why don't you toss me your number and we'll catch up some other time.

10:22 She gives you her number many times because she just wants to get rid of you. She doesn't want that combative energy. She doesn't want to tell you no. So she's going to give her number many times when she has no intention whatsoever of texting you back. Have you guys ever given your number to some random dude you've met at a social event? Maybe you guys are mountain biking. You run into him maybe doing some hobby and he's like, hey, bro, let me get your number. And you're like, ah, fuck.

10:46 You're like, yeah, man. All right. Here we go. And then you give him your number and you're like, oh, I'm never going to text him. That's the experience women have. Why? Because they don't have enough attraction. Just like homeboy didn't get you attracted enough to him. He asked too quickly. There wasn't enough rapport. You're like, yeah, I don't really want to spend time with this guy. I mean, this happens to me all the time. I would think it happens to you guys too, where especially in social situations with friends, at a party, usually around hobbies as well.

11:15 They just ask for your number too quickly. And you're like, ah, God damn it. I don't want to spend time with this guy. This is so awkward. It's because he's miscalibrated. He didn't read the signs of whether or not you want to hang out with him. It's the same thing with girls, boys. If you're miscalibrated and you ask for the phone number too quickly without building the attraction, without building the rapport, and without doing what's the second biggest mistake, which I'm going to get into in a second, she's not going to text you back.

11:42 So, attraction is always the number one thing you need, and we need three signs of attraction before we even ask for the phone number. Now, that begs the question, what are three signs of attraction? I want to ask you, list for me in your head, three signs of attraction that a girl's attracted to you. All right, let's go over them. Playing with her hair is a big one. General deer in the headlights look is another one. Laughing at jokes that aren't funny, probably the biggest one and most obvious one because girls don't even know they're doing it.

12:13 Licking her lips, touching you, leaning into you, asking you personal questions, facing you directly with open body language, perhaps closing up the space between you two, asking you about future plans, which in my opinion is the biggest sign that she wants to hang out. Girls will say things like, so what do you do on the weekends or what are you doing this weekend? So obvious, that's when you need to pull the trigger and get the phone number. Now, that also begs the question, well, what if she's not doing that stuff and I can't really tell?

12:43 Here's my opinion on that. If you don't ask, it's always a no. So you can ask for it. Just be advised that there's a decent chance she's not going to text you back. She'll probably give you the phone number. In fact, getting a phone number is really fucking easy. Why? Because a lot of girls don't want that confrontation, as I mentioned previously. But getting a phone number that sticks is a completely different ballgame. You have to have the attraction. I prefer personally, as a coach, as a guy who's already good at this, I prefer to have those signs.

13:14 And I won't even ask unless I do have those signs. Because I know through the majority of my experience, when she's attracted, when she's not, her behavior will oftentimes clue me in as to whether or not she's actually going to text me back. So in my opinion, I'm like, why waste my time? I can tell this chick won't text me back. Hey, we just didn't have chemistry. I just didn't get her attracted. Yes, boys, even Mark Singh fails to get girls attracted to him sometimes. Oh my God, I can't believe it.

13:40 But here's the thing. I open so many girls that there's enough proportion of them that do get attracted to me that the ones who don't get attracted to me literally don't matter. If you're opening 100 girls a month, does it really matter if 20 of them don't get attracted to you? No, because 80 did. And out of those 80, if you did all the correct steps, if you use the templates I give my guys in my three-month coaching program, you are going to have more girls than you can deal with.

14:08 I got another email today from my boy, Graham. He's like, dude, how do I deal with all these chicks? I'm literally in a pussy tidal wave is what he said. And I'll tell you, boys, Graham isn't some young, good-looking dude. He's a little bit older. He's not the best-looking dude, as many of my clients aren't, and that's okay because looks don't matter. Behavior matters. Now that Graham understands the fundamentals of attraction, now that he understands how to get girls attracted to him, and now that he's remapped his brain with my NLP, he's in a pussy tidal wave.

14:41 He's like, dude, how do I manage these chicks? And that's the situation that all my guys get into. What if that situation happened to you? That's what I want to ask. So we understand the number one biggest thing is not enough attraction. We have to look for three signs of attraction. The two most important things when opening a woman are what? Tonality and energy. So we got those bases covered. We get why sometimes girls will give us the phone number, but they won't text us back.

15:08 It's lack of attraction. Now there's obviously lots of little nuances, lots of little things that we have to understand. And unfortunately, all those things cannot be reviewed in a 20-minute podcast, which again, is why I need three months to teach you everything I know about attracting women. And don't get it twisted, brothers, three months, I give you everything I know, every single thing, my entire vault of secrets, everything, including a custom three-month NLP protocol that you can use continuously even after you graduate. It's like having a toolkit, a toolbox full of every tool you'll ever need to tackle things like traumas, bad belief systems, archetypes, metaprograms, all these things that are holding you back that were given to you before you could defend yourself.

15:53 Now, gentlemen, the second biggest reason women won't text you back is because you didn't show enough interest in her. Now, I know this sounds counterintuitive because a lot of guys will show a lot of interest in her, but oftentimes when we get game and we understand how game works, we go in with what I call entertainment mode. We go in giving value, as I talked about, good energy, good tone, good stories, getting her on a high note, breaking rapport, doing all these awesome methods that I teach, but a lot of guys forget to let her game you because she has to have a reason in her mind as to why you like her.

16:32 And a lot of girls will go home, having given their phone number to a dude, thinking to themselves, wait a second, he hardly knows anything about me. He didn't show a lot of interest in me. He just told stories. He was making me laugh. He was so entertaining. And yeah, I felt a lot of attraction to him, but was he actually attracted to me or does he just want my sex? And girls aren't stupid, boys. They know that we're just attracted to them physically many times.

17:00 They want you to be attracted to them emotionally, rationally, like their personality, just as much as you like their body and their perfect tits. So you have to sometimes pretend. And when I say pretend, I use that quote loosely that you're actually interested in her. Because let's be honest, gentlemen, your interest in her is mostly about her looks. If she looks good enough, she could sound like a fucking pterodactyl when she laughs and you'll be like, I'm okay with that. She could have even bad breath sometimes, and you'll be like, I'm okay with that.

17:32 I could deal with it. Her vagina could smell like a burnt taco that got shit on by a sumo wrestler, and you'll be like, ah, she's pretty banging though. I think I could deal with that. Not ideal, the pterodactyl laugh, the bad breath, and the sumo wrestler vagina, but you understand what I'm saying. Looks take us a really long way. You have to pretend, quote unquote, or better yet, genuinely be interested in who she is as a woman. So you have to ask her questions about herself.

18:00 And for some reason, a lot of guys forget this once they get good with women. Take Graham, for example. The guy is self-proclaimed drowning in pussy, as he said in his email to me this morning. He might get to the point where he's so good at running gambits, so good at running game, she's sitting there just like an audience member for his performance. He can easily forget what I call the fourth pillar of attraction. Here's the four pillars of attraction. Frame control, value, sexual tension, qualifying.

18:32 Qualifying is the fourth pillar of attraction because you're making her work for you. Asking her questions like, you know what? I'm curious about you, Kelly. What would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? Or, you know what? I'm curious about you, Kelly. What's the coolest thing you've ever done for your friend? Or, hey, I'm curious about how you think about life. What would you do with yourself if you had no chance of failure? What would you do if you got $90 million? What would your life consist of?

18:57 What would you have on the side of a freeway written on a billboard? Where would you go if you could travel anywhere in the world? If there were one person throughout history, alive or dead, who you could have dinner with, who would that be? So these are a small sample of soundbite questions that you can ask girls during the first conversation. Things that get her into her emotions, such as what makes you feel the absolute best in your life? What's your number one favorite thing to do?

19:26 If you're talking to a girl, you're giving tons of value, and you preface your question with, hey, so I'm curious about you. And I always ask this to my friends. This is a great question to let me learn more about you. What would you do with no chance of failure? If somebody asked you that, brother, you'd be pumped because you get to think about you and what's everybody's favorite topic themselves. This is the concept of with them. What's in it for me? That's the only thing she's thinking about.

19:54 What's in it for me? Is he interested in me beyond just my smoking body and super hot face? Does he actually want to learn about me? And when you ask those questions, it gets her deeper into her emotions. She gets to explain things to you. You get to kind of act like you're interested. And then she feels like she gamed you a little bit. Now, this is why we have the fourth pillar, qualifying. Qualifying means qualifying her, making her work for you, making her jump through your hoops, fight for your attention, such as, hey, what's good about you beyond your looks?

20:26 What's a piece of wisdom you could teach me through the majority of your experience that could improve my life? What's your favorite thing to do where you stop thinking? And then maybe you explain to her how stopping thinking actually gets you into peace because thoughts oftentimes create suffering, which I always like to talk about. I like to mentor them, make them work for me, make them explain themselves to me. Then once they've done that enough, usually about two to three different things where I can actually show like, hey, you're pretty cool.

20:55 I like you for more than just your looks. Then I can say, hey, you know what? You seem pretty cool. I got to get out of here right now. Why don't you toss me your number? We'll catch up some other time. She then has been entertained by you. She knows you have high value. You have a good frame. You brought a good energy. You had good tonality the whole time. She showed you at least three signs of attraction. Then you let her game you a little bit, tell you some stories, answer some questions, give you some wisdom.

21:21 You said, hey, I like you. Why don't you toss me your number? And then when you text her, it has a higher chance of sticking. Think about relationships with your guy friends. If you had a guy just come up to you and he's giving you nothing but value and you're like, yeah, this dude's fun. Then he asks for your phone number. You're like, dude, what the fuck? Why does he want my phone number? Oh my hell, this dude's gay and he wants to finger blast my butthole.

21:44 That's what you're going to think because he doesn't know anything about you. Had you, on the other hand, had a great conversation with him. You had some value. He had some value. You guys had commonalities. You guys were laughing. You guys both wanted to hang out. Then of course, you're going to text him back. So we need to stop looking at women as little compartmentalized beings who are not human and we need to have a different approach to attract them. No, they're human beings just like you are.

22:10 They want to know, does he actually like me for me? Do we actually have things in common? Do we have rapport? Did we laugh? Do we have chemistry? All those things are necessary, which also goes into why I don't have the power and neither will you to get every single fucking girl attracted to me because chemistry, jiving, having similar attitudes, laughing together is something that can't be fabricated. I can fabricate it to an extent as can you, but that's why I always tell my boys, I only have an 80% success rate because 20% of the time it's just out of my hands.

22:44 But if you're not taking women through the normal protocol of building rapport, having you like her for her, you're not going to get a text back. And this is what many guys forget, the second biggest mistake. So once again, boys, the first biggest mistake is not enough attraction. The second biggest mistake is not showing that you're actually interested in her. One final little soundbite I want to give you guys and then we're going to wrap this up. When I ask her a qualifying question and my favorite qualifying question is, what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you?

23:16 When she answers it, I say, you know what? That's really cool. And then I jokingly say, you just went up 10 points in my book. You're now at negative 67. Congratulations. And then she kind of hits me on the arm. It's another point of attraction. So boys, don't forget to let her game you. Don't forget to build that rapport. And once you get good, if you don't get those obvious signs of attraction, you're just going to be like, you know what? Fuck it. She's probably not going to text me back.

23:41 But until you are that good, I suggest that you go for the number, try for it anyway, because who knows? They could text you back. But again, it's like once you have abundance, you're like, who gives a shit? There's another bus coming. There's a flood of women in my life. I don't need every single girl I talk to. And if she isn't attracted to me, so be it, which is another huge thing, gentlemen. Outcome independence. I don't care if those goes well because I have such an abundance of women.

24:09 That should be your mentality as well. If you want that mentality, I could literally give it to you. What are you going to do if you get to the end of your life and think, damn, if I only invest in myself in the way of women, I wouldn't have married this fucking sea hag that looks like a mountain troll who on my deathbed is next to my bed and I never even loved that chick. God bless, boys. I do not want you to be in that reality.

24:32 I refuse to let any of my clients get to that reality. I want you to have sexual choice. I want you to pick the girl that is best for you from abundance and spend the rest of your life in happiness. Because I'm going to tell you this, one of the most important decisions you ever make, possibly the most important decision you ever make, is who you spend your life with. Is that girl going to be a burden on you or is she going to ameliorate you, which means make your life better?

24:59 That's up to you, man. If you don't have the skill set, I'm sorry, but you kind of just have to choose what's thrown at you. If you do have the skill set, the abundance of women available to you is never ending. And from that, you choose the best woman possible because it literally is one of the most important decisions you ever make. I'm available to you, gentlemen. I have the program that can turn you into that guy with options. Sign up below. Just click the link below.

25:27 Go through the quick application. As a reminder, I am looking for commitment. Not necessarily to me, commitment to getting this part of your life fixed and getting the ability to attract women on command. And one of the things that I demand is replying to my emails within 24 hours. Honestly, if you want to get better with women, that doesn't seem like such a big ask and you could do it too. So I look forward to hearing from you, gentlemen. Thank you for listening. I got an awesome one coming up on Monday, so stay tuned for that one.

25:55 And I will see you in the next episode. We'll see you in the next episode.

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