FRAME CONTROL GRADUATE CLASS | SEDUCTION DEEP DIVE | NOT FOR NEWBIES!!!

0:00 Why do guys go into relationships with really good intentions, they want to treat the girl well, and then they become pussy whipped. And when men become pussy whipped, and when women take the masculine role, pussy whipping them, there's an 80% divorce rate. Really think about this. They are losing attraction for us because we're giving up the power and letting them lead. Women are going to frame check you. They're going to try to get reactions out of you boys. And you need to be completely centered, not to be fucked with, confident, and unemotional when you lead that little girl to where she wants to be led.

0:37 This is what works. Even science has proved it. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. Do you guys know of a guy who's pussy whipped? I'm sure you all do. And to be honest with you, probably a lot of you guys have been pussy whipped yourself. Why does this happen? Why do guys go into relationships with really good intentions, they want to treat the girl well, they want her to like him, so they do whatever she asks, and then they become pussy whipped. Then what happens is she loses respect for them, and she starts to weaponize her sex, doesn't she?

1:12 She's like, hey, if you don't do this, if you don't take out the trash, if you don't do me these favors, or if you're not delivering as I feel you should deliver, then I'm not going to give you my sex. How many of these kinds of relationships do you think end in divorce? I was just researching this, boys. And when men become pussy whipped, and when women take the masculine role, pussy whipping them, there's an 80% divorce rate. Furthermore, orgasms go down from four orgasms on average a week, which is what really feminine women experience, to zero orgasms per week with a guy who's pussy whipped.

1:48 Now, why am I talking about this when it comes to this frame control master's course, or whatever I called it? It's because if you've been listening for a long time, you understand that frame control is the single most important element of seduction. If you are not controlling the frame, if you are not leading that little girl to where she wants to be led, and if you are not showing her that you have boundaries and you are not to be fucked with, then she is going to step all over you, lose respect for you, and you are not going to get sex.

2:17 So the reason I'm mentioning this is because guys who are pussy whipped lost the frame. And the reason they lost the frame is because they're good dudes. They have good intentions. They want her to be happy. They just want a happy life, and we can't blame them for that. And maybe you've been that dude, because I know I've been that dude too, but as we all have experienced, all it does is blow up in our face. The second you succumb to a woman's demands, you begin losing the frame, and you begin losing her respect.

2:47 And this is the basis of today's frame control graduate class. Gentlemen, if you are a newbie, no offense to you, but beat it. Kick rocks with your head down. Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you, because this is for guys who have been writing with me for a long time who understand the basic premise of frame control, the single most important element of seduction. So if you don't know what that is, there's the door. Go listen to other episodes and come back to this one.

3:14 This is a graduate class because we're going to get deep into the weeds about what frame control really is. So for those of you who are still with me, I want you to put your thinking caps on. I'm going to give you so much good information today. Hopefully leave you with some aha moments and stay until the end, boys, because I have gold to drop into your lap today. So when a woman first starts dating a man, she unconsciously will test him. The reason she does this is because she wants to prove to herself that you're a high value guy and you have what?

3:45 You should know this if you've been listening for a long time. That's right. You have high survivability. You are going to survive and thrive in today's society, therefore potentially passing on good genes to her children so that they too can survive. This is completely and utterly subconscious. Women are attracted to men who are successful, ambitious, confident, leader of men, have high value, and who other women want because these are all signs of survivability. We are attracted to women for what? You guys should also know this one.

4:17 We're attracted to women for their looks because we want them to be able to have a healthy baby. When you look at a hot girl, you're not sitting there thinking, oh, I hope she can have a healthy baby. In fact, a lot of us have dropped so much baby batter that we didn't want to turn into a healthy baby. That's like the last thing we think. But again, this is in your lizard brain. This is unconscious. When you look at a hot girl, you want to have sex with her, obviously.

4:41 But the reason you want to have sex with her is because unconsciously, you know that she can have a healthy baby. The reason a woman is attracted to a man is because unconsciously, she knows that he has high survivability. Now, how can she test to see if you have high survivability? It's kind of like going into Home Depot and buying a piece of plywood, right? You need to lean on that thing a little bit in order to know that it's going to do the job. If you lean on it and it cracks, you're going to know that it doesn't do the job.

5:10 But if you lean on it and it doesn't break, you know that it's strong and you buy that thing. It's the same thing with women. So women are going to do what are called frame checks, which is basically checking your frame, saying bitchy things to you to see how you will react to it. Now, I've interviewed many women about this. I've talked to my girlfriends endlessly about this. And what they say is, we don't even know that we're doing it. We don't even know that we're being bitchy.

5:37 Or more accurately, they just feel like being bitchy and they can't control it. So they're talking to a guy like me, let's say, right? I'm talking to a girl in a nightclub and I'm wearing this outfit, the black hat, the black shirt, which I always wear on this podcast. They're talking to me and they might say, why do you always wear that black hat? Are you like bald or something? Or are you like insecure about your hair? Now, you experts in frame control, you fucking legends, you know how to reply to that.

6:04 You say something like, yeah, I'm so insecure. I can't believe you found out. I'm actually completely bald underneath my full head of hair. Or you misinterpret and you say, look, I know you're trying to take off my hat right now to systematically get me undressed, but relax, lady, we just met. Calm down, slow down, Captain Negatron. We just met each other. So what you're doing is you're flipping the frame, aren't you? You're doing agree and amplify. You're doing misinterpret. You're reframing or even ignoring it or reframing into a qualifying question.

6:35 Once again, you graduate class, you legends know exactly what I'm talking about because you've been listening for a long time. You've been practicing this stuff. You understand this. Frame control, the single most important element of seduction. But not only are there frame checks in seduction, there are also what we call frame impositions. And I've never mentioned this on the podcast. I teach it in my program, but this is a new podcast thing. Frame impositions are basically her imposing a frame to see if you're going to buy into it.

7:07 It's very obvious when a girl will test us. Why are you wearing those pants? Why are you talking to us? How many phone numbers have you gotten tonight? Oh, is that one of your pickup lines? These are very obvious frame checks, right? She's trying to check you. And what does a low value guy do? He explains himself like, no, I'm not trying to hit on you. I just talk to everybody. I'm just social. That shows low value because you bought into her frame. She put a frame out there.

7:32 You bought into it. Therefore, the frame which she imposed is now solidified. She is controlling the frame because you bought into what she did. But going back to the pussy whipped example, becoming pussy whipped didn't necessarily manifest out of frame checks. Her saying something bitchy like, why are you talking to us? Or you just want to kiss me, don't you? What it came out of or what I call frame impositions or more easily stated, her imposing a frame. For example, her imposing a frame such as, oh, can you buy me this purse for Christmas?

8:07 I really want that really expensive purse from Louis Vuitton. And him going along with it is what? Him buying into her frame. Girls are going to test your boundaries and they do this quite subconsciously. Some women who are highly in their masculine energy, by the way, are so into this and have gotten away with so fucking much that they lose being feminine. They go into being constantly masculine, demanding things from guys who do what they ask. And when they do that, these guys are rewarding the behavior of the woman being masculine, imposing frames and him going along with it.

8:44 Girls, for example, who say, I only go on really nice dates on the first date. And the guy's like, okay, I'll take you to Mastro's. Okay, let's go. Now, what just happened? She imposed a frame. He went along with it. Therefore, he lost all her respect. Do you think that guy is getting her sex after he just dropped $500 on a beautiful five-star Michelin star steak dinner? Hell no. When she imposes a frame and you go along with it, she loses respect for you. Logically, you think she'll like you more because you're going to do what she wants you to do.

9:17 But really, it's a test. And even for girls who are gold diggers, quote unquote, I personally feel and I've experienced that she would rather you resist her frame impositions, all these requests for you to take her out to nice dinners, all these requests for you to dote on her with your money. She would rather you resist that so she can go into her feminine energy and become more attracted to you for you. But because a lot of these girls have gotten away so many times with these frame impositions, it's almost like they like that more than actually being a woman and following the dude's lead, acquiescing to his leadership, and being a fucking woman where the guy has boundaries.

10:01 So a lot of these women who really get into their masculine energy set out frames, frame impositions, remember, little compliance tests, little requests, little drama so that you can do her favors. When they get what they want, it's kind of like a reward, but they never end up with the dude who they can truly respect. So you guys have to understand that women are going to test your boundaries in the very beginning. Yes, sometimes with frame checks, her being outright bitchy to you, your pants are too high, why are you wearing those shoes?

10:32 Oh my God, why do you do that job? That's lame. Those are really obvious and we know how to flip them. Once again, agree and amplify, misinterpret, reframe, ignore, reframe into a qualifying question. You guys should know all those and maybe I'll go over them again in this episode just so you who are listening, who shouldn't be listening because you're still a newbie, I'll still throw those at you so you have something to work with. But these subtle frame impositions, I want you guys to know, she's always going to be pushing on you.

10:58 Now, here's the interesting thing. Women who are highly in their feminine energy and who don't doubt your frame will not do this as much as women who are highly in their masculine energy and who you are talking to where you're a little bit incongruent. It's not clear that you're confident. It's not clear that you have a strong frame. It's not clear that you're not to be fucked with. So she is going to test you. She's going to throw out these little impositions, even such things as requests.

11:25 Hey, Michael, can you get me a napkin from the bar over there? What do most guys do? They're just going to do the request. But what do you do? If you've been listening for a long time, you should know. When a girl makes a request of you, that is clearly a frame imposition, her trying to impose a frame on you. And again, it's quite subconscious, boys. She actually wants you to win. She actually doesn't want the favor so much. She wants you to do this. And this is what you do when a girl asks you for a little favor.

11:51 You say, yeah, for sure. I'll do you that favor. But you have to ask me in a Southern accent first. Or you have to ask me in an Australian accent. Or yeah, for sure. But go tap that guy on the shoulder right there first. I want to talk to him when I go get you your napkin. Yeah, yeah, right there. Yeah, yeah. Appreciate it. You have her do a favor for you first before you do the favor for her. Now you got some jackass listening who hasn't had sex since the 1900s.

12:13 And his mayonnaise bill is really high every month because he's buying jars of mayonnaise and doing explicit things with them that I won't even talk about on the podcast. He's saying, oh, why do you have to play so many games? Why do you have to do that? Why can't you just be natural and genuine and go do her the favor and be a nice guy? Because you don't get laid, you fucking sea donkey. That's why we don't do that. When women throw these tests at us, we have to reply to them in the correct way, boys.

12:40 It's not our fault. She's the one who threw out the fucking test. I wish just as much as you do that we could just be easy and natural and not have to play games. But here's the thing. Women are going to throw games at you. And if you don't reply in the right way, you're going to get blown the fuck out, as a lot of you guys know. So she says, oh, get me a napkin from the bar. And you're like, yeah, for sure. Do a little ballerina spin.

13:01 Let's see your best spin. Oh, that was awesome. Wait right here. I'll go get you the napkin. You just had her buy into your frame first because she imposed a frame, didn't she? The frame is, you're going to go do me a favor. And you're like, no. The frame is, my favors are earned. So you do this thing first, and then I'll go do that thing for you. And I'm happy to do it. I'm a nice guy. I'm cool. Right? I'm imperturbable. I'm on my inner balance point.

13:25 We're good. But just so you know, I'm not a lap dog. I'm not going to get pussy whipped. And this goes into these little rules that these girls do to you guys. And you've all been there. I don't kiss until the second date. I'm not going to have sex with you until we're in a relationship. I'm not going to go on a date with you unless you take me to an expensive dinner. You guys have to resist these frame impositions right from the beginning. Now, here's an advanced tip.

13:48 And I'm going to use the analogy of stopping a sailboat. If you have a sailboat going in the sea and you want to stop that thing, do you just park your sailboat in front of it and then it rams it and both sailboats are devastated in the accident? No, what you do is you go along with the sailboat, you go right next to it, and then you slowly turn it or slowly go in front of it to slow it down. So this is the essence of frame control.

14:11 We agree with what she says, such as, I don't kiss until the second date. You agree with it. You'd be like, second date? And then you amplify it. I don't kiss until the 14th date. I don't know what you're talking about thinking about kissing this soon, but we're not doing that until, you know what? Let's make it 28 dates, young lady, because you are talking about kissing. Way too quick. Or I don't have sex until we're in a relationship. I don't have sex at all until like year three, at least.

14:38 So I don't know why you're talking about sex. Are you trying to seduce me? Because that's what it seems like. Slow down, little girl. Relationships that start fast and fast. So talking about sex this early isn't really the way to do it. So what you do is you amplify. You go along with what she says, make it worse, turn her, and then you can resist the frame imposition that she put on you. So anytime a girl tries to throw a frame at you that's clearly there to challenge you or to see if you're going to buy into it, sorry, boys, but you have to play the game.

15:09 And you have to flip that frame on her with the five essential frame control reversals. Let's review them. Agree and amplify. She says to you, is this what you say to all the girls? You say, yeah, I say it to all the girls. I even said it to my grandma last night. It was a little uncomfortable. Misinterpret, oh, that shirt's ugly. You misinterpret what she says. Look, I know you're trying to take off my shirt right now, but relax. We just met. Ignore. A girl comes up to you and she's like, what's your name?

15:34 I might ignore it and ask her a question back. What drink is that? That is a crazy drink with an umbrella in it. Are we at like some paradise bar or something? What's up with the umbrella? She just imposed a frame on you. What's your name? If you bought into that and you're like, oh, I'm Mark. What's your name? She's now controlling the conversation. Whereas oftentimes when girls approach me, they may be like, what's your name? And I'll go into the next one, which is a reframe.

15:58 I'll say the real question is, what's your name? To take that frame because she's imposing the frame. She's in the masculine energy, isn't she? She approaches me like, what does she expect? She's going to interview me like she's the dude and I'm the girl. Horrible connotation, horrible frame. So if I get approached by a girl, I am going to reverse that on her, take the frame and lead her to where she wants to be led. Anytime a girl approaches you boys, which by the way, is a woman in her masculine energy, she's attracted to you.

16:28 Cool. But you need to take that masculine role immediately. So she's like, hey, what's your name? Real question is, what's your name? She's like, are you single? Real question is, are you single? She's like, oh, how are you doing tonight? You'd be like, what drink is that? What are you drinking there? And guys, you're not being an asshole. You're just the one who's controlling the frame, which is what women want. And this is why it blows my mind that chicks get butthurt about this because they all know they test dudes.

16:54 Consciously or unconsciously, they're going to test you and they're going to try to impose the frame on you. They're going to try to test your boundaries and you have to show them that little girl, I am not to be messed with. We're going this way. It's going to be fun. You're going to have a great time. You're going to love it. Come on, let's go. But guys, the second you start buying into their frame and positions, this is when you lose respect. This is when you lose attraction.

17:16 And obviously, this is when guys who are pussy whipped lose sex. So to review, we have agree and amplify, misinterpret, reframe, ignore. And the final one is to reframe into a qualifying question, which would be something like, she says, is this what you say to all the girls? And then you say, only girls who seem adventurous and fun. You're not boring, are you? And she's like, no, I'm fun. You say, cool. Is that what you say to all the guys? That's the way to flip into a qualifying question, controlling the frame.

17:43 So not only do we have frame checks where she's blatantly being bitchy to test your boundaries, but we also have frame impositions, which are very subtle sometimes, boys. And you need to lead that woman to where she wants to be led. Now, you have to be socially savvy enough to decipher, is this a test? Or is she just wanting to go get a steak because she's allergic to sushi? Like, I'm trying to take her to the sushi place. And she's like, can we go get steaks instead?

18:10 Like, sushi just kind of gives me a tummy ache. And you're like, no, that's a frame imposition. We're going to the sushi joint because I've been listening to the Unapologetic Man podcast, and I'm going to lead that little girl no matter what. You have to be socially savvy, boys. Is she testing you? Or is it just an innocent question? But I'll tell you this, women will oftentimes do this very unconsciously, and they don't want a guy who's pussy whipped. They don't want a guy who succumbs to their every whim.

18:37 They want a masculine dude, and ultimately speaking, they want to go into their feminine energy and follow you, acquiesce to you, be led. Just be a woman and be gentle and soft and nurturing, and go on these adventures without having to plan it themselves, without having to wear the pants. And this is why women resent dudes who are pussy whipped. A guy who does every little thing she asks, who blows smoke up her ass, who's basically a lap dog, he never gets sex because she's as dry as the Sahara Desert.

19:08 Next thing you know, the dude's at Safeway buying 20 jars of mayonnaise to get him through the month. So guys, really think about this. How is it that women impose frames on us? How is it that they are losing attraction for us because we're giving up the power and letting them lead? Why is it that they test us unconsciously? Is it because perhaps they're just built that way, and this is how they test to see if a guy's high value has high survivability? And if and when you come to that conclusion, which hopefully you will, you won't be bitter at women.

19:41 And women listening, don't be bitter at me because I teach guys what actually works. This is nature. This is how evolution has designed it. The man should be masculine. The man should lead. The woman should be feminine. The woman should follow. And you can write as much hate mail to me as you'd like. I don't give a shit. This is what works. Even science has proved it. Women have more orgasms when they're in their feminine. They're way happier in their marriages when they're feminine. They are more satisfied and healthier when they go into their feminine energy and acquiesce to the man's masculine energy.

20:14 When the man leads, when he's going out there and crushing life and providing for his family, he too gets serotonin. He gets dopamine. He gets higher testosterone. And he too becomes healthier. This is how relationships work. And it's so sad in today's age that what women are doing unconsciously, testing us, imposing frames, are collapsing weak men's frames and making it so that the women are now wearing the pants in many relationships. And this is where you get gold diggers and chicks on Instagram that are like, I'm not going to go out with the guy unless he takes me to a five-star dinner.

20:49 And she says it with such certainty because there's so many dudes doing it. Then you come along and you're like, no, we're not going to Mastro's. What we're going to do is we're going to go to tapas at happy hour and we're going to entertain each other with our conversation. If that's a deal breaker for you, cool. Just let me know and we'll part ways. And oftentimes she'll be like, oh shit, a real alpha male, a real guy who's masculine. And she'll acquiesce, go into her feminine, and she will have the best sex of her life that night because she's finally admitting what she really is, which is a woman, not a man.

21:20 And to those few women listening who are still getting butthurt about this, what I suggest for you is to remember when you were feminine and how good it felt and those orgasms you had and the amazing experience you had by letting the dude lead. Women are going to frame check you. They're going to impose frames on you. They're going to see if you acquiesce to the requests. They're going to try to get reactions out of you, boys. And you need to be completely centered, not to be fucked with, confident and unemotional when you lead that little girl to where she wants to be led.

21:53 And then as she's writing you having orgasm after screaming orgasm, she's going to thank you after and be like, oh, my God, I'm so glad you didn't put up with my shit. I don't know why I do that. I don't know why I'm bitchy sometimes. I just am. And she's going to be cuddling in your neck, so stoked in the G-spot of your nook, having acquiesced to your masculine power because you understand frame impositions. So, boys, I hope this has helped you. Frame control, the most important thing in all of seduction.

22:21 Really study this stuff, really try to understand it. There's more nebulous factors that I didn't cover in today's episode, such as what's a frame check and what isn't, such as not being stubborn but being flexible and knowing when to push back and when to lead her and do all these things. And honestly, that's what we teach in my three-month coaching program. It's the entire backbone of what we do. But for now, hopefully this has helped you out. Gentlemen, I drop podcasts every Tuesdays, so please stay tuned for the next one, and I will see you in the next episode.

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