How to Slide into a Girl's DMs on Social Media ... Instagram ... Facebook ... and the Dating Apps

0:00 If you literally want to slide into a Hawkgirl's DMs where she's getting hundreds, if not thousands of DMs from other thirsty guys, you need to differentiate yourself. And that means playing the game, boys. You have to portray, even if it's a lie, that you have a high-value lifestyle. Believe me, there is nothing that irritates me more than the hoops that we need to jump through in order to yank Hawkgirls. But it's either that or just be alone for the rest of your life, masturbating in the corner, crying in your lap, and using your tears as lubricant for masturbation.

0:34 You are different. You have to be different. The messages I'm going to give you are going to portray that you're different. When you master the game, it actually becomes kind of fun. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. What is up, boys? Today we are going to talk about how to slide into a girl's DMs, typically on Instagram, but this can also be applied to Facebook, the dating apps, anywhere where there's social media. This is how to do it, boys. And I cannot wait to share with you the final message that I'm going to give to you.

1:06 That's actually from my online dating masterclass that I had a couple months ago. This was preview information. I wasn't going to share it on my podcast because it's just that good. Do you guys remember the online dating masterclass where we sent 13,267 messages to test every single message, whether it's effective or not? We corroborated and gathered over 50 messages. And this is one of them, boys. This always gets a response. Do not jump ahead. Do me the service of not effing up my analytics, listening to this entire episode because I have gold to drop into your lap.

1:44 That final message that I'm going to share with you is not the only nuclear bomb that I'm going to drop in this episode. Did I say nuclear wrong? Because every time I say it wrong, I get some hate mail. Nuclear. Nuclear. That's why you're supposed to say it. It's not the only nuclear bomb I am going to drop. I'm going to drop a ton in your lap, boys. So make sure to stay tuned for this entire episode. Before we jump into the content, have a huge announcement.

2:08 I am now answering questions on Spotify and YouTube. If you leave a comment with a question, I will answer it for you. Now, this is big because those of you who have written me to my email have usually gotten a letter back from my assistant saying, Hey, sorry, Mark only answers questions to paying clients, which was true up until now. Now I will answer your questions, and the reason I'm doing it on Spotify and YouTube is because the comments basically help the algorithm feed my podcast to more people, thus increasing views, thus increasing the chances of me landing more clients.

2:46 So if you scratch my back, I'm going to scratch your balls. Leave me a question. I will answer it. I'll usually get to it within a few days, but definitely check back. And if you have another question pertaining to it, we can have a conversation if you'd like to have one. Why, again, am I willing to do that? Because the more comments, the more you and I write back and forth in the comments section, particularly on Spotify and YouTube, the more I'm going to go up in the algorithm.

3:10 So if you have a question for me, I will answer it for you personally. So leave a comment right now. Ask your question. Let's get to it. All right, boys. We got a lot to get through in this episode, so let's jump into the content. First of all, guys, here's the thing about 2025 and going into 2026. Your shit has to be dialed, which means you have to play the game. You have to lie out of your ass like you're a girl who's basically seven and she's trying to look like a nine online.

3:41 You have to do that shit. You have to have dialed in photos. You have to portray a high value lifestyle and your pictures need to be effing dialed. Guys, I cannot stress this enough. People ask me all the time, and I actually said this in the online dating masterclass we had a few months ago. I said, dude, you need to put so much effort into your pictures that literally you're competing with the effort that women are putting into their pictures. Do you know how many single pictures a girl will take before she chooses one out of the entire lot to use on social media or to use on the dating apps?

4:18 Guys, I'm talking hundreds for a single picture. Now, I'm not telling you to get that extreme, but if I were single again, I would put almost all my effort into my pictures. I would hire a professional photographer. I would join Mark Singh's three-month coaching program, obviously, to figure out what women are attracted to and the best kind of pictures to take, all of which I tell you in week three online dating of my 12-week coaching program. I give you all the secrets. But if you're not going to come into the program, you need to think to yourself, what's attractive?

4:50 What are girls drawn to? And you need to have photographs that demonstrate that. So immediately, we understand that, let's say, Instagram, right? If you're dealing with Instagram, you need to make your pictures the number one priority. High-value lifestyle, doing cool shit, having cool resources, such as traveling, being on boats, being maybe in helicopters, being around famous or other high-value people, and most importantly, boys, and I cannot stress this enough, being with hot girls. I do not suggest having pictures of you with hot girls on the online dating apps unless it's very obvious you guys are just friends, and it's a situation where those girls are like maybe in the background, like a picture of you at a party, and maybe there's a couple hot girls in your group.

5:38 That's the most we want to push it because on the dating apps particularly, women get seriously butthurt. But Instagram is a completely different beast. And on Instagram, including Facebook, but we're going to focus on Instagram since it is the most popular app. On Instagram particularly, pre-selection is a must. You with hot girls in your life. And guys, even if you have to go hire them from a site like SwipeCast, ModelMayhem, or Seeking.com, that's what you should do. You have to portray, even if it's a lie, that you have a high-value lifestyle.

6:14 Guys, I get it. This is the last thing we want to do is like pretend we're something we're not. But I want to tell you, if you literally want to slide into a hot girls DMs where she's getting hundreds if not thousands of DMs from other thirsty guys whose dicks are so dry the last time they got wet was in the shower, you need to differentiate yourself. And that means playing the game, boys. Believe me, there is nothing that irritates me more than the hoops that we need to jump through in order to yank hot girls.

6:46 But it's either that or just be alone for the rest of your life. Masturbating in the corner with a helmet on as you hit your head against the wall, crying in your lap, and using your tears as lubricant for masturbation. That's going to be your reality unless you step the fuck up and play the game. Here's the thing. When you master the game, it actually becomes kind of fun. I get it, dude. You don't want to dress up in your tuxedo and take a picture with a professional photographer or go get ripped and take a picture of your shirt off holding a puppy.

7:18 Little hint right there. That is a hugely successful picture. Part of what we discovered in our 13,000 messages and all of which you are delivered when you come into my three-month coaching program. I know it's a David Hasselhoff. It's the last shit we want to do, but it fucking works. So, you need to portray lifestyle, high value. Also, you need to have pre-selection in addition to that, boys. And this is the shallow of the shallowest thing I could possibly suggest to you, but it does matter. Your follower count.

7:49 How many followers do you have, bro? Do you have your mom, your dad, and your grandma, a couple coaches, and a couple friends from your Call of Duty league? You got seven followers, dude, or even 700. No offense, bro, but that looks low value. It looks like you're not somebody who has social proof. And already, some of you are getting butthurt. I'm just telling you the truth, man. This is how it fucking works. Other pickup artist coaches would tell you, just use these lines, bro, and you'll slide right in.

8:20 Mark Singh is going to tell you the truth every single time. And that is why 95% of my guys get unprecedented success in my program. It's because I cut it to you straight. We get straight to the fucking point. We get results because we know what girls actually go for. We don't try to pretend and sprinkle fairy dust all over and say, you're going to be fine, bro. Tell her all about your Call of Duty league and your baseball card collecting group, and you're living in your mom's basement, masturbating, and fucking drinking your sugar-filled cappuccino latte from Starbucks, and you look like a Chicken McNugget with tits.

8:57 It ain't going to work, bro. You need to get fucking dialed. You need to face your fears. You need to deal with the bullshit in your head, and you need to at least portray that your life is dialed on Instagram. Once again, high-value lifestyle, pre-selection. Lots of followers. Now that begs the question, well, how do I get lots of followers? That's another thing you get when you come into my three-month coaching program. I plug you into a connection where you can buy followers for very cheap, and I'm not talking bots either, because bots are going to tank your account.

9:29 What I'm talking about is real followers that are gotten by paying for it. Again, I know it's shallow, man. I'm the first to tell you this is some shallow bullshit, but it works. Once I hit 10,000 followers, and I would show a girl my Instagram page, and she's like, whoa, 10,000 followers, this must be somebody. Now I have creeping up on 90,000 followers? Dude, I'm fucking proud to show girls my IG page. Now, I'm not saying you have to have 90,000 followers, but if you're not going to come into my program where I can hook you up with the dude who's going to get you those followers, I guess you could research how to buy followers.

10:08 I strongly suggest you avoid bots, but guys, you have to portray the image of being high value. You just do, and if you don't want to play that game, then you're not going to slide into hot girls' DMs, who, once again, are getting hundreds, if not thousands, of messages every day, boys. I have a lot of hot friends. They fucking show me the Instagram messages coming in, like bloop, bloop, bloop, another one, another one. Hey, girl, what's up? What are you doing this weekend? You're hot.

10:36 You're hot. You're fine. So sexy. Do you have a boyfriend? Like, just the most thirsty shit, boys. These guys' dicks are so dry, they're going to audition for the next movie of Dune. You are different. You have to be different. The messages I'm going to give you are going to portray that you're different in conjunction with the fact that you have good followers. I would say at least 10,000, man. I would say at least 10,000. Pre-selection, you with hot girls. If you don't have them in your life, you can go hire them.

11:05 And be careful for the old, go to the nightclub. Find a hot girl. Take a picture with her with your arm around her. Meanwhile, her arms are crossed, looking at you like you just sprayed her face with shit mist. That picture ain't going to fly. The best pictures are you looking off camera. The girls are touching you. They're leaning into you. They're smiling. And you're probably not going to get that from some hot, random girl that you meet at the nightclub. Maybe you have a hot cousin or some friends you work with.

11:34 But the best thing to do, man, is either have hot friends or fucking hire them. I gave you three resources. One other tip, boys. Use AI to improve the way you look on the dating apps. Girls do it. Guys should be doing it. There's a thing called Facetune that you can use to make you look a lot better. There's a bunch of different AI tools that you can use. I mean, in today's age, everybody's faking it. Everybody's lying, bro. So you might as well get to lying because everybody else is doing it.

12:06 Now, if you're in this moral conundrum where you're like, well, I don't want to lie. I just want to be totally honest and be the guy who is different from everybody else. Guys, most dudes are not lying. They're just putting up their AYSO soccer van and hoping they can slide into a girl's DMs. But most girls are lying. And when I say that, don't get butthurt. Here's what I mean. I mean, most girls are facetuning their pictures. They're taking 200 pictures before they choose one. Calculated, deciphering very critically.

12:38 Oh, my eye's a little bit too shut on that one. My hair isn't perfect. And retaking it and retaking it until it's perfect. We need to be on that level in order to get these hot girls. So it's not just the message. And I'm going to give you the messages. I have four that are really fucking good. But I have to stress, if you're trying to slide into a girl's DMs on social media, you have to dial your shit in. All right. Enough said about that.

13:01 You guys get it. The first message, and I'm going to go from what I feel is the weakest and which performed the weakest but still performs super strong compared to the other bullshit that DC donkeys are sending. I'm going to go from like what I consider the weakest to the absolute strongest, the one that performs every single time. All right. The first one we can send is name. And I want you to put her name. You know who you look like. So it's name. You know who you look like.

13:29 And then she says who. And you say, you look like my next tanning butler. You look like my next tanning butler. Or you look like my passenger princess. This has been working really well. But once again, man, if you have a weak ass profile, you send that shit. She's not going to even look at it. Here's what happens. When you send a message on Instagram, it's going to go into her requests folder, which already kind of sucks. It's way better if you guys are following each other.

13:56 Hopefully, you've met her already. You guys are following each other. That's going to give you a much better chance of sliding into her DMs. But say you're just a regular canyon mule. You look up this hot girl who lives in your city and you want to give it a try. It's going to go into her requests. Now, a lot of girls are what? I've said it many times. They are attention-seeking females. They love the attention. So they're going to look at a lot of the dudes who send them messages.

14:23 That's why your profile picture needs to be you straight on, looking fucking up. Amazing. I personally suggest, and this is what I would do, wearing a suit or a tuxedo, but you have to look amazing. Get the Facetune on your ugly-ass, scruffy mug and dial that shit in. You need to look good. She's going to click into it. She's going to look over your pictures, and only then will she decide if she wants to read your message. Let's say you're dialed in, right? You did all the things I told you.

14:54 You got good followers. You got pre-selection. You got lifestyle. And then you say, hey, you know what you look like? That elicits curiosity, doesn't it? She wants to know, who does this high-value guy think I look like? And she's going to say, who? She's going to put like infinitesimally small amount of energy into it. But dude, at least you're getting a reply back. As opposed to Kirk Anderson in fucking Rhode Island, who's the club president of the baseball collection committee, who sends her a pic. You're hot.

15:24 And she's like, ew, blocked. That's the difference, boys. And you need to be that dude who's on that next level. So you're like, hey, you know who you look like? And she's like, who? And you say, my next tanning butler. Now, this isn't supplicating. It's not complimenting her. It's not blowing smoke up her ass, fluffing her feathers, or letting her go down Flex Avenue. It's messing with her. It's being funny. It's teasing her, which shows her that you're different. You're higher value. You got hot girls on your page.

15:52 You got more than 73 followers, including your grandma and your soccer mom. You have value. You have a higher chance of sliding into her DMs. Bam. She replies back. Now you guys can get into a conversation. Second message. Did you mean to post that? Okay. It's all you say. You don't include a picture. And I'm going to talk about including a picture in a second. You just say, did you mean to post that? Then when she replies back saying, post what? You say the picture of you with the Taliban holding an AK-47 with a shemong around your face.

16:27 Did you mean to post that? It's just going to be like, what are you talking about? I didn't do that. Now you're in. By the way, the whole Taliban thing is going to apply to my Thursday's episode, which is really funny, boys. You want to come back for that. I am going to crack you up in that one. I got tons of funny shit to say, and it is a gangster ass way to once again, separate yourself from the rest of the canyon mules who are doing the same shit over and over again.

16:52 You're going to take the L, meaning you're a loser, and you're going to turn it into a fucking C, which means you're a champion, and you're going to start getting more ass than a toilet seat because you follow the UMP. And then you said to yourself, you know what? I think I should invest in myself. I think this Mark Singh guy has my best interest in mind. I think his 95% success rate with the literal hundreds of reviews on his page, including video case studies of dude after dude, prove that this guy knows what he's doing.

17:21 In fact, on his podcast today about how to slide into a girl's DMs, he actually had real students talking about the success that they got in the program. And when I listened to that, I was convinced that this dude, using NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, to remap his client's brains, actually knows what the fuck he's talking about. Boys, before I get into the final two messages and the last one you do not want to miss, listen to what two graduates just said in last night's coaching call. Literally, boys, both these guys graduated.

17:53 They were the only two to graduate, and they both said this. Check this out. You know where I was at a few weeks back, right? And Nuno, I can tell you, man, this stuff works. It absolutely works. I'm an engineer, also a computer engineer, and so I think logical. I've done that for, you know, for 35 years. Once you start doing it, you'll start seeing the results. And dude, I can tell you, it works, man. I've been having a blast, and it's a great time. And when you get the NLP, it will change your life, man.

18:25 Guys, you know, for guys in the last, you know, 10 years that's come into your program, it's an amazing thing for them to invest in something like this. And, I mean, we're A-grade, to be honest. We're A-grade fucking people in life, and that's all there is to it. And all I can say is, like, just spread the word about this program and what Mark's doing here. Because it's just an amazing thing. I was lucky that I just bumped into a guy called Cam about three years ago.

18:56 I went to, like, a dating event in Perth, and I just happened to talk to him. And, you know, I was a bit down at that time, and he spoke to me about, you know, he went through the program and told me about it. And, yeah, I'm glad he did because this is, you know, for the next 10, 20 years, this is definitely going to change my life. So, thank you very much, man. All right, guys. All right, guys. So, obviously, my program is so damn effective. It's a 10-magnet facility.

19:22 Load you in the front. You come with us for three months in the unapologetic man army, and you come out a girl magnet. Apply by clicking the link in the description below. Read all the testimonials. Read all the case studies. Check out all the success that we're getting and ask yourself, do I want to miss this, or do I want to be part of this massive wave of success stories after success stories that Mark is producing? Fuck yeah, you want to be a part of that, man.

19:48 Apply right now. You and I will talk. All right, the next one, boys, is, is this a joke? And then what you're going to do is you're going to send her a picture that you can tell she tried really hard to get right. Like, you could just tell, bro, like, she fucking staged it. She got her makeup perfect. She put a ton of effort into that. Now, what are most guys doing? They're putting hard, hard, hard, you're so beautiful, sexy AF. We're going the opposite direction.

20:16 Now, could this blow up in your face because we're going to be a little bit of an asshole here? Of course it could. But it's also going to differentiate yourself from the rest of the guys whose dicks are so dry. In their next life, they're going to be a chamois at the car wash sucking up all the water because they're so dry. I just thought of that one off the top of my head. Kind of lame, but I'm going with it. All right. So you say, is this a joke?

20:39 And you send her a picture. She's going to reply back saying, what? And then you're going to say, I mean, bold move posting your high school yearbook photo. So that's one of them. It's kind of fucked up. She may get pissed, but oftentimes they will reply back because they'll also see that you're high value. They'll be like, oh my God, no guy ever talks to me like this. He must be high value. I'm telling you boys, this works. Don't sleep on my info. We know what the fuck we're talking about.

21:04 The next option is after she says what is, my guess is this picture took 200 photos to get right. Oftentimes they'll reply back. Now, you got some girl out there listening and she's like, oh my God, it would never work on me. I would never fall for that. My question for you is young lady, if when you get into a canoe, do you capsize it? Be honest with me now, because if you do, you are not my target audience. My target audience are super hot girls who get hit up all the time with, I love you.

21:43 Let me buy you flowers. Let me blow so much smoke in your ass. You're going to float into the upper atmosphere because guys are fucking thirsty. So here's the parameter. If you're a female listening and you're going to write me hate mail, you have to include a picture. If you're a super banging girl, then go ahead and write me and I will reply back personally. But if you look like you just decimated a dozen donuts this morning, I'm sorry, but you're not the target audience. You don't know what works.

22:09 You don't have the reality that hot girls have where they're being hit on all the time by dudes. Supplicated too. You don't understand how it works. So please do not write me hate mail because this shit works. So once again, you say, is this a joke? Sending her a picture. You could either say, I mean, bold move, posting your high school yearbook photo. Or you could say, my guess is this took 200 photos to get right. Combined with your high value lifestyle, all the pictures on Instagram, your pre-selection, she's going to know you're different than all the other thirsty dudes.

22:43 All right. The last one, boys. And this is the biggie. Before I give this to you, I want you to prepare yourself because this shit is going to get you more ass than a toilet seat. Please do not overuse it, guys. Use it sparingly. The last thing I need is a bunch of sea donkeys out there wearing out my techniques because you're so uncreative. You can't think of your own shit. Or you're so cheap. You won't join our coaching program where there's hundreds of secrets just like this.

23:09 Use it sparingly, dude. I was so tentative to put this on the podcast because I don't want you idiots blowing it out. But I'm going to give it to you because I care about you. Just like I care about my boys, my brothers in my three-month coaching program. Here it is. Hey, name. Someone's using your pictures on your profile. Seriously. Then she's going to say who? And you're going to say NASA because you're an absolute rocket. Or the Denver Zoo because you're a fox. All right.

23:39 I don't like to compliment, as I've talked about many times. But in this case, boys, oh my hell. This gets a massive reply rate. Like massive. Wait until you use this. Now, some dude out there who has his mom's AYSO soccer van on his profile and who has a picture of him like playing Call of Duty as he's grimacing and there's a Taco Bell bean stuck on his tooth. He's going to send this to some baddie who lives in a city and she's going to block him.

24:07 He's going to be like, dude, Mark Singh, you're full of shit. Why didn't that work? Because you see this? I told you to first fix your profile. You need to have all those elements in place. Then you send this shit out. So before you go send it and wonder why it's not working, improve your shit. Up your game. Be that next level dude, which is exactly what I turned my guys into in my coaching program. And if you're older and you're not on social media or you don't like to be on social media, we have tons of different ways to meet girls.

24:40 That's why I'm so proud of my program is we give you option upon option upon option. You have too many options to meet girls. And what happens? You're talking to five to 10 girls at once. You're starting today three to four per week. From quantity comes quality. So if you want those same results, boys, the results that all my guys get in my coaching program, make sure to put in your application today. I'm going to speak to you personally. You and I are going to email back and forth.

25:07 And if it makes sense, you're going to get on a one-hour breakthrough NLP session with me and my team to see if we really can help you the way we've helped thousands of other clients. In my opinion, this is a generational program that does come around once every hundred years. I know it sounds crazy, but I'm the only coach who mixes this level of techniques with NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and the results speak for themselves. Also, boys, if you want to get some of my advice, my personalized tailored advice to you, comment on either Spotify or YouTube, and I will reply with my answer.

25:42 And don't ask stupid questions. How do I get a girlfriend? Like, don't keep it super general. Keep it specific. Hey, this girl said this to me. Or hey, this girl didn't show up to the date. What should I have done? She said this frame check to me. How did I reverse it? Why is it that when I get with a girl, I always feel needy and really chase after her? And I'm going to tell you what I honestly believe. And my advice is pretty fucking good, as a lot of you will find out.

26:06 So do that right now, man. Ask your question, and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. All right, gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening. Don't forget, I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. And stay tuned for the next one. It's super hilarious. And I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review.

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