If They're HATING YOU, it's Probably Because You're Doing Something Right

0:00 You're going to become successful, you're going to get the money, you're going to get the chicks, whatever it is that you're trying to achieve, you're probably going to achieve it. It's the guy who works on himself, who invests in himself, who understands that he has more work to do to get to the level that he wants to get to, who reaches success in life. And you are probably that guy. I'm telling you this because the more successful you become, the more haters you're going to get along the way.

0:26 If you become successful with girls, you're going to get hate. If you become monetarily successful, you're going to get hate. If you do anything in the public eye whatsoever, you are going to get hate, brother. You might even get death threats like I do. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. It has been proven that guys like you who listen to podcasts are actually more intelligent than the average population. It's true, man. I'm not trying to blow smoke up your ass, go down Flex Avenue, or fluff your feathers, but I'm being absolutely serious.

0:59 In addition to that, if you clicked on this episode or any of my episodes in order to improve yourself, you are different than most guys who just want to skate through life, who want to take the easy way, who make excuses. And by the way, all your excuses are lies and who don't get the results. So honestly, man, if I were a betting guy, which I'm not, but if I were, I would bet on you to become a monumental success. Now, again, it may seem like I'm trying to fluff your feathers or blow smoke up your ass, but that's not what I'm doing.

1:33 I'm literally respecting you because you're working on yourself. It's the guy who works on himself, who invests in himself, who understands that he has more work to do to get to the level that he wants to get to, who reaches success in life. And you are probably that guy. Now, why am I telling you this? I'm telling you this because the more successful you become, the more haters you're going to get along the way. In fact, a wise mentor told me once, he's like, Mark, if you don't have a pretty substantial amount of haters, you're not that successful.

2:06 The tallest poppy always gets cut. Have you ever heard that term? It means that in the poppy fields, the tallest ones always get cut down. That's a reference to how people who accelerate in life, all your successful pickup artists, people who reach monetary success, whatever it is that somebody's going for, they always get hatred. Look at LeBron James, one of the most hated people in the world. Even Michael Jordan got a ton of hate. Even Messi, one of the most humble people in the world, gets mountains of hate.

2:38 The tallest poppy always gets cut. And here's something else a different mentor told me. He said, Mark, if they're hating on you, it's probably because you're doing something right. And really think about that. If you're not really affecting the world or if you're not really kicking so much ass, nobody's really going to hate on you, right? Everybody's going to support you. Even your own family gets intimidated by your success. This is why oftentimes when people give you advice, say, for example, you want to go take a risk or start a business, people will often give you advice to keep you where you are.

3:10 They'll be like, nah, man, you shouldn't do that. Like, what if it fails? What if you get hurt? And oftentimes it comes from love. But even more than that, it comes from their scarcity mentality. They wouldn't do it. So they don't want you to do it. Failures like company. Successful people like company too. And when you become a success, you'll meet other successful people. You'll surround yourself with them. So you need to get comfortable with the fact that sometimes you need to leave people behind. You need to get comfortable with the fact that maybe your friends from the past won't climb that mountain with you.

3:42 But you also need to know that when you get to the top, there's new friends up there waiting for you. But the most uncomfortable thing that people have to deal with is that you're going to get hated on. If you become successful with girls, you're going to get hate. If you become monetarily successful, you're going to get hate. If you do anything in the public eye whatsoever, you are going to get hate, brother. You might even get death threats like I do. Literally, boys, on Instagram, I get death threats.

4:10 And by the way, I screenshot them. I find out who the person is and I keep a file of that shit just in case. But look at that. How low vibrating of a person do you have to be to, first of all, hate on another person? But secondly, give them a death threat? Now, we have to understand that the reason people are going to hate on you is because ultimately they're really unhappy. And what are they? They're peanut butter and fucking jealous. They're jealous of your success.

4:35 They wish they could be like you. They will never admit it to you. But they actually kind of love you, bro. They're kind of obsessed with you. And this is the way I think about my haters. They kind of want to be you, brother. They kind of want to experience what you're experiencing. They never, ever tell you that. Instead, they get angry because you're doing so well. And then they lash out at you because they want to bring you down to their low vibrating level. So what you have to consider it is a compliment.

5:02 This is why on every Instagram post that I get that has hatred in it. And by the way, I don't even read my Instagram posts. I have assistants who do it. Same thing with comments on Spotify. What I do is I have my assistant show me the good ones. I reply to them and then she posts them. But all the negative ones, I just have her delete them and then even block people because I don't need that negativity in my life. But what I tell my assistants to do is to actually put a heart on Instagram on that hatred.

5:29 Why would I do that? Because frame control is essentially being unaffected. I don't give a fuck what you say. And in fact, I kind of like it because it shows me exactly where you're at in life. Now that may beg the question, well, why then don't you read your own comments? Because guys, even though I'm highly secure and I'm actually going to talk about being secure and being humble and not being arrogant. So stay tuned because that's actually the most important part of this episode. Even though I'm secure, even though I love myself, guys, I'm human.

5:57 And those kinds of negative comments, they have kind of like a stickiness to them. You can see hundreds of good comments, but it's like that one bad comment. And a lot of you guys know this, that one bad comment just kind of sticks to you and it kind of irritates you. So what I've done in my life, and I highly suggest this for you too, is don't even look at comments unless of course you have an assistant like I do that can go through them, just ignore them because the bad ones have that stickiness and they will affect you.

6:24 But ultimately you kind of have to take it as a compliment because in today's day and age, unfortunately, if they're not hating on you, you're probably not that successful. And as sad as that is, I almost feel like bad saying that, it's the truth of it. There's so many low vibrating people in this society. There's so many unintelligent people who are just failing in life that when they see you, if they're not affected by you and hating on you, you're not really being polarizing enough, you're not really doing enough, you're not really getting up to that next level.

6:55 Now, when you think that way, you can actually take the hatred as a compliment. If they're hating on you, it's probably because you're doing something right. It's almost like feedback from society of, am I crushing it or not? So the more success you get, the more hatred you get. And I have to ask you, how comfortable are you with that? Are you willing to be hated? Are you willing to get people peanut butter and jealous of your success? Or are you so afraid of not appeasing everybody?

7:23 Are you so in that nice guy mentality that you're afraid to be successful because you don't want the haters? Haters will come. It's an inevitable part of being successful. And you have to understand, it's a comment about them. It's not a comment about you. They are struggling in life. They are not getting what they want. And the distance between what they want and what is, is the pain gap. So here they are over here living a life, but the life they want is over here. And there's a huge distance between them.

7:52 That's the pain gap. Now, people who are not resourceful, people who are not intelligent, people who vibrate at a very low level, they're going to lash out at successful people like you and I because that's the only thing that can make them feel better. That's the only distance they can travel to get themselves some relief. So you can't hate on the haters. You can't take personally what they say because it's not a comment about you. It's a comment about them. They're failing in life. They're miserable.

8:19 And on a deeper level, brother, you could even have compassion for them, which is what I try to have. Now, I'm not at the spiritual level where I can actually read a comment who says, Mark, you're so ugly. It looks like you fell out of the ugly tree and hit every stick on the way down. I'm not there yet to be able to let that not irritate me. Actually, that one would probably kind of make me laugh, but I'm not at that level yet. So I ignore those comments.

8:43 But when my assistant tells me, hey, I got this one dude, he keeps hating on you. And I tell her, just block him. I feel compassion for that guy. I don't know what he said, but I do feel compassion for him because I know he's suffering to a very deep level. And it happens time and time again. I'll get a guy who hates on me in whatever way, right? Like he'll send me an email. It'll get past the goalie. It'll get to me. I'll read it.

9:04 And then I'll reply with compassion. Hey, brother, I'm sorry you're suffering like this. If there's any way I can help you out, let me know. And with that love, with that compassion that I've sent to them, right? They're sending me darkness. I'm sending them light. My light transmutes their darkness into light. Oftentimes I'll break them down. They'll be like, you're right, man. Like, I'm sorry I said those things, but I'm just like fucking pissed, dude. Like girls reject me. I'm not making the money I want.

9:29 Can you help me? And guys like you and I can reach out to help these guys. Now that's like the highest Buddha level consciousness, right? Where somebody hates on you and like Jesus said, you turn the other cheek. And that's what that meant is you don't reply back with violence. You reply back with love because the person is ultimately suffering. But if you're not at that level yet, you have to simply understand that haters are just suffering and it's a comment about them, not a comment about you.

9:56 If they write you a message like, oh, you're a piece of shit or oh, you suck at XYZ thing. Really what they're saying is that I suck at XYZ thing. That's what they're saying. They're saying, I'm insecure. I suck at this thing. And it makes me mad because I actually kind of want to be you and I'm kind of jealous. So I'm going to lash out at you. But ultimately what they're saying is their life sucks. It's just like road rage, right? Do you really think you accidentally cutting off that guy made him that angry?

10:24 Nah, man. He was angry already because he's not getting the sex he wants. His dick is so dry it's going to audition for the next Dune movie. And he's so horny he'd fuck a snake if he could hold it straight, but he can't get that huzz. He's not able to split. He's not able to dip in. He's not able to jump that canyon. So he gets pissed off. He gets butthurt. And then suddenly you have road rage. So you guys have to understand you need to be different than this.

10:48 If you're sending out hateful comments, if you're peanut butter and jealous of others, even like super successful people and you just put down a little bit of hate, you need to get rid of that immediately. Because look at it this way. If you want to become successful and you're hating on successful people, what does that tell the universe? That tells the universe, oh, this guy hates successful people so he doesn't want to become one of them. And this, by the way, is why you need to get rid of all negative thinking against people who are good with women or people who are good with money.

11:19 If you say filthy rich or if you say all rich people are thieves and they're negative, then why would you ever want to become one? Your subconscious mind is going to prevent you from being able to ascend to become a rich person because ultimately you think they're bad. Or somebody like me who's good with women. If you hate me because I'm good with women, then you're never going to want to become good with women because in your mind you'll become like me. So don't hate what you want to become.

11:45 And if you want to become successful, never hate on another person who is successful. I'm a big fan of Supercross. Supercross is basically dirt bike racing. Well, there's one guy, his name is Ricky Carmichael, and he was one of the best that ever did it. They actually call him the GOAT, the greatest of all time. And now he's a TV announcer. And I'll admit, he's not like the best announcer, right? He makes some mistakes, he jumbles his words, but the dude is really working at it.

12:10 And I really respect the guy because he's ultimately not that good at speaking, yet he gets in front of the camera and does it for the sport. He doesn't need to do it. He has enough money. He does it simply because he loves the sport and he wants to help. Well, dude, every time he gets on, there's videos on Facebook and Instagram of like cuts of his mistakes and then just person after person after person ripping on this dude. Oh, there goes Ricky again with his word salad.

12:36 Why do they have this idiot on the broadcast anyway? Just retire, bro. And I'm always thinking to myself, dude, how bad does your life have to suck to go after this guy who's genuinely trying to help the sport that we all love and rip on him because you don't fucking have the life that you want? It irritates me, but at the same time, we have to understand that those people are suffering. So brother, you are going to be a success. You're going to make more money than most people do.

13:01 You're going to get more chicks than most people do. And if you're not there yet, well, the reason I know you're going to get there is because you're listening to this episode and you're still listening at whatever time we are right now, 15 minutes in. That is so different from the low vibrating masses that just want to consume and give somebody money so they can wake up the next day with a girl on their dick. This is the kind of guy who makes excuses, who hates on others, and you're different.

13:26 So you have to understand you need to be different. You need to be that tier one dude who doesn't hate on others and who is okay with getting hated on in order to become that guy who you want to become because the haters are coming. You're walking up the river to the top of the mountain and all the little piranhas are biting at your heels. Do you stop and take them off and try to smash them with your heel? No. You keep walking, you ignore them, and take their hatred as a compliment because it's a testament to how successful you are.

13:57 So you're going to get successful, you're going to be a fucking champion, you're going to get the money you want, you're going to get the girls you want if you keep doing the work and stop making fucking excuses and if you're really serious and honestly, I'm just going to put it to you straight, a lot of you guys need to invest in yourself because while you're telling me, yeah, dude, I want to get to the top, I have this mentality, I'm going to do it, you still have lingering belief systems in your head that say, no, I don't want to do that because ultimately, I feel like I'm not enough and I don't want to be successful because I don't want the haters because what people think of me is really important and why do you believe that?

14:30 Maybe your mom believed it or your dad or your brother and they gave you their bullshit belief system that you can't overcome just by being a podcast jockey or just by consuming more content. That's why I always say, man, a lot of you guys need a transformation, not just more information. You need deep cognitive level change and that's what I do in my program, NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming to no longer make you think that way, no longer make you dependent on the opinion of others so that you can get to the top of the mountain and on the way there's going to be haters.

15:01 Can you deal with them? So my next point is this. You're going to become successful. You're going to get the money. You're going to get the chicks. Whatever it is that you're trying to achieve, you're probably going to achieve it, especially if you're still listening. So here's something else you need to be very wary of when you do reach that higher level. You need to make sure that your ego doesn't latch on to your success and make you feel better than others because of it. So oftentimes when we become successful, it's easy to look at the haters, right?

15:31 Like I said, the most low vibrating people are on Instagram just hating on other people. But ultimately, if you get down to my belief system, I don't feel like I'm better than they are. I really don't because I feel like they're on a part of their journey that I too was on. So what's the difference between me now that I'm in my 40s and I have a little more experience and a little more wisdom than a guy who's in his 20s where when I was in my 20s, I was the biggest hater that ever existed.

15:59 I was angry. I was pissed off. I used to hate on people. If Instagram existed when I was 20, I would have been the biggest hater of all. So how can I feel better than somebody who I'm simply older than who is doing the same thing that I did in my 20s? And furthermore, I always look at it like this and this might help you guys. If you see, for example, a fat person and I know a lot of you guys are like into self-development so I'm assuming most of you guys are in shape but if you're not, then just use a different example.

16:27 But let's say you see like an obese person and you're like, what a lazy bum, dude. Like they don't work out. All they do is eat junk food. They're just a piece of shit. I'm better than them. If you've convinced yourself of that, I want you to think about it this way. If your soul was put into their body in the same situation, born in the same town, in the same year, with the same parents, the same situation growing up, the same metabolism, everything that they have or all the struggles they've had, you would have ended up just like them.

16:58 This brings in humility because ultimately we understand that the reason we are how we are is because we were given certain gifts or certain calamities. You're not fundamentally better than another person because if you were in their situation, you would be in their situation. And that's the way I always think of it. Even a homeless person can teach me something. Even a homeless person has value. You could teach me something I don't know. You're probably better at something than I am. So does that make you better than me as a whole?

17:27 Or because I'm speaking right now on this podcast and you're listening, does it make me better than you? I just happen to be in this seat. I just happen to have studied how to get chicks and I just happen to have found NLP. So I've been able to ascend to this level. But what if you were born into my body and what if you had the same situation I had? You would have been sitting here and I would have been listening to you. So who's better?

17:50 Nobody's better. We're all ultimately born into the situation we're born into and everybody can teach you something. So get rid of the arrogance. Get rid of, oh, I'm better than that person because that's going to keep you in a state of low, vibrating consciousness. And your ego, which is very cunning, is likely going to grab onto that and make you feel better than other people. Look at people who have gained success who are very disingenuous. And when I say disingenuous, it feels like they're not authentic.

18:18 The reason they're not authentic is because their ego has grabbed onto that success. They've convinced themselves that they're somehow better than other people and that's why they're successful. And that authenticity gets covered up by that gigantic ego. As it's often said, your ego hides your insecurity. Even a successful person who has a huge ego, it always seems to come out in the end, doesn't it? They always seem to have a big blow up in front of everybody and you're like, oh, that's who that guy really is.

18:48 Will Smith, for example, right? You're like, oh shit. That guy's like really insecure about his relationship. So he went and slapped Chris Rock because Chris Rock insulted his wife. It's a clue in into how he is where on the surface, he's like such a put together guy. So the way to become authentic is to know that everybody has value. Everybody has merit. And even the haters are masters waiting to awaken. We all have to be asleep before we can wake up. We've all been in situations that were less than ideal.

19:20 So that takes away the judgment and the possibility of you creating a big ego around all your success. And it also allows you to have compassion for the haters because the haters are coming. So gentlemen, I want you to understand, especially if you're listening, what is it, 25 minutes now? Especially if you're still listening. I want you to understand, success is coming for you, but don't let your ego get a hold of it. Haters are gonna come, but you have to understand it's because they're suffering and they're vibrating temporarily at a very low level.

19:48 And if you could get to the place where you can have compassion for them, and instead of saying, fuck you, you say, hey man, here's my hand. Let me help you out. Whether or not they take it is up to them. If you could get to that level, then your success is unlimited. And that's the level I'm trying to get to as well. I'm not there yet because if I were there yet, I could read all the hateful comments, but I keep them aside just because I feel like it just brings down my vibe.

20:11 I'm human, man. It gets to me. It does. So I don't even read them. I've put a situation in place where I don't read them. My assistant simply tells me, hey, we just blocked a guy today because he was hating on you. And then I send him a silent, I hope your life gets better, brother. And that's the place we're all trying to get to. So guys, the haters are going to come. It's because you're doing something right. And when you do get to that success, don't let your ego take a hold of it.

20:36 Keep that humility because you have to understand that these gifts that you're given, however you reach your success, those are gifts given to you. And when you have appreciation for it and you have the humility to say, dude, I'm not doing this work. Something else is doing this work through me. Just like when I do this podcast, I'm not talking. I'm like channeling something. I don't know where this stuff comes from. It's not me. I don't take personal egoic ownership of it. It's something else. And when you're able to have that, you're able to be authentic and then more riches are poured upon you, more success is given to you.

21:09 And you can have compassion for the haters because that's what the haters need. So gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening. As a reminder, I drop podcasts every Tuesday and I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review. You have no idea how much that helps me. Also, if you're struggling with women and you want to talk to me personally about how I can help you achieve your goals with women, sign up for my three-month coaching program below and you and I will talk.

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