How to Brainwash Yourself to Be Confident With Women (An NLP Hypnosis)

0:00 Hot girl privilege. They get favors done for them. They're given free shit. They are given free rides in life. Part of the privilege, brother, is that you are giving her too much fucking credit. When you see a hot girl and you get nervous and you can't think of what to say, that immediately tells me that you feel like you're less than she is in the pecking order. What I want to try to convince you of in today's podcast is that, brother, you have worth. You are a 10.

0:28 You are a champion. You have the potential, brother. Yes, you. I'm talking to you specifically. To be a girl magnet. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. White privilege. Do you think that exists? I don't know. I'm a white dude, so I'm too close to the question to be able to answer it with any certainty. What about male privilege? Do you think that shit exists? Most of you guys are men listening to this. Have you had privileges because you're a dude? Maybe some have. Maybe some haven't. This whole privilege thing is one of those questions that's really hard to answer, especially, like I say, when you're too close to the question.

1:05 But here is a privilege that I am 100% exists. You know what that is? Hot girl privilege. Don't get it twisted, brother. Girls who are attractive have it so much easier than the rest of us. Yeah, they have some bullshit they have to deal with. I'm not saying their lives are easy. None of our lives are easy here on this earth. This earth is extremely challenging, as we all know. But I can definitely tell you that hot girls have a completely different reality than what you have.

1:35 Today, boys, I'm going to tell you how to brainwash yourself to be more confident, to not let the hotness of a girl intimidate you any longer. And then the second part of this episode is going to be an NLP hypnosis that I'm going to take you through. So first, I'm going to rationally discuss with you my point as to why you should be confident. I'm going to give you some methods to quote unquote brainwash yourself. Brainwash isn't really the right word. We all know I use that in my titles because they get awesome clicks.

2:03 I feel like I'm pretty good at making titles, man. It's like that brainwash thing. I know it's going to get a lot of clicks, but we're not really brainwashing ourselves. More like we are convincing ourselves to be confident because what is your brain? It's malleable. Whether you believe you're good or bad, really, it's just your belief system. It's not empirically true. But what is empirically true are the results that come from it. Let me ask you a question. Are the results that have come out of your decisions what you believe about yourself, the traumas you've had, the meta programs in your head, your belief systems, do you think they're conducive to your success?

2:39 Well, if you're listening to a podcast like this one, you probably don't have the success that you really want and you want to get better. Here, I'm going to tell you something. It all starts in your head. The girls that you get, the money that you make, everything that you're experiencing in your life is dictated by what's going on inside your head. Now, why the hell did I start off with talking about hot girl privilege? Because not only are hot girls privileged in the way that they get the benefit of the doubt, they get favors done for them.

3:07 They get people answering questions for them, doing things they can do themselves. But because they're so hot, it's almost like learned helplessness where they get so much done for them. They get so much of the benefit of the doubt. Their reality is completely different and they have privilege. Part of the privilege, brother, is that you are giving her too much fucking credit. You see a hot girl and you get nervous. Why is that? Because unconsciously, we are all putting ourselves into a pecking order. Humans are a lot like chickens when it comes to social dynamics.

3:40 We rate ourselves as to where we are in the pecking order. Now, when you look at a hot girl or even an unattractive girl, it's immediately easy to slot her into where she's at in the pecking order. We even have numbers for it. She's a 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10. We literally slot girls within seconds. Men, on the other hand, are slotted into the pecking order in a completely different way. The way that is, is how they feel about themselves. How confident they are. How much they believe they're the shit.

4:09 How many belief systems from their past are holding them back. How many traumas are holding them back. What's going on inside your head is literally dictating your behavior. So if you believe that you're the shit, you will act like you're the shit. And therefore, you will be higher up in the pecking order. Boys, I really need to reiterate this. It does not matter what you look like. It does not matter how much money you make. I don't give a shit how tall you are or how much hair you have on your head or how much belly fat looking like a chicken McNugget with tits.

4:39 If you believe that you are high value, you will be high value. Why? Again, it's dictated by your behavior. Then women see that. Bam, you're up at the top of the pecking order. This is exactly why I use NLP to remap the brains of my clients. Going after bad belief systems. Going after past traumas. Going after schemas, archetypes, metaprograms that have them behaving poorly in front of women. Because they are giving women way too much credit. When you see a hot girl and you get nervous and you can't think of what to say, that immediately tells me that you feel like you're less than she is in the pecking order.

5:16 But let's really look at this from a logical perspective. Women who are attractive were born that way. Did she have to really work to become that hot? I mean, some do, right? They'll lose weight, get in shape, really take care of themselves. And I love a woman who does that. But ultimately speaking, when it comes to facial structure, body structure, bone density, hip to thigh gap ratio, how long her legs are, how tight her ass is, it's really genetic. Like literally 80% of it is genetic. And if it's not, oftentimes all she has to do is go get some fake titties and she goes up a couple points in our book.

5:51 So how much did she really have to work for that, boys? And why the fuck are you giving her so much credit thinking she's better than you? Because I guarantee you, a lot of you guys listening, when you get nervous and you're afraid to approach a hot woman, you think you're less than she is. But here's my argument to you. You're listening to a podcast like this one, aren't you? That tells me that you're probably into self-development. You're not just on TikTok or Instagram swiping, getting that dopamine rush.

6:18 You're not on Pornhub right now, masturbating as so many guys do. You're trying to better yourself. And you know, coming to this podcast, I am going to try to better you. So all the guys who are lazy, not improving themselves, they're not listening, bro. They've clicked away already. But here you are wanting to better yourself. What is that compared to a girl who was born hot, where she just has some nice tits, which might be fake, by the way. That she paid five to ten grand for.

6:46 Now she's got fake tits. And suddenly she's a hot girl that you're afraid to talk to. Brothers, you have no idea how much more valuable you are than that, than simple genetics, than a girl being born hot. Yet you give her all this credit. What I want to try to convince you of in today's podcast is that, brother, you have worth. You are a ten. You are a champion. You have the potential, brother. Yes, you. I'm talking to you specifically. To be a girl magnet, I don't give a fuck what you look like, what your ethnicity is, what things you've convinced yourself make you unattractive.

7:23 It's all in your mind. The power of NLP cannot be debated. I'm going to read a quick testimonial from a client who's been in my program for five weeks, boys. Five weeks. Been doing the NLP that I assigned him. And this is the results that he's getting. Some of this has been redacted to protect his identity. He asked me to do so, but this is from A. He said, and this is going to be quick, I had an incredible time in Las Vegas. I swear, man, you've really helped me with my confidence.

7:51 And I almost feel like my huge perceived self-doubt are now gone. It feels so free and empowering to live life, not thinking about how will I fail and just living life content and fulfilled. Boys, that is the power of simply changing your thoughts. And listen, some of you aren't going to come into my coaching program. I don't understand why you wouldn't. I feel like this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. You would not believe the magic of NLP. But some of you won't. So I simply want to convince you, why are you giving her so much credit?

8:22 And why are you putting yourself so low in the pecking order? Look at all the things you've accomplished. Look at how high you've come. Look at the fact that you've still persevered and you're still trying. You don't fucking quit. And you're giving her credit for being hot. Sure, she may have some accomplishments too, but that's what you need to figure out. And that's why you go talk to her, not being intimidated by her looks, but being curious to learn more about her and who she is.

8:49 What have you done? What adversities have you pushed through? What is your character like? Can you tell me a story? Can you teach me something? What do you have to bring? Beyond this genetic gift that you've been given, so easily floating through life with, yes, hot girl privilege. Favors are done for them. They are talked over. They don't even have to answer questions. They're given free shit. They are given free rides in life. As I was joking in my other podcast, oh, I hiked up a mountain, but 15 dudes carried me to the top because I'm a hot girl.

9:22 Oh, life is so hard. So true, boys. You would not believe some of the shit I see from my hot girlfriends. And they're going to listen to this. They're going to get butthurt. And Ashley, Alicia, Lindsay, even Marissa, if you're listening, I know you girls are the shit. That's why you're all my friends. I know you've been through it. But let's be honest. You've all had so much privilege, especially when you were at your peak hotness. 23 years old, perfect tits, perfect ass. These guys idealizing you.

9:52 Gentlemen, hot girls literally think that men are fucking stupid. Because when they go talk to them, men fumble over themselves, they're smiling because it's like all their Christmases have come on the same day. It's like they just slammed some meth and it's like the best thing that ever happened to them. Women are like, God, guys are so creepy. Like, why are you being weird? That's what they always tell me. They're like, oh, that guy was weird. Weirdness is simply you thinking that you're less than she is in the pecking order and you wanting her to validate you.

10:20 That, by the way, is why you're nervous and why you have such an adrenaline dump. You can't think on your feet. And then she thinks you're a fucking freak. How do we get over that? Remap the goddamn brain. One protocol of which we are going to do today. By the way, here's another example of a client who had zero. I'm talking completely zero dates. Zero girls. Nothing. Up until he came into my program. Listen to what he says. I was just going to, you know, because I used to have a lot of approach anxiety.

10:52 As you know, it's so funny. Like, you know, now I approach girls with kind of like just this excitement now, really. Not even anxiety anymore. But just like an excitement and almost like a, like a, I gotta approach her type of mentality. Here I was talking to her, just totally vibing, not even thinking about it. I just feel like another person, really, compared to, compared to when the training started, really. You know, I put that on Facebook. Like, hey, man, you know, a person was telling me the other day, he's like, yeah, man, you're even, you're even talking different, you know, and just my whole overall demeanor.

11:28 Now, some of you get butthurt because I market my product on this podcast. Guys, I don't let advertisers come on. Do you know how many penis pill and penis enlargement emails I get from advertisers trying to come on this podcast? And I'm like, no, I'm not going to bombard my boys with that. But what I will bombard you with is the efficacy of my program. NLP is magic. And you are seeing it time and time again. I have proven it time and time again. So put in your fucking application.

11:57 Let's remap your brain and get you to feel like you are above socially, socially above these girls that you are given too much credit to. My final point before we get into the NLP process, you are making goddesses out of female body parts. Her tits, and I get it, boys. When you see a nice rack, it just like hypnotizes you. You're like, oh, my God. And you start drooling. Loss of communication with the spinal column. Flappy hands, numb hair, loose teeth. You can't fucking think straight.

12:28 Because it's ingrained inside of you to be attracted to that. But when you think it's too good, i.e. above you, you lose your precarious sense of your own grasp of reality. And you go into retard mode. And for anybody who has mentally handicapped family or friends, I say that with utmost respect. But I'm trying to communicate that you look like you're literally coming while you're talking to the chick. You're like, oh, my God, I'm so happy. And I look like I have a brain injury because of some fucking tits.

12:58 Here's what tits are, boys. Flesh, blood, lymph, fat. That's what they are. Mammary glands, right? It's just a human body. And I'll tell you this, too. Hot girls put on their pants one at a time. Hot girls shit. Hot girls have boogers. Hot girls get that nasty-ass white stuff in the corner of their mouth when they're talking to you. You are idealizing them. I have seen a hot girl throwing up all over the place. And she's like, Mark, help me out. It was like smelling the fucking armpit of a sumer wrestler after he shit on himself.

13:33 And I was like, why are guys idealizing this chick? She's a human being. And ass, flesh, fat, skin, tissue, blood vessels, lymph, blood. It's pretty disgusting inside the human body, isn't it? You're like idealizing her mouth, yet there's like boogers above it, right? The bad cave where she goes in there when you're not looking and pick some boogers. Stop making female bodies into goddesses that you worship. Have you ever been talking to a hot girl and like her breath smells like throw up because she's been drinking so much alcohol?

14:07 You're like talking to her and she's like, ha, like that. And you're like, oh my hell. It's almost surprising to me that we could be attracted to the human body in the first place because the thing is disgusting. The next time you see a hot girl, here's what I want you to imagine. Her on the toilet trying to push out a turd that is harder than a brick, grimacing, leaning over, pushing as hard as she can, and shitting that thing out after five minutes of rigorous effort with her face blood red and a booger coming out of her nose because of all the exertion.

14:39 That's going to put her a little bit down in your book and you stop idealizing her hotness. Brother, you are an absolute legend. You are a champion. Look at what you've been through. You get standing ovations in rival stadiums, yet you still don't believe that you are enough for her. What has she done? I can tell you for lots of hot girls. They haven't done much, boys, because they have female hot girl privilege. And any girl listening who's getting pissed off about this, especially the hot ones and especially my friends, you know it's true.

15:11 And when you come to me being like, oh, that episode was horrible, I'll be like, oh, let's look at your reality, Ashley. Getting flowing all over the country, getting limousines, free bottle service, everybody just throwing the red carpet out for you. Tons of guys just lined up around the corner masturbating to your pictures and you feeling, oh, life is so hard. Give it the fuck up. Now, I understand some hot girls have issues with like stalkers and guys don't take them seriously. In fact, it's been proven that attractive women are oftentimes interrupted by men as well as condescended to by men.

15:45 This, by the way, is why sometimes attractive women seem stupid is because they get answered for many times by men and they haven't had to develop the perseverance and grit to be able to push through adversity, to be able to persevere through some bullshit. But don't get it twisted. Hot girl privilege exists. Stop buying into it. Stop giving them credit just for being born attractive. You, brother, are worth more than that because of the adversity that you have persevered through. Again, you are a champion. You just need to believe it.

16:19 And once you do, you're going to be higher up in that social hierarchy. Talk to her the way you should. As a man speaks to a feminine woman, not giving her credit because she's attractive, but being interested in her for whether or not she's interesting. Does she have character? Can she tell me a story? Can she teach me something? What has she been through? I want a woman who's been through the ringer, who's developed herself. And yeah, I also want her to be attractive, but that's literally one tick mark off of 10 different boxes that need to be checked.

16:49 So the next time you go up to a girl, here's a few things to do. First of all, know that you're a legend. You get standing ovations in those rival stadiums, brother, when you're walking off the soccer pitch. Secondly, look at all the shit that you've done and accomplished. When you're walking up to her, think to yourself, I'm the prize. She's submitting the application. Let's see what she's got. And focus on that body part that you're idealizing and say, you know what? That's just blood, tissue, fat, and flesh.

17:16 Why am I idealizing it? Let's see who this person is on the soul level. That's who we're trying to get to know. That's what we want to see if she's good enough to be with us. I hope that's helped, gentlemen. We're going to do an NLP process right now. But real quick, again, in last night's coaching call, this is what my boy Todd Facey said. Hands down, you have to do it. Have to have to do it. It's going to be a game changer for you.

17:41 Listen to this man and your life is going to be fucking awesome. Not only does it help with women, this program, it helps with the mental capacity need to just to jump in and do shit and get shit done. All right, guys, now we are going to get into this NLP protocol. So here's what I want you to do. I know I kind of fired you up and I'm going to back you down a little bit. But the good thing about this protocol is that it's going to fire you up.

18:06 It's going to make you feel good. Now, when it comes to NLP, I need to work with you one-on-one to see what your modalities are to give you the best NLP processes for you specifically. So this is probably going to really work well for about 50% of you. I'll bet you anything 50% of you are going to love this shit and you'll probably apply for my program once you go through it. The other 50%, eh, it'll be okay, but it's not going to like blow you away. That's because I chose embedded commands as well as certain language in this NLP protocol to apply to probably about 50% of the population, but it doesn't necessarily work excellent with the other 50%.

18:44 So go through it, feel it out. It's going to have some effect on all you guys. Some of you guys are going to be blown away. In fact, this is a tier two NLP protocol, which means it's not like my best stuff. My best stuff, of course, is reserved for my champions who invest in themselves and come into the three-month coaching program. I just have so much respect for you guys, especially the African-American dude that was speaking earlier. I'm not going to tell you his name just to respect his anonymity, but this guy, man, he's been through so much in his life.

19:12 Had zero, I'm talking bagel women, and now he's starting to get, he's getting attention, he's getting girls, he's getting what he hired me for. That could be your reality too. I have worked with dudes who are at the bottom. I've worked with dudes who are already doing great with women, but want to get to like the next step, the highest step. It's all in your brain, bro. Even if you are doing well, you could do a lot better. Do you have a 10 in your bed on a frequent basis?

19:36 I didn't think so. Come work with me. I will get you, those girls. So we're going to do this. We're going to slow it down now. Liam, please drop the music and let's get into it. All right, brother, to start this NLP protocol, what I want you to do is just relax a little bit. Close your eyes. We're going to do a little experiment here that works really well. And what I want you to do is take your right earlobe and I want you to pull down on it pretty hard for about five seconds.

20:06 That's just going to reset your nervous system a little bit. And now as you close your eyes, you can feel yourself relaxing. Go ahead and give it another pull. That's right. Your right earlobe pulled down for about five seconds. Kind of take a deep breath. Now what I want you to do is imagine that you are in a room sitting at a desk that is pushed up against the wall. There is no other furniture in this room. It's a big, comfortable, safe room. And it's painted a light shade of gray.

20:39 So as you're sitting there at that desk, you're writing. And what you're writing are all your accomplishments. From the time you were in elementary school. And I want you to think about what kind of accomplishments did you have all the way back then in elementary school. Were you good at sports? Did you get good grades? Maybe some girls liked you. Maybe you were good at art or anything that you were good at. You're writing that down as you visualize yourself in this light gray, very calming painted room with the desk against the wall.

21:10 You writing your accomplishments. Now I want you to think about middle and high school. Think about your accomplishments there. A lot of you immediately go into the challenges that you've had. But you've had a lot of accomplishments, brother. You are a champion and you know it deep inside. As you're visualizing yourself writing those accomplishments, your hand is moving so fast because there's so many of them. Now we go into college. All the things that you did in college. All the adversity you overcame. Those successes you've had.

21:42 Those things that you can feel good about and you should feel good about. It's easy to forget these things. But I want you to remind yourself you have been through it, brother. You have been through life's challenges. Yet you don't quit. You keep going. And that is something to be proud of. Now I want you to think about after college. Think about when you went maybe into the job market or you traveled or whatever it was. What are those accomplishments? You're writing them down furiously. You already have three, four pages worth of stuff.

22:14 And as you're writing this down, you're kind of realizing that you are a champion. You're kind of realizing that, wow, maybe I have done a lot of great things in this life. I've just forgotten about them because we don't really think about that stuff. The human brain is naturally programmed to focus on what's missing rather than what's there. But appreciation, especially appreciation for yourself and those things that you've done are extremely important. So there you are, man, at that desk writing furiously. You're starting to feel a lot better about yourself, aren't you?

22:48 You're thinking, whoa, I have been through a lot all the way up until today. Look at all the stuff you've done. This is going to take up an entire book of accomplishments. And there you are writing them. And as you're writing, you're seeing a stack of papers get higher and higher off to your left as you're putting each piece of paper that you're writing on into that pile. It's getting bigger and bigger and bigger. All these accomplishments, some of which you've completely forgotten. Why have you forgotten that?

23:17 Why don't we focus on it? Why don't we appreciate it? That stack is getting so big, it's almost level with your head. Hundreds, thousands of pages of accomplishments. Now, as you're writing the stack getting bigger and bigger, I want you to imagine that you're floating out of your body as it sits there at the desk. Your soul is floating out and going to the other side of the room. Now, in the room between your soul and where you are at the desk writing is a plexiglass window.

23:50 The plexiglass window is exactly halfway between where you are at the desk and halfway to where you're standing in that room looking at yourself. Now, as you're looking at yourself writing, you're kind of proud of yourself, man. You're remembering all these accomplishments and that stack is growing bigger and bigger and bigger. You're starting to feel some self-love, some self-respect. You're starting to feel compassion for all the things you've been through, the effort that you've put in, the accomplishments that you've made. Now, as you're standing there looking at yourself at the desk, writing all these accomplishments, I want you to imagine that somebody else comes into the room.

24:28 Now, this person is somebody who already loves you a lot. Perhaps it's your mom, your dad, your grandmother, your grandfather. They don't have to be alive. They can be passed away already. But their soul comes into the room and there it is standing right next to you. They're also looking at you writing all your accomplishments down at that desk. Then what I want you to do is take your soul that's standing next to your loved one and actually float that soul into their body. Now, you are looking out their eyes, feeling what they're feeling.

25:01 You're looking at yourself at that desk, writing vigorously, and the feeling of love, the feeling of pride, the feeling of knowing that that person right there is one of the most wonderful people you have ever met in your life overcomes you. It washes over you like a wave of love and compassion. What color would that wave be? Give it a color right now. And feel that color within you as you stand inside your loved one's body, looking out of their eyes. Now, what I want you to do is float your soul out of your loved one's body, across the plexiglass and back into your body as you're sitting there at the desk.

25:44 Suddenly, as you're writing, more memories come up and that pile gets even bigger. It's almost touching the ceiling. It's so high. And your feeling of self-love, self-respect grows even more inside of you. Now, what I want you to do is float that guy sitting at the desk inside your body right now. That's right. Use your NLP imagination. We can create any magic we want as long as we intend it. Float him into your body. And as he enters your body, you can feel that color also entering your body.

26:17 What color is that? Let's amplify it. Let's make it even brighter. Let's turn up the dimmer switch as if there's a switch sitting right next to you. One of those round switches that goes from one to ten. Right now, it's at two. Crank that thing all the way up to ten. As you do so, that color is painting your body from the inside, reverberating inside your entire soul, going beyond just the confines of your body, but filling up the entire room, the entire city, the entire nation, the entire world, the entire universe with this loving color.

26:54 Turn it up so bright that when you look at it and close your eyes, it comes through your eyelids and you can still see the color. That's self-love, brother. That's self-esteem. That's self-compassion. All the things you've been through, all the accomplishments you've made, you need to love yourself for it. All right, gentlemen, I want you to come out of it now. I want you to imagine a pink giraffe riding a skateboard, going off the ramp, landing it, and skating off like a champion. And that ends this NLP session.

27:23 As I said, gentlemen, that is a tier two one that I can do for the masses. When you come into my program and you and I work together, I am going to create a custom three-month NLP protocol for you specifically, where every night you're going to do a short visualization like this. That's going to go after past traumas, belief systems that you probably don't even know you have. They're going to instill confidence. They're going to remap masculinity inside you, remap schemas, archetypes, and all these metaprograms that you don't even know are hindering you.

27:55 In addition to that, you're going to come into the program for three months and get 12 weeks of all my best content. Two coaching calls per week. One with one of my resource coaches and one with me to take you to the highest level. And here's my guarantee. I will 10x your results with women or you can stay with us in the program until you do. Imagine what would that mean for your dating life in 2026. Imagine how many hot girls you'd have in your life, upping what you've experienced because all it takes is remapping the brain, which I will help you do.

28:29 So gentlemen, put in your application right now. Just click the link in the description below. I super appreciate you, man. I hope you feel good about yourself. I honestly have so much respect for guys like you who are still listening because it's obvious you want to change. You want to get better and you're still doing the work. And guys like the ones that you heard on my podcast, I literally drive around in my car imagining these guys. And as cheesy as it sounds, sometimes I get teared up, man.

28:53 When I make these NLP protocols, the amount of shit that I see, the amount of compassion that I have for my clients is beyond words. And that's exactly why I do what I do. Let me do that for you too, brother. Let me remap your brain and get you the results that you really want with women. Apply right now. It's the first link in the description below. Thank you so much for listening, gentlemen. I super appreciate you and I will see you in the next episode.

29:19 What is up, brother? I just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review. You have no idea how much that helps me. Also, if you're struggling with women and you want to talk to me personally about how I can help you achieve your goals with women, sign up for my three-month coaching program below and you and I will talk. Join us in the unapologetic army.

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