How to Instantly Take Power Away From Mean Girls and Aggressive Guys With My "Calling The Script" Technique

0:00 So the premise of this podcast is how to call the technique, but also, boys, the essence of frame control. The essence of frame control is you are unaffected and you always want to flip the frame on her to either make her laugh or make it all about her. Now, in this episode, I'm not only going to discuss how to flip frames on mean girls, but also how to do it to dominant alpha guys, those guys that come over and try to basically punk you, make you look insecure in front of other girls, so that they can steal those girls from you or protect those girls from you.

0:36 What if you approached a girl and she said to you, I'm out of your league? What you'd say to that is, it's all right. You know, I know I'm above your league and one day you'll get there. Just keep persevering. You'll get there, young lady. What if she says to you, why are you talking to us? What would you say to that? What I'd say to that is, oh, you looked interesting, but I guess you're boring, huh? What if she said to you, how many phone numbers did you get tonight?

1:00 Which you guys are going to hear all the time. You always say, and a lot of you guys know this, I absolutely love this comeback. I got nine numbers tonight, one more, and I would have had a full phone number. What if she says to you, not interested? What you do is you pretend not to hear it and you'll be like, oh, you're not interesting. Oh, that sucks because you looked interesting. I was coming to talk to you, but I guess you're not interesting. What if she said to you, is this what you say to all the girls?

1:25 This one too, you guys have may have heard me say in the past. You say, I say it to all the girls. In fact, I said it to my grandma last night. It was a little uncomfortable. Now in this episode, I'm not only going to discuss how to flip frames on mean girls, but also how to do it to dominant alpha guys. Those guys that come over and try to basically punk you, make you look insecure in front of other girls so that they can steal those girls from you or protect those girls from you.

1:51 I'm going to give you guys a lot of techniques for how to flip that. And I'm actually going to end this podcast with a few reversals that you can do to girls who are really mean to you, who outright reject you, because I know that's what a lot of you guys fear. So make sure to stay tuned until the end. Let's jump into the content. So to start this episode, we need to understand the basic premise of frame control. Now, a lot of you guys have been listening to my content for a long time, and you know about frame control, but there's something I noticed that a lot of guys miss when it comes to frame control and when it comes to controlling the frame.

2:24 Now, obviously, controlling the frame basically means you're absorbing other people into your reality and you're leading that conversation. For example, you and your friend are going out at night. The one who's controlling the frame is basically the one who's leading, the one who brings up the more conversational topics, the one who's less reactive, the one who's in the social power. And you always have to be in the social power with women. Otherwise, they will not get attracted to you. And for a lot of guys, that's a big aha moment.

2:53 Like, oh shit, I've always been giving her the social power. Huh? Now this makes sense. When you don't lead, you don't get attraction. When you do lead, you do get attraction. It's a very basic premise. But one of the big issues, and this is probably the biggest misunderstanding of frame control, is that a lot of guys think they have to be stubborn, bullheaded, and kind of an asshole with negative energy in order to control the frame. For example, you're out with a girl and she tries to butt heads with you and you react really negatively to that, thinking that your negativity is frame control.

3:27 You're like, no, little girl, we're going to do this. Just stop talking. We're doing this. No, that's being an asshole. And that's being insecure. The essence of frame control is that you're imperturbable. What does imperturbable mean? It means you cannot be perturbed. You cannot be affected. You cannot be thrown off what I call your inner balance point. Your inner balance point is basically a point within you of inter-centeredness, of peace. And what is peace? It basically communicates that you're one of life's big winners. You're not affected by other people's bullshit.

4:01 You got this shit figured out. And that's what girls want to see from you. So if you approach a girl and she's really mean to you and you flip it on her in that kind of way, where she's like, I'm out of your league. And you're like, don't worry, young lady. I'm sure you'll get up to my level one day. That immediately communicates that you have a strong frame, that you have a strong inter-centeredness of your essence that you have faith in. That you're not going to buy into what she does.

4:27 Because what would most guys do? Most guys would explain themselves to her and be like, well, you know, I might be able to get up to your level. This is the kind of car I drive. This is how much money I make. Here's my resume. If you do that, she's going to look at you like she just smelled Bigfoot's dick. You are fucking getting blown out. You are done. And no offense, brother, but you are dumber than a suitcase full of buttholes. Never, ever, under any circumstance, try to sell yourself to a woman, as I spoke about in a recent episode.

4:56 But also, never, ever, under any circumstance, get butthurt, get affected, get negative. And if you do that, the only kind of girl you're going to get is a girl who looks like a waitress on an oil rig. So what you need to do, gentlemen, is control that frame by being unaffected. Now, when I say unaffected, what does that mean? Remember my previous episode when I talked about the two fundamental emotions that we have inside of us, love and fear. Everything comes from those two primordial emotions.

5:27 There's nothing else. So when you come from fear, what does that generate? That generates negativity. That generates you being affected and you being off your inner balance point. You essentially being reactive to her. When you come from love, what is your life like? Your life is full of peace. It's full of happiness. It's full of joy. So is negativity going to affect you? Is something bitchy that she says going to honestly get you off that interstate of centeredness? Of course not. Because why? Light always overcomes the darkness.

5:59 So you come in with light, a smile on your face. You're imperturbable. You're like, hey, hey, real quick. And she's like, not interested. You would smile and be like, oh, you're not interesting. That's too bad. You looked interesting, but I guess you're pretty boring, huh? And you do it with a smile on your face unaffected. When you put that light onto that darkness, it's going to transmute that darkness into light. And oftentimes, boys, it snaps them right out of it. They'll throw one bitchy thing at you and you react to it with lightheartedness, right?

6:27 Like she throws a rock at you, you catch it, you turn it into a balloon animal smiling and you're like, oh, and you throw it back at her. It's that kind of vibe. But at the same time, showing you're not to be fucked with, which I'm going to get to in a second. So it's always kindness. Even when an AMOG comes up to you. What is an AMOG? Alpha male of the group or a mean guy who's trying to punk you. You're talking to a girl and the dude comes over and he's like, hey, that's my girlfriend.

6:52 What would you say to that? Would you be like, fuck you, dude. I'm just talking to her. Would you react to his negativity with more negativity? You know what I'm going to say. Absolutely not. You're always imperturbable. You always have a smile on your face. You're unaffected. And what does this communicate? It shows that he got negatively affected by you because he's threatened by you, by the way. And it shows that you're on your interstate of centeredness. You're still in peace. So if he comes up and he's like, hey, you're talking to my girlfriend.

7:20 Stop that. You'd be like, relax, bro. I'm just talking to her. I'm no threat to you, man. Don't be threatened. It's cool, bro. And you kill him with kindness. Now, I'm going to show you guys how to kind of punk these dudes in a minute when they're really coming at you with negativity. But the underlying foundation of frame control is it's always kind. It's always from peace. It's always joyful. You're one of life's big winners. You have a smile on your face. You're always entertained. You're unaffected by anything.

7:46 One of the best quotes I ever heard is, people who get rich, people who get good with women, people who are successful in life are bigger than their problems. And I guarantee you, boys, from a metaphysical perspective, from a soul level perspective, life never gives you what you can't handle. Everything that's being thrown at you, you have the wherewithal to handle it. And in fact, that's the whole purpose of this life, to handle it. So if you get butthurt, if you get affected, if you're reacting to other people's negativity with negativity, they're going to blow you out.

8:20 So a girl is really mean to you. Always with a smile on your face. Why are you talking to us? Oh, usually I pay people to hang out with me, but I spent all my money on the midget rodeo last week, so I'm trying to do it organically. Don't blow me out. I'm really insecure. Don't blow me out. And you have that smile that shows that you're imperturbable. So frame control is always kind. It's always on its inner balance point. But here's the deal, boys. You are to be respected, and you are not to be fucked with.

8:48 And if you are, then you're going to be a mushroom cloud laying motherfucker, and you are going to blow that person out or punk them a little bit. And let's get into that. Technique calling is exactly that. You call out the technique. Perfect example. And you guys have all seen this. You're talking to a girl, or perhaps you approach a group, and there's a guy in the group, and he's threatened by you. Why is he threatened by you? Because he's insecure, and you're a fucking champion.

9:12 So the next time a guy bows up on you or gets negative with you, you could be like, oh, dude, he's affected by me because he's insecure. You, on the other hand, are a freaking champion who gets standing ovations in rival stadiums. So you're unaffected. So he shakes your hand real hard. He's like, nice to meet you, bro. And it's really hard, right? He's trying to crunch your hand. You'd be like, oh, man, I like that technique, dude. You really shake a guy's hand hard. That's the way to set yourself up in that alpha position.

9:40 So what you just did is you called him out on his technique. I know what you're doing. And what you're doing comes from weakness. And if you say that in front of women, they see it too, such as the guy coming over and being like, hey, why are you talking to my girlfriend? You say, dude, relax. No need to come at me with this negative energy, bro. No need to be threatened. What you're doing is you're calling out. He's insecure. He's threatened. He's coming out with negative energy.

10:05 You, on the other hand, are composed. What are my five favorite letters in the English alphabet? R-E-L-A-X. Relax, bro. I have said that to thousands upon thousands of girls and guys in my tenure as a pickup artist. Because you always get negativity. You always get curls trying to frame check you. You always get dudes trying to bow up and trying to flex up on you, showing that they're more dominant than you. Who's more dominant? It's the guy who's relaxed. It's the guy who's laughing. It's the guy who makes jokes.

10:36 Who's fun, who doesn't give a shit, who's unaffected, unreactive. The guy who's on his inner balance point. And yes, boys, the guy who's controlling the frame. Here's a tip. If you are the most relaxed, composed, and unaffected, you are controlling the frame. Controlling the frame isn't about being stubborn and being a dick. It's about leading with confidence. What is the nice guy? Does the nice guy control the frame? Of course not. He is manipulating people with his niceness. If I do them enough favors and I placate enough and blow enough smoke up their ass, maybe I can manipulate them to get what I want from them.

11:14 That's why we're all disgusted by the nice guy, because he's ultimately insecure. He's ultimately disrespectful because he's disingenuous. He's not giving us his genuine personality. And he's definitely not controlling the frame because he's off his inner balance point. He feels, I need to be nice and placate to everybody to get what I want from them. So when the mean guy comes over who's coming from negativity, the nice guy is going to try to be extremely nice to him, to manipulate him, to like him. But that comes from fear, doesn't it?

11:45 The energy from the big alpha male who's trying to bow up on you is coming from negativity, but so is the manipulation of the nice guy. It's coming from fear. Now, here's the essential difference between the nice guy and the guy controlling the frame. Listen carefully because this is it. The nice guy is using kindness to try to manipulate, and he's basically thwarting his own position, his own power in order to do so. Here, let me do these favors for you, thus disrespecting myself so you like me.

12:13 The guy who's controlling the frame, on the other hand, is nice, but he doesn't yield self-respect or authority while doing so, which means he has boundaries. I'm going to be cool to you until you're a dick to me. So when the negative guy comes in and he tries to bow up on me, I'm actually cool to him. I'm like, what's up, bro? What's your name? And I'm cool to him in the beginning until he starts trying to flex up on me, like shaking my hand real hard.

12:38 I'm going to call it out. I'm going to be like, oh, that technique. Or, hey, bro, you're kind of in my personal space, man. Like when they try to bow up on you and like get up on you, you'd be like, are you attracted to me, man? You're getting pretty close. I think you're attracted to me. See how I'm smiling and I'm calling the technique? The technique is he's bowing up on me. He's getting in my personal space. Or, and this has happened to me recently, he turned his back on me.

13:02 And I tapped him on the shoulder and I'm like, good move, bro. Turn your back on the guy. Way to display your dominance. Put her here, buddy. And he didn't do it. And I was like, ah, don't be mad, man. Don't get butthurt. It's cool. Relax, dude. Then he started getting really pissed. And I was like, bro, calm down, man. I'm just fucking with you. You're not that easily affected, are you? You're not. You're just playing around, right? And he's like, yeah, whatever. What did the girl see?

13:28 They saw that. Oh, Mark is calling his technique, turning his back, shaking his hand real hard, getting in his personal space. And Mark is imperturbable. Mark is joyful. He's kind. But he's also showing he's not to be fucked with. That's the balance. And you always want to have that balance with women. So let's say a girl says something really mean to you, like just straight up disrespectful. You can throw that shit back in her face. So you say to her, my name's Tyler. And she's like, Tyler, what a stupid name.

13:57 What you do again is call the technique. And I call it the, is that what you do technique? So you say, is that what you do? You meet a guy and within five seconds, you insult him by insulting his name. How's that working out for you? Does that work really well for you? And you're calling her technique. So it's the, is that what you do? You meet a girl and she's like, oh, why are you wearing that hideous suit? Now you guys should know the frame control reversal of misinterpretation.

14:24 Why are you wearing that hideous suit? Look, I know you're trying to take off my clothes right now, but relax, we just met. Or you could use the call and the technique. Is that what you do? You meet a guy and within 30 seconds, you insult him on his suit. Is that your style? How's that been working for you? Must be nice to have a cute face. Probably gotten you far in life. That wouldn't really work for me. But if that works for you, I suggest you stick with it.

14:47 So you're calling the technique. You're showing that you're above it. You're unaffected. You're laughing. You're joyful. But at the same time, you're not to be fucked with. Now, some people get butt hurt because again, they're off their inner balance point. They have a weak frame. Some people get butt hurt about my podcast and they're like, oh, you're anti-women because you're actually going to stand up for yourself when a woman says some mean shit to you. I'm not anti-women. I'm a champion of women. I won the Christy Yamaguchi Lifetime Achievement Award.

15:16 But if they're going to flux up on me, you're damn right. I'm showing them I have boundaries. And boys, this gets their respect. They're going to get attracted to you when you show them that you're not to be fucked with. And when a guy tries to bow up on you or come into your set and display that dominance, call it out. Be like, oh, I like what you're doing right now, bro. Displaying that dominance. You're doing a good job. Dude, look how tight your shirt is, bro.

15:41 You've been working out. How many times you work out a day? I'm guessing like three times a day. Always in the gym. Look at those biceps. Ladies, look at this guy's biceps. Look how tight the shirt is. Look at the veins popping. This guy, how many push-ups did you do before you came out, bro? Be honest with me. Be honest with me. He's like, fuck you, man. You're like, calm down, man. Calm down. He's like, you don't know me. Be like, yeah, but I want to know you, brother.

16:05 What's your middle name, man? Come on. Let's get to know each other. Give me a hug. Give me a hug. And oftentimes, they just leave because the girls are cracking up. You're the alpha male because you're being dominant without being an asshole. You are calling the technique and letting him know that you're not going to be stepped on the way a nice guy would because you're not using your kindness to try to manipulate. You are kind because you are one of life's big winners. You're a go-giver.

16:30 You go give good energy, good value. And you're not hurt when people come with negativity because you have so much light. And you turn that darkness into light. Girls get attracted to that. Guys get threatened by it. But at the same time, you call them out on their shit. And before you know it, they're walking off with their tail between their legs, and you're the big winner. But guys, when you have this positivity, like when you really get to the point where you're winning in life, you're making lots of money, you're successful, which you can do when you remap your belief systems, everything changes for you.

17:03 And you actually become happy. And when guys try to bow up on you, you just don't even want anything to do with that negative energy. In fact, it gets to the point where you're so positive, and you have so much light coming out of you, so much love for everybody and everything, those negative guys are repelled by it. And they don't even come into your group anymore. So you're talking to a bunch of cute girls who they came with a guy with, and he sees your light.

17:30 He sees how charismatic you are and how happy you are. He's going to get repelled by it and not even come over. This is why guys disappear into hyperspace many times when you open the set. So again, boys, when you open and they say some shit to you, you're lighthearted. I gave you some frame control reversals on that. When a guy is really mean to you, you call the script. Be like, oh, I see what you're doing. That's pretty good, man. And compliment him. But in that kind of sarcastic way, like, I know what you're doing.

17:59 It's weak. It's coming from a place of fear. But I like it, man. Keep it up. Oh, look at your muscles, bro. Oh, look at your outfit, dude. Oh, look at your shoes, dog. Oh, look how tall this guy is. Ladies, you should definitely date him. I have multiple clients who are really short because that's obviously a big issue for a lot of guys that makes them insecure. But they've reframed it in the way where they joke about it. They're unaffected. So a girl's like, what do you do for a living?

18:23 And he's like, well, I'm trying to achieve my ultimate dream of becoming a horse jockey. I just need to shrink two more inches to get there. And then she laughs. He shows that he's one of life's big winners. He's imperturbable. He's on his inner balance point. And he is the light, which gets women attracted to him. And to reiterate, boys, when you meet a guy who won the Adolf Hitler Lifetime Achievement Award, initially kill him with kindness. Be cool to him. But if he bows up on you or flexes up on you, call the script.

18:51 Show what he's doing. Call his technique and do it in front of the girls while you're unaffected and smiling. This blows out AMOG's alpha male of the group every single time. Lastly, boys, I'm going to give you two really good ways to flip a rejection when a girl is really mean to you. Like she's like, get the fuck out of here. I don't want to talk to you. Okay. If she's really mean to you, and don't forget, boys, I won the Christy Yamaguchi Lifetime Achievement Award.

19:16 I'm a champion of women. But if she's really mean, I'm flipping that shit. So she's like, get the fuck out of here. I don't want to talk to you. You pretend you didn't hear it. You're like, what? What'd you say? And as soon as she starts speaking again, you put your palm up in her face and you say, ah, not interested. And you walk away. So it's like you rejected her. You say something. She says something really mean. You're like, what? I didn't hear that. She tries to say it again before she can finish.

19:40 Your palms in her face, not like super close, but like a couple feet away. And you're walking off looking like you rejected her. The second one, similar thing. She's like, ah, get the fuck away from us. We're not interested. You'd be like, ah, I didn't want to talk to you. Anyway, you got horrendous breath. I suggest a little bit more water picking and flossing, young lady, because whoo, smells like a dead fish that got shit on by a sumo wrestler. Have a good night. So you basically tell her she has bad breath.

20:05 Now again, Christy Yamaguchi Lifetime Achievement Award. I'm a champion of women, but when they're going to flex up on me, I'm going to throw the shit back in their face. And dude, I've had a couple boys. A lot of you guys fear it. I've opened tens of thousands of women. I've talked to so many sets. I honestly can't even remember half of them. Most of the time they just say, I'm not interested, or hey, we're talking, or sorry, I have a boyfriend. They're not outright mean most times unless you have a bad energy.

20:31 So the thing I said about being a go-giver, having good energy, being a light onto this world, when you're in that energy, they feel that. And almost every single time, the sets blow open when you come with that good energy. Now, a lot of you guys are like, how can I have good energy? My life sucks. Life is suffering. Well, I'd suggest to you to change your belief systems, because if that's what you believe, that's what you're going to get. And that's exactly what we do in my NLP three-month coaching program.

20:56 If you're interested, put in your application below. But gentlemen, just remember this. The guy who's controlling the frame is the guy who's lighthearted, and he's always on his inner balance point. I hope this helped you, gentlemen. I got an awesome podcast coming up next Tuesday. So please stay tuned for that one. And I will see you in the next episode. What is up, brother? Just wanted to thank you sincerely for watching this episode. If you've gotten any value whatsoever out of my content, the single best way to help me is to like, comment, subscribe, leave me a review.

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