The 10 Most Unattractive & Attractive Hobbies You Can Have as a Man

0:00 Besides, when I go out to the nightclubs and I'm gaming girls, I like to be completely sharp, completely concise. And when she's a little tipsy and I'm not, who has the upper hand? So drinking is really unattractive, especially, again, when the dude gets inebriated and wakes up with a deldo in his butt the next morning and he has no idea what happened. It's that kind of level that's unattractive. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it.

0:39 What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you. And today, boys, we are going to talk about the most unattractive hobbies and the most attractive hobbies to women. So I want you to stay tuned until the very end because I do have a few things to say about these hobbies that if you do some unattractive shit, just as I do, believe me, I do, it isn't really a deal breaker. It's how you frame it. And I'm going to talk about framing at the end of this.

1:07 But this is pretty interesting. Want to keep it light today. Been doing a few more serious episodes over the past few weeks. So we're just going to keep it light, playful, have some fun with this. So let's get into it. We got 20 to go through, 10 unattractive, 10 attractive. So let's jump into it. All right. So number 10 on the unattractive hobbies is being an obsessive sports fan. This is unattractive because it kind of shows you don't have much of a life if you're just completely obsessed with the sports team.

1:36 It's cool to be a fan. It's cool to maybe occasionally get your face painted up and go cheer at the sports event. But, dude, if, like, you're obsessive about it, I'm talking stickers on the back of your car, kind of obsessive. That may be something to reconsider because it kind of shows, like, how high is this dude going to ascend if he's, like, spending so much energy following this sports team. And, listen, if you're a sports fan and you're obsessed and you have a sticker on the back of your car, don't get butt hurt.

2:04 Reframe what I'm telling you. Live in your own reality. I'm just telling you what women report, and this is true with a lot of my girlfriends. They kind of get a little bit grossed out by dudes who are, like, so into it. Number nine is comic books. This is self-explanatory. Boys, if you have a Spider-Man picture on your wall and the corner of it is, like, drooping down and there's, like, a spider web coming off of it and it's been there since 2003, it's pretty unattractive. Comic books in your comic book collection, getting comic book number one of Spider-Man issued in 1956 and it's worth, like, $100,000, it's just unattractive because it's childish.

2:45 It's straight-up childish. Shows that you're not really mature. You're not going for bigger things. But if you're a comic book fan, own it, bro. Like, don't apologize for it, which, again, I'm going to talk about at the end of this episode. Number eight is drinking. I've seen so many women get turned off by their boyfriends who just get inebriated when we're out at the nightclubs. This is part of the reason I don't drink. I don't know if you guys know, but I've never had a sip of alcohol in my entire life.

3:12 A lot of girls ask me why that is. I tell them the truth. It's because when I was a kid, my grandmother was killed by a drunk driver. But also because when I was in high school and college, I was actually a drummer in a punk rock band, a straight-edge punk rock band. Straight-edge means no drinking, no drugs. It was really trendy in the 90s and 2000s when I was in college. And that's kind of why I don't drink. And now I just don't have interest in it.

3:37 Besides, when I go out to the nightclubs and I'm gaming girls, I like to be completely sharp, completely concise. And when she's a little tipsy and I'm not, who has the upper hand? So drinking is really unattractive, especially, again, when the dude gets inebriated and wakes up with a deldo in his butt the next morning and he has no idea what happened. It's that kind of level that's unattractive. Number seven is porn. Self-explanatory. If you've got that frequent masturbator platinum card, you might not want to tell girls about it because it's unattractive.

4:07 It just shows sexual lasciviousness. It shows that you can't go get sex regularly. And what are women attracted to? They're attracted to dudes who can get other women. So by you being obsessed with porn, which why would you ever tell a girl that? But let's just say it comes out that you're doing like six porn sessions a day, obviously unattractive because it shows that you can't get it naturally. So you have to resort to that lesser option of watching pornography. Number six, arguing online. God, I agree with this, boys.

4:39 As a dating coach, I get so many trolls who, when they post something negative to either my podcast, my Instagram, or even email me, I just immediately think this is the lowest value dude this earth can possibly produce. Trolls, people who hate online and or argue online, is just, in my opinion, a dude who has no life, who's extremely insecure, who needs to make himself feel better by hiding behind his keyboard and attacking other people. It's like the lowest vibrating shit I've ever heard of, and girls feel the same way.

5:15 The next one, number five, is smoking weed. I'm sorry, you stoners out there, but it's unattractive. Why? Because it's a downer. It makes you nonproductive. It shows a lack of ambition. It's equivalent to you watching Netflix and eating donuts, so it's unattractive because women want go-getters. They want dudes who are passionate, dudes who are ambitious, going for that next best version of themselves, guys sitting around smoking weed. It just communicates the opposite of everything that women are attracted to. Unless she, too, is a weed smoker, it's extremely, exceptionally unattractive.

5:49 I've had girls tell me that all the time. Now, listen, if occasionally you do it, that's okay, such as if you use it to remedy a sleep disorder or you have some problem with health and you're using it in a medicinal kind of way, that's fine. Or even if you just smoke once in a while to chill, that's cool. It's when it's like a hobby. It's like wake and bake kind of guys. I literally have a friend who I do a hobby with, which, by the way, is unattractive, and I'm going to talk about it in a second, who's constantly stoned.

6:20 The guy has not been sober, and he's told me this himself, in like two decades. He's constantly smoking weed. When we're doing our unattractive hobby together, he has to step out like every 20 minutes to go get well as we joke. We'll be doing our hobby, and he'll be like, hey, bro, I got to go get well. I'm like, go have fun getting well, man. And we laugh about it, but ultimately it's unattractive, especially because he has to rely on it so much. I mean, he's addicted to weed, which is a downer, and I mean, I love the dude.

6:52 He's a great friend, one of the nicest guys I've ever met, and he's awesome at this hobby that we do. But is he super ambitious? No. Is he making tons of money? No. He can barely afford to buy the constant weed that he has to buy, and he's resorted to growing it himself because it's so expensive. So smoking weed, unfortunately, boys, for you pot smokers, pretty unattractive. The next one might surprise you. It's gambling. Gambling shows that you have a lack of self-restraint. You are willing to take too many risks because we all know the house always wins in the end.

7:28 And if you were to be, say, the father of her children, what kind of woman wants a dude that gambles? Now, do I gamble sometimes? Yes, I do. I have an app on my phone where I bet on Supercross. I'm a big Supercross racer. Every race, I bet like 20 bucks on Eli Tomac most of the time, but sometimes Jet Lawrence. And I win some money. I lose some money. It's just a fun game. But am I constantly gambling, driving up to Blackhawk? I believe it's called here in Colorado where gambling is legal or like flying out to Vegas to go lose half my life savings betting on black on roulette.

8:03 Nah, man. It shows a lack of discipline. It shows that you're too much of a risk taker. So again, boys, with all of these, if you do them in moderation, you're cool. But it's those things where it's excessive, where it's kind of like a big part of your life, where it becomes unattractive. But I know many attractive men that gamble. I know many attractive men that drink. And I know many attractive men that play with toy cars, which is another one. That's number three. It's basically playing with toys.

8:31 And I am admitting it. It's a little bit embarrassing. But I'm really into RC, remote control shit. I got RC drift cars. I got RC buggies. I got myself a team low-seat buggy. I got airplanes. I got boats. I love this shit, dude. All over my house is RC. In fact, if you're watching on video, there's a room right there that's just all dedicated to RC. I can see my low-seat team vehicle right there. I can see my drift car. And the guy who smokes all that weed I was telling you about, we drift together.

9:01 We do RC drifting. The guy's epic at drifting, man. We get in the sickest tandems, door-to-door, just slapping doors. Our team is called addicted to the door because it's fucking fun. Drifting is where, like, the back tires slide loose and you're, like, sliding through the turn. Well, they have RC drifting, and I do that shit. Is it attractive to women? Is it going to be the first thing I tell a girl that I do? Honestly, it might be, and I'll be completely unapologetic about it. But it's not really that attractive because we're sitting there playing with toy cars.

9:31 Let's be realistic. Some of these guys get so into it. You would have your mind blown if you'd see some of the shit that these dudes do, especially with buggy racing. I have a four-wheel drive. Team Losey buggy. Oh, my hell. The depth that these guys get into. You could watch YouTube videos all day about how to set your differential and the kind of fluid you should use in your shocks. It's insane. But it's a hobby, and I enjoy the hobby. So if you have a low-value hobby that's on this list, own it, dude.

10:02 Don't make apologies for it. I love that shit. I'll wear a fucking T-shirt that says, Team Losey, motherfucker, because I make no apologies for it. But is it the only thing I'm doing in my life? Is it, like, my total life? No. I have other ambitions. And even if it were my total life, as it is some of the guys I watch on YouTube, they've made a successful YouTube channel out of it. So it can be attractive if you're able to bring the attractive elements into it.

10:30 Like, I'm a go-getter. I'm getting millions of views. I'm making money from this. Then it can be attractive. But if you're the dude, I hate to say that's like my friend, smoking weed and just drifting and not really doing anything else with his life, then it becomes unattractive. The next one is anime, and that's number two. You guys know that anime is just naturally unattractive. Like, if a chick walks into your house and you have all your fucking anime figurines, half of which are, like, half-naked chicks with badonkadonk butts leaning over, shooting a fucking arrow out of their butthole.

11:04 This is unattractive, obviously. Collecting figurines, playing with magic, having anything to do with anime, which goes back to comic books, extremely unattractive. I'm sorry. It's just the way it is. But, dude, I have a Dragon Ball Z dude. I think it's the dude with the white hair that's all spiky and shit. I have that guy out in my garage, man, on top of my toolbox. He's just standing up there all jacked and shit. It's like, one anime character isn't going to kill you. A couple aren't going to kill you.

11:36 It's when you have the full-blown collection, bro, taking up six walls in your house. And the chick's like, why is this in a box? And you're like, oh, this is the 2008 version of the Dragon Ball Z character, the first issue that came out, and it's actually worth $25, and I only spent $10 for it. No, no, no. Don't touch the box, because if you get a fingerprint on it, it'll go down in value. That kind of shit, dude. Unattractive. Oh, my hell. She will be out of there, bro, like you just sprayed her face with fart mist.

12:09 Number one, most unattractive thing. Think about it, bro, and I bet a lot of you guys do this. That's right. Playing video games. I know there's a lot of gamers up in here with your gamer chair and your fucking keyboard that's all, like, rainbow-colored. And you have all these lights under your desk, and you have, like, three screens that you use half the time to play video games and the other half the time to masturbate. And the last time you had sex with the girl, you had forgotten so much how to have sex, it looked like a turtle trying to board a life raft in the middle of the sea.

12:45 This is the kind of dude who, I hate to say, doesn't typically get girls. But remember, stay tuned until the very end because I'm going to teach you how to frame it where even if you are a video gamer dude who has one of those chairs that's literally set on its back so you can be as comfortable as possible while you game for 18 hours a day, unattractive, man. Just being honest with you. So let's go over them again. Obsessive sports fan, comic books, drinking, porn, arguing online, smoking weed, gambling, playing with toys such as RC cars like I do, anime, playing video games.

13:23 All right, let's get into the most attractive hobbies you can have. Number 10, anything outdoors such as hiking, camping, getting that chainsaw out, and sawn down a fucking tree to throw into the campfire because you are a mountain man. I know every time Marissa and I go camping, I kind of get like the camping outfit on, right? I got like the pants, I got the flannel, I got an axe hanging off my hip, I got a knife on me. She gets turned on by that, man. And girls can't control this shit.

13:53 They are attracted to dudes who are into anything outdoors. Once again, hiking could be like mountain biking, camping, having adventures, kayaking, rafting, fishing. Fishing is a little bit of a gray area. Girls get really irritated by dudes who always post fish on their dating profiles. Do not post a picture of you with a fish, bro. Girls tell me all the time they hate that, but anything outdoors. Next one is health and exercise for obvious reasons. She wants to know that you're taking care of your health because here's something you may not know.

14:28 Your immune system and the strength of it will actually dictate how attracted you are to a woman. So health signs, right? Like vibrant skin, clear eyes, you're strong, you have good posture, you have good body language. All these things are health signs because she wants what? She wants your genes to pass on to her children unconsciously so that her children can be successful and to procreate successfully. So your health and fitness are really important, attractive signs. This goes back to marijuana. And I know some of you are like, dude, this guy's like seriously ripping on my number one hobby, bro, smoking that ganja.

15:06 I'm just saying a lot of dudes who smoke weed, let's be honest, guys, they kind of look like a chicken McNugget with tits. That's because they're eating chicken McNuggets all the time. They're eating Doritos and getting them munchies. So they look out of shape. They look blown out. That's unattractive. Now, do you have to be completely shredded? No. You just have to show that you are into your health. You are into exercise. Very attractive hobbies to have. And a great place to meet girls is where?

15:32 The gym, yoga studios, cycling studios, Pilates. This is a great way to meet girls who, too, are into fitness. Because I'll tell you what, some chick who's smoking weed has her badonkadonk butt because she's eating Cheeto-wrapped fried Oreo cookies by the dozen, and she looks like a canyon mule. This is because low-value hobbies create low-value results. These are telegraphed in how your body is, how you carry yourself, which telegraphs your immune system, your health, your ability to pass on good genes to a child. Why are we attracted to hot girls?

16:08 Is it because they have nice tits and a nice ass? No, it's health science. Her ability to have a healthy child. Your attraction for women is all based on the child. Her attraction to you is all based on the child. What can this guy give to the child? And you're thinking, can she have a healthy child? Well, if she's sitting around eating Doritos all day, looking like a mountain troll or trailer swift, you're not attracted to that because it's low health science. And that's why health and exercise is really important.

16:38 Number eight is cooking. I can't cook anything except for a piece of bread in a toaster oven, and I don't make any excuses for that. But if you can cook, very attractive to women. Next one is photography. That's number seven. I don't know why. I guess because you're artistic. You have a good eye. You're getting out into outdoors. I don't really get that one. Photography. It's attractive. Number six is woodworking or home improvement. Have you guys noticed that when you put on that tool belt and you go fix something in your home, or perhaps you lived with a girl and you fix something in your apartment, they get super attracted to you.

17:14 Every time I put on my tool belt and get to work in the house, Marissa gets a snail trail down her leg. She sits there looking at me with her pinky in her mouth like she's Dr. Evil wanting to butt rape me because I have a tool belt on. They love that shit. So woodworking, home improvement is number six. Number five is motorcycles. Now, a lot of girls will be like, oh, I don't want to date a guy with a motorcycle. But boys, I had a Yamaha R6 for two years.

17:41 It's a crotch rocket. That thing got me more ass than almost anything I've ever done other than going to nightclubs with hot girls and being a bouncer. But dude, that motorcycle was a girl magnet. They may tell you they don't want you riding motorcycles because they're dangerous, but they are attracted to them unconsciously because it's danger. It's kind of like the bad boy. It's like that movie Grease 2 where the motorcycle rider, she doesn't know who he is and he's kind of got that element of bad boy and danger.

18:11 And then she rides with him before even knowing who he is. That's kind of like in the female subconscious. Motorcycle is very attractive. Number four is athletics. We all know that women are attracted to athletes. We know they're attracted to professional athletes, but even if you're a college athlete, a high school athlete, or you still do athletics of any kind outside of pickleball, of course, pickleball, naturally unattractive. I'm fucking with you if you play pickleball, which probably half you guys do because that shit is so popular for some reason.

18:41 But sports are attractive because it shows that you're healthy, you're athletic, you can go against other dudes and beat them. And that's why I've given the choice. All of us would have been that high school football hero with an SAT score less than zero. I want to score a touchdown so I can score that night. If you ever heard that AFI song way from the past, it was one of their first songs ever. High school football hero. That's why those guys got laid. It is attractive.

19:08 Number three is playing a musical instrument. Self-explanatory. I was a drummer, as I told you, in college and high school. Man, that shit got me laid. And the drummer gets the least sex. It goes probably drummer, bassist, guitarist, and then, of course, the number one guy to get the sex is the singer. But if you can play a musical instrument or if you sing, very attractive to women. Number two is having a foreign language. And I have discovered this myself. Some of you know that I lived in Japan for four years.

19:39 I could speak that Japanese, that niho-ing-go, and it has gotten me laid many times. When they find out that I speak Japanese, oh, my hell, dude, attraction through the roof. But would I sit here telling you that you got to go learn a foreign language to attract a girl? No. If you know one, great. If you don't, that's fine, too. It doesn't matter that much. But it is attractive to women. And number one, boys, and I love this one because it applies to you directly, reading, studying, bettering yourself, which I would throw in there listening to podcasts because you're trying to better yourself.

20:13 You're trying to improve. And that is attractive to women, trying to get to the next best version of yourself. Now, a caveat to all this stuff. Does it really matter when it boils down? No. As long as you own it, as long as you control the frame, you could be a weed-smoking, arguing online, porn-addicted, drunk, comic book-collecting, obsessive sports fan that also does magic, gambles, plays with RC cars with me on the weekends, and we drift together, collects anime, and plays video games all day, lives in your mom's basement, has no job, no ambition.

20:50 If you have strong frame and you completely own it unapologetically and are able to make the girl feel good, make her laugh, give her a world-class experience, lead her to where she wants to be led, all that stuff that's unattractive does not fucking matter. What matters is how you think about these things. So if you're like me and you have some unattractive hobbies, own it unapologetically. And if she's like, oh, my God, you race RC cars, be like, yeah, dude, it's the shit. Me and my boy Brian get doors.

21:22 It's just door-to-door all night long. I love that stuff. And see me out at the dirt track racing my team low-seat buggy because I'm going to kick everybody's asses in the next race. As long as you own it, boys, that's all that matters. But think about you. Think about your hobbies. What do you do that's unattractive? What do you do that's attractive? One thing I will say is you'll probably want to keep some of the more unattractive things off the dating apps. You could put some of them on Instagram, but we're always trying to give women the best version of us when it comes to social media as well as the dating apps.

21:55 So be careful with that. But if you're like dating a girl for a couple weeks or a couple months and she sees your anime collection, be unapologetic about it. The less you apologize for it, the more you own it, the less that she will be affected by it and the more she'll own it too. So you always have to be seated in your frame. Think that what you do is the shit. And just like me, boys, you probably have some stupid hobbies. One other hobby I do is wheelies on my bicycle.

22:21 Every Wednesday night in Denver, we get together in a group, about 60 of us, and we go do wheelies through the streets. Not really attractive, not really unattractive. I could see reasons for both, but dude, I'm fucking proud of that, man. I can rip a sick wheelie. I could wheelie literally forever on my bike until my arms get tired. I could do one-hand wheelies. I can do swerves. And I'm not even close to the best dude out there. There's guys out there doing combos, like jumping to their pegs, jumping in the air, switching their legs, and jumping back onto the seat, continuing to do a wheelie.

22:54 It's insane how good these guys are. So if I met a girl, I'd be like, yeah, on Wednesday nights, I go out and do wheelies. In fact, my wheelie name is Papa Willie. That's my wheelie name. I'm Papa Willie because I'm one of the oldest guys out there, and I own it, and I like it. And dude, sometimes when we're doing wheelies or like high-five chicks who are standing on the side of the road, you got to be you. You got to do what you like.

23:18 And most importantly, boys, you got to be unapologetic about it. What you do is cool. What you do is awesome. Even if, again, you're a weed-smoking, video game-playing, anime collector, own that shit. Make no apologies for it, and she will accept it too. So I hope you got some laughs out of this one, boys. I hope it gave you some insight into what is and what isn't attractive to women where it comes to hobbies. But again, I cannot stress this enough. Be you. Own it. Love what you do.

23:46 Love who you are. Just like me, out at the drift track with my little RC car, dude, fucking drifting for four hours in a row doing laps upon laps unapologetically. And then when I leave, I feel good. And when I leave, I say, yes, this is me. This is who I am. If you don't like it, there's the door. That's the philosophy you need to have. So, boys, I do appreciate you listening. As a reminder, I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. So please stay tuned for the next one, and I will see you in the next episode.

24:35 We'll see you next time.

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