10 Things You Should NEVER Do With Women: STOP TURNING GIRLS OFF!!!

0:00 Stop complimenting girls on their looks. You are complimenting way too much and not only on her looks, but also her conversational techniques, how good she is at doing XYZ sport or anything else where you want to blow smoke up her ass, fluff her feathers and let her go down Flex Avenue. Do not do it. Do not compliment her at all until she starts complimenting you. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it.

0:42 What is up, you champions? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. And today, guys, we are going to talk about 10 things that you might be doing to turn girls off. I get messages all the time from listeners of the podcast. I get told all the time from clients of mine that it wasn't until they started listening to this podcast that they realized why they've chased away girls in the past. So I hope that you too will get a couple of aha moments from this one.

1:08 I got 10 really good ones. In fact, I'm probably going to give you more like 12 or 13 because I always over deliver both in this podcast as well as in my coaching. And stay tuned for the last one, boys, because I guarantee you, this is probably what's blown out. I'd say 99% of you guys. And it's not something we really think about as men, but it's something that really pisses in girls' rivers. It launches a 50-foot rope of diarrhea into their morning coffee if you do this. And I really want you guys to understand what this is and avoid it moving forward because I can guarantee you, if it hasn't blown you out already, it will blow you out in the future.

1:46 So stay tuned for that one. I'm going to save it until the very end. Before I jump into the content, gentlemen, many of you have heard that I am doing a master class this weekend about what to talk about with girls. This is a master class that's been demanded from my clients, from listeners of this podcast. And you can get in on a Zoom call with me where I'm going to coach you personally on how to never run out of things to say to girls again.

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3:54 All right, boys, let's get into the content. So first and foremost, boys, stop complimenting girls on their looks. You are complimenting way too much and not only on her looks, but also her conversational techniques, how good she is at doing XYZ sport, her kind of reputation or anything else where you want to blow smoke up her ass, fluff her feathers, and let her go down Flex Avenue. Do not do it. Here's a rule that I tell my boys in my coaching program. Do not compliment her at all until she starts complimenting you.

4:27 And this goes into the 80-100 rule, which I talk about all the time on this podcast because it's one of the most important rules I could ever teach you. You should always give her 80% of what she's giving you, particularly when it comes to compliments. So the basic rule is this. Do not compliment her until she starts complimenting you. And God damn it, boys, do not compliment her looks, especially if she's at eight or above. Don't even mention it. As much as you want to, and I know how it is, dude, you see a girl who's so banging and you're like, damn, I just want to like tell her how awesome her thigh gap is or how perky her tits are or how hot her angelic eyes are.

5:06 Do not say it. You meet some girl with some like crystalline emerald green eyes. The first thing you want to say, and I know I've been there many times is, my God, your eyes are so beautiful. I just get lost in them. I just get a boner the size of the Statue of Liberty and I kind of want to stick it in your eyeball. Guys, do not say that shit to women. Don't fucking mention it, especially if it's obvious, such as having beautiful blue or green eyes, perfect teeth, perfect hair, don't mention it because she hears it all the time and she's sick of it.

5:38 She's sick of hearing it. If you have to compliment a hot girl, do not compliment her looks. Instead, compliment her energy, her conversational style, her humor, and only do that once again with the 80-100 rule. Only give her 80% of the 100% that she's giving you. So if she threw like two compliments at you, then you can throw one at her and say, you know what? You're a great conversationalist. I like that about you. And throw that on her, but do not talk about her looks. Number two, boys, canceling plans for her.

6:10 You guys have been guilty of this where you had plans with your boys and suddenly that hot girl's like, oh, do you want to hang out on Saturday? And you're like, well, I had plans to go mountain biking with my boys, but I'll go ahead and cancel that for you. Meanwhile, your attraction is nosediving like a B-17 over Germany in 1943. And you're like, why isn't this girl attracted to me anymore? Because you canceled plans for her boys. Here's a rule when it comes to women. Your life is first.

6:37 Your ambitions are first. Your passion is first. And she's second, if not third, to what you do in your own life. So if you have plans with your boys, if you have plans to do anything and a girl tries to intercede on those plans and you acquiesce and you let her intercede, you are erasing attraction like a fart in the wind. So do not cancel plans for her. Huge mistake that so many guys make. All right. Number three is to ask her where she wants to go.

7:04 If you set up a date and you guys are driving and you're like, so what do you want to do now? Boom, fart in the wind, bro, that attraction is fucking gone. Women, as I always talk about, want you to lead. They want you to take control. They want you to lead her to where she wants to be led. So never ask a woman, where do you want to go? At the very most, you could give her two options. So, hey, I was thinking maybe like sushi or steaks.

7:28 Which one are you feeling more? And then she can decide and then you could take her there. Once again, leading her to where she wants to be led. But you as the man should plan the date. You should execute it. You should take her under your wing. Give her a world-class experience and never doubt yourself. Never question yourself. Never be like, did you like that steak that I just got you? Hell no, dude. You assume that she liked the steak. You assume she likes hanging out with you.

7:53 You assume that you are the prize. She's the one submitting the application and you lead that girl. Every step of the process, this is what gets attraction. Never ask them, oh, what do you want to do now? Horrible boys. Next thing is make enemy of her friends. And guys, as my boy Avi always says, the fridge is protecting the snacks. Which basically means when you're going after a hot girl, the fridge is going to try to protect her. Do you guys remember the fridge? He was a 1980s linebacker or something that played on the Chicago Bears.

8:27 There's a lot of girls that are like the fridge. Who will fly horizontally off the 50-yard line, literally like Superman flying fucking 10 yards and sacking your quarterback. The fridge is protecting the snacks. And if you make enemy of the fridge, you are going to get blown out so hard, the concussion is going to knock the mustache off your best friend's face, as I always talk about. So guys, never make enemy of a woman's friends. Always befriend them. In fact, sometimes I'll approach the girl who I think is going to be the cock block.

8:56 And I will tell her something akin to, hey, you look exactly like my cousin. What's your last name? Or hey, I just had to let you know, you look exactly like my best friend, Sarah. What's your last name? I swear to God, you guys must be related. You're neutralizing the obstacle. You have to neutralize them. You have to make friends with them. If you make an enemy of a girl's friend, then she is going to blow you out, guaranteed. And by telling her that she looks like your best friend, or what I like to say is she actually looks like my cousin, asking her what her last name is.

9:27 By saying that, she feels an affinity towards you. She's going to be way less likely to blow you out when you're hitting on her friend. And by approaching her first, you get to not only neutralize her, but eventually she's going to introduce you to the hot friend. So if girls are in a group, what I'll usually do is either approach all of them at one time, or I'll approach who I perceive to be the obstacle, or at the very least, the unattractive girl. I'll do that first.

9:53 I'll charisma bomb her. I'll neutralize her. By telling an unattractive girl that she looks just like my cousin, the unattractive girl immediately knows that she has no chance with me. Because only a dude from Tennessee would hook up with his cousin. Relax if you're from the South. I'm just fucking with you, man. Have some frame. Don't get buttered. I'm just messing with you. But when you tell her, you look like my best friend, or you look like my cousin or my sister, that neutralizes her. She's going to get rapport with you.

10:21 She's going to have less inclination to blow you out. And then she might even introduce you to her friend because you were a nice guy who came up to her rather than her friend Sarah who gets all the attention. How do you think these fridges feel? They're jealous of the snacks because all the dudes are always going for the snacks. They want them chips ahoy cookies. They don't want the meatloaf. So her being the meatloaf, she's constantly butthurt. So if you can validate her and make her feel good, then she'll be less likely to blow you out.

10:49 Next one is to chase the girl. Boys, this goes without saying, but so many of you guys, and I've done this too, make the mistake of chasing women. There's even sayings out there in our lexicon, like I'm chasing tail. I'm chasing that girl. I got lucky tonight. How many of you guys have said that? I've got lucky last night, bro. No, you didn't. She got lucky. And that's the reframe that I want you guys to make. So by you chasing her, you're essentially chasing her away.

11:17 In last night's coaching call, we were talking about this girl who's giving ho-hum responses to one of my clients. So I said what I love to say to my clients, which is this, when a girl is sitting on the fence, what do you do? Do you try to text her more? Do you try to chase her? Do you try to pull her to your side of the fence? Fuck no. What you do is you push her to the other side of the fence. And I told them to say, hey, I'm not looking for a pen pal.

11:41 I want to hang out with you. If you're not down to do that, then we should probably part ways. What did she do? She's like, oh no, sorry. I've just been really busy. Yeah, let's definitely hang out. Because when a girl's sitting on the fence, there's two things that are going to happen when you push her to the other side of the fence. One of the things is she's going to be like, okay, let's not talk anymore. In which case you just saved yourself a bunch of time.

12:02 The other thing is, and this is actually more likely, she's going to jump back over the fence and try to hang out with you more because you just showed her that you're not to be fucked with and you will drop her like a bad habit and you are not going to chase her. Remember boys, as I talked about in a recent episode, which if you haven't heard, you should listen to it. Does a girl really like you or is she just using you for attention? Girls who are sitting on the fence are oftentimes attention hounds as me and my friends call them.

12:31 So we being the attention hound neutralization team, we'll fucking push them to the other side and say, yo, shit or get off the pot. You're like a magic eight ball, unclear and undecisive about what you want to do. I ain't riding with that. You either decide what you want to do, it's time to shit or get off the pot. And if you don't like that, then kick rocks with your head down, you fucking canyon mule. And these are the options you lay down with the fence sitter.

12:55 You do not chase her. Why, brother? Because you are the prize. You're a goddamn legend, bro. And it's time that you start believing it. Next one is give her the power. This goes without saying. As I tell you all the time, boys, lead women to where they want to be led. The second you give her the power, she's going to lose respect for you. She's going to lose attraction for you. And if you're married or she's your girlfriend, she might even cheat on you. You have to fight for the power.

13:20 And sometimes, yes, at every single turn in the relationship. In my opinion, if you meet a girl who's not willing to acquiesce and go into her feminine energy, you should drop her like a bad habit. Because you have to have the power. And it's exhausting, as a lot of you guys have seen, dealing with a chick who refuses to give up the power. She just wants to be in the masculine energy because she's been taught that by this modern day society that's trying to turn women into men and men into women.

13:50 You have these like super masculine girls, which wouldn't you agree, it's really unattractive. When you get a chick that's like, what's up, bro? And she's sitting there like itching her ball sack. You're like, oh God, dude, that's so unattractive. As compared to like a really feminine girl, think about a feminine girl who like talks feminine. She smells good. She's just a girl. She's really girly. I don't know about you, but that seriously turns me on. A girl like that will be willing to go into her feminine energy and she's not gonna vie for the power.

14:20 The second you give a masculine chick the power, she's gonna lose all respect for you. But as I mentioned in a recent episode, if you fight for that power and then she finally acquiesces and goes into her feminine energy, she is gonna be so unbelievably attracted to you. It's gonna be the best sex she's ever had. So you, brother, have to fight for that power at every turn. If she's making you do so, never give it up. You are always controlling the frame. You have to be the one in the power position, which again, as I've talked about many times, means you want less.

14:54 Going back to the 8,100 rule, you want less than she does. The person who wants less is the one who's in power. The person in power is the one in the masculine role. Goes without saying, you're a dude. You have to be the one in the masculine role. The next one, boys, is to cry to her about your problems. This is what I always tell my clients. You can go to a woman with your problems as long as you have a solution for them, either that you're going to implement or that you did implement.

15:21 If, on the other hand, you go to a woman with your problems trying to get her to solve them, or worse, you go up to her crying like a little bitch and asking her to hold your head in your lap, hoping that your tears will be used as lubricant for sex, it doesn't work that way. And a lot of you guys have seen this personally. If you cry to a woman about your problems, she loses respect for you. If, on the other hand, you take her problems and solutions, then she gains respect for you.

15:49 Always have solutions for your problems, and you can talk about your vulnerabilities. You can talk about failures you've had as long as you've either rised above them or you're going to rise above them. Next one is over-communicating, texting her too much. Guys, the general rule of texting is this. In the beginning, it's one for one. Never double text, and once it sticks and she's texting you a lot, you want to land at about 80% of what she's doing. If you can get that hook into her and get her to enjoy texting with you, then what you want to do is just drop down and give her a little bit less than what she wants from you.

16:27 Once again, going into that 80-100 rule. If, on the other hand, you're following up, double texting, over-communicating, like explaining yourself too much, that loses attraction as many of you guys have seen. The next one, and we got two more. The last one, I want to remind you, is a huge one, but the next one is to be defensive, to get butt hurt, to get your feelings hurt by what she says. Guys, women are attracted to men with strong frames. A strong frame means that you're ensconced in your reality.

16:57 You believe in who you are and her opinion, as well as the outside negative opinions of others cannot affect your internal state. So when you get defensive, when you get butt hurt, as I know a lot of you guys do, it's unattractive to women. So if she, like, insults you and you kind of move your body language and you kind of look away and she could see that it dinged you a little bit, she's going to lose attraction for you. If you try to explain yourself, if you try to argue your points, if you're one of those, like, super political people who gets all angry and we could just think of the meme on Instagram of that, like, super left-leaning chick who's, like, super pissed off and yelling, what does that communicate about her?

17:38 As I always say, when somebody is trying to argue their point defensively, it means that they're fundamentally weak in their belief system. Therefore, they have a weak frame and that's extremely unattractive to women. So a woman can say anything to me and believe me, boys, women can be fucking brutal. I have kind of a big nose. I call it the schnoz. I could smell the morning coffee of my neighbors in the morning and I laugh about it. And some girls have literally said, oh, your nose is too big.

18:07 And I'm like, yeah, I love this thing, dude. I could smell the coffee of my neighbors in the morning. It's fantastic. Or when I go camping, all I got to do is lay a blanket over my face and it makes a 10 because my nose is so big. See, what I'm showing is that it doesn't affect me. I accept myself unequivocally without any question and I'm unapologetic about everything that I believe, do, and say. If, on the other hand, you're defensive, it shows that you're fundamentally weak in your self-belief and that's why it turns girls off.

18:36 All right, boys, and the last one, and I really think that you guys are guilty of this. And before I get into it, I want to remind you, grab your ticket right now, you idiot, for this coming weekend's masterclass, what to talk about with girls. Brothers, if you're not succeeding with women, like, what are you going to do? What's your strategy? Just continue listening to my podcast? Has that really worked for you? Like, has it worked to the point where you're completely satisfied with your results?

19:00 If it hasn't, I guess that's fine, dude. Like, you obviously don't need a ton of help. But, like, what's your strategy? Are you going to, like, pray? Are you going to go to your favorite church, Our Lady of the Worthless Miracle, and, like, think that a prayer is going to solve your problems? Come on, man. Get realistic. You need to invest in yourself. You need to learn the secrets that I will not reveal on this podcast, which are many. So grab your ticket right now. As I said, it's this coming weekend, and if you can't show up, you're still going to get a recording of it.

19:30 If you sign up, you have access to all the gold that I'm going to drop in your lap, including the bonus of all my best gambits given to you so that you can tell it to women and get them attracted to you. Grab your ticket right now. All right, boys. The last one. A lot of you guys rush the process. Rush the process means you are pushing too hard for things to move forward. You are eager. You are thirsty. Your red-helmeted warrior in your pants just wants to get it in, bro, because the last time he was wet was in the shower, and he's so dry that he's going to audition for the next movie of Dune.

20:06 Do not rush the process. Women are the barometer for your escalations, meaning it's on her terms. When she's ready to hold your hand, when she's ready to kiss you, when she's ready for you to suck on her titties, when she's ready for you to lick her clam chop or for her to go down on you, and most definitely when she's ready to have sex. But a lot of us are so horny we'd fuck a snake if we could hold it straight, or we would fuck the frothy armpit of a fat girl on a Stairmaster.

20:33 But you have to control yourself, and you only move things forward when she's ready. When you get the signs, then you take her there. If you try to rush her past that process before she's ready, it's going to turn her off, and it's going to get yourself blown out. So boys, let's go over them. 10 things you should never do with women. Number one, compliment her looks. Number two, cancel plans for her. Number three, ask her where she wants to go. What do you want to do now, Sarah?

20:58 Number four, make enemy of her friends. Remember, the fridge is always protecting the snacks. Number five, ask her to validate you. Number six, chase her. Don't be a chaser. Number seven, give her the power. Horrible. Number eight, cry to her about your problems and hope that your tears will be used as lubricant for sex. Number nine, put the pussy on a pedestal, as they say in the 40-year-old virgin. Number 10, over-communicate, texting you're too much, et cetera. Number 11, being defensive because you're ultimately weak in your reality.

21:29 And number 12, the bonus, rushing the process. So guys, I hope you got something out of this. I hope there's like a few aha moments for you where you're like, oh dude, that's what I did with my ex or that's why I keep getting blown out. And guys, this is just a taste of what I teach and honestly, my best shit is reserved for those who are willing to invest in themselves. The masterclass this weekend is 97 bucks. In my opinion, that is dirt cheap compared to what I can charge for this thing.

21:54 I can easily charge a thousand for the gold I'm about to drop in your lap. So get off your ass, stop picking the lint out of your belly button and stop going to pray at Our Lady of the Worthless Miracle and be a fucking trigger puller. Get your ticket right now. I will see you this weekend. And gentlemen, I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. I got an awesome one coming up this Monday. So stay tuned for that one and I will see you. That's right.

22:18 In the next episode. We'll see you next time.

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