25 Subtle Signs You're Missing That a Girl is Attracted to You (#5 Will Shock You)

0:00 I can almost guarantee you that certain girls are attracted to you and you don't even know it's happening because you are missing one of the biggest signs that almost no dating coaches talk about in this space. And I'm going to talk about that today. I always tell you guys the two most important things of approaching a woman are energy and tonality. But also when approaching a woman and trying to see if she's attracted to you, you need to check her tonality, check her energy. Is she being really feminine?

0:27 Is she being really girly? On top of the other signs that I'm going to reveal today, I said I was going to give you 25. I always over deliver. I'm probably going to give you more like 30 or 40. So let's jump into them. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. So gentlemen, in this episode, I'm going to give you 25 very subtle things that girls do. But this one thing that I'm going to reveal is actually more important than any of those other signs because this has to do with something that she absolutely cannot control.

0:56 And that, boys, is energy. When she is attracted to you, she's going to go into her feminine energy. Women become more feminine when they're attracted to a man. At least heterosexual women. We're not talking about gay women, et cetera. We're talking about a heterosexual woman who is attracted to a masculine man. She's going to go into her feminine energy. How many times have you seen a girl just get really girly around you or, and this is really important sign to look for, her voice starts getting higher.

1:26 When she speaks to you, she does exactly what I tell you guys not to do when you're speaking to a woman, which is to have your voice go up rather than down. For example, how are you today? As opposed to, how are you today? When a woman is attracted, you will hear her voice coming up to meet you. And this is the analogy I always use. There's a hierarchy between the two people speaking. The person who's in the social power is above the person who's not in the social power.

1:54 Therefore, the person who's not in power, their voice goes up to meet them. The person who's in the social power, the voice goes down to meet them. Just like a police officer asking you for license and registration, please. It's an authoritative tone, which is the tone you have to have when approaching a woman. I always tell you guys the two most important things of approaching a woman are energy and tonality. But also when approaching a woman and trying to see if she's attracted to you, you need to check her tonality, check her energy.

2:24 Is she being really feminine? Is she being really girly? On top of the other signs that I'm going to reveal today, I said I was going to give you 25. I always over deliver. I'm probably going to give you more like 30 or 40. So let's jump into them. All right. An attracted woman is an engaged woman. So she's going to be engaged with you in the conversation and reactive to you. And this too is something that dating coaches never talk about where who's reacting more in the conversation.

2:49 You may notice that men who are bad with women, when they're attracted to a girl, they become more reactive. They're reacting to what she says. They're laughing really hard at her jokes. They have a smile on their face like all their Christmases and birthdays have arrived on the same day. And you can clearly tell they are only thinking about getting into her squishminton. They want to get their red helmeted warrior wet because the only time it gets wet is in the shower. And the last time they had sex was in the 1900s.

3:17 So they're very reactive. They're leaning in. They're laughing at jokes that aren't funny. This is the same shit that girls do. She's going to be leaning in, touching you, asking you personal questions. She's going to have an energy that states, I'm interested in the conversation, but translated, that means she's interested in you. How many of you guys have been talking to a girl and the conversation wasn't very good? You convinced yourself that she wasn't attracted to you, but she still stood there even when the conversation dropped and it wasn't really that interesting.

3:48 You felt she wasn't attracted to you because she wasn't leaning in, touching you, perhaps not even super in her feminine energy, but she was still standing there, wasn't she? Guys, I have literally had girls turn their backs to me while like I'm gaming them and they turn their backs to me and I ended up sleeping with them that night. I remember this one girl on a cruise ship. She did that exact thing. We're literally sitting on a bench and she had her back to me and I tapped her on the shoulder and I was like, hello, are we not talking or what?

4:16 And she's like, sorry, I'm just shy. And that's a big thing is that girls are going to become shy when they're really attracted to you, yet you will oftentimes misinterpret that for her not being attracted. By the way, one of the best sexes I ever had, sexes is that word? One of the best sexes I ever had was with that girl on the cruise ship. I remember I was getting her doggy style and like looking out the porthole or whatever it's called in the ocean going by and I was like, dude, this life is awesome, man.

4:42 And on the cruise ship, you always put a tie on the door to let her roommate know that she didn't want her to come in. So anyway, she had her back to me. I knew she was attracted because she was giving off the sign of just being there and engaging in the conversation, asking me personal questions, asking me about my interests, asking me, and this is an obvious one, if I had a girlfriend. And of course I said, yes, I had a hundred girlfriends, but they all died in a plane accident yesterday.

5:09 So I'm conveniently single tonight. But all jokes aside, whenever the girl is attracted, she's going to make reasons to be near you, either physically or even conversating with you, texting you, wondering how your day went or noticing things about you that other people may not have noticed. Like she sees your new car and she's like, I like your new car. I noticed you went with the King Shocks, the Relation Race Wheels, and the Geratrac tires. I think that was a really good combination. And your choice of the Rigid Industries front light bar, as well as the Baja Designs roof light bar was a great decision.

5:45 And you're like, dude, I didn't even show this girl my fucking car. How does she know about this? Because she's Stalker, Texas Ranger. She's keeping tabs on you. So if she notices something about you that you never really told her about, or she brings it up like, oh, how was your trip to Miami? And you're like, I didn't tell you I was going to Miami. How'd you know that? She's like, oh, I saw it on your Instagram. She's keeping tabs on you because she's attracted. So we have the obvious ones, right?

6:12 Licking her lips, fixing her clothes, playing with her hair, dilated pupils, skin flushed a little bit, touching you, asking your personal questions, asking what you're doing this weekend, but also the subtle ones. Moving into her feminine energy, being very girly around you, as well as asking you about shit that she shouldn't know or noticing things about you that you never told her about. Because again, she's stalking you on the side. She's following you. She is attracted. But also, boys, one of the most important things you need to realize is that even if a girl is willing to talk to you and not be like, hey, get away from me or sorry, I have a boyfriend or I got to go right now, that is a level of attraction that you are probably missing.

6:58 I had a client the other day say to me, yeah, I'm getting phone numbers, but they're not texting me back. And I explained to him the matrix. Attraction starts from zero and goes all the way to sex. And between all that is a matrix. It takes this much attraction and I'm moving my hands like four inches apart to get a phone number and it takes this much attraction, let's say six inches apart to get a text back. So you're still getting attraction, but oftentimes you're convincing yourself that the attraction isn't there.

7:26 Attraction is a spectrum. We need the most attraction possible in order to sleep with her, but don't get it twisted. Girls are attracted to you, brother. And some of you right now are listening. You truck drivers. I know there's a lot of guys who drive trucks who listen to my podcast. Salute to you. Thank you for keeping America, Australia, England, and Canada moving. You truck drivers will often contact me and be like, dude, I'm unattractive, right? Truck driving is the unhealthiest job you could possibly have.

7:54 When I go into the gas stations or I go into subway sandwiches, I just know these girls aren't attracted to me. But you may be wrong. There may be a level of attraction that you're missing. So pay attention. Is she moving into her feminine energy? Did she smile just a little bit longer? Did she laugh at a stupid joke that wasn't even funny? First, we need a little bit of attraction before we can get a lot of attraction. And a lot of you guys are getting that.

8:19 You're just not getting enough to really notice it. But girls are very emotional beings. If you can make them laugh or charm them up a little bit, or even just your presence, like you truckers or you guys who work out a lot, you walk in and you have that masculine energy, that confidence, the girl behind the counter who's making your sandwich, she may get a vibe from you, brother. She may get a little bit attracted to you. Then if you can throw a little bit of game on top of it, tell her something funny, maybe tease her a little bit, ask her, hey, did you have to choke anybody out today and kind of crack her up?

8:53 That inflates attraction even more until we have enough attraction in order to get a phone number and more importantly, enough attraction to get a phone number that sticks. But what I want you to do over the next several days and weeks is really pay attention to how people are dealing with you. And what I want you to do is take somebody you're really close to, a guy, a heterosexual guy, right? Like your best friend. How does he behave around you? How does he act around you?

9:19 Then compare the girl's behavior to that. A dude who's not attracted is very similar to a girl who's not attracted. For example, if you look at somebody you're not attracted to, you kind of look at them like they're a piece of cardboard or just a random wall and then you keep looking away. But if there's some attraction there, you're going to pause momentarily and sometimes you can notice pupils dilating. When your best friend sees you, his pupils don't really dilate unless like you haven't seen him in a while.

9:48 But ultimately, he just kind of looks at you like you're another schlep, like you're some other canyon mule that he's running into during his day and he doesn't give a fuck. Well, a girl who's not attracted will behave the same way. A girl who is attracted is going to have those little subtle changes and very much look out for feminine energy. What else is true with feminine energy? Girls will become helpful when they're attracted. Let me explain. A woman will become attracted to you and then she'll go deep into her feminine energy and she will try to help you in some way or help another person in front of you in some kind of way.

10:23 There was an experiment where they had a really attractive guy. It was probably you listening. Go into a fake waiting room. They were waiting for like some doctor. Then they brought a girl in and he ran some game and got her attracted to him. Then what happened is they both left the building at the same time. But there was a lady, an actor, who was carrying some boxes and she was really having trouble. And what happened is the girl who was attracted would always help the lady who was trying to carry the boxes.

10:52 She'd be like, oh, let me help you with that. Why do women do this? Because they think that by showing they're helpful, either helping you or helping somebody else, that they will prove to you they can take care of a baby. This is literally how the female mind works. So is she being helpful? Is she offering you favors, offering to help you, noticing things about you, maybe like giving you some advice or trying to interject into your personal business? All signs of attraction that you probably haven't noticed.

11:21 All right. Some other signs, boys, that have to do with texting specifically. Some of you guys are like, is this chick attracted to me because she's not really texting me a lot? Well, I'm going to be honest with you. If they start falling off, that's because you probably didn't have enough attraction during the initial conversation to stick that conversation. Or you're just another dude on the dating apps who she gave her number to, and she's just kind of not super interested. But if she responds quickly, obviously signs of attraction.

11:49 If she asks you what you're doing that weekend, obviously signs of attraction. She initiates texting or messaging. There's another sign. She double texts. She finds reasons to reach out randomly. She tells you about something that attempts to make you laugh. She uses lots of emojis. And one thing I always notice with girls who are attracted over texting is they'll use lots of the same letter, like hi with like a hundred I's behind it or ha ha ha with a ton of A's. Why is this? We have to always remember an attracted woman is a woman who's in her emotions and she's feeling good.

12:26 Think about you when you get attracted. I've seen you, bro. You have that ear to ear smile, all teeth glimmering like a diamond in the desert sun, just so fucking stoked to be talking to this girl. That telegraphs that you're feeling good because when you're attracted, oxytocin is released in your brain. So she's going to be smiling more. She's going to be putting more effort into it. She's going to be touching you and laughing at jokes that aren't funny, asking you personal questions, pointing her toes towards you.

12:53 Although sometimes, as I pointed out, when they're really shy, they can do the opposite. They can literally close down, cross their arms in front of their body, but they're still standing there, aren't they? They're still engaging, aren't they? That's the sign. So oftentimes, you guys will misread these negative signs of shyness for signs of her not being attracted. But really, she's just freaking out because you're such a stallion. She wants your red-helmeted warrior to be put into her squishminton, and she can't handle it. She's getting a snail trail down her leg because you're so attractive, yet you miss it every single time.

13:30 Here's something I want you to know. Every time you walk into the supermarket, Whole Foods, Del Taco, or wherever the fuck you're going, there are women attracted to you. I guarantee it. I don't care what you look like, how old you are, or what other limitations you're going to try to convince me and yourself that you have. Women are attracted to you, yet we as men are so oblivious, we're knuckle-dragging gorillas sometimes, we just don't notice it. But what would it mean for you if, let's say, 10% of girls were attracted to you?

14:00 That would mean a lot for your sex life if you just had the balls to approach them when they're attracted to you. A little bit of a lingering look, a little bit of a laughter when you're checking out, or a girl getting a little bit shy, fixing her hair, fixing her clothes, maybe trying to adjust her top to show you her tete's. You need to pay attention to this shit because it's super subtle. All right. A few other one, boys, especially while you're speaking to her, is she opens up emotionally faster than you think is kind of logical.

14:29 She says the following words, I normally don't do this, and or you're different than other guys. I normally don't have conversations like this. Or for one of my coaches, ex, what's up, ex? He was telling a story to the boys the other day where he went on three dates in one day and the middle girl, he was making out with her and he took her into his van to which he has a mattress in it. I'm telling you, this guy's not creepy. He's a total champion.

14:56 Takes her in his van, has sex with her, and then he's late to the third date to which he made out with that girl too. And during that whole time, she's like, I never do this. And he's like, yeah, either do I, right? And then he was able to get it. So they're going to say to you, I never do this. I'm not really this way. I don't behave this way. And or you're different than other guys. And a few other ones, boys, and I'm sure I'm well over 25 by now, but they just keep popping in my head.

15:20 An attractive girl is really agreeable. So she's going to agree with you more than she disagrees. And she's going to ask your opinion about things she really doesn't need your help with. So she's going to actually ask you for help with certain things. Just to be close to you. But again, even a complete stranger, let's say you walk into the supermarket and a girl kind of looks at you and you catch her looking and then she like darts away really quickly or like pretends to do a big scan around the room.

15:47 Like, oh, just looking at that guy. She's attracted. A girl who gets close to you or smiles at you, makes eye contact. Those are signs of attraction, gentlemen. And you shouldn't miss it. You should go open them. And finally, boys, my most important point in this episode, you should assume that every single girl is attracted to you. Even a girl just walking by you in the supermarket, attracted. A girl driving past you in the intersection, attracted. A girl who emails you randomly because she wants to try to sell you some aluminum siding for your fucking house, attracted.

16:20 You should always default on the fact that you are wanted and always believe it's on. You almost have to get delusional with this shit. And no matter what happens, you convince yourself it's happening because the girl is attracted to you. You're working out at the gym and a girl comes and sits next to you on the machine next to you. She doesn't really need to lift legs today. She's just attracted to you. A girl comes and stands behind you at the water fountain, attracted, right? A girl runs into you in the elevator, attracted.

16:47 You need to constantly convince yourself they're doing that because they're attracted. And I'll tell you what, gentlemen, a lot of the time it's true. Girls will make excuses to get close to you because they find you attractive and it's your job to open them. They're not going to do that. They're going to give you a gigantic green light or even a subtle green light and it's your job to execute. So I can guarantee you way more women are attracted to you than you think there are.

17:12 So the next time you think maybe I can almost promise you it's not maybe it's a yes. They're attracted to you to some level. It's your job to go in there and inflate that attraction until you get a really solid phone number that sticks and she'll text you back and go on a date with you. So women are attracted to you, brother. Congratulations. I don't care how many excuses you give me. They are. Your job is to execute and blow that Tinder bundle of attraction into flame.

17:40 Once you have that fire of attraction, that's where the magic happens. So gentlemen, I super appreciate you listening. Stay tuned for next Tuesday. I got a really interesting one. Come on back. And of course, boys, the three-month coaching program is open. If you're interested in talking to me and my team about joining us for a transformation, not more information, a transformation, put in your application today. Thank you so much for listening, gentlemen. And I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode.

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