3 Concrete Rules to Follow When Getting a Girl's Phone Number

0:00 So once you get three to five, maybe even seven different signs of attraction, then you can go in for the phone number. Let's review signs of attraction real quick. Playing with her hair, asking your personal questions, smiling a lot, laughing at jokes that are funny, invading your personal space, touching her mouth, touching her jewelry, adjusting her top, having one leg crossed in front of the other. And one I forgot to mention was general deer in the headlights look. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it.

0:43 What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Unapologetic Man Podcast, a podcast that's so bad, it's good. I really appreciate you guys joining me in today, boys. We're kind of going back to basics. We did so on Thursday talking about the 15 most important telltale signs that a woman is attracted to you. Now we're going to talk about the three concrete things that you need to yank a phone number that actually sticks. Now, when I say sticks, that refers to her actually texting you back, but more importantly, her actually going on a date with you.

1:16 As I talk about many times in this podcast, a lot of you guys can get phone numbers, but they don't stick. Either she doesn't text you back or when she does, it's kind of a whole hum. She's on the fence and then she eventually falls off and you can't get a date that actually sticks. And then getting her to actually show up on the date, that requires even more attraction. So we're going to talk about those three concrete things to get a really solid phone number.

1:40 I'm talking about a phone number from a girl who's really attractive, who's going to be attracted to you, who's going to show up on the date, and who's hopefully going to let you into her prison pocket. If you don't know what a prison pocket is, I think you can figure it out by simple deduction. You're a smart guy. I know you're a smart guy because you listen to podcasts. And it's been proven that people who listen to podcasts are usually about 15% smarter than the average intelligence in the population.

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2:57 Let's get into the content. All right. What is the first thing you need to get a phone number that's actually going to stick? Well, I talked about it in the last episode, and that thing is at least three to five different signs of attraction. I was listening to that episode, and if you haven't heard it, I strongly suggest you do so because it's really important that you guys know how attracted she is to you. But what I was talking about in that episode is signs of attraction.

3:24 How many signs of attraction do you need before you go for a girl's phone number? That's right. You're a smart motherfucker. It's three to five. So once you get three to five, maybe even seven different signs of attraction, then you can go in for the phone number. Let's review signs of attraction real quick. Playing with their hair, asking your personal questions, smiling a lot, laughing at jokes that are funny, invading your personal space, touching your mouth, touching your jewelry. Adjusting her top, having one leg crossed in front of the other.

3:53 And one I forgot to mention was general deer in the headlights look. What's interesting about deer is if you go out in the wilderness and try to hunt them, they're like ghosts. You can't even find them. But yet on the street, they stand there and let you hit them with your car. What is up with these stupid animals? God, they are irritating. I actually vaporized an antelope when I was driving east of Denver the other day. I was going to pick up some meat from a provider that I'm actually going to talk about on an upcoming podcast.

4:21 And I'm driving along and I see this antelope crossing the street. And I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. Boom. Vaporized, dude. It was just a fucking ball of hair that flew over my windshield. And I have an aftermarket metal bumper on my car. That thing freaking saved my car from getting totaled. Totally a different story. But God, antelope and deer are so stupid. And if a girl has a general deer in the headlights look, that means she's probably attracted. So you get three to five of these signs and then you assume the clothes.

4:49 You say, so, hey, you seem pretty cool. I enjoy talking to you. I got to get going right now. So what would you recommend we do to continue this conversation some other time? That's one of many different ways I tell you guys to ask for her phone number. But basically, you assume the clothes, yank her phone number. So that's the most important thing. You get three to five different signs of attraction. Now, the second tip, and many guys fail to realize this, is they don't let her game him enough.

5:17 And what I mean by that is oftentimes when you listen to a podcast like this one, you get lots of techniques. You know what to say. You know what to do. You're telling stories. You're running gambits. You're really entertaining and you're really interesting. But she's basically just standing there like an audience member for your show. So if you ask for her phone number, what is she going to think if she hadn't said anything? She's obviously going to think, why does he want my phone number? He knows nothing about me.

5:44 I didn't get to talk. I didn't get to work at all. I didn't get to game him. So why does he want my number? Oh, obviously. It's because he's attracted to me physically and he just wants to get me in bed and get into my prison pocket. So when she thinks that, she's probably not going to text you back, which is part of the reason we implement the four pillars of attraction. I don't have time to go over them right now, but you guys probably know the fourth pillar is qualification.

6:11 You're making her work for you. So in doing so, she gets to kind of rationalize to herself why you like her. She's going to think, why does he like me? Oh, it's because I talked about myself. I told some stories and I worked for him. And this is why we ask her questions such as, what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you? Or other questions such as, what would you do without any chance of failure? What would you do if somebody just gave you $90 million?

6:37 If you could travel anywhere right now, where would you leave for? And then based on that, you can make the conversation more interesting with such things as hypo stories, telling your own stories, making hypothetical situations with you and her, which obviously creates a lot of attraction. So when you're talking to the girl, you have to have her participate. And a lot of you guys come to me asking like, what do I talk about? How do I get her attracted? And one thing you fail to realize is you can put some of the conversational burden in her lap, such as if you tell a cool story about what you do, for example, and it's really funny, then you could just let the conversation die and kind of look at her like with your eyes a little bit open and say like, okay, your turn to talk now.

7:21 So what do you do? Tell me a story. What's something cool you could teach me? Why do you do that job? What is it about it that you love? What would you do without any chance of failure? It's getting her to participate so that you have a reason to be more attracted to her. One little soundbite I like to use, if I ask her a qualifying question, which once again is the fourth pillar and the four pillars of attraction. If I ask her a qualifying question and she answers it such as, what would your best friend say is the coolest thing about you?

7:51 And she's like, oh, I'm loyal and I'm this and that. What I'll often do is be like, oh, yeah, like what's something loyal you've done? Tell me a story. Like what happened? Get her to kind of talk a little bit about herself. And then a soundbite I really like to use is, you know what, Amy? You just went up 20 points in my book. You're now a negative 40. Congratulations. And kind of give her a high five as she kind of smacks my arm and tells me to shut up, which again is another sign of attraction.

8:15 This is how to get phone numbers to stick. Guys, it's an interaction between two human beings. It's not you going up, you doing some robotic lines, getting her attracted, her not talking at all, giving you her phone number, and then you text her and get her on a date. No, it's building a relationship. And I know a lot of you guys are good at that, but I think what you do wrong is you try to build too many commonalities. You're way too excited like all your Christmases have arrived on the same day when you guys both like to snowboard and you're going to go get the gnar gnar and the pow pow at Breckenridge and you're so fucking pumped about it.

8:52 It's like your neediness comes out, but ultimately you're just a cool guy who's having a conversation with her. Yeah, you're telling stories, you're busting gambits, but she needs to participate too. She needs to make you laugh. She needs to work for you, and you have to have a reason to ask for her phone number. If I talk to her for 20 minutes and I'm doing 90% of the talking, and then I say, hey, you seem pretty cool. Why don't you toss me your number? She's like, I do?

9:17 I was just standing there laughing at his jokes and being attracted to him, but why does he like me? She may give me her number, but she's probably not going to text me back. So that's a really concrete rule. You have to let her participate. You have to have a reason to like her beyond her looks. All right, now that we're about halfway through this episode, and guys, I have about three more to give you that are fucking awesome, including what to text her. So stay tuned until the end.

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13:31 There's also a video on that page. You could check it out after this episode. But guys, I'd sincerely appreciate it. Just tell friends about it. Get the word out. Then let me know, and I'm going to send you all that cool shit. All right, back to the content. Now, sometimes you guys will get girls who basically say, I'm not going to let you have my phone number, but I'll take your phone number. What I recommend in that instance is to say no. First of all, you're the man.

13:56 You should be the one reaching out to her. Second of all, if she's not willing to give you her phone number and she's going to take yours, do you really think she's going to text you back? Obviously not. So what you do is you say this. You say, no, that's cool. I get enough calls at 1 a.m. as it is, and I have a feeling you kind of got the Stalker Texas Ranger vibes, so I don't need that many calls that early in the morning. It's fine.

14:18 Blow past it. Continue dropping value. Continue perhaps qualifying her, getting a little bit more of attraction, and then right before you leave, say, hey, listen, honestly, I think you should toss me your number. I'm not going to text you 500 times in a row until your cell phone overheats and burns a hole in your purse like you would do with me. So don't worry about it. Just toss me your number. We'll talk some other time. You may just need that much more attraction to get her to give you her number.

14:43 But as far as girls taking your number, I think it's low value. It puts her in the masculine role. And as I said previously, let's be honest, bro. If she's not willing to give you her number, is she really going to text you? She's really going to take that masculine role and be like, hey, hey, Scott, it's me, Sarah. What are you up to? She's not going to do it, dude. The only reason she's asking to get your number is because she has no intention to text you back.

15:05 So you blow past it. You say, nah, it's cool. And you pretend it didn't happen. Keep building attraction. Then go for the number again. All right, boys, the next one is don't yank phone numbers in front of other girls. If you're like me and you want to date tons of different girls so you can have tons of options, you need to be very careful about your reputation. So what I would always do when I was back in the club scene and I was yanking tons of girls' phone numbers is I would take them to a little dark spot in every bar that I went to.

15:33 I always had this like secret place. I'd hand them my phone underneath the bar and make it really innocuous, make it as unobvious as possible. And I'd often say, you know, I usually don't take girls' numbers at bars like this. I just, I don't find a lot of quality here, but I feel like you're different. So we could take numbers, but I don't really want to get that reputation. So let's go do it over there. I just want to be discreet about it and let's go do that.

15:57 Okay. And then you move her, which by the way, is another attraction building technique, moving her and then go ahead and let her put her phone number in your phone. In a statement issued by the Taliban's Department of Infidel Outreach, that's a really effective way to do it. Because if other girls are seeing you get numbers of other girls, you're going to get a bad reputation, lowering your chances of A, getting a phone number and B, having those girls actually text you back. All right, boys, let's get into what to actually text that girl.

16:26 So when you're speaking to her, you always want to bust her chops a little bit. And what I sometimes do, as some of you guys know, is I accuse the girl of being an ice cream man. So when she asks me what I do, I have a three-part answer to that. That's really funny. I don't have time on this episode to get into it, but I have done podcast episodes on it in the past. And by the way, if you tell friends about it, I'm going to send you material that outlines all those techniques.

16:51 But what I basically do is I crack her up when she asks me what I do. Then when I ask her what she does, I say, so what do you do? And I say, wait, wait, wait, let me guess, let me guess. You're an ice cream man, aren't you? Yeah, I've seen you around Denver driving the ice cream truck, slinging ice cream to all those children. Look, I really like mint chocolate chip. So I'll tell you what, I actually live outside this bar. I don't know if you saw, but there's a cardboard box there.

17:15 I live outside this bar. So here's what I want you to do. Show up at 12 p.m. tomorrow. I'll meet you outside and I want a gallon. That's right. One gallon, Kelly, of mint chocolate chip. Do that and you'll be my best friend. High five. And she's like, fuck you. I'm not an ice cream man. I'll be like, nah, really, what do you do? Let her tell a story about that. Kind of qualify her. It's one of the ways we build attraction when asking what you do and things like that.

17:39 But what I'll do is I'll accuse them of being an ice cream man, a machine gun saleswoman, an assassin. I'm just always kind of busting their chops, making them laugh. Always, of course, adjusting gentlemen for her personality and how much she likes to be teased. I find that girls who like to be teased a lot and who can tease me back are the funnest to talk to. So usually when I talk to a girl like that, I have the best time and I usually get a ton of attraction from them.

18:03 So I've accused her of being an ice cream man. When you want to text the girls the next day at 6 p.m., no matter what time, no matter what day you get their phone number. I know like Thursdays are a little tough because you don't want to text on a Friday evening, but just follow that rule. As you get better, you can adjust it based on your own experience. But typically speaking, a general rule that I can give to the masses is the next day at 6 p.m.

18:27 Girls know all about waiting like four days or some guys wait a week and some guys like text immediately. Don't do that shit next day at 6 p.m. And the reason we do it at 6 p.m. is so that it gives her an opportunity to be off work. So she's not working, but still give you enough hours left in the day to get that conversation going and get it to stick. I have tested this literally thousands of times, and this is the single best time to do it.

18:54 Next day, 6 p.m. Gives me enough time to build the conversation, have it stick before she goes to sleep at night, even ask for the hangout on that text conversation, which of course is a different podcast episode. But here's what I recommend you guys do. Instead of saying, hey, Sarah, it's Mark. I met you last night at the elbow room. And in a statement issued by the North Korean Department of Humanitarian Affairs, we had a great conversation last night. No, boys, you don't do that shit.

19:21 You assume she knows you, and you talk about a high point of the conversation. So I always accuse girls of being the ice cream man. So what I would always say, and I've literally done this a thousand times, boys, I had a templated text that I would just copy, paste in, always got a reply. That text was, so hey, Sarah, I saw an ice cream truck going 150 miles per hour down the 25 freeway. I know you're late for the ice cream man convention, but relax, you're going to kill somebody.

19:49 Then they would always reply back, ha, ha, ha, no, I'm not. How are you? Because I'm referring back to a very specific talking point that her and I had in the conversation, making her laugh, building the vibe, creating a texting conversation that she wants to participate in, thereby increasing the chances that she'll actually text back and increasing the chances that I'll get a date. In the statement issued by the DMV Department of Rapid Service and Efficiency, this shit works. So gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening.

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